I really love co-sleeping, is that bad?

It is natural, normal, & actually safe to sleep with your baby. As long as you’re not drinking or doing any kind of drugs that will cause you to sleep heavily. Mamas have a natural sense of their babies with them in bed, especially if you sleep with your arms around him & keep him close. The baby benefits from sleeping with mama, it helps him regulate his breathing & heart beat to yours. Not to mention the bonding & nurturing aspects. It can be done, just safely. Keep him close, keep him from your husband’s side, no heavy drinking or sleeping drugs. You are good. Hold him close! :blue_heart:

This is where I’m at. My baby is 3 weeks old and the hospital told us no co-sleeping while we were there, but she just sleeps so much better with us. Plus I feel better knowing she’s right there where I can meet her needs, and she can meet mine. It doesn’t work for everyone but it works for our family. We Co slept with our other 2 as well until we couldn’t all fit in the same bed anymore. Like I said. It works for us for now so don’t feel guilty.

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I coslept with all three of my babies. You do what’s best for your family mama.

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I’ve co slept with my daughter since they day she came home from the hospital. She’s now 14 months old and healthy as can be!

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I’ve co slept with my daughter ever since she was 4 months old because it helped me with my anxiety! (she was a premi! ) she will be 3 next month

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They make co sleepers, a bed that can go in bed with you… it helped with my last baby- to be able to touch her whenever I wanted. I’d feed her in it and everything. Mesh sides, but also some metal so I couldnt roll on her.
I wouldn’t say you’re a bad mom for it. Just be safe.

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Both of my kids sleep with me and I LOVE it. One is 6 and the other 1 yr old. Having them close gives me peace of mind. :heart:

Therapy, my Love. That depth of attachment isn’t good for you, him, family members, and anyone who comes in your lives

I coslept with my daughter from the day she was born until she was 3​:heartpulse: she’s 6 now and still loves to come cuddle sometimes. I also plan on co sleeping with my son that I’m currently pregnant with. It’s natural and they sleep so much better than on their own! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

I co sleep with my 2.5yo and my 11 month old. Lullaby trust safe 7 for safe sleeping.
I love snuggling my babies and I feel so much happier and calmer with them near me. They’re only tiny for a short time and they will want their own bed/space soon enough so I’m soaking it up as much as possible xxx

We had a crib it stayed empty she now has a twin bed it’s still empty…moral of the story do what’s best for your family. We all sleep better together!!

I slept with both of mine from the day they were born until they were about 5. My son is now 17 and my daughter is 10. You will love the bond with your son as he gets older! Its indescribable!

You could get a snuggle me co sleeper so the baby is still in your bed but has their own space. I have 2 and I bed shared with both. I’m not a belly sleeper and either sleep on my back or side, so logically I would roll away from them if I wasnt on my side. Before kids I used to think it was the worst thing ever, now I enjoy it. There are risks associated so be aware but do what is best for you and what you are comfortable with. Everyone has an opinion and I do believe it’s the norm to bed share on many other cultures.

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I co-slept with my son the day he came home and still do to this day and he is 3 1/2 years old and is a well balanced beautiful boy. I followed the safe sleep seven co-sleeping rules. And it has worked for us.
I get this has not worked for everyone with some very sad results.
You do you and what you feel safe doing.

I saved my daughters’ life co-sleeping. Her respiration changed and instantly I was awake. She received medical care for her acidosis. Time was of essence. I would have never heard her if she was next to me in her own bassinet because I am late deafened and hear nothing at night.

I’ve always co-slept with my daughter since she was born. She is 6 yrs old and now that I’m a single mom she still co sleeps with me. I want to hang on and cherish these moments because one day she will not want to sleep with me she’ll feel too grown :sob:

Use an owlet! I loved co-sleeping with my daughter but the owlet kept her safe while monitoring her oxygen and heart rate. This way you’re getting all your snuggles in but safely. Gave me such piece of mind. Also it had went off twice while she was sleeping with me so I was very thankful for having it.

My 6 year stopped breathing in the middle of the night because it was a early symptom of Croup. I’m happy I always co-slept otherwise I would have never caught that. He gets sick easily so it makes me feel better.

