Talk to him about how you feel
Nope… just cheating on you.
He is cheating. But I get how you feel. My estranged bf loves men’s asses. Loves beards. Only wants sex his way and refuses initiation (from beginning its a control manipulation). Lastly prefers a certain abnormal touch during. So I’ve worried myself. But idc anymore. Either for you it shouldn’t matter either bc he’s “not that into you” anymore (male or female).
Whatever he is he is CHEATING
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I would be willing to bet money that he is cheating, but wouldn’t quite say he is gay just off of what you are saying. Regardless, kick him to the curb and find someone that can keep their full attention on you.
Cheating my guess. If you think he’s gay, just ask him. 
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Best to talk to him about how you feel and find out if there’s anything worrying him
Just ask him and if hes denying it then hes cheating and u should run.
Sounds more like he just isn’t into you anymore or he is having a rough time with literally anything and it’s causing that. Have you tried talking to him inside of assuming he’s gay?
Also I shower when I get home from work before even saying hi to my kid because of germs.
Yeah run. This happened to me and it was drugs and he was sleeping with men. Sooooo just get out, whether he’s “gay”, bi, not into you, not mentally healthy, whatevvvver it is. It isn’t worth your mental health. Move on! Good luck.
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Maybe he is but it sure sounds like he’s probably cheating to me… And not being attracted to you anymore does not mean that he’s gay
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Could he possible need a doctor? It’s hard (no pun intended) to get them to admit they cannot perform like they used too. Rule that out first!
It sounds like he’s cheating. How does he act around other men? The showering right away is a give away.
Could be cheating due to showering when getting home (washing of any smells perfume or cologne)but not necessarily with another man! Maybe he performs bad cause he feels quilt and maybe just can’t find the words to tell you he found someone else
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In my opinion the most alarming part of this would be showering immediately. I get coming home and wanting a shower but that’s usually after greeting each other and such.
Communication is a must. Tell him how you are feeling. Maybe start with the showering immediately. Explain how suspicious that looks and give him a chance to explain his reasoning. Maybe ask him to at least give you the first couple of minutes of his time when he comes home before rushing to bath. It should be an easy ask if nothings going on.
I just wouldn’t jump to conclusions just yet. Maybe he’s gay maybe he’s cheating Or maybe he’s just got a lot on his plate. Could be stressed or maybe y’all are in the downs of the relationship right now. Consider how long it’s been going on, what’s going on in his life and in other aspects of you’re relationship. Maybe it’s nothing maybe it’s something. Regardless I think talking will add some clarity.
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Honestly when he makes a “joke” about being gay ask him if he is…
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sounds like he cheating …ot just not attracted to you anymore
Sounds like he’s cheating and that’s disgusting enough in itself I would just confront him about it and see what he says
Yeah… i would suggest sitting down and telling him that you know… and tell him you want to hear how he feels about everything and to just be honest with you.
This is happening more often than people think.
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Maybe work stress and knowing hes gonna be judged as worse as possible without at least asking what’s up. .I shower when I get home (even before epidemic)from work routinely so I’m more desirable or pleasant for my girl or others…Get you guys or yourself counselling to find the root of his issues,maybe it’s you! Lol but to jump to his sexualities on a media page ,your not looking for answers for the better good ,your looking for more manipulative ammo to further demean your better half…lol
He’s not gay he’s cheating
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Do not ask him because your married well be over that man thing than just see how thing go get your cards taking care a first to about someone you both can talk too go from there god well help
Could be he isnt into you any more or bi or cheating… Not just gay.
Just ask him but be careful with his feelings.
Talk to him about it I’d rather him be gay or not attracted then find out he’s cheating
Sounds like cheating to me… could be with a man or woman
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Leaving your page because you are just a whole lot 
Just saying I had an ex I was with for that long who acted just like that and when we broke up he came out. 
I would confront him and tell him it’s okay if he is gay but you deserve the courtesy and respect to be told the truth. You don’t need to be his cover story. It’s not his fault if he’s gay but it is his responsibility to be honest and open with the person he has a relationship with. You deserve the truth. Whatever it is.
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He doesn’t seem interested in you no more time to take a move on or ask him about what is going on
If you want to keep seeing him out and out ask. But i agree with most comments on here. This relationship likely is already over. Dont waste your life on the wrong person.
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Well u have to be straight to him anything that give u doubt there’s no harm of being honest to yourself but let him feel whatever is the reason u will try to be understanding to the situation if he said he is really gay then u can make a decision u have to think of your future happiness and he can find him to just in case he is not a gay tell him why u r suspecting he is a gay maybe can be corrected !
Personally it sounds like something is wrong for sure. My husband showers right when he comes home from work but he also works in a custom hot rod shop and is obviously covered in oils and dirt when he comes home as to not get me and our littles dirty. But if your boyfriend isn’t paying you the proper attention during your lovemaking it throws up a red flag. I would flat out ask him and let him know you’ve noticed changes.
curious, if he just likes to joke about sexuality and you’re just correlating it with the reason hes not interested? This is already a small way that you are making an excuse for him then seeing it for what it is. Things have changed, the love is gone, or he has found someone else. Whatever it is do not go through all of the investigations, just to stay. Alot of times it’s easier for people to ignore the signs for the sake of never being alone. Dont do it! Be honest with yourself and when someone shows you who they are believe them.
