Mine are 4 years apart in the beginning it was hard I breastfeed so during nap time we would do mini dance parties and stuff now he’s 2 and they are inseparable they fight often but don’t want to quit playing either she has to hold his hand when he gets shots and if they are not playing or fighting they are cuddling majority of the fights are one wants to play and one wants to cuddle
Mine are 6 and 17 both boys and they get along really good they also fight like siblings do, but they will cover for each other in a heartbeat. My brother and I are 8 years apart we can’t be in the same room longer than 30 minutes so it all depends on your kids their personalities .
My husband has a 22 yr old a 20 yr old and a 19 yr old our son together is 10 yrs old and my husbands older kids have loved having a little brother. We are also currently foster parents and are looking at adoption for our little guy who is 7 and the kids are happy. Only the oldest has met him but he is overjoyed about it
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I have 3 kids, my oldest two are a year and a half apart & fight like cats and dogs, my youngest is 5 & 6 years younger than them & they get along great with her! They love their baby sister & are so helpful with her! It’s a difficult transition going from having self sufficient children back to one who needs you 24/7. But, other than that the age gap is wonderful so far!
My first and second daughter are 5 years apart and they used to be so close but once my oldest hit those teenage years she didn’t want to hang out with her sister but they still get along and have their moments where they are nice to each other lol my second daughter and 3rd daughter are almost 6 years apart and they love each other but my two oldest always get on my youngest nerves and piss her off a lot lol but that’s what kids do they are going to fight and I also have 3 girls so that doesn’t help much. Now my youngest is 5 months a little boy and they all love him so much but it could be because he’s a baby right now and doesn’t bother them. Don’t be nervous to have another baby siblings fight but at the end of the day that bond that they have and those sweet moments are all worth it.
My oldest is 12 and middle child is 7 and they have moments but they play and get along too.
My daughters are 7 years apart but my youngest is about to be 4 months. But my 7 year old adores her and little mother hen.
All three of my kids have 6.5 years between them and the older one was great each time with the baby but now as I have a 7 and almost 14 they fight constantly but all of them are good with the 10 month old. Also mine are all girls. That might have something to do with the constant fighting.
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My youngest 2 are 6 years. And my 2 year old adores his big sister. My daughter knows she is a favorite and has been since he came home from the hospital. She adores him just not the stealing her toys. But its a great age gap. My oldest 2 are 13 months apart and love each other too. My 11 year old and 8 year old fight like cats and dogs. The hardest thing my 8 year old had to get used to was she wasn’t the baby anymore. Loved but she was going to have to share mommy.
I have a 9 yr old and a 3 yr old as well as a1 yr old. The two older ones get along and have fun but my oldest does need “me time” which she is allowed. She’s such a huge help with her siblings but she also isn’t responsible for them, and is allowed to have her space. She adores her little sister and brother and they snuggle every night together. They love to play outside and do things with one another but they also do things separately. Balance. Allow your oldest to still be independent and have his/her space when they need it. Good luck!!
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My younger 2 are 4yrs apart. My oldest is 5yrs older than my youngest. My middle and my baby fight like cats and dogs. I think it really just depends. My oldest gets along with both of them
My son is 11 and my daughter is 4…they fight alot but also get along great and he would help when she was a baby so that was fun (: just depends on your child lol
I have an 10 year old and a 4 year old. They love and adore each other. Big sister is always looking out for and protecting little brother. I love watching their bond and how much they adore each other. She was great with him as a baby too.
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I have a 15 year old son, a 11 year old son, a 8 year old son son, a 4 year old son & a 2 year old daughter… My 8 year old & 4 year old get along the best he loves showing his brother how to do things & they lot play for hours together! He taught him how to ride his bike when he was 2 and they are the only to that get along the best… My 2 year old daughter is the only one that likes playing alone & I think that’s cuz she’s rather play with her stuff in her room & all the boys don’t really want to play with her stuff…
My son was 5 when i had my daughter and he was obsessed with her. Wanted to always hold her and feed her and just look at her. !! He was so cute about it he was so happy!
