Mom guilt… I’m a ftm and my son is 3 months and he’s growing so much and I feel like I’m missing it bc of my phone but he doesn’t play much yet and I’m not sure what to really do to keep him busy and bonding…
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This should be pretty straight forward
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Put your phone down.
Engage in tummy play and floor time, waving things with high colour contrasts infront of baby, reading to them. Simply cuddling… theres many many things you can do to bond and engage during their short wake windows
Put the phone down. Interact with. Sing silly songs, make up silly dancing, read baby books, show him things with color. Talk to him.
Kids learn from watching you more than anything. The screens aren’t great for babies. They don’t interact with them. They need to learn social queues and interactions.
If you don’t have any baby toys, get a few. Not a million, 3 or 4 is fine. Add to it as age appropriate. Colors, sounds, speech, recognition, touch. This world is new to them. For the first few years.
How they learn to interact with it matters. Less screen, more human. It’s what’s best for them in the long run. Emotional stable kids thrive. Interaction, boundaries, discipline all help.
So, baby needs more you and less phone.
I mean only if there were a way to…put. the. phone. down 
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Seriously because of your phone? That’s the lamest excuse ever. You at least you know you have a problem and willing to fix it. Just put your phone in your room during the day or on the counter or table and just get on the floor or bed etc and interact with him. Go to a shopping mall or a store and just walk around with him. Find a mom and baby group you might be able to join.
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You do anything and everything with him. Have him with you folding laundry, doing dishes, ramble endlessly like he does I had my son with me for everything when he was thst little. Every piece of laundry was peeka boo, or something to toss up and catch, hand to hand. Just keeping him constantly engaged. Music for background noise, and dance and sing at random about anything. Grocery shopping, cooking…every little thing is a new experience for them, so engage, draw him in, make it fun. The world is a never ending place for learning. We counted everything, colors, shapes. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 round red cans of pasta sauce…and I would put each one in his hand and be like wow you’re so big! Thank you for helping me with each of these 6 big round red cans! It was Jon stop fun so that they are learning without realizing it. We did they so much that my son was counting to 100 by he time he was 2, spelling supercalifragilisticexpialidocious by the time he was 4 (half mastered at 3). And I would be like well we have 12 round blue cans of Pepsi, and 12 round green cans of mountain dew and 12 round red cans of coke, how many do we have! And as he grew and started babbling we started spelling all the words and then pointing or finding what I spelled. When he started 4k and did the testing to see what they all know, he was reading at a 1st grade level, math at a 2nd grade level. He is now in 5rh grade and learning at different levels way above his grade, he wants to learn, wants to find the solution to problems. If your child grows up watching you on your phone, being handed a phone, tablet or tv or game system he’s never going to want to actually learn and explore and get their hands dirty.
Take pictures of him and hold him when he is awake