Hi! So I have a four-year-old daughter and she is my whole world! She is my only child. I’ve been having baby fever bad lately, and my SO has both agreed that we would like to have another baby. However, we want to possibly wait until after we get married in October next year (2022). We were thinking of spending our honeymoon trying to make a baby, lol. By then, my daughter will be five, and I’m sure by the time I actually have another one, she will be close to 6 as her birthday is in June. So my question is, does anyone have kids that are 5-6 years apart? How do they get along? How does the oldest one-act around the baby? She has been around babies but it’s different when the baby won’t leave our house. I’ve been feeling down because I feel like I should have already had another one close to her age so they could be close and play together. Is 5-6 years to big of an age gap?
I cannot speak for everyone. But I never got along with my siblings who were that far in age. And my oldest doesn’t get along with his either lol
I have two 12 year old sons and a 7 year old son and no they don’t get along very well. My older boys are always saying my 7 y/o is annoying. Smh I tell em to bad they are brothers get over it.
My son is 5 years older than his sister. They adore each other 95% of the time. He’ll be 8 this week and she’ll be 3 in June. The only times they have problems is with sharing toys. She’s excited every day when we pick him up from school and he’s so happy to see her as well. I hope it stays the same.
We had a 6,7 & 8 year old when the baby was born. The three oldest are absolutely over the moon, in love with their little brother and continue to ask for more babies.
I think it depends on the kid, honestly.
In my experience one who is older like that tries to do more mothering than be a sibling. Not my favorite dynamic, but having another kiddo is so worth it.
my kids are a week away from being 8 years apart. my daughter wanted to be an only child until she was around 6-7 so then we decided to have another and he was born a week before her 8th birthday. he absolutely adores his big sister and she loved holding him when he was a baby and she was a huge help, now that he’s almost two he drives her crazy but she loves him so much and he absolutely loves when she gets home from school he runs to her every time
Yes I have 2 daughters 15 and 9 six years apart and some days they adore each other but other days they’re ready to rip each other apart lol… I make them hug and make up so that they can bond close. I tell them everyday that they have to love each other and stay close because they’re both really spoiled.
My son is 6 and we have a newborn. My son adores his baby brother.
I have a 11 year old and a 3 year old and the 11 year old loves helping me with him
I have 2 younger brothers. One 2 years younger and one 6 years younger. I grew up best friends with my brother whos 2 years younger! We had a blast growing up. Ive always adored my youngest brother but have been a little more mothering than the fun sister with him.
My kids are all 7 years apart. The older ones were all super helpful with the younger one.
My daughter’s are 6 and a half years apart, they love each other and the little one always want to do everything with her bigger sister, I wouldn’t say there is never fighta or irritation between them because there are for sure, but my friends who’s kids are closer together fights just as much… It is worth it…
My kids aren’t that far apart but my brother is 5 years older than me. Honestly we didn’t hardly get along when I was little. But we always had love for each other. I also have two younger sisters. The youngest is 3 years younger than me. Her and my older brother were inseparable 
I have 3 all 5 years apart (grown now) my experience waiting a spell between children was the older they were the more they enjoyed their baby sibling and wanted to help . My oldest was super protective of her younger siblings, She was 11 when our youngest was born, and loved coaching her little brother how to help bc she was the oldest and knew how LOL
Mine are 7 yrs apart (boys one is 11 and other just turned 18 and they got along till my oldest turned 14 now I feel like I’m always having to stop them from arguing…they act like they can’t sit for 5 minutes in a room together without drama…but my oldest is leaving for the marines soon so he will hopefully grow and fix his relationship with his little brother
5yrs between my oldest and youngest , both boys (i have a girl between them too) they get on majority of the time as they’ve got older
All of my siblings besides me and my younger sister are 5-6 years apart. I am closest with my younger sister who is 4 years younger than me. My older sister we hated each other growing up lol she is almost 6 years older than me lol my little brother is 10 years younger than me and it was def more the mom role but we are closest compared to all of all my sisters.
My son is 11 and my daughter is 6. Some days they adore each other and some days the want to rip each other apart. Overall they both love eachother very much and are inseparable.