Do whatever makes you and your husband happy. The kids will adjust. Bothy husband and I have grown children. I have a grandson my ex and I adopted when he was a he’s now 15. We are currently raising our twins. They were from my husband’s youngest son and his wife. They got into drugs big time. The babies were taken away. We stepped up and are going to raise them. They just turned two.All the other kids just adore them. The twins love them so much. Wouldn’t have it any other way.
Mine and my husband’s oldest is 13 our middle child is 10. The 13 and 10 year old get along great for the most part but fight a lot too. And then our youngest is only 7 weeks but the 13 and 10 year old are already so protective and can’t wait to be able to play with the baby
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My 2 eldest are 6yrs apart and I find they have a love hate relationship going. They love each other and are very close and the eldest mothers him and loves it but as he is getting older and gaining independence they are constantly arguing but when one of them isn’t home they are asking 4 the other to play with etc. When we arnt home the 2yr old prefereres the eldest to put him to bed over a sitter and the eldest will happily take that on board and when one is getting picked on by someone else they always have each other’s back. I think that closeness they have will develop as they get older 
My oldest is 9 years older then my youngest. My youngest refers to my oldest as mommy #2.
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Mine are 5 years apart and it ta actually great
Mine are exactly 5 years apart. My daughter is 10 son is 5, they’re best buds!! Of course they have their differences but for the most part they play great, she’s a great big sister and such a protecter for her little brother 
My brother and I didn’t until ten years. We are 5.5 apart. I would do it for my last if I wasn’t already 31. I loved how my brother and I each got our one on one years with my mom alone.
My first born turned 5 this March and my baby is turning 1 this June. My first born used to have all my attention. He was my whole world. At first, he got a little jealous when the baby came but then eventually he started to appreciate the baby and now he can’t get enough of his baby brother. He literally cries when he can’t see his baby brother. He plays with him and watches over him so I could do some chores. So much love between the two.
I have a boy 34 and a girl 28 that are the best of friends and have been! I would do it again having them 6 years apart.
Mine are 20 19 12 9 3 and 1 they all get along wonderfully except the 12 and 9 year old .
I have three older children (25, 21, 17) and two younger children (5 1/2, 3) growing up my older three played much better together than my younger two and the two that get along the best? The 25 and the 17 year old, who have eight years difference. Don’t get down on yourself it all depends on your daughters personality. Many older children do great with significantly younger siblings.
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My daughter was 6 when I had my son. They’re 2 years older now and their bond is truly amazing! They love each other so much and play together constantly. I can only hope for the same thing once my second daughter arrives in 2 months.
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My 2 oldest daughters are 5 and a half years apart. When they were kids they used to argue constantly. I would have them eat meals separately sometimes because they were always fighting. Eveything was a competition with them. My oldest would aways say she hated her sister but then when my oldest would go to her dad’s her sister seemed to miss her. My oldest would always boss her sister around and her sister hated it. They are now 20 and 25 and get along now but they no longer live at home. My daughter’s had very different personalities that just didn’t get along but everyone is different so other children with the same age difference could be fine.
I just had my second after my little girl turned 5 and she is absolutely obsessed with him. Of course there’s a bit of jealousy every now and then but it gets sorted right out. And she’s a fantastic helper 
My oldest daughter was 7 when we had our youngest she did really good, she held her and talked to her, she was 4 when I had my (now 5 year old) and she was the same with her, she talked to her sang to her helped a lot. As they got older and they could follow each other and get into things is when the arguments started
At the moment two of my kids are 6 (irish twins) they of course are thick as thieves being so close in age and then I have the 1 year old. My daughter the younger of the 6y/os absolutely adores her baby sister, wanted another baby in the house before I was even pregnant and has been best helper; truly made the surprise baby a breeze. My other 6y/o he was neither here nor there about the baby, would’ve preferred a cat in the beginning 
He quickly gained interest when she became more active. Some siblings are all for it, some not so much 
but most come around and enjoy it at some point lol.