I also co slept with my 15 year old for a long time. He is a great kid

Girl, enjoy it while it lasts. I co slept with my son for the first 4 months of his life, partially because I breast fed him, partially because he is just too sweet. As long as you are cautious, there should be nothing wrong with it. It helps that you are both light sleepers as well

Your baby has his whole life to sleep in his own bed. If you want to sleep with that baby, do it. They’re only little for a little while.

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There is nothing wrong with being attached to your baby and there’s no such thing as spoiling them with love. As long as you do it safely, do what makes you and baby comfortable and happy.

I co slept, wasn’t planned but it made breastfeeding easier. My son just turned 4 and I’m trying to get him to sleep in his own bed. Hard habit to break.

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I had a rock n play right next to my bed. I have 2 boys & a little girl. For some reason I felt more attached to her, but I also think it’s because I knew she was my last. She’ll be 2; and she’s still in my room, but she’s in a toddler bed. She went from a rock n play to her crib to the toddler bed. Still gave me the security I needed, but the safety for her also. I also has postpartum depression after her so this helped calm me down.

I totally get that people and statistics say co sleeping is not safe, however, I know of multiple babies of people including one family member who’s babies died of sids in their very own cribs. I co slept with all three of my children and I don’t regret it even one bit. I say do what you feel is right for your family and if you’re really worried, maybe purchase an owlet sock? It monitors heartbeat, oxygen levels and sleep. An alarm sounds if any of them are at dangerous levels.

I have co-slept with my daughter since the day we came home from the hospital. She is turning six in December and is currently snoring on my chest.:purple_heart: I wouldn’t change a thing.

Co-sleeping is amazing! your natural instincts want you to keep your baby as close as possible at all times! I hate how society tells us that our babies have to been independent as soon as they are born! It’s nonsense! As long as it’s done safely, look up sleep safe 7. There are also lots of co-sleeping pages to follow on Facebook.
I still co-sleep with both my boys 21 months and 4 years :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: keep up the good work mama xxx

I absolutely HATE cosleeping personally (my child kicks and wakes up multiple times and I get almost no sleep. Ive been trying to get her back into her room, she’s 2.5, but she’s not having it). If it’s your personal preference and you feel as if it’s safe, do what you want, it’s your child. It doesn’t make you a bad parent. Just know that there are risks and I guarantee the pain of losing a child will far outweigh the pain of having him sleeping further away.

Maybe put a crib or something next to your bed. That way he’s near you but not at risk. If you absolutely need him in bed with you I believe there are some options and tips on how to make it safer.

I’ve co slept with my daughter since day one, she’s almost 2.5 years and it’s just comforting. Sleeping with someone you love has so many benefits to it.

You’re not at bad mom at all but,please talk to your dr about post Partum anxiety. I went through this. I didn’t sleep with mine bc that gave me more fear but I didn’t sleep for weeks due to the anxiety/separation.

Doesn’t matter how light of a sleeper you are. Babies suffocate silently. It is sad that you know better but choose to ignore it because i get separation anxiety

We’ve co slept well, BUT it is safer in their own bed. Maybe get a cosleeper bassinet. We have one for my daughter and it sits in the bed with you.

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To be honest, I’ve co slept with all 4 of my children from the day they were born… No, I’ve never had any issues but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I always woke up when my kids even moved a little… And they all had a pretty easy time transitioning into their own beds when I felt it was time… between 6-9 months.

No you’re not a bad mom… That’s your baby you do what YOU want to do. If you don’t feel he’s endangered then I see no problem. I co slept both my children. They’re happy healthy and well adjusted and they both sleep in their own beds now

I co slept with my daughter. Almost 3 years later she’s still in bed with me. I don’t regret it. I used to get mom shamed all the time until finally I had to tell someone that unless she wants to deal with the screaming and crying all night because she felt like she was a lone then fine by me. What works for my family does not work for all families. I became such a light sleeper after my daughter was born. If she wasn’t in bed with me she was in the swing. It sounds like you have a supportive fiancé.

If you can, I would maybe suggest moving his crib as close to your bed as possible.

My sons crib is literally touching my bed, and if I reach my hand out I can touch him.

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My oldest (girls) always slept in their own crib. My son is 2 and still sleeps with us. We tried him in his crib for the first 6 months and he didn’t sleep well at all.