I have a 6.5 yr old and a 1.5 yr old and they freaking love each other. The first 8 months were sketchy lmao but now it’s fairly smooth
My kids are 16 and 5. Best friends.
I have a 5 year old and 1 year old. Love eachother so much🥰
Had my eldest at 18, she was 5 when me second was born and they got on good to begin with but not always, now eldest is 12 and second is 7 and they can’t stand each other lol, like ones nearly a teenager and likes her own privacy and the other one just wants her to play dolls or something. However I had my son when my second baby was 1 and they two are like best friends, they do everything together. Im pregnant now with my 4th and my youngest is currently 5 so no doubt this baby will be on her own.
Lol. Sometimes they’re really sweet. Other times they can’t listen to each other breathe.
25, 20, 15, and 11. Just like any other siblings, they either live eachother or they want to kill eachother! Depends on the hour of the day. Lol!
My brother and me are almost 12 years apart. He lives with me and we get along fine now. My oldest son and middle son are 6 years apart he loves helping with the little ones. Sometimes we have jealousy problems but for the most part they love each other
My daughter and son are 7 years apart and they have always got along. She was like a second mommy to him and always wanted to be with him. They are 35 and 28 now
No lol I think all kids play… fight… and fall out no matter the age gap 
mine are 12 4 and 1
I think it all depends on how the parents include the older child to start with
But by the time the youngest can take what they want and irritate the others, thwy will fight lmao
I have a 5 year old and 2 year old … and I about to drop another baby any day
My 2 year old is a terror who annoys the eldest all the time
I got a 8 & 7 year old and 6 month lol they both love her but when she be crying my oldest calls her annoying but other than that they play with her love her always try to make her laugh.
All of my kids had a 4 year gap and they have a great bond. I even had an 8 year gap. My kids range from 23-3 and the older ones are amazing with the 3yo. 23,19,15,7,3. The gas was nice because when baby was born the others were in school so I could bond and focus on baby then when they were done school I focused on them
Mine r 8 yrs apart and fight like cats and dogs
Me and my little brother are 11 years apart I’m 26 and he’s 15 we get along but in the past we hated each other
My daughter turned 6, 3 weeks after the birth of my son… they absolutely adore each other
She’s brilliant with him
My oldest daughter oldest out of three is 7 so my youngest two son are 6 and 5 years apart from her she loves them she gets a little irritated by them but other than that shes an amazing big sister n always wanting to help shes the one with the jacket tied around her waist.
That’s the same difference between my daughter (first) and my son (second) It was the perfect age for my daughter to help grab me a diaper while changing him and things like that and my son loves her like crazy and she’s the best big sister I could have ever imagined. 
I loved having huge age gaps between my kids. I have 3 first was 5 when my daughter was born and she was 8 when my third child, a son was born. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
That’s basically mine and my sister’s age difference. We got along mostly ok as kids. I do remember being INSANELY jealous when she first came home.
As adults were VERY close. Literally. Her and her son live with my family. I would want to have about that age gap but I waited to long in life for that. I had her a month after 36, so it’s pretty definite I’m not having anymore.
We have 4 kids, 7, 13, 14, and 18 and they all get along about 50% of the time lol
My sister is 6 years older than me. She was so excited for me- there’s like five or six bracelets and best friend charms she made for me while waiting haha. Growing up we weren’t close tho and we fought a lot and I mostly hated her guts and got on her nerves- then once she moved out for college ( I was like 6th grade?) we started getting closer and more and more so after college and since. We’re best friends
I should also mention we have a brother who was 13 when I was born- I think a lot of the younger hatred stemmed from he made her life hell but I was his precious baby sister
I have an 18, 12, 2 and 1 year old and the big kids LOVE their older siblings and vice versa.
My oldest son is 8 years older then my second son and 12 years older then my third a daughter since they where born he was very over protected of them they looked up to him. Growing up and they are all adults now and have a wonderful relationship. I tell them all the time I envy there relationship as my brothers n I where never close.
