I am a mom of a seven-year-old boy. From a young age, he was displaying some red flags for autism, such as speech delay, sensitivity on textures, and shyness. We followed speech therapy, and his speech is very improved, although some pronunciation issues are still there. The sensitivity of textures passed on its own. He still struggles socially to make friends and does not find birthday parties easy. However, he has one friend in school and can play along well with other family friends kids. Over the years, I had him evaluated by a psychologist, speech therapists, and play therapists as well as by his pediatrician who did not evaluate them as autistic. I am somehow fixated at this idea that he is and every little behavior that he does I google it to conclude that he is autistic. I am driving myself crazy, and I wanted to have him re-evaluated, but my husband does not share my concerns. He says that he is a normal boy, and everyone is different, so he refuses to drag our son again to this evaluation process. How can I calm myself and stop thinking so negatively?
Make a appointment with a specialist, early intervention is key with child development, if you believe he has a disability and not just progressing at the same pace as other children his age. You can also speak to his school and see if they have noticed anything.
Talk to his doctor. The earlier you can confirm the better and easier things will be for the both of you
Let him be a kid… if you have done all of what you say and he still has not been diagnosed on the spectrum, rest easy. Not all kids are the same just as all adults are not the same. Maybe you should go see a therapist and see if there is something you could do to stop yourself from constantly trying to diagnose him with something
If hes been evaluated over n over why are u still looking for something wrong? Just love him for him. You should get counseling.
I’m not sure how to calm yourself, but I believe he sounds like a normal 7yr old to me. I hope you find a way to soothe your soul mommy!
Stop searching Google, it will drive you nuts. If all those people said no then it’s no. All kids are different. Let him go at his speed and be a kid. I think you may need some therapy.
Sounds like you need to be evaluated to be honest. He isn’t autistic. Those arent common autistic behaviors. Sincerely, mother of an actual autistic girl. You really should seek therapy. Best of luck and just enjoy your boy!
sounds like a regular kid to me
From a mom who has a son that was diagnosed with Anxiety at the age of 5 (we did therapy to try to help this without meds without success), diagnosed with ADHD at the same age (did behavioral therapy for a few years before having to be put on meds) and at 12 diagnosed with ASD. My husband was not on board with my feelings that we needed professional help but I was fortunate that when I insisted he went along with it. We have been lucky to be with a great team of doctors (pediatrician, psychologist and psychiatrist) that are helping us help him. With all that said if you feel that something is off keep talking to medical professionals and get feedback from his educators. Try to avoid Dr. Google for diagnosing and use for information on questions to ask the professionals. Even with us trying to be proactive our son struggles so much, primarily with social skills with his peers (he does decent with older kids and adults). I agree with your husband everyone/kid is different and he is a normal boy he just may be walking a different path then others.
Munchausen by proxy?
I feel like you should enjoy who your child is honey. My son is 11 and still hates sand lol. If he’s happy and doing well in school then try to take a deep breathe and stay calm. Your doing great
Some of you people are horrible nasty people with your comments…
These are some traits of aspergers, and my son was not diagnosed until adult, even though school had him assessed because they saw sensory issues.
Jesus people, be kind… It’s free
See your doctor. If he is diagnosed on the spectrum, contact you local county board of Developmental Disabilities. There are some amazing programs out there who can help him reach his full potential. Not only in schooling, but when he gets older, they may be able to help with housing if he wants to be work on his independence, as well as working as an adult. I live in Ohio and work with adults with disabilities. I ave 7 adults with disabilities ranging from mild LD, autism, schizophrenia, personality associative disorder, among many others. We work in the community in factories is it possible doing work that anybody else does. If your son is diagnosed on the Spectrum, she can reach his potential there is help out there to do it.
If he was Autistic, the doctors etc would have said so.
I have one and it was obvious…
Best advice is ,STAY OFF GOOGLE… if he is happy , learning ,has a friend and has grown out of somethings. It’s not autism. You dont want to label your kid when its not nessaccary.