I love co sleeping :blue_heart: my 8yr old snuggles right up to me every night and I wouldn’t have it any other way! Yes he has his own room and bed and is free to use it if he wished but he’s not interested in leaving me yet :blue_heart::blush:

I breastfed and slept with all 3 of mine. They’re now 11, 6, and 2. It’s definitely a personal decision. You have to know yourself. With my first she didn’t sleep in my bed until she was 3 months old because I wasn’t sure of it. After we would doze off and take naps together I stopped struggling to get her in her crib for bedtime and just enjoyed both of us sleeping well. I’m expecting my 4th in a few weeks and plan to do the same from the start and enjoy our sleep together.

I had a bedside bassinet and loved it. It was attached to the side of our bed. So I had her right next to me, but she was in her own sleep space. I could still touch her if I needed or wanted to, but she was safe. It was the best investment hands down!

I know how you feel BUT he’s too little for it right now. Co sleeping is so dangerous and I know multiple people who lost a child from co sleeping. What I did is my daughter from the time she was born slept in her bassinet and then moved into a crib. Now she’s 2 years old and she asks to cuddle almost every night and we do because she’s older. You’re not a bad mom but as a mom you should do what’s safest for your child.

I co slept with my daughter and I did it in a recliner, instead of in my bed. I felt a bit safer doing it that way, thankfully she grew out of the need to co sleep and now doesn’t even like to sleep on me, it’s too uncomfortable for her. She sleeps by herself all the time now.

You can get the in the middle co sleeping beds so baby has their own space in the bed with you. I used that for my youngest two when they were really small as I love co sleeping as well :heartpulse: yes there were plenty of nights where they may end up in arms due to crying and exhaustion but for the most part had their own safe space that we couldn’t accidentally roll over on them. My youngest who is now 2 still sleeps in our room but refuses to co sleep which makes me sad :cry: he is in a cot next to the bed. They do smell so good and watching their little faces sleep while sniffing their hair :rofl:

My son is 2 months and we’ve been co sleeping since he came home. He gets frantic if he wakes up and can’t see me and I’ve never had an issue with it

I slept with my son too, to the point that at 6 he still wants me to sleep with him….or him sleep with me. You used one of the co-sleeper bassinets, that way I could have my baby in my bed and not worry about rolling over him.

I’ve slept with my premie baby for years. She’s slept on my side even as I napped and everything. My baby just decided, at the age of 13, to sleep in her own bed in her own room. She is perfectly fine, safe, and grown. Do as you feel. To each his own

Absolutely nothing wrong with this at all! My LG is coming up to 6 months and has been in my bed from about 4 months. She sleeps better, i sleep better, as long as it’s done safe then i dont see an issue with it.

I coslept. There are safe ways to do it. Do whatever is best for your family. My daughter is 18 months and as of now we still cosleep sometimes.

I have coslept with all my kids and currently still cosleep with my 5 month old. It is what makes me feel comfortable and we both get a full night sleep

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I was so afraid of co sleeping with both my kids, HOWEVER I couldn’t sleep without them. My son slept in my bed until he was almost 2 and my daughter stopped just before 10 months. I personally think it’s what YOU are most comfortable with. I’ve never rolled onto my baby or had any issues with it. If anything it’s made me a lighter sleeper! I wake up to just hearing them roll around at night :joy::heart:

Put baby in a crib by your bed for 3 months. As a mother, your spirit will wake but only on schedule 3-4hours do you bother him. Train yourself to help him go to his next level of life. Raise your children forward. In God we trust.

I bed share with all 5 of my Children :woman_shrugging: I know there’s a thing called the safe sleep 7 I’d look into that. Breastfeeding them that way was way easier and we slept so much better when they were with me. A baby spent how much time inside Your body and people think it’s normal for them to be in a separate space and separate room as soon as they are born. All around the world women bed share with their babies!

If you are concerned though push whatever they are sleeping in right next to your bed.

I coslept with my daughter from the day she was born. She’s 3.5 now and she has a little bed next to ours, but still ends up in our bed about 75% of the time lol. As long as you follow the safe seven, you are good! Try following Biologically Normal Infant & Toddler Sleep! It’s a great group of parents who co-sleep.

