Why Not get one of those Bed side Basinettes ?
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My son is 7 and had co slept with me since birth
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I feel the same way with my last baby. 
It doesn’t make you a bad mom. It’s instinct.
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Please please please get a pack N play or bassinet and put him in that, CO sleeping is so incredibly dangerous, it’s not worth the risk. Also please talk to your doctor about post partum anxiety, that could be playing a part. I find my anxiety goes down when I’m following all the safe sleep guidelines, knowing I’ve done absolutely everything I can to reduce my baby’s risk of dying. Safe Infant Sleep - Evidence-Based Support Group is a great place to go for help with the transition!! You can do it, it’s totally worth it!! 
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Do not do it. One time is all it takes for something horrendous to happen. Get a bassinet and put it RIGHT next to your side of the bed. He can stay there until he’s 4mo then he can transition to his room/crib. There is never an excuse for co-sleeping especially with a child under 1.
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Get a small bassinet or something stiff to put him in in the bed beside you. Get a co sleeper that pulls up to your mattress. Anything besides risking smothering him. We’re literally unconscious when we sleep. Our senses are heightened as mothers and we sleep light, but that’s just not enough when it comes to their safety. I sleep with my baby in my arms while in my chair only when his father is watching us, never when we go to bed and that’s enough for me. Don’t risk your child and gamble that you will not move your arm an inch and get it over his little mouth and nose. If you love him that much, keep him safe.
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I coslept with my son for this exact reason he’ll be 3 in January. My daughter’s a month and a half old now and I’ve just co slept to avoid it. I tried so hard to not sleep with my son and I made myself absolutely exhausted it wasn’t safe for me to be THAT tired taking care of a new born so I gave and now it’s just a habit. My babies sleep on opposite sides of me 
Put him in bassinet right next to the bed. You never know if one night you could sleep heavier and something bad could happen. Could you ever forgive yourself?
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Ihave to agree that Co-sleeping is just too dangerous for the baby. I know all you moms are going to disagree with me but a good friend of mine wishes she NEVER EVER co-slept with her baby. She ( the baby ) didn’t wake up one morning. And it still gives her mom nightmares. Mom thought she was a light sleeper too but it just took one time. Mom rolled over onto Gracie and well in the morning Gracie was gone. So please, please get a bassinet and put your precious one in it for safety sake. I’d hate to hear of anyone else go through what my friend has been through. Don’t let your selfish wants be the demise of you baby. Sorry if this is harsh, but a baby dying is harsh. Think about it.
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No you’re a great mom!
My husband and I are avid cosleepers! We love it🖤 we currently cosleep with our two year old and our 1 month old, we coslept from the day we had them. We coslept with our older kids as well until they were 4. There is absolutely nothing wrong with attachment parenting. We both were raised by cosleeping parents as well. I did with my parents until I was 5 and he did until he was 6. I think your an amazing mama, you can also do the safe 7 if you prefer it!
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This just proves that you are a perfect Mum and you deserve your son as much as he deserves you! Well done
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First of all, I don’t think wanting to snuggle with your baby makes you a bad mom.
However, it sounds like you need to talk to your doctor about some possible PPD issues you may be experiencing. Severe separation anxiety and feeling unsafe unless you are physically holding your child (despite the child being safe and in a safe environment) is definitely alarming. Letting those feelings impact decisions you make regarding your child’s well-being and safety indicate there is probably an issue you are suffering with.
We all know the standards as far as safe sleep goes…alone, back, crib; they are standards for a reason.
And despite what some have said, it doesn’t make it safe to share a bed with an infant just because you are sober. Like factually. Studies have proven that sleep deprivation can keep you from waking up before you cause your infant to smother. I suggest the halo bassinet. It falls within safe sleep guidelines and you can adjust it to where your baby is right next to you.
The number of people on here advocating for something that is proven to be extremely unsafe is so crazy to me. Just 1 infant death from co-sleeping, something 100% preventable and so frivolous, should be 1 too many for anyone to ever consciously make the decision to sleep with their baby. 
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We were a cosleeping family. Cosleeping is a personal choice and there is nothing wrong or bad about it. As long as you follow the safe cosleeping rules, and enjoy your last baby.
I’ve coslept with my oldest up until now & he’s 2… my youngest sleeps in his bassinet beside us but we’ve never had any issues at all with cosleeping. We all sleep better that way
Your not a bad mum, I would suggest to put the cot next to your side of the bed, that way you can still see hear & touch him when ever you want.