Just enjoy him. He will be grown up before you know it…
Being shy is a higher level of the flight or fight hormone . Just let him be a kid,
Some kids are just like that. I have one child with autism and the other doesnt. Shes shows signs but never tested for it shes just be hind thats all
Unlikely to be ASD but check dyspraxia out, especially if there are any issues with coordination/motor skills. Otherwise just enjoy your son and don’t fixate on what you think is wrong…just celebrate all that he is!!!
If your questions if he has autism or not get them valued by a professional. Only way to know.
He is still very young and you said his pediatrician told he’s ok then y worry? Kids grow up in a different way don’t compare your kid with others, you can ask his school about how he acts by then you can decide what to do. For the mean time enjoy your kid and be positive it might be just a stage or phase in growing up.
As and adult autistic and a mother of a 7yo girl I understand your apprehension. If you think is something wrong try find another specialist. But promise yourself to stop there. Even if you kid have some characteristic is clearly no enough to stop him to have a regular life…relax
Sometimes symptoms of austism can be trauma
Look into treatment with TRS
You can’t keep self diagnosing your son with google! No wonder your shook, google ain’t the way forward. Stop searching for a label and embrace your son for the individualities he has. If every kid was the same the world would be boring as hell!
Agree with your hubby …try and relax enjoy your boy don’t push for a “LABEL”
I mean, you’ve had him evaluated by 4+ different doctors & none of them think he has autism, I would probably believe them at this point. I would stop digging to label my child.
Enjoy teach him Sign Language will help him understand clear, while speech is not properly. Using both way…
Many kids can struggle with speech and even more can have texture preference to start with the world is full of many different things as the child ages and more textures are explored as you even said preference will go away. With help the speech will develop more as well. As for the shyness that is beyond normal. I’m sorry but too many people these days jump to autism. Enjoy the fact that you have a very normal child and just support him in his shyness.
Shut these aholes out cause I’m telling you now as a mom with one child on the spectrum and another in the middle of testing. If you feel something isn’t right take him in, have him seen by someone. These idiots clearly just want someone to bash on and it happened to be you. I’m so sorry. To the rest of you ignorant little pukes. SHAME ON YOU. Ya don’t bash a mother down you build her up and give her advice not accuse her of looking for shit. Go back to your miserable holes you crawled the hell out of.
Signed a mother who dealt with exactly this and was right in the end.
Jesus thank god i raised my kids before the internet got a hold of these parents who make them neurotic…
If your pediatrician hasn’t said anything I’d mention getting him tested for it.
Having four separate evaluations and the ability to overcome the deficiencies won’t qualify for an autism diagnosis. It sounds like he’s progressing wonderfully through his challenges. I would be focused on helping him be his best self. I’m sure your medical team would have recommended re-evaluation 6 months to a year later if he was borderline on the spectrum.
My son is autistic high functioning. It comes with severe meltdowns running and being a go-between with police until you die. If your child was they would have found it. There is something you just can’t pin it. Ask about anxiety. Anxiety and introversion go hand in hand and all introverts need is time and reassurance mostly. Don’t insist on autism, insist on finding out why your child is special and work with it. Just saying.
Trust your gut and find someone to evaluate him. It will be hard but will be a relief to know which path to take. Most regular doctors won’t make the diagnosis.
Stop. Just stop. Do not place a label on your son where one is not needed. Every child is different as and learns at different places, have different likes and dislikes, behaves differently. If you google everything it will tell you he is autistic because the world wants every parent to diagnose their kids instead of just accepting every child is different. There is nothing wrong with being as autistic but not every child is. Some just learn differently.
All I can say googling is the worst thing that a person can do there are so many things that are simply incorrect if your child has been evaluated more then 4 times by different professionals which it sounds like you have then you need to let go kids are different I agree with your husband. I’m working on a bachelor in psychology I dont know everything yet but I’ve read a lot on autism due to I have 4 grandchildren with autism. Does your son have meltdowns, I mean meltdowns not a tantrum. Does he do something physically like rock? Does he hate for you to touch him? These are signs of autism and asperger’s. My one kid convinced a doctor that my grand daughter was autistic when in fact she wasn’t but they put her on drugs that will make the rest of her life hell and all that was wrong and 3 doctors told her she was extremely shy but my daughter had to push it because her 4 nephews had autism so in her mind Ella had to have it too. And the end results my granddaughter did Not need DRUGS she was a healthy girl before it now she will pay for the rest of her life
We can get so wrapped up in our children’s lifes almost afraid of everything when we have nothing but a kid who dances to the beat of a different drum. I do not mean to sound rude or mean by any of this. If I might suggest you search for the reason why this bothers you so much maybe work it out with therapy or somthing. It might help relax you no matter what hes your son no matter what are you going to love him no matter what anyways.
