I have absolutely no sex drive and it has been taking a toll on my relationship. I am on medication for PMDD and have been told I will be on it for the rest of my life. I need advice on how to increase my sex drive. I love my partner and find them attractive but sex its self is never appealing. I am going to see my doctor this Monday. Any advice?
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I understand. I totally understand. I got testosterone pellets (and they helped for a while), but im back to ground zero that way now. 
It’s not a bad tho g for me no relationship no sex drive got to have the big O that’s what used to make Mine increase
I felt this way after having my baby no interest at all I felt gross etc slowly it got better
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This is best discussed at your appointment. Your Dr can handle this much better than anyone here.
Horny goat weed might help!
Honestly?
I started masturbating more, which helps raise sex drive.
Started letting my SO take control and give him those little quickies. They always leave me wanting more.
Be vocal. If you get horny, tell him and take advantage of the spontaneity. Be clear on what you want him to do to you ect. Turns you both on and helps with communication.
Make time for sex. We tend to feel like everything else is so much more important and forget sex is a vital part of a healthy relationship. Its give and take, compromises and bargaining that makes it so fun.
Certainly talk to your Dr
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Talk to the doctor, there may be another medication without that side effect.
I find the more you have sex the more you want it. I suggest just having sex even though you’re not in the mood too. Once you get going you’ll be into it.
Best of luck.
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I quit 10 years ago. The day I gave up alcohol I apparently gave up sex too. Cause I don’t give a shit about it. Married 32 years. Done. 64 yo. Don’t care. Don’t do it because it’s your duty. 
Just tell him (or her) hey not feelin it.
Have them check your thyroid.
Have you tried to bring in things like toys, vibrators, maybe foreplay?
With ya on this…Just don’t want it but love it when I do…please share id you find anything that works for ya
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I have been having the same problem now for about a year. We love eachother, we have no arguments or anything like that, he always tells me how beautiful I am an how much he loves me, he is good at it an he can be pretty sensual as much as he can be freaky, everything is pretty perfect in our marriage except for my sex drive. I just don’t want to have sex. It used to be something I loved to do with him. And since my second child I just don’t want to anymore. He is sexy, I love him an everything but I just don’t want an enjoy sex. He gets taken care of but as for me it’s just feels like a chore almost. Idk what to do. So any one that has any ways to help naturally increase it please share. Or maybe this is something I need to talk to a doctor about??? Idk… 
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Yeah sometimes I’m not in the mood but my partner hugging me etc puts me there or I know if we start i will be
We have sex sometimes even if i don’t want too.
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Its kinda like taking a shower. You know those days where you just don’t want to get in the shower but you find the umph to get up and just do it. Then once you’re in there you’re like oh ok this is nice and refreshed when its done. Idk i think of this sometimes when im not in the mood and i always feel better after lol
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Ask about a complete hormone panel. I get pellet treatment about every 4 months. Its wonderful for the sex life.
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I’ve been on medication for so long and there were months that I went without having sex with my husband. We went to therapy and that’s how my husband shows he loves me. He explained that he is the only person that can love me that way and feels rejected when we never get to be intimate. We made a plan, we have sex everyday for a month. 30 days, sex everyday. We go to work, clean up the house and do other things when we really don’t want to… why are we rejecting our spouse? We don’t have sex EVERYDAY anymore… but it’s about 5 times a week. It makes me feel good now, makes me feel loved. It reminds me when we were first dating. We have been together for over 10 years. Marriage is about ups and downs and finding weird kinky ways to get over the downs. If asking your husband to be the “milk man” and deliver milk Into your bedroom to make you laugh and have fun, is wrong then I don’t want to be right.
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I also have no desire for sex and am on latuda and clonopin. My concern is if the doctor puts me on anything the medication may be expensive. Anyone know of anything you can buy online to help?
I struggle a lot as well. Some of mine is from past trauma however, if you’ve had some form of trauma relating to anything sexual some of it may be mental. Seeing a sex therapist might be beneficial. I also take some herbs. There’s a few different mixes out there that really help. Macca root, Ginseng, Ashwaganda. The Macca Root helps you get that big O. Honestly with women a lot of it has to do with our mentality and emotions along with the right mix of hormones. You can go on amazon and look up women’s libido enhancer. There’s some great things on there. Make sure to read all of the ingredients and reviews.