My son is 6, he’s from a previous relationship. He was 5 when I had his brother. He’s the BEST big brother to my sweet baby. He’s very helpful and already ready to play with him and love him♡
My fourteen year old stopped getting along with my 8 and 9 years olds once they stopped being cute little babies
My older sister and I are 4 years apart and were best friends honestly when we were kids we hated each other then it clicked I would day go for it
I had an older brother we were almost 5 years along. Once i turned 3? We didn’t get along. It was all out WAR growing up. We still don’t really talk, i talk to his wife.
My boys are 7 years apart and fight like 7 mins apart 
My oldest is 5. My youngest is 8 months and I’m pregnant with my 3rd.
My kids are 11,7, and 3 months now obviously minus the newborn least for now overall they get along just as well as any other siblings I’ve been around regardless of age difference… they play together, defend each Other and obviously fight and argue as most siblings do…
With that said they are also crazy super helpful and love their baby sister! Idk that the age difference matters to any of them!
Age gap doesn’t have much to do with anything IMO. I have 4 kids 14,13,11, and 2. The 14 and 13 year old get along as if they’re twins and are really close. My 11 year old has behavioral issues and doesn’t really like anyone including myself lol so they fight alot. My 2 year old is just hanging out. He is glued to them and wants them constantly when they are around him. Its too hard to predict whether or not there will be issues. If you want another baby have one, your older child will adjust to them. I’m sure they’ll be fine. It may be difficult when the younger one wants to steal everything she has. However having a younger child made my older kids see responsibility in keeping all their stuff picked up or its being toddlerized haha. But whatever you choose best of luck to you.
My oldest is 6 (a girl) and she is absolutely OBSESSED with my youngest (4.5 month old boy). She is so helpful with him and acts like a little mom herself.
My boys get along just fine they are 1.5 and 7
I have a 7yr old 4 nearly 5 yr old and 8 month old i love the age gaps
12 year age difference between mine. No real issues to speak of…
I had 3 in years and 10 days… than a 5.5 year gap for our Rainbow baby who is now 3…
The gap is amazing my older 3 just adore the youngest they are so helpful it’s easy.
Although it’s not all sunshine and lollipops as they soon learnt that the smaller toys had to be put up as babies put things in their mouth and they break things.
I was about 5 yrs apart with my brother, we didn’t get along.
My kids are 5 yrs apart. It will be fine. They get along good. Your daughter will be a big helper with the baby and as they get older they will be close.
My daughter was 5 when her sister was born. She still gets jealous of her but I think it’s a sibling thing. My 14 and 12 year old can’t stand each other. If you want another baby, do it. You’ll be fine.
Lets see I’m going on 48.
12yrs between my 1st sister&I
I was 12 when my dad& step mom(mom to me) had my sister she’s 36.
17 yrs between my baby sister and myself.
and I was 17 when they had my baby sister and she’s going on 31…
My baby sister is going on 31 and MY son just turned 25…lol
My 12 year old and 2 year old are enamored with each other. They are full siblings and they both have special needs, so they get easily frustrated with each other, but desperately want to be near one another (unless they have something cooler to do). Generally though, they entertain each other. I have to say I think it entirely depends on personalities. Sometimes the older one becomes the little mommy or daddy, sometimes the protector, sometimes the playmate, and sometimes they each play the tormentor. Relationships change as they grow, too. One will get more friends and find independence, then they will eventually start to find common ground again and the older can walk the younger through certain trials of growing up, and may become a sounding board for the stuff they can’t ask mom and dad. If you’re unlucky they just never click, but they have an age gap that justifies their distance, so it’s not a constant struggle. When they are close together in age and they don’t get along it’s worse because they can’t escape each other. They may share friends and activities and clothes, so it’s just a constant battle. I think an age gap allows them to decide how they relate to each other. It allows them the freedom to choose the relationship dynamic throughout their lives. They get to pick the friendship when it develops, or choose to remain acquaintances if they find they don’t have kuch in common, but there’s a pressure that comes with being close in age to a sibling you don’t have anything in common with, that the age gap relieves. I think that fosters a better relationship over all. Maybe they are neve best friends, but they are also never in competition and there’s no need for resentment. It might be a trade off in that way. Although 5/6 years isn’t much when you’re 28 and 33. So they could be best friends, but won’t likely ever be mortal enemies… until you die and they have to fight over who gets what. lol 
My boyfriend has an 11 yr old son, I have a 6 yr old son and we have a 10 month old daughter together and they all get along great. The boys are so good with their sister.