My first 2 are almost 5 years apart and they get along great 
my oldest always loved “taking care” of her little brother when he was a baby. Now she’s 16 and she’s great to him. Drives him places, him hangs out with her and her boyfriend. They’re best friends
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Just had our last born last October… Our daughter was 5 then turned 6 in Jan, She loves him and is like mother goose for our last born. If you start talking to your daughter about having a baby brother or sister to prep her for the future baby, By the time baby comes she would be more excited knowing the baby will be here soon and she gets to nurse and do all the things a big sister would do for a little sibling.
We have 3 kids an 11 yr old , 7 yr old and a 1 yr old. My oldest two get along pretty well. The all pretty much get along. We talked about having another baby with both our kids beforehand but it took us a long time to get pregnant between kids.
My sister and I are 7 years apart. Its a love hate relationship. Lol but I will go to hell and back for her in a heart beat. Lol
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My 2 youngest kids are almost 10 yrs apart they get annoyed with each other but are the best of friends and love each other.
Everyone is different. I have had friends who were super close in age with their siblings and they never got along, even as adults. And some who had more of an age gap and were best of friends! You never know really! My brother is 6 years older than me and we get along when we see eachother but I wouldn’t say we are close. We are complete opposite and don’t have much in common at all. But that’s us. My kids have a 5 year age gap and my daughter is completely obsessed with her little brother. I hope they will have a great relationship!
My boys were 7 and 5 when I had my twin girls and my boys are amazing with the girls and the girls will be 3 and the boys are stills great with playing with them.
It’ll be fine! My kids (8 and 11) have two younger siblings by their dad and stepmom who are just 2 years old and 5 months old and my kids adore them!
I’m much closer to my eldest sister whose got I think 20 years on me, rather than my youngest sister.
Mine are 8 and 1 1/2, they absolutely love eachother!!!
I have 3 children 46 36 and 31 they get along just fine
I have 4 kids ages 11,9,1 and newborn. My 9year old daughter and my 1 year old daughter are best friends! My 9 year old loves to teach her sister new things and is always playing with her and is in love with her new baby brother and helps feed and care for him. My 11 year old has aspergers so he is still warming up to the idea of the two little ones, he plays catch with his 1 year old sister, and likes to give kisses to his little brother. I honestly like the age gap between them, I feel like they get along a little better because my older two always fight and are in eachothers things, its like a wrestling match sometimes lol.
I have 5 children aging from 26 to 3 my second youngest is 8 and they are the closest than any of the others my 8 year old daughter loves her 3 year old brother it’s like he has 2 mins lol
Mine are 7 years apart. Now 12 and 5. When my youngest was under 2 they were fine… now they fight a lot and my oldest just ignores her or is mean. Wish I knew how to fix it, but my youngest isn’t the best behaved and gets on her nerves.
Not at all!! My oldest just turned 5 and My other daughter is now 6 months. Its perfect!! My sister and I were 5.5 years apart and my brother and I are 4.5 years apart. It totally works for us growing up because we werent too close in age but also not too far
Mine are 5 1/2 years apart and get along great. Now they are 14 and 8 she always has her little brothers back. But teenagers… Well we all know how teenagers are with their own space. He looks up to his big sister and wants to do everything she does. It’s just important to be make sure they have friends their own age.
My sister is 6 years older than me. From the time she hit puberty until I was in high school, we fought a lot. We loved each other, of course, and would still do anything for each other. But we mostly didn’t get along. Once I got into high school and my hormones started to level out, we got a lot closer. Now I’m 26 and she’s 32 and she’s one of my very best friends. We even have matching tattoos with our brother. He’s 4 years older than me, so 2 years younger than my sister, but he’s an actual saint so our relationship with him is not like a normal brother sister relationship. I don’t remember much about our relationship when I was little, of course, but I do know that she loved me so much that I was her show-and-tell in kindergarten. 
