I am 5 months pregnant. I know my husband loves me, but sometimes he says things that hurt me. He will not be intimate with me once I get a certain size in pregnancy. He says he just can’t “get in the mood,” and its “weird.” Has anyone else gone through this? It really makes me feel so bad about myself. I try not to take it to heart, but how can you not when you already feel low about yourself?
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Your husband is idiot!
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Tell him he needs to get over himself. He needs to grow and and see how beautiful you are while his child is growing within you.
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It’s an awkward stage. U yourself might not feel in the mood.
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Tell him to quit acting like a child.
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Is he your first kid? Actin like a child smh
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I don’t have any advice for you but I wish I could say something to help you and/or to make you feel better 
However I am very sorry that he is acting like an immature little boy & making you feel bad about yourself, specially at a time when your self-esteem is already lower then it normally is!!! The issue is him my dear, NOT you!!!
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I went through that and honestly we were never close again after that. Talk to him and try to let him know how you feel. I ended up divorced. But I’m a million times happier now than I ever was with him. So just think about your relationship and try to plan for the future you want and see if he can see how he hurt you and fix it. Maybe counseling too. Good luck hun 
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Blindfold and then throw him on the bed
I understand the reason you feel hurt, but some men just DONT like having sex with their woman when they’re pregnant. It’s weird for them because their child is inside you, my boyfriend is the same way. Your husband could definitely execute his feelings differently, but you can’t make him feel bad for how he feels. I doubt it has anything to do with the way you LOOK. Just communicate with him. Have a conversation about it. You can’t force him to do something he doesn’t want to do, as he should respect you as well
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Shallow man… Forget him, love yourself first, more you do, the more confidence & lack of concern you’ll have about shallow comments & actions towards you xx.
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Lots of men feel that way , the same as many women do when they are pregnant don’t take it to heart .
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That’s not right if he loves you he will understand I am currently 7 months pregnant and I feel insecure I’m sure every women does and he should support you and understand you are carrying his baby I would have a conversation with him yes you get bigger and it gets complicated to be intimate but he put the baby there he is either there to love you whole pregnancy big belly and all or he’s not worth it in my opinion best of luck 
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that is extremely childish. and i honestly feel sorry for you.
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Awww don’t feel bad. I kinda feel the same way. Im 25w and sometimes i don’t want to bc i think its weird that i feel the baby kicking but s/o is trying to have sex. Lol it feels as if the baby is laying right next to me. Also maybe he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable. My last pregnancy my s/o stopped having sex with me once i was 8 months. I asked him about it recently and he said he stopped bc he thought I’d be uncomfortable. He never asked but just assumed.
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Sometimes men are afraid they’ll hurt you or the baby during sex and he may just have low labedo which has nothing to do with you. It’s a hormonal imbalance. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
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Nope. I cant get my hubby off of me prego or not
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You should talk to him and let him know how he’s making you feel. Sometimes men make comments that they think are funny but can be cutting especially at a time when we are emotional. Often they don’t even realize how they are making as feel. Positive vibes. 
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Don’t feel bad about yourself, you are carrying LIFE.
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Some people, men and women don’t like the idea of having sex when pregnant 
some fear it’ll hurt the baby or it’s just to weird for them.
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Are you sure it’s YOU he’s referring to???
Could it be - like when I was first pregnant, my (ex) husband was afraid he would do something to hurt the baby. Could it be that, or like - he’s weirded out by “the baby,”/pregnancy, not necessarily you???
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He’s an idiot. My man says he loves my belly and it turns him on to know he did that 
sometimes I wish he would leave me alone though lmao
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Maybe he just doesn’t know how to communicate his feelings, and it has nothing to do with you. He might not want to hurt you or baby and just isn’t expressing himself we’ll talk to him about it without accusing him of anything give him a chance to explain.
Only with the intimate part lol hubby usually cuts me off at 38weeks cause he worried water gonna break during sex 
When i was pregnant, i felt weird so would not have intercourse, it works both ways. He may feel scared about hurting you or baby. Its a scary uncertain time. Its also understandable you feeling insecure amd worried too. There are other ways to ve intimate with each other.