My sister and I are 5 years apart. Got along most of our lives, with some nitpicking and fighting along the way, but not like I’ve seen with some siblings lol. Now I’m 33 and she’s 38 and we have been best friends for as long as I can remember.
My oldest is 20, then 16, 12 and 8. All girls. They fight. They fight hard. But love harder
Yes . It’s all about how the individual child feels when the time comes . My oldest ones are 7 years apart , he hated her . My 3rd is 5 years from my second and 12 from my oldest . Now my new baby and 4th is 13 years , 6 years and 18 months from the others . Something like that and they all love it now . But even if a child is happy it can still be a lot for them at first .you just prepare them . We watched a lot of baby videos .my oldest is a boy and was alone almost 8 years before his sister so it’s not a surprise he had issues with her.
My son is gonna be 8 and my baby turned 1 in February and I’m currently due in 6 weeks with a baby girl. No real issues, the eldest is super protective of his younger brother and a huge help. Just maybe expect for her to wanna be very hands on with the baby other than that it’s beautiful!!
Personally my sister and I are 8.5 years apart and we (for the most part) have always been best friends
My sister and I are 6 years apart in age and we are like best friends! She is legit my right hand woman lol.
My kids are 7 years apart and close. Shes 8 he’s 1 they love each other. And she’s a great help. I find it better.
I have a sis 8 years older, a sis 2 years younger, a bro 5 years younger. I personally get along with my older sis and younger brother the best. My lil sis and I are constantly arguing and not getting along. Good luck and God Bless you and your family.
My brother and I are 6 years apart and I promise, it does get better. I always loved him but he was annoying and whiny and we fought A LOT until he was about 12 and then we became best friends. Now he’s 17 (and still a turd) but He’s one of my best friends. We still argue occasionally but that’s to be expected. It’s no where near as bad as it use to be lol
My kids are 5,3,2,1 and my oldest and youngest get along really well as well as my oldest two my 2 year old is a different story she don’t get along with anyone
They don’t! Mine are 14 8 and they are arch enemies!
My oldest is nine and my youngest is two they get alone great
My oldest is almost 8. My youngest is 3. So 4 years.
We didnt really “plan” the youngest.
So…here’s a few things about the oldest child being in the 4-6 range…
- They’re old enough to understand things a younger child cannot. They’re old enough to understand babies cry because they cannot speak or do anything for themselves.
- You’ve gotten a good amount of time with just the oldest. And with the oldest in school you get a good amount of one on one time with the youngest without making the older one feel as though they’re being pushed aside.
- They’re old enough to really help. Which makes them feel included. My oldest used to keep the little one company while I made a bottle. He’d help make the bouncy seat move. Sit there and talk to him.
They have a good relationship overall. There’s bickering but that’s siblings and happens at every age, but the oldest is old enough to understand more about sharing and playing nicely.
My son is 5 and have an 8 month old. He was just shy of 5 when I had my 2nd. He has adhd and suspected to be on the autism spectrum, but the boys are inseparable. I can’t tell you years down the road but took my oldest about a month to adjust.
My first 2 are less then 2 years apart fight constantly and last baby is 7yrs younger then first and 5 yrs younger then second they get along with the youngest great
I think that depends on the children. My sister & I are 5yrs apart. Haven spoken to each other in decades. She used her age & my need for include me to manipulate me throughout my life. But she’s so awful that our mother couldn’t even stand her. I have an 11yr & 1yr gap. The 2 that are 1yr apart (7&9) fight like crazy. They get along better with their big brother (but they fight too ).
My son is 4. My nephew is 1. Gets along great with him. Now my son is excited to be a big brother soon.