I have no doubt that you’re a great mum, but there’s no guarantee you won’t smother that precious baby if you’re not co-sleeping the right way. And sleeping in bed with the baby in your arms isn’t the way to do it. I don’t want you to regret your choices, it has happened to many mums who thought it never could because they are light sleepers. But you’re only a light sleeper until the one time you’re not, and that could be fatal. You’re amazing for loving your bubba so much, please just research safe sleeping xxx

We have always been cosleepers. My baby is about to be 10 months and she’s slept with us in bed since we brought her home just like her siblings. You do what you feel is right. I feel the exact same way! I hate not having my little snuggle buggy.

My 19m old still sleeps with us :smiling_face: she also still contact naps. As long as it’s done safely it’s absolutely fine! Some cultures only co-sleep and wouldn’t dream of putting baby’s in cots and they have some of the lowest SID death rates.

My last baby slept with me until i quit breastfeeding him at 10 months old. It was just easier for the both of us to sleep together

Honestly the way I see it is they’re only small for so long.
My daughter is 3 in Nov and she’s only just gone into her own bed the last few weeks…
and my 11 month old still comes into bed with me halfway through the night when she wakes up in her cot… I love it too. They’re so cuddly, and I know one day when they’re older they probably won’t want cuddles as much so I’m getting what I can now!

Do what feels right. My son was held by either me or my husband all the time, and co-slept with us, for the first 3 months. He hated the bassinet, but loved his crib, as long as he was swaddled.

I still cosleep with my daughter and she’ll be 2 in a few weeks. I only still cosleep because she’s so dependent on me being there. I’d say go for it, just know that later down the road, it is harder to get them to sleep on their own.

My daughters 14 months old and still sleeps with me, I’ve never had any issues. She won’t sleep by herself, and why fight her with it when we’re both tired.

My baby will be 2 months old tomorrow. I put him in his pack n play next to our bed to go to sleep and he does great, but when he wakes up for his first feeding in the middle of the night, I keep him in the bed with me afterwards. I know its a bad habit, but I feel so bad watching him sleep by himself and I just feel so much better being able to hear and feel himself breathing rather than staying up all night worrying about if he’s breathing :joy:

My son has slept with us since the day we brought him home. He’s almost two. I slept with my mom until I was 5… Nothing wrong with it if done safely. If you are a heavy sleeper or on meds, no. Put bumpers up. Literally nothing wrong with it.

The “I CO SLEPT WITH MY BABY AND THEY ARE FINE” arguement is BULLSHIT. I said the same thing bc I slept with my first born. I said it up until I woke up one morning to my 2 month old baby no longer breathing. It WAS and STILL IS the most tragic thing I have ever experienced. I recently had a sweet baby boy, and although I feel overly obsessed with this cutie, I would rather put his life above my selfish need to feel close to him. It sucks, I never want to put him down. But I dont want to bury him either. Sorry not sorry for the bluntness but if it can happen to MY baby, it can happen to yours. Everyone says their baby is fine until they arent. PLEASE DO NOT COSLEEP WITH YOUR BABIES.

I put my daughters crib right by my bed. I’d sleep with my hand through the slots on or right next to her lol I wouldn’t let her be out of my sight or reach. I was diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and later PPD.

My husband and I co-sleep with our daughter since she was 3 mo she is now 18 months. Some countries doesn’t see it as a problem. The risk reduces the older they get. I see nothing wrong with co-sleeping with your baby, just make sure you do it in a safely matter.

My husband and i co-slept/sleep with our 3rd & now 4th. Our 3rd kiddo moreless slept with us until he was 7, (he was also a very sick baby) when #4 was born. #4 who is currently 5yrs old still sleeps with us but also sleeps with his older siblings. For infant stage we made a little special bed and put it between us. I barely slept ne how so i was aware of baby all the time. Co sleeping just made my life easier. Now id be remiss to not nention that my 3rd now 12yr old has separation anxiety, he is currently in therapy. Im not saying cosleeping is the cause but? Our 5yr old refuses to sleep alone in his own bed, though he shares a room with his 2 older brothers. Id be cautioned as far as saftey but its been done forever n when done correctly i believe is beneficial. Go for it n love on your baby.