If he’s improving and living a fairly normal life, let it be. Sometimes if they are raised normal, they respond to normal conditions
My son did exactly everything you listed above and he is also seven. He has been evaluated and been to therapy, and speech. They all say he is not on the spectrum. The therapist concluded that he struggled with trying to express feelings/emotions appropriately. So after a year of working with his school and therapists Hunter has graduated from speech/comprehension in school, and is no longer in therapy. His therapist gave him wonderful tools to help him better express how he’s feeling and how to handle his feelings in a positive way. Hes doing so much better.
Have you contacted any pediatric child psychologists? A normal pediatrician does not do this evaluation.
This is the reason autism is on a spectrum. It affects everyone differently. Autism doesn’t have to be negative. It’s just different. They process differently. You can request testing through the school. It’s not a long process but it can help in getting him any therapies he might need down the road
Stop looking for him to have it. If he does the iron will show in school and I’d he doesnt then thats fine. Every child Is different. And some do thing at different time and in different ways.
note that if he has speech and/or social issues than he can likely relate to emotional stress and may have some tricks up his sleeve that will help you handle your stress!
Go through the school system. I work with children who fall under the autism umbrella. It is a very wide range. Children who I didnt think have it, do to my surprise. Everyone is different. And for those who say stop labeling, its not labeling. Its getting help because the sooner you get, the better it is for a child. And you can get multiple opinions. If you went to 3 different professionals, not always doctors, but specialist that actually work with special needs children which there are who specialize in special needs ONLY, and they all say there is nothing, then maybe it’s nothing. They will evaluate your child. Do not go off what the internet says and definitely so what you feel is best for your child. You know your child best.
get counseling for yourself, sounds like you need a professional to help you sort out why you feel the need to have your son diagnosed with Autism.
doesn’t really matter rather or not he is autistic. everyone has their personal areas of difficulty and the solution to all of them is to accept them and learn how to use them to your benefit. A perfect example is that for the blind, other senses kick in and work better and on top of that they can get around in the dark with much fewer problems than those of us who can see! Help your child to accept and use who he is!
You sound like a Med MD mom who won’t stop until the doctor labels your child with a diagnosis you want, but they don’t need. The internet is not always your friend. Please don’t let it turn you into a shitty mom.
First mistake…you GOOGLE get off the internet
Ny son is autistic and has asburgers functioning to point. He had 1 friend n school his age. Now 25y old kid in a mans body. He can do alot stuff but if his scedule off any he a complete terror refuses to do anything but what he wants. He will do stupid crap and then he we cut his access to net off so he sleep at midnight vs 6am or wake 3 days. If you hv concerns then take get tested. We went to idr how many people only 1 said might b but hatd tell to young well I was witts end with him and I started with counseling for myself needed vent husband no help I was n tears at night bad. She listen to wht going on and immediately referred him without ever seeing him to a specialist made 4 trips 100 or so miles away and then month later results came in he was 18 then he was mentally 13 brain wise reading 5to 6 grade, and list went on… but we found answers school didnt wish help got someone from state school board down nade em accompandate him. He graduated barely but he did. He was n special ed,speech therapy, counseling and on set time for bed chores ect. It’s hard raise kid like him still do counseling just keep me from falling apart. Keep on scedule wait til he teenager get tested again cause if under x age hard to test unless find one who does well with kids of age group. But counselor will help u and ur child. But if test show he has it not end world. But deff do counseling and I wait til older to test. Boys are rambunctious my dad always said he diffrent but smart. Never knew what ment til we got results in. Just dont wait til 18 b tested. Het a person who deals with tests and test him he mayb ok but only trust someone been doing it for long time.