Everyone is different, but if you model loving relationships for them, odds are they’ll be just fine. 
My kids are almost 4 years apart. And have always been the best of friends. Boy & a girl.
I have 4 kids. The twins are 18 ,the middle boy is 12 and my daughter is 6. They’re all about 6 years apart. They all get along really well… And they fight really well. They have different relationships with each other, and it’s perfect. The older kids always helped out with the baby… And they formed all inseparable bond. Good luck!
Mine are 5 years apart and the get along good. They fight every now and then but only cause my oldest thinks she’s the boss and the younger one is a brat hahaa
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My kids are 10 years apart and get along great, my eldest is very protective of his little sister.
Mine are 4 years almost exactly and it is PERFECT. She is old enough to want to help do everything. She loves her baby sissy!
My daughter’s are 6 yrs apart grown now but they are best friends
My boys r 17 & 20 & my baby girl is 3!! They ADORE her!! She is the light of their life!! She wants to do everything with them & they try to include her of its safe. No regrets!!
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My oldest is 7 and my youngest is 2! They have been the best of friends since my youngest was born. The oldest LOVES helping out and entertaining his brother…he can get a bit annoyed due to just wanting to relax or play in his room and baby brother wants to annoy him haha but I think that’s siblings no matter the age gap 
I’m glad I waited because my second one is more of a handful than my first and if I would have had them closer together I feel I would have been pulling my hair out haha
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I had 2 sisters… 1 was almost 5 years older than me and the other was more like 6.5 years older than me. I honestly think it depends on the kiddos, the family dynamic, the environment and everything. It’s so hard to tell. My sister that was like 5 years older than me and I were super close. I crawled out of my crib when I got big enough to go get in bed with her. She basically potty trained me and taught me everything I knew. I had a very present mom & Dad too but my sister was the one I wanted to be with. Now the older one on the other hand, was a pain in my butt from ground 0. She was always so mean to me & doing mean things to me to hurt my feelings and make me cry or scare me to make me cry. We would get into physical fights, bc she would physically like nudge push me or “accidentally “ hit me when walking by. She was pretty horrible to me to be honest. My middle sister kept telling her that I was going to get bigger one day & that when that day came, she wouldn’t separate us or anything, she would simply let me kick her butt to show her and get her to back off. After that it was much better. Our household became split after that & it was complicated. My sisters are actually half even though I don’t use that word, so when he divorced my mom, I stayed with my mom and they went with my dad. It took me and my oldest sister a while to get to be grown to friends but it did eventually happen. Of course middle sister and I are the closest!!!
Nope. They fight aaaaalllll the time. Both girls so that might be the issue. So far my 1 and 5 yr old get along just fine but he can’t even talk yet so we’ll see how the next year goes.
I have 4 children. Almost 18 year old twin girls, an almost 13 year old boy and an almost 8 year old girl. They’re all 5 years apart (2003, 2008 & 2013). Mine both get along and don’t get along. When they were all younger, they got along well. As they have gotten older though, and found themselves and wanting their own space, it’s changed. The two youngest get on the two oldests nerves and vice versa. They have their moments though where they get along really well. And they definitely love one another. My oldest two are protective of their little brother and sister and my son is protective of his little sister. It’s one of those “no one can pick on you unless it’s me” type deals.
Me and my sister are 7 1/2 years apart. Shes always been my best friend. And never have had a fight/argument. Shes 18 and im 25 now, still close, but she’s becoming closer with my daughter now. She’s an amazing aunty as well. 
Mine are 7 years apart. Wouldn’t have it any other way. Financially it makes life a lot easier when the get older. At 20 and 13 they get along great. Always have. Very close.