I co-sleep with my second and last child. It’s truly soaking up what I know I will never experience again. You do what’s in your heart, just make it as safe as possible. :two_hearts:

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The amount of “I did it so it’s totally safe and fine” survivors bias BS is staggering and ignorant. Be smart and just because these other women didn’t smother their baby does not in any way mean it’s not a very real danger. I’m sure plenty of people have driven without a seatbelt and not died but we can all agree it’s an unnecessary risk to do so!

I think it’s because he’s a boy. Just my PERSONAL OPINION
My first was a daughter she slept well alone from the beginning my son didn’t have an issue sleeping alone but I couldn’t be away from him. Now he’s 21 and away at college I miss him soooooo much.
I have 2 girls at home and I can’t wait till they leave :joy::joy::joy:
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Same my daughter is now 5 and I still love it. Dad works third shift so it’s always just us two at night. She has her own room and bed but we both like her snuggling with mama.

Interesting observation…people saying they bedshare more often than not are listing reasons why it makes them feel better or something for them easier. I get it. It’s HARD especially those first several months. But when you decide to have a child their safety should come before everything.

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I co slept with both my children. I had him in a newborn nest right in my bed. I’m also a very light sleeper so any movement I was WIDE AWAKE. Take the precautions with co sleeping as there are always risks with anything you do, but you are also the mama and know what’s best for you and your baby and your household❤️I say cuddle the little bug🥰

Unfortunately my brother lost his child because of cosleeping. Before that my family was big on cosleeping. I know people do it all the time but I want to let everyone know just how unsafe it is. Good luck either way.

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Everyone who says co sleeping isn’t unsafe has likely never done CPR on a baby who died from cosleeping. No one is trying to be mean. It’s just an extremely preventable death and it’s tragic. They make excellent bassinets these days that pull up right next to the bed, some with even a space where there isn’t a wall on the bassinet where you can lay right next to baby but baby is still protected in their own space.

Then sleep with him in your bed… do what you want and not what any drs or books say !! You doing you is the best!! :heart:

For those saying the baby could die … no I’ve heard off more deaths from babies being on their cribs bassinets etc. I co-slept with my siblings since I was the oldest and help my mother out and I co-sleep with my kids too. Co- Sleeping doesn’t make you a bad mother. Do what makes u happy it’s what matters here anyway. If co- Sleeping helps relieve ur separation anxiety so be it.

When mine were that young I kept them in a bassinet next to me. But once they got older I let them sleep with me. Closer to a year old. My oldest slept with me until he was 6 and then he wanted his own bed. Now at 11 I can’t even hug him without him telling me I make him feel like a baby :joy: my daughter is 3 and sleeps with me now. I’m a super light sleeper and also don’t move around. But it always scared me when they were smaller because they couldn’t sit themselves up.

I co-slept with my son, I had the most beautiful bassinet for him & never used it, I breast feed as well, but I think it was more of the fact that he was my first child & I was in love.
Fast forward to him turning one, I gave birth to his little sister a week after his bday, and when I brought her home he started sleeping in his crib on his own. It was crazy almost like he knew it was his sister’s turn. It’s magical being a mommy.

Iv co slept since day one, my baby is now 8 months and we do both :blush::heart:
He’s your son, you do what you want.

They say co sleeping is safe as long as you follow the 7 steps I believe, which includes there own warmth and no drinking/drugs involved while co sleeping. Obviously a couple other things, just do som research x

I co sleep with my 1 year old sometimes as its easier to breastfeed her

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Still bedsharing with my 3 year old! Just look up safe bed sharing and follow your heart and mommy gut. There’s a reason you feel you need to be close, listen to it.

My son’s 5, and still sleeps with me, he was my first and I couldn’t let him go, so we co slept, with my daughter who’s 3, I did for a while (after she got really sick), but she’s been in her own bed since she was about 8mths, and my daughter now who’s 6mths goes back an forth from her crib to my bed (she’s sick right now), so I have her in my bed so I can hear her and keep an eye on her, as I have hearing loss (Not all the way), I love co sleeping and see absolutely nothing wrong with it! You do you mama💕

My son is 10 and still gets in the middle. They are only young once.