I have 2 girls that are about 4 years apart and they laugh and play together, they fight over shoes and toys but problem solve and end up in a fit of giggles, they are very close at the moment my 1st born is turning 5 and my 2nd born turned 1 in Feb, they just love each other and are super expressive about it
My sister and I are 9 years apart. We get a long great. Never had a sister to steal my stuff she was too little for my clothes and shoes lol my boys are 21 months apart and fight constantly, they love each other like crazy but constantly bicker.
My middle daughter is almost 7 (my oldest is 10) and my son is 4 months. They both love him so much!
I have three boys one who is 21 one who is died and the other one who is eight yeah they fight and they all don’t get along but there are times when all three of them are in the same room and you don’t hear a noise out of him because they’re all watching TV together playing video games it’ll get better in time
This question is impossible to answer some children will get along and some will not I don’t think it matters the age gap!
My kids are 5 years 8 months apart and I’m glad I did it that way. They have a great relationship 
My oldest son is 6 and my youngest son will be 4 when I have their sister in October. I have zero doubts already that my oldest is going to make sure they’re close. He is already so excited about her, asking if he can help with her and hold her. We even let the boys help pick her name (we gave them two options we both really liked, and they chose the one they liked best). From the start of my pregnancy, I’ve been careful to continue to reiterate that this is their baby, too. They helped me announce the pregnancy. They’re the ones that told everyone she’s a girl. They’ve been involved every step of the way. I find that that helps begin to build that bond before the baby is even here.
I get along with younger brother of 8 yrs than brother of 2 yrs
they fight and jealous no matter what age
Depends on the kids. I only have one right now but my sister and I are just over a year apart and would fight like crazy, we’re also 7 and 8 years older than our littlest sister and we would fight with her just as bad, the age gap didn’t really matter
My kids are 5 years apart and they get along great! Hubby’s and I are used to age gaps, I’m 8 years older than my sister and his older brother is 15 years older than he is lol his younger brother is 7 years younger than him
I believe that the bigger the age gap the better. I had my two older boys 2.5 years apart and all they do is fight!! Then I had twins 7 years after I had my second oldest and all they do is fight! But my older two get along really well with the twins! So I would say go for it she will be fine
My younger sister and I are 8 years apart, and absolutely hate each other always have, verse’s my brother, and I are a year and 11 months apart and are super close.
Having siblings far apart for me was hard because we had nothing in common I’m 20 years old to this day and she’s 12 we still can’t be in the same room.
The bigger the age gap the better. My girls are 3 years apart, teen years hit and all they do is fight. They get along great with their older brother, he is 5 years older. I also think gender plays a huge part, but…that can’t be predicted
My first age gap is about 3 years and although they argue often they are the best of friends and the first one there for the other when they are upset or hurt. My next age gap is about 8 years between the oldest and youngest and 5 1/2 between the middle and youngest. I can’t tell you the future as my youngest is about to be 9 months but I can tell you that age gap made adding the new baby sooooo easy! His older siblings adore him (for now ).
My kids are 6 years apart. It is a great age gap for us! My son absolutely loves his little sister and is so understanding. It was also way easier to recover postpartum because people are more apt to take my son for a day or overnight as he was older!
My daughter is 8 and my son is almost 2 they love each other! He thinks his sister is the funniest person ever😃 it’s nice to have the age gap I think, you will have a good helper!
Me and my brother are 6 yrs apart. We’ve always had a great relationship he is always there for me no matter what. And its was great growing up with him being so much older because he was able to teach me and help me grow in a mature way. My son is 5 yrs apart from his stepsister and they are inseparable when they are together. And when they arent they are texting back and forth. They stand up for each other and will kick someone’s butt for messing with the other one
Love and hate relationship mine are 9 and 4
My girls are 8 years apart.
Currently 11 and 3 and they are the best of friends (most days lol)
My brother and I are 7 years apart and have always gotten along great! My sister and I are 10 years apart and we struggle…
My oldest is 13 and my other daughter is 10. They don’t get along that well! My son is 7 and my 13 year old is a bully, she picks on the other 2 for no reason!