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That’s actually normal! Many men dont have sex with their wives during pregnancy. It’s not about you, it’s just that they think they are somehow hurting the child
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I felt like that tbh lol we all have our weird things lol
Also tell him! Tell him what he said made you feel bad! Ik if my s/o said something that made me feel bad I’d hold it in and tell him later but he would immediately apologize and make it up to me! You’re doing a beautiful thing, growing life inside of you and I’m sure he just can’t get his mind off of that which makes him not think of sex. He’s only thinking about the fact you’re growing his child
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I’m five months now and I feel so insecure about myself. Every time I ask him something about me or us he gets hateful about it. Tells me to stop asking multiple times. There’s a difference in Making someone Feel Loved then just Telling them in a Hateful way
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When I hit my 3rd trimester I didnt want anything to do with sex, and we were told it induces so by the last week I was ready to get baby out but having sex felt like the woooooorrrrsttttt lol my hubby was all for “trying to induce” me lol but I was like ughhh noooo! It goes both ways, I doubt it has to do with your looks at all, like some said for most guys it’s the idea of their child in there, and soon coming out if where hes going in, it’s not the sexiest thought, and men always are so extra cautious during sex because of the baby inside so it becomes awkward and it’s understandable. I suggest maybe just getting a vibrator and using it to satisfy your needs and maybe you guys can experiment with masturbating together and each other instead of full on sex? My husband and I did this alot when I got too big and it was too uncomfortable and I was so sore and in pain from being slightly dilated that I couldnt stand penetration.
I’m sorry but that’s just shallow as all get out! If my husband said that to me I’d smack him so hard! You are carrying HIS child! He’s an ignorant douchebag
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If it was the other way around and you were the one not in the mood or finding it weird what would help change your feelings? Whatever the answer is for you try it with him.
The father of my child doesn’t say anything but I can tell by the look on his face and the way he closes his eyes . Ive got 7 weeks to go . He tried saying something about being worried about my water breaking but that’s not it. I’m all baby all stomach but it makes me feel like I’m not sexy anymore too and I just take it . It’s not cool and it’s probably a deeper problem but masterbation is always better anyways … so there’s that
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Opposite for me, once I was big I didn’t want sex and felt gross and weird about it. I also could barely move near the end so it was completely off limits for 2 months lok
Don’t take it personally… I’ve heard men say it makes them feel uncomfortable, as if the penis is too close to the baby.
When you have the baby remind him of that kick him to the spare room
My hubby was the same way. Maybe acknowledge that not all men are sex crazed and will take it however they can get it and MAYBE Idk understand that he has a choice to consent and has a right to his feelings of being wierded out. It doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful or that he doesn’t love you. Just that maybe he doesn’t wanna be intimate with the baby around.
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Men are odd creatures… some get really turned on by pregnant women and some are fearful of hurting your or the baby while pregnant. It sounds like you need to have a deep honest conversation with him about how you both feel and that the comments he is making are upsetting you. You also need to listen to his side of it and finger out why this makes him uncomfortable.
Come my way then. Best part. You can get pregnant again.
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I think it just takes communication and maybe easing his mind about it. With my first daughter, I read articles with my husband about intimacy during pregnancy and even looked up different positions to keep baby safe. He felt better afterwards and we’ve been intimate during pregnancy ever since and I’m currently pregnant with our second child! Good luck to you mama, hope I was able to help 
We had the entire 9 months. We just minimized the positions and the ruffness. I was the horny one so he gave it to me with no complaints. 
Then he does not love you period
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Its normal mines was the same way:woman_facepalming:t4:
said he felt like the baby touching him
This is odd. I’ve been pregnant twice in 2 years and my husband just can’t stop telling me how amazing I look and how much he needs to have intimacy with me even when I’m pregnant and huge.
Your husband needs to learn how to communicate without hurting your feelings. Like “I care for you and the well-being of our baby” but not “I don’t feel the vibe while you are pregnant” I would kick my husband out of the house if he talks to me like that.
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I get it, some people just arent physically attracted to pregnant women and feel wierd about it for many reasons, they dont like feeling the baby kick them, the extra belly can feel awkward and in turn be a turn off, just talk to him and tell him how you feel for god sake but also listen to how he feels as well, he has the right to feel ways as well
A lot of men think they are hurting the baby and thats why they are turned off
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Everyone has things they’re uncomfortable with. This is one of his. He’s probably more worried about hurting you than anything. It weirded my husband out once you could feel the baby moving. Men have feelings too. Communication is key.
Have you told him exactly how you feel? That would be the first step in my opinion, having a heartfelt conversation where you both go into detail on what you’re feeling.
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I wasnt interested in sex, during pregnancy.