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I have a 14 and 7 year old that fight constantly they drive me absolutely mad with their behavior with each other. They purposely try to Piss each other off. But my 14 year old and my 7 year old both get along with my twin 3 year olds it’s like the common denominator between them one thing they can actually agree on is loving and caring for them it’s crazy some days
My oldest was almost 5 when my twin girls were born. She adored them. She helped mommy out a lot. She still does help out and is still close with them but she does have her tendencies to have an attitude with them but she is also going to be 13 this year so I chalk it up to teenagerism. Lol
I have 6 kids and currently my 17 YO boy keeps bugging his 11 YO brother to hurry up and get his schoolwork done so they can play games together. 
My oldest is 8 now going on 9 in may and my youngest will be 1 in June and my youngest loves her big sister and they play well together.
They all get along but ive found the biggest age gaps are not as close
My sister and I are 5 years apart, we got a long most of the time, depending on where our ages were, there were some awkward stages where she felt to grown to be my friend and I was the tag a long, but all in all it evened out at different stages of life. Now we’re grown and best friends.
My eldest is 7yrs and my youngest 10 months and their bond is great and it’s lovely how much she wants to be involved! Go for it!
There age gap doesn’t bother us the slightest!
A very caring big sister she is.
Even better when there older know not be so loud when baby asleep 
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Please,I’m 10 years younger than my oldest brother & 8 years younger than my middle brother. What’s the problem?
I have and 8,6 and 4 month old. My two girls constantly fight! I mean over everything. But god do they love there baby brother. The bond they share with him is amazing. Playing with him is the only time they aren’t fighting or arguing. And they help so much with the baby its great.
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My daughter is 7 almost 8 years younger than her oldest brother and 6 years younger than her other brother. They were great with her when she was little. They argue now, but her brothers are moody teenagers and she’s an annoying 10 year old girl to them. Normal sibling stuff
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My daughter is 8 and she told me if I have a baby, she is gonna give it away she is not into the idea of sharing mommy
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I find it’s a mix. My 8 yr old was 5 when I was pregnant and turned 6 a few months after I had her. She had a hard time transitioning from an only child. We did our best to give her special time but anything less then 100% is still less lol. She expected the baby to come out like a 2 year old able to play lol. She adores her sister and can be super helpful at times but they also drive each other crazy. My 8 yr old likes her alone time but she still will play with her sometimes. In the end they have each other and it was all worth it.
My grandsons are 8 and 2 and they are best friends and have been since birth! I raised 4 kids and none of them was half as close right from the start!!! There’s always the exception!!
My daughter is 38 my other daughter is 36 and my son is 29. They all get along great
Siblings are aholes to each other no matter what age gap I have 5 kids but it out ways all the love I see between them
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My kids are 9 years apart and it’s fantastic. The oldest loved help with the youngest and now that she’s older I have a built-in babysitter too lol All kidding aside they fight from time to time like all siblings but I find the age gap to actually be more helpful than a hindrance.
Let’s see, I’m the oldest of my siblings and I. I was 1 1/2 when my sister was born, 4 when my brother was, 7 with my second brother and about 12 or 13 with my youngest sister. I’m close to them all. But my youngest brother and my youngest sister are whom I’m closest too. My older sister and I are pretty close. My first brother and I too. However we fight a lot more than I do with my younger brother. My first sister and first brother are closer to eachother than anyone else and they are about 3 yrs apart. It really just depends on the kids and however many you have.
I have 2 daughters myself, 4 and 1. They love eachother but they already fight a lot.
Siblings will always fight. Lol but no matter the age gap they’ll still love eachother.
I think it depends on the family dynamic and the kids personalities. My 2 boys are almost exactly 4 years apart, and most of the time they get on very well and play together but there is other times my 8 year old wants to be left alone and his brother wants to keep playing. Also very different personalities.
Mine are boy/girl, 5yrs apart. She is oldest.
It is HELL.
And I totally get it because I was 10 years older than my sister. It sucked.
My Oldest is nearly 29 my youngest nearly 7
My eldest is 10 and my youngest is 4, both girls. Eldest is like a mother hen - great friends