Im having my 4th baby soon and have co-slept with the others and plan to with this one. What you are describing is 100% normal! Co-sleeping is normal and healthy for you and baby, makes breastfeeding easier, and a young baby wants/needs to be close to mama. The exception would be if you are on drugs, alcohol, heavy sleeper ect then it is not a safe choice. You could also get a bassinet that attatches to the bed so baby has their own space but still close to you. Trust your gut mama you are a good mom!
Ive bed shared with both my kids my daughter is 2 my sons 6 months, follow the safe sleep 7
My youngest daughter slept on my chest the entire first 5 months thanks to colic. 
You’re not a bad mom at all! You’re a great mom and you do whatever works for you and your baby! Only you will know what’s best!! 
I co-slept with all my kids. They are now 27, 19 and 11. All doing wonderful! You do what feels right for you and your baby!
As long as you understand the risks associated. I, myself, find it very unsafe.
But please don’t base it off of everyone here saying they did it and their babies are fine. Just do your research and then make an educated decision. And what you feel is best.
Because there are an equal amount of ‘not fine’ baby stories as well. You know?
That I know personally. I totally understand the need for it and the anxiety. But
there are these little Cosleepers as well that might make it easier and then whenever you wanna hold the baby or just see the baby, you can roll over and do that. Easy access and much safer.
And NO you are not a bad mom. Sounds like you adore your Lil baby 
Best of luck!
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We co-sleep. We followed the safety rules for co sleeping. Ours is now 2.5 and still nursing and sleeping with us. Lol I’m hoping to get her sleeping In Her own bed by 3.
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I slept with both of my babies.
We started with him swaddled in a dockAtot. Then when our night nursing got better he slept right next to me and I nursed him on demand. Now he takes up his half of the middle when not sleeping in his crib.
Unless the parent is significantly overweight and/or taking drug/medications that cause heavy sleep, co sleeping is a natural arrangement for mom and baby.
Well I went against statics and did what my body wanted to do. I have co slept with my daughter since the day she was born, she is now three years old going on four and she’s the most intelligent, self assured toddler iv ever met. She’s independent and kind and all that matter is how you feel and that’s it. As a mother for some reason we know what’s best for our children and sometimes we parent differently to each child because guess what not all kids are the same ! Some love space and some love cuddles at the end of the day it doesn’t matter
My 4 year old son is still in bed with me and dad. He kicks us in the back, face, just where ever. But it’s the best feeling ever
Co-sleeping isn’t bad but treating your kids differently isn’t good…
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Get an owlet for some peace of mind while you co sleep I HIGHLY recommend it!
I did some co-sleeping with my son but only with the owlet I’m a light sleeper too but didn’t want to take any chances
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I used to work shifts including nights and my son used to sneak in and have a snooze with me during the day. Precious time.
I co-slept with my son. He is 2 now. He goes into his crib at bed time but usually ends up in bed with me by morning. As long as your baby is safe that’s all that matters. You know what’s best mama. You could do what other mothers have suggested and get a bassinet that attaches to the bed. That’s a great idea. Whatever works best for you and your little one
I’ve co-slept with all 3 of my kids as long as you try be as safe a possible
There’s no such thing a co sleeping safely. Once you are in REM sleep you have no idea what you are doing. Safe sleep 7 isn’t a thing, Safe sleeping guidelines is following ABCs (Alone, on their Back, in their Crib/Cot)
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It is the most natural thing in the world to want to sleep next to your baby and if done correctly its actually safer. Not one animal leaves there young to sleep alone, its not any different for us. My 3 year old is still in bed with me 
In countries like Japan, where breastfeeding and co-sleeping is the norm, sids rate is the lowest in the world.
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I might have implications later in life as the child might have separation issues, not saying it’s a bad thing just something to consider.
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You’re not a bad mum for co-sleeping however you’re not just co-sleeping, you are risking your babies life. Co-sleep where they have their own space, but co-sleep whilst having your baby in your arms is sooooooo dangerous!!!
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I’m sorry but I co-slept with all of mine, I have three, I didn’t breastfeed, I just wanted them next to me, and even though I was sleeping I was super aware they were nestled in my armpit! It worked wonders for sleeping habits they all slept 12 hours continuous being in my arms and I’ve never had a bad sleeper baby! None of them turned into a problem with getting them out of my bed! You are the mama and you know what’s best for you and your child!! Co sleeping is not unsafe! There are no guidelines that take into account a mother’s instinct and knowing she has her baby there in her arms! I cradled all of mine in bed every night and I loved every minute of it! And now they are 17,14 and 6!!! Perfectly normal capable humans !!
