So I’ve experienced something very silmilar. I think it’s really hard for the new man to accept anything from a previous relationship. Especially one from the ex family… I was super close with mine also her and my brother had a huge major break up we stuck by her and lost my brother in the process… it was hard. But for me I keep trying I text her when I think of her and I’ll get a response here and there… reach out tell her what she means to you and how this affected you and leave it at that… you never know she could be having just as hard a time with this as you and that’s why it’s probably just easier not to respond instead of saying no
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Stay in touch, me my ex sister are friends tell this day. I don’t hang with any more but has nothing to do with my brother. They both have moved on. I still consider her friend and always well
Just let her know if she/they ever need you, she’ll know how to contact you. And you just have to leave it at that.my ex sister in laws are also my sister’s always. Some I hadnt seen for yrs but once we talked again, it was great. God bless ya both
sounds like she married a control freak, just let her know you’ll always be there for her, when she realises what she’s married she’ll seek you out
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Don’t delete her on social media…it gives you a way to stay updated on their lives unless it is too painful
She might not be “allowed” to see outside people. Abusive relationships often separate the abused from family and friends.
If it were me, I would probably keep trying every few months… Sounds to me like her current husband is an insecure narcissist and possibly (if not physically, then mentally) abusive to her. Email her, text her, even call her. Leave her voicemails. Let her know you’re still here for her if she needs anything. Let her know that youmiss her. You will eventually get through. If nothing else, knowing you’re still her friend and that she can call on you any time for any thing, she won’t feel so alone. Sometimes that’s all we can do, and sometimes it’s the best thing.
I’m close with my ex husbands current wife and kids. If it’s important to her then she will put the effort in too. I don’t see this marriage lasting so she may come back later.
I would not reach out to her yet, when this marriage ends you guys can be friends again. Okay yeah that was mean. Id delete her and see if she comes back to you.
Sound like her new husband is abusive and controlling. Try to approach her away from him. Do you know when she goes to the grocery store or school to pick up her kids. Let her know she is not allowed to see you but let her know you miss her and will always be there for her no matter what. Simply tell her you care. She may at some point need to go somewhere safe. Let her know you are a safe place.
He shouldn’t have a problem with you guys being friends and the fact that he does is very odd. Id reach out and tell her how you are feeling, even if its just a fb message/text or voice-mail. Wouldnt hurt to tell her
You didn’t separate from the family. I still have connects with my ex’s family. I’m not cutting anybody out my life unless I want to
It sounds like you ex sister in law got out of a bad relationship with your brother and into another one with someone else.That would be the day that anyone would tell me who I could talk to or have a relationship with.She knows the special relationship that you two had and it sounds like she thinks she needs to listen to her new man and give that up.If she has any back bone she won’t be in her new marriage long and she’ll be back around regretting what she did.When she does I would forgive her because she sounds like she may be a needy person herself…and that’s why she lets him control her.
No your SIL EX husband is to probably blame for this and you don’t know how much of a ass he is. So instead of pushing. Back off and let her figure out her mistake on her own. Just make sure that all of the kid’s know you love them and will never stop. It may take a while for her to come to her senses. The kid’s are your most important ones now.
He’s controlling and isolating, if you love her stay in touch and reach out occasionally. She will need you when she leaves. So sorry you are going through this.
Hang in there because the relationship with this new man won’t last and she will need you.
It’s sounds like this man is not ‘jealous’… he’s controling. Sad that she married that type person and I hope he isn’t abusive too.
I’d say to keep reaching out… you never know what is going on behind closed doors… and one she may need you… don’t give up just yet.
All too often, women allow themselves to be bullied this way. Don’t impose but let her know you’re still around just by brief hello’s or sharing a pic or something similar.
Well obviously she’s married to a control freak so if she has any guts she’ll get out of that fast. Ask her if she needs any help
I would reach out to her again. I would keep trying until she responds. Idk but one day she may need you.
Pleas keep trying to stay in touch. Sounds like she married a control freak and things may go from bad to worse for her. Keep letting her know you care any way you can.
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Yes you really need to if you where that close just reach out see how her and the kids are, let her no you want to talk and see where it goes if you don’t you will never know
Keep communication open with her. She will need you. She is in an abusive relationship.
If she means something to you reach out to her. Those kids deserve an aunt who loves them.