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I would start asking questions and if won’t talk then leave you don’t need to be lied to and cheated on !!!
Spice it up in the bedroom you might be hitting that one year boredom phase!
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Next time you have sex Put on a song by wham and Finger his butthole. If he still makes exaggerated faces that’s not good. Then watch rupuals drag race. If he doesn’t change the channel then…
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Just break it off. Something is up and if you haven’t been tested for std’s you should get tested. Your instincts are telling you that something is wrong.
Definitely sounds like he is cheating. Don’t take this the wrong way but I think you thinking he is gay may just be a way to cope with what is happening. Sexual chemistry sometimes just fizzles out.
Showering right when he comes home means he is cheating, man or woman doesn’t matter
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he might be gay and he knows it but he doesn’t want to admit it, he doesn’t want to be gay maybe because of how some people might treat him or something, I think he’s using you and living with you to pretend to be straight like I’m dating a girl so I can’t be gay.
Has he always taken a shower right away
or is this something new?
Are you sure that is not tran?
Ask him, tell him be honest with you don’t make a scene eh
Literally sounds like hes bored in the relationship
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Hes definitely cheating. Whether it be man or woman.
No straight man jokes about being gay . And honestly you sound like you’ve figured it out. Walk away before you invest any more time and stress over this relationship
How about just leave him.
Trust in your feelings… don’t ignore them
He could also be addicted to porn. Porn kills intimacy.
He’s cheating he ain’t gay he got soft cuz he already did the deed prob
I had a very good friend, male, that was very gay. The man was tall, an EMT, extremely good looking, tattoos, big muscles, had money and pretty much the whole shebang…
Well, he was married and all of his friends, including me, were told about his sexcapades while at work, at home when his wife was gone, etc.
I personally didn’t know her, but I always felt bad for her.
Honestly I didn’t even know her name.
About 4 years ago he moved up north, I’m assuming after she found out and left him. It had been going on for at least 3 years that I’d known
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Please, for your safety,RUNNNN
I found out after she left that he was cheating with coworkers that were also straight and married and NEVER USED PROTECTION
Cheating and doesnt have feelings anymore. Not gay!
He’s not gay he’s just dabbing in someone else
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Probably another girlfriend
Dump him he not worthy of your love
Just ask him. I mean if your his lady you be able to ask him anything. Depending on how he responds will be the way you go. But y’all only been together a year. Its not like you’ve invested a lot of time into it so maybe moving on might just be easier to do than knowing the truth…
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Listen comming out to anyone is scary because alot of people are very judgemental as you can see 
do I condone the behaviors absolutly not you should sit down with him and explain to him the actions you have seen and just talk about it the calmer you are with the situation the more likely he is willing to talk he may not even be gay he could have something else going on there is medical conditions, mental health, there could be things going on that has him distracted but you will never know unless you talk to him
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My ex did all that too. I knew he was bi, but he wanted to be with a man, so when i found out what he was up too, he was set free to follow his own path. He married his partner a few years ago, but i dont know if they r still together (hes extremely violent and volatile) but i dont regret it at all, as if im not making someone happy, someone else maybe able too. Luckily i found my hubby. He was insanely jealous, but he eventually drifted away forever.
Try something new in the bedroom 
life gets boring sometimes and see if spicing things up change anything. He might also be having a hard time at work or something else you may be unaware of.
perhaps he is in another relationship that is taking his attention and is already taking care of him sexually.
Might be a brutal thing to say, sorry but it’s the only thing i can think.
Any other signs?
have his friends notice or mention anything?
have you directly ask him why he jokes about those thubgs?
he needs to feel free enough to tell you and don’t judge him yet, just make a decision based on what he tells you…
I think your gut is telling you something that it’s hard for you to accept, don’t stay where you are not valued.
Aww, I feel bad for you. He could just not be attracted to you anymore or he is on the down low. Seek the truth but try to prepare yourself for what happened next. Best of luck to you.
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I agree with some of the comments communication is key. He can’t read your mind and you can’t read his. It’s hard to talk about but it’s better than having your mind wonder to what if stages
He’s either not interested in you any more or he’s with someone else man/woman
Either way it’s time to move on. If he’s gay it’s time to go and if he’s not he’s still not that into you, so why keep forcing yourself onto someone that’s not that interested. If buddy is watching TV. It’s just time to let it go.
Cheating or gay, most likely gay if he’s making comments like that; and always trust your gut instincts! Whatever it is, it’s something enough that you need to move on sooner than later!
Sounds 100 gay and bi. Leave before its late
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maybe there should be a conversation that needs to happen about the sex and the relationship not geared towards if he’s gay or not.
If you can gain access to his phone then Inbox me & I’ll help you catch him. Promise!
He could be watching porn
I dont think hes gay, I think he might be cheating on u with another female and when you have sex ge exaggerates it to make you think he is enjoying himself and that the sex is good. Maybe he lost interest in you and is with someone else. Ive known plenty of men who joke about being gay just to be funny. And yep hes probably washing off the sex he had. And he cant keep it up cuz hes thinking about something else or is exhausted from the sex he just had.
he’s messing around with a man girl you need to get out quick