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Cosleeping is safe if done correctly. Just do a bit of research. Baby needs to be on tha bed surface rather than in your arms
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My 2 year old has never been out of my bed she’s bloody irritating if she starts swinging her limbs about but I wouldn’t change it. She has many years ahead of her where she won’t want me as much so savour every minute of them cuddles x
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I co sleep with my little one and I will until he’s ready to sleep in his own bed, nothing wrong with it at all mama xxx
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The Beyond Sleep Training Project group is amazing for this question 
personally I don’t think you can build ‘bad habits’ when it comes to your kids feeling safe and secure at night and wanting to be near their parents. Parenting is just a constant change of different seasons so find what works for you 
our culture has made us think we are doing something wrong when our baby cries out for us because we somehow want them to be independent and 12 hour sleepers from day one 
Hope the group helps you in finding something that works for you and your bubba!!
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There will always be both negative and positive opinions on this subject. But ultimately you have to do what’s best for you and your baby. If you have any concerns or niggles about it yourself then get one of them next to me cribs where baby is practically still co sleeping with you just in a little extra bit of bed space for baby.
7 safe sleep is a way to make it safer but its not 100% safe. Avoid sleeping with baby on you though as that’s dangerous.
We are the only mammals who separate the young when sleeping though 
all other mammals hold their babies during sleep.
You can get side cribs on the bed and also Moses baskets next to it. When they are a little older sleep.with them, I have since mine was under 1 and he’s still in my bed and he’s now almost 4 we love it and its good for them nurtering wise and less anxiety, he’s never once woke up crying in the morning nor woke up through the night
Follow the lullaby trusts advice on co-sleeping and enjoy the cuddles. Currently have my 16month old asleep in my arms abs I wouldn’t change it for the world
I guess it’s just a case of are you willing to deal with the aftermath as your child grows! As you and your partner need you time, intimate time eventually, your child needs to learn boundaries too, and how to be independent. As once they get to a certain size or age you try to change the pattern and try their own room they don’t get it and feel rejected seen it happen with a few of my friends! I raised my eldest by myself and I had to stay strict as you can’t just put them down as all they want is you! So it’s a matter of preference but my baby never came in my bed but was in s next to me and my eldest only ever came in my bed if he had a bad dream or was not well! Point is as nice as it is when they are little think of the end goal it’s like a dummy or bottle hard to detach from but do what’s best for you x
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Can you get a snuzpod or next to me bed? Theyre still next to you but still have their own sleeping space
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Cosleeping is safe for breastfed babies. Maybe get a next to me crib. Baby will have their own space and you can sleep close by safely.
Do some research into cosleeping and practice it safely.
I co slept i propped myself with pillows and little one lay between my breasts. You do you. Other countrys are encouraged to co-sleep xx
Maybe get a next to ne the side is open and baby very much feels next to you xx
Cosleeping is not unsafe as long as you follow the safe sleeping guidelines
Can I ask where in the world you are from?
My son is 17m and we still co sleep, I love it, he sleeps so much better and we have morning cuddles x
I don’t think your a bad mum but it’s just not safe as much as you think you are light sleepers, safety guidelines are there for a reason x please research this 
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I don’t know much on this topic as I don’t have kids but my sister when she had hers had one of those little beds that attach to the side of your bed for the baby, that way the baby is with you while you both sleep and it is safer
I slept with my son till he was 3. We both loved it and it was easier as I breast fed him till that age. As soon as he wasn’t feeding anymore I put him in his own room and he loved it in there as he was older. He’s 8 now and he still climbs into bed with me some nights/mornings 
Join The Beyond Sleep Training Project
I dont think you are bad but i think you need to seek help with the start of an unhealthy relationship with the baby before it leads to a bigger problem. Co sleeping isnt necessarily bad but from the way you describe it it sounds like its from a bigger issue
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You can have them close without putting them in danger of smothering them. Don’t be arrogant about it. You’re a light sleeper until the day you’re not a light sleeper.
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Reality:
My friend lost her sweet 4 week old this way. She smothered him. Nothing will ever change that. She is a totally different person now and I don’t expect her to ever be the same. Her tragedy is double bc she feels that she was completely responsible for his death. It was her body that gave and took his life. 
I hated to share this… but I feel it’s necessary to look at all points. Your feelings do matter, but not above safety. (My opinion)
Good luck momma, I know you love and cherish your sweet baby and being a mommy isn’t easy… these types of decisions are so difficult. 
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I co sleep with my 10 months old and my 4 year old and we are all happy 
It feels natural for me to stay all together.
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Get over it. I don’t care how light a sleeper you are. Babies die from co sleeping. Keep the baby in your room in a bassinet beside the bed. If that’s not good enough please seek help for your babies sake.