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Try and reach out another way. Maybe she got a new number. I still talk to my ex sister in law. We where married to brothers and left them at the same time.
The new husband is very jealous of the relationship you had with his wife. Keep the door open you never know
Send her a message, explain how you feel. Her response will let you know where you stand and you can plan your next move. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. You may need to just cut her off and move on. It’s sad but it happens. Life is short. Spend time enjoying your life with the people who want to be in it. Don’t waste it trying to figure out people who don’t.
tread carefully. relationships can be a minefield. try writing first?
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Maybe she’s fearful of her husband, she might need you down the line. Step back but don’t give up. Good luck!
Not worth it. She moved on and so should you.
Are you sure she’s even getting the messages?? You’re texting her?? The jealous one could have blocked it. Maybe try writing a letter, something solid she can read.
Unfortunately this happens more often than not. Don’t understand why adults can’t act like adults.
No one has ever stopped me from keeping in contact with any of my ex inlaws and never will unless it’s my choice.
Move on. Too much anxiety for you.
Maybe send a card with another name on it
Sounds like she may have blocked your number or he did for her
Maybe mail the gift. Plan on having a relationship when her son is older. It’s a shame what happens to children in a divorce
Sounds like he’s controlling her tbh so if I was u I would just let her know u will always be there for her if she needs u and leave it at that.
If he i abusive she may be afraid contact you. Just let her know you love and miss her very much. You will not contact her anymore but you will always be there for her.
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She might need you more now than ever just pray for her
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It could cause problems with her and her husband if he is a very jealous person. Tread lightly.
Sounds like she kicked you to the curb because she’s not very strong. Sorry for her loss.
Just know we are to do to others as we would have them do unto you 
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You’re a grown adult who can make your own decisions. If you want to reach out, then reach out. 
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I’m best friends with my ex’s sister. I’m still a big part of that family 
Call her…
All I can tell you is my ex sister-in-law has been my best friend for the last 20+ some odd years
Stay by her side she is going to need you again
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Abusive relationship. Try to stay in contact if possible. She is going to need you someday.
I know how you feel but mine is my exdaughterinlaw. I love her still and divorce makes things so uncomfortable.
Let her know she’s loved by you and if she needs u u are there though it all
Let it go ,tell her you will always be there for her ,she’ll be back .
Do not delete her. She may want or need to reach out to you at some point.
U didn’t divorce but I think she divorced u. So sad
Yes keep her as a friend and love you nephew just the same thry will come around.
I am divorced and have been for over 30.years I have a good relationship with.them, it takes.time and pationns.o
I’m still very good friends with my esl. I say reach out.
I think it’s ok to be friends with her!
Stay by her side, she’s going to need you.
Stand by… she is going to need a friend one day.
You divorce your mate; not their family.
Sounds like she’s already deleted you. If she wants to get back in your life she will let you know
Make sure she is not being abused
Sorry her new husband the problem. Sorry!!
Reach out! A solid friend is hard to come by these days!! Tell your brother “nacho business”! Hey, my husband and I are good friends with my ex and his wife and ALL his family!!! And we have a great relationship with hubs ex!!! Life is TOO SHORT!!! And all the KIDS LOVE IT AND LEARN SO MUCH ABOUT FORGIVENESS!!
I would tell her just like you told us .
He sounds too controlling
He’s a control freak, she’ll need you again hang in there.
Reach out or do nothing. Give it time.
Always nice to keep in touch
Sometimes things just have to end…
She’s being controlled!
You are part of ex’s family
Leave the door open!!
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Sounds like she is abused.
Hang in there sounds to me she will need you sooner then later.
Keep door wide open
Her new husband is an insecure jerk. He’s isolating her because he’s jealous. Reach out to her. Let her know you’re here for her. Maybe mail your nephew a gift.
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You did nothing wrong so don’t end the relationship. Just b patience n pray for her and her new husband.
Some women put cock before family!
Contact her…She prob misses U
Call her, let her know how you feel
Just keep texting her and let her know you love and support her! Pray for God to help her love 
life!
Life is to short …
I’m still in contact with my ex-husbands’ family. My second husband doesn’t mind. I’m also friends with his first wife’s brothers. No hard feelings. Just no contact with his first wife. That’s ugly.
Why not just call each other friends?