I’m so down I could cry. I’m 41 have two boys and I am very grateful but I have such an urge to have a baby and my friend is having one but I already am type 2 diabetic I have high cholesterol am on a statin for I just don’t want all the headaches tests etc….does anyone else feel this way? Is there another way to have a baby? Surrogate is crazy expensive, adoption can take forever I just feel like crying.
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I did but left it and now my youngest is 10 foubdout I’m pregnant as coil fell out. I’m high risk having complications. I’m 39 be 40 when have baby.
I’d say pregnancy is so much harder when older.
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The older you get, the more high risk you become. Maybe speak to your doctor about it? If you’re on medication, you may have to wean yourself off of it before trying to conceive.
An informed decision is best. 
I have my fingers crossed for you! 
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After 35 years of age there is a chance of having a Down syndrome baby. Being diabetic is high risk pregnancy. Sometimes hospitalization is required. Ask you OB doctor first due to having to take medication which could affect the fetus.
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Honestly? I realised recently that I had unknown medical issues that meant I would have died if I’d had another baby. You are already on statins. The pressure on your heart might just be too much x
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I had an unplanned pregnancy at 40, had my baby at 41. The pregnancy was “healthy” until I hit 39 weeks and I was borderline pre-eclampsia. I was MUCH more uncomfortable being pregnant at 40/41 then it was at age 27 when I had my first. DEFINITELY talk to an OB/GYN if you’re considering another pregnancy.
Have you looked into fostering
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I just had my third at 40. Chronic hypertension requiring 4 different bp meds, hypothyroidism, high cholesterol and a laundry list of other things. Other than more testing and closer monitoring by a high-risk doctor, everything was pretty routine. I had her through induction at 38 weeks because of the hypertension before pregnancy, but she’s a happy and perfectly healthy 5 month old now. It’s not impossible nor unheard of to carry a baby to term yourself, if that’s what you want to do. Just consult your doctors.
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Also, work on your health with diet, exercise and meditation. Could you become healthier to lessen your risk?
Also think about how stressful it will be at 54 weathering the tumultuous teenage years after being wrung out by your existing boys puberty. Not to mention the added expenses.
Why not incorporate children in your life in other ways? Babysit, volunteer in the nursery at a religious institution, offer to be a respite care person for exhausted parents—especially single moms, be a hospital volunteer in the NICU or pediatric ward. If you live in an area with drug use, offer to comfort babies going through drug withdrawal.
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I went through that around the same time. It didn’t work out for me but now I’m glad. I became a grandmother or Mimi, as I prefer to be called, at a younger age than expected. I’m travelling the world in my late 40s and have been to 18 countries. Wouldn’t have happened if I had another baby when I wanted. Sometimes, not getting what you want at the time, turns out to be a blessing 
With all of those issues you already have, honestly in my personal opinion it is not a good idea to have another. The best advice I have is to have a lengthy conversation with your doctor and learn about the risks of a pregnancy at your age and with your health concerns. Then discuss the risks with your husband and weigh out would it be worth it.
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Sounds to me you want a girl. Is it worth your health? Be grateful for the boys you have.
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There are hundreds of kids entering the foster care system every day. If you want a child please consider adopting a child from foster care. I had two biological boys and was able to adopt sisters 3 and 5 years old. They are now grown and happy and have given me a combo of 5 beautiful grandchildren.
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It’s your choice !! if you want another baby bad enough !! eat healty exercise and get the wheels in motion, at 41 you are still young enough, best of luck.
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Just discuss it with your doctor. Some health conditions make you a little more high risk. But I had my third at 42 and everything was fine. They labeled me high risk and I had a lot of extra appointments but everything was fine. I stopped my meds (, methotrexate and imuran ) due to the pregnancy but restarted after I was done breastfeeding and it was fine
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