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People are going to be mad 
I personally don’t believe in cosleeping I think it’s unsafe to sleep with a baby in bed with you. There is no reason why you can not put your child in their own bed. You can love and snuggle them, and then lay them down in their own bed, they make those beds that attach to yours that you can lay them in, so you aren’t physically holding your child and falling asleep with them in your arms, and putting them inbetween you, beside you, so much can happen. To each their own, but I don’t believe you should sleep with your children.
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I understand how you feel, but imagine how you would feel if there was an accident. It’s a very real thing that parents accidentally hurt or suffocate their baby. It’s worth your baby’s safety to keep him close but in his own space while you sleep.
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Mentally sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself with acting likw you cant be away from him. Might be something post partum. I have the bassinet so close to me that hw can breathe on me and hes in a safe space
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All of my kids have slept in bed with me.
There are ways to do it safety, plus America is one of the only countries where it’s considered normal for kids to sleep away from their parents.
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I coslept with my son. It was easier to breastfeed. Never had any issues
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Put a pack n play or bassinet right next to your bed you can be close like in your bed but it’s actually safe. My 2 kids both slept in a pack-n-play next to our bed until 6 months, room sharing is good, bed sharing has dangerous consequences. It’s normal to want to be near your baby but there are safer options out there. Good luck mama
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Ug. It literally is not safe. Every piece of literature and study says so. I have sympathy but if you know better then do better. It’s no different then not putting your baby in a carseat . Sooo
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I slept with my three children on occasion, but my coworker did have to take care of a baby that died from cosleeping. You say you know the risks, but are putting your emotional comfort first. That is your choice. You have to weigh the risks. But if something did happen you would be devastated.
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Soak it up mama both my babies slept with me for almost a year and I don’t regret it at all.
Edited because technically they slept on top of me and not with me per se 
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Girl you soak up those lovings. You don’t need permission from anybody to tell you anything. I wish I had two week old lovings 
instead I have a walking talking 10 month old who goes 100mph from the moment he opens his beautiful eyes until he goes to bed 
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There is a safe
seven practice that is recommend to follow if you want to co-sleep and plenty of women do it safely!
THE SAFE SLEEP SEVEN BEDSHARING SONG
(to the tune of “Row, Row, Row Your Boat”)
No smoke, sober mom
Baby at your breast
Healthy baby on his back
Keep him lightly dressed.
Not too soft a bed
Watch the cords and gaps
Keep the covers off his head
For your nights and naps.
You can google it and find it!
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All I can say is my Grandaughter died by Co sleeping was found Dead between wall and bed…Please be safe
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Cosleeping is natural
We’re the only mammalian species that separates ourselves from our young - biologically our babies are not meant to be alone.
We have a giant family bed that’s 11 feet across - we sleep with our 3yo, 2yo, and our newborn
Soak it up … they’re little for such a short time.
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You literally just stated you are using your baby to comfort yourself. As a mom we should put that kind of stuff aside for what is best for our baby. You know what is best for your baby. You did it with your first. Get a cosleeper to set next to your bed. There are ways to keep them close and not in your bed with you. Maybe you are experiencing some PPD. I’d talk to your doctor too. You do what you feel is right and makes you feel comfortable. But baby’s safety is priority. Cosleeping is a great bonding. But you can cosleep and not bed share
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This sounds more like you may have something deeper going on. I mean co-sleeping is one thing… but what you are describing sounds a little more intense to me.
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Do what makes you comfortable. Don’t pay attention to the haters. My son slept with me until he was 10 (13 now) and my daughter has slept with me from birth (almost 5).
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There are resources, especially from other countries where co-sleeping in the norm, that can guide you with both co-sleeping and safe-sleeping. My baby was a Preemie so he was small enough that I could wear a tight, stretchy, but breathable tank top and basically shove him inside it but it prevented him from rolling off my chest or falling off the bed. There are also attachments you can get for the side of your bed that keep you close but kind of give your baby their own space
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Wanting to be close to your baby while you sleep is natural, and instinctual. Safe bed sharing has a lot of benefits for both you and the baby and if you love it you should absolutely continue. I loved it too! Now my son is a toddler and breakdances in his sleep and I wish he would get out of our bed 
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Cosleeping can be tragic if it happens. And there’s a million of I did it moms. And only a handful of it happened to us parents. It’s always okay until the one time it’s not. I’ve coslept when my kids were younger here and there and still do and tbh I still wouldn’t suggest making it a regular thing until they are older id just keep the baby in a bassinet near the bed.
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I wouldn’t co sleep, I didn’t with either of mine out of fear of hurting or smothering them. I honestly will always praise those who put their infants in cribs. Better to be safe then sorry.