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I coslept for almost 2 years since birth and she sleeps by herself now. I dont see an issue if you trust yourself

It’s not being a “hater” being against co-sleeping. It’s a proven fact that it is unsafe, like you said yourself. You know it’s unsafe. I work in a profession where we see too many babies die from co-sleeping, which is completely preventable. If you must, please at least get that separate bed that attaches to yours so he has his own space. I know lots of people co-sleep without issue, I would just hate to risk it. I just recently had a baby in February, and I understand the struggle. I had him in a bassinet and had it as close as possible to the bed. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: being a momma is tough.

There are safe ways to bed share with baby. Bringing a pack n play or bassinet in the room is another option. Aside from that, I recommend speaking to your dr or even babys pediatrician about how you are feeling. You could be experiencing post partum anxiety (PPA). I had it with my first and didn’t even know because it was my first and the PPD screening didn’t fit me. After my second I realized I had it because it was totally different. I just thought those feelings were normal with the first until everything was so calm after my second.

I cosleep with my kids and my 15 year old sleeps alone since she was 8 and has no issues so don’t listen to anyone who tells you it’s damaging, so what makes you happy

I’ve been cosleeping since my kids were born. They are 3 and 1. We have a king size bed and nothing bad has happened, except falling off the bed here and there

I just had my last baby… She’s a little over a week old and got my tubes tied, I 100% understand wanting to soak it all in. They make cosleepers for the baby you can use so there is no reason for it to not be safe

I slept with my kids since the day they were born until about 5 if not longer :woman_shrugging: Do what you want :smiley:

Not a bad mom at all.
I’ve co-slept with my 3 kids since the day they were born.

Look up the group Biologically Normal Infant and Toddler Sleep. Great resources there. There IS a safe way to bedshare, despite what others say.

Just be careful, I’m a super light sleeper and one night I fell asleep nursing, woke up to my 6 week old head down between me and my ex. Thankfully he never rolled over cause he’s a heavy sleeper and would have smothered her! After that, since I was a light sleeper, I had her sleep on the outside of the bed with her head in my elbow and nursed her laying sideways. She’s almost 3 now, and has co slept with me for 97% of her life… tried the crib at 6 months and it worked til night feeds, and the toddler bed work for about a month til one night she got out of bed and freaked out. So I took it down (she was still in my room) and now her bed is mine

Light sleeper or not there is a high chance of smothering a newborn and his safety is more important than your anxiety. However, There are certain newborn beds you can buy to put in between you and your partner they have sides on them. I’m not exactly sure what they’re called but I used one for the first few weeks because my son wouldn’t sleep otherwise and I was exhausted.
Please look into it, and find a way to make it work not only to make you feel better but for your sons safety :purple_heart:

Your feelings are valid, but they don’t don’t take precedence over the safety of your child. Survivors bias will tell you it’s fine, but it’s not. You don’t have control of the situation if you’re asleep. Separation anxiety is common after having a baby, so maybe put a crib, bassinet or pack n play next to your bed. I would also talk to your doctor about the separation anxiety if it’s so severe that you can’t handle putting them in a safe sleeping situation at night. It could be severe postpartum anxiety.

I co slept with all three of my kids. Do what is best for you. Also make sure though your getting some mommy time alone. It’s healthy and needed. :heart:

I agree with SAFETY FIRST. They’re lots and LOTS of things Moms have to do that makes us uncomfortable (administer medicines comes to mind) BUT you’ve got to put the safety of baby first and in this case it truly could be life or death😪
I think the fact that you’re feeling a little guilty and you posted this shows you DO have a concern there. You can remove the side of a bassinet or crib and push it right up next to your bed…even bolt it to the frame…and that’ll take care of both your desire to sleep with your sweetie and keep all safe?

I have co slept with both my boys since birth! Ones 8 months and one is 3. It can be done and it just works for our family!

Co sleeping is very dangerous. I understand you want that bond. I wished someone had warned me the dangers of co sleeping. My youngest son fell off the bed while my husband and I were sleeping. We were thankful that he was okay. After that he either slept in his car seat or his crib. Doc said it was better for him to sleep in his car seat for naps. He had a reflux disorder as a new born.

I Co slept with all 4 of my kids. I have bad anxiety and I would literally get myself so freaked out if they weren’t in my arms. I slept with them at my side on my arm so if I rolled over, I had to take them with me.