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Girl sleep with your baby!! Whose gonna tell you what to do in your own bed. No one. Besides last babys are ment to be extra cuddled. Thats how i am rn with my 4th. Also sidenotes all my kids have their own bed but every night they sleep inbetween me and daddy. If your okay sleeping nxt to your SO for cuddles then what makes it wrong for us to cuddle with our children?
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I coslept with both my girls. My last daughter died from SIDS at 5 months old. No pillows or blankets over her face or anything but I’ll forever regret it and wonder if maybe I had just put her in her crib if she’d still be here. Definitely not worth it in my opinion.
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I slept with all 3 of mine. I was comfortable doing so because I’m a light sleeper. My husband and I slept with separated blankets and had a nice safe open space between us for baby. Just be safe and do what you find comfortable and natural.
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My son slept in his crib maybe a week. He only slept in it because he had jaundice and had to sleep with the blue light.
He’s 1.5 now and still sleeps with me. 
I would say soak it up because one day he won’t want to sleep with you anymore. I’ve tried putting my son in his toddler bed and he would mostly sleep in it, but he always ends up between my husband and I. he’s starting to be a little more independent so I’m a little sad honestly, lol.
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I cosleep with both of my kids… My 2 year old & my 1 month old… I have since they were born…
We have 2 queen beds pushed together into a giant bed so there is plenty room for all of us
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I know that’s what doctors tell you to do, but sometimes it’s not what is best for the whole family. From 3-6 weeks my daughter had to literally sleep on my chest at night, she had really bad colic. She learned how to roll over at 4 weeks though, so we had to be really careful at that point. Our bed is just on a box spring not a bed frame so it’s already low to the ground, we also took all the couch cushions and lined my side of the bed with them just in case she rolled off the bed. She’s 11 weeks now and still sleeps in her swing (always strapped in so she can’t roll over) and it’s right by the side of the bed. The bassinet and cribs were to flat for her, she would throw up and choke every time we tried to get her to sleep flat. You can’t be the best mom you can be if you’re exhausted from not sleeping because you’re anxious that he’s not with you. In my opinion, you do what you have to do to make sure EVERYONE is sleeping…baby and you! We also got one of the little nests (pic included) that we’re going to put her in once she’s able to sleep flat. That way she can be in the bed but not right where we can roll on her.
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I co slept with both of my babies. And I do understand it’s not “Safe” but I was so scared of SIDS that I could not sleep unless I could feel them breathing. I know sounds crazy. Both my babies are healthy and sleep in toddler beds now. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
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Enjoy every moment you can. They grow up so fast. There is no right or wrong way to parent. Honestly.
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My son is almost 5 months. I think he’s slept in his crib maybe twice
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I think you’re going a bit overboard cos you won’t have any other babies after him. Did you know that they have done research about babies’ smell and found out it’s as addictive as drugs? Enjoy it while it lasts love but I would advise you to maybe have a crib next to your bed just to feel a bit safer💕
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Dont ever let anyone tell your your a bad mom for co-sleeping with your child. I was the same way my daughter alept in her crib then i had my son 6months ago and he sleeps woth me ive tried to get him to sleep in a crib but he wont he just cries so he sleeps with me most the time. Soak it all in! Do what you think is best for you and your child
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I did co sleep alot and still do. I like it better like that i feel we both sleep better. But i only allow my daughter to co sleep when my S/O is out of town. When she was tiny i had her crib right next to my bed and not directly in my bed until she was older. I was too scared i was goin to smother her. So her crib right next to me felt good enough
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In my experience. I slept with all my babies. I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. The thing about it is he will eventually be the one with separation anxiety. My youngest one had it for quite some time. But it all reality he is your baby. You do what you need for him.
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My baby’s crib is right up against our bed. Sometimes I lay on the edge of the crib with our hands holding. There are safe ways to cosleep. This is my last baby and I feel more attachment so I get it. Safety is number one so many things can go wrong. Definitely consult your doctor about your feelings. It sounds like you might be experiencing some PPD and it’s just best to find out and get it fixed right away. The anxiety like that shouldn’t be there.
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As much as it hurts to put him in his safe crib itll hurt alot more if you have to put him in a grave and you’ll never forgive yourself cause you already said you know crib is safest place for baby
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Get a bassinet! I know it feels amazing to sleep with your baby but my cousin recently went through a death of one of her twins from a cosleeping accident. It doesn’t happen a lot but when it does it doesn’t discriminate to whom and you will regret it for the rest of your life. It’s one simple decision that could change your whole life!
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