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Tell him how you feel and how much it hurts. Ask him to hold you and rub your back. It could be that he is scared of hurting you and the baby. Ask his why he is acting this way.
Even if that’s how he feels, he shouldn’t be saying those things to you. . Very insensitive…
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Honestly sit down and talk to him get an honest answer that gets down to the point maybe it isnt your body he is uncomfortable with maybe it’s the fact you have a child inside of you or something completely different. Many men think that way unfortunately and it’s not fair to them either because of their own personal feelings you may just have to work through it the best you can.
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He needs to get over himself we have a 10 month old and I’m 18 weeks pregnant and my husband literally can’t keep his hands off me. Yours needs to grow up and be a man
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He just doesnt like large women and will consider u a large person even though u have a baby causing it , some just have a preference they aren’t attracted to. Its not u personally but it will just get worse if u dont lose the weight fast after baby out.
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My husband loves it and so do I, I’m 9 months now. I think that’s weird honestly that he would feel that way.
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Thank goodness my boyfriend didnt have hangups about this because I was super horny my whole pregannacy! But like alot of people have said, it freaks some guys out because they think it’s going near the baby’s head etc…
Maybe the baby being there is bothering him and he sucks at communicating that to you in a way that is more sensitive to your feelings because he’s embarrassed himself. Some men are weirded out by the idea of their penis entering the area where their baby is. A friend of mine experienced this with her husband before they got married it took him until her second pregnancy for him to be honest about the reason. He was faithful and they went back to having sex just as much after the baby was born, he did have a very hard time waiting for her to heal though so there was a little bit of tension between them for a couple if weeks after the first baby but he knew what to expect with their second.
My ex wouldn’t touch my after I was pregnant like at all it was horrible… I’m currently pregnant again to a different man and it’s the complete opposite except not only was he with me a lot but three other girls 
dudes just suck in general
All these comments saying you husband is being childish, immature, needs to get over it, really? If it was the other way around she she was the one who “can’t get in the mood” or “felt weird” would you all be saying the same thing? Yeah, he said it in a way that hurt you, tell him that he said it in a way that upset you. Then he can explain what about it is weird (afraid of hurting baby, etc.). Just sit down and have a calm conversation about it. If it was the other way around, you wouldn’t want to be forced to have sex if you didn’t want to. Men have every right to that respect as well.
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Is he like afraid of poking the baby lol…im.being dead serious…maybe it has nothing to do with you. Some men seem to think they’re getting too close to the baby once youre further along and babe is head down
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Freaks some guys out its not you my hubby felt like he was poking the baby…lol
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In my pregnancy it was the other way around. I felt gross and my husband couldn’t get enough lol Your husband shouldn’t say those things it’s ridiculous and insensitive
Shit even I feel weird once my belly is real big lol. He should be more careful of your feelings though have you talked about it?
Never did my husband or fiance say anything like that to me. If anything they always told me how beautiful I was. I don’t think you have a husband, you have a child. It’s one thing to feel weird about it, but it’s another thing to say thing’s like that and make you feel bad about yourself.
You seriously need to speak w/him. Personally, its nonsense to me that a husband would not love the fact that his wife is carrying his child! Those are typical child excuses not grown men excuses. Men use that excuse but dont complain when in the process of having sexual relations w/their mate.
I couldn’t have sex at all pregnant… More so with a big belly… It was just weird to me for some reason… Plus i had no want for sex at all…
Sorry hes being like this he should be more considerate not. This way
He sounds like a douche bag
I hate being touched when I’m pregnant!! I can’t even if I wanted to anyone I have an incompetent cervix which requires a cerclage.
I didn’t have sex my entire pregnancy once my hubby found out we were Prego he didn’t feel right
Every group has the perfect person,relationship or life. Cant anyone stop being assholes
My husband fears hurting the baby. After I get a certain size sex is off the table for us but as soon as I feel ready after we are back at it like rabbits
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My sisters partner was scared he would hurt her and it really affected him so could not get in the mood. In the end they tried spooning so he wasn’t resting against the bump and didn’t get too deep to be uncomfortable for her. She also discovered that her partner thought she didn’t genuinely want sex and she was just doing it out of wifely duty so maybe reassure him that you’re randy and want his body. You could always buy a toy and he may get jealous and want to take its place? Good luck getting laid! Also isn’t sex actually really beneficial in pregnancy as it can reduce blood pressure and help you sleep better xx
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Chat to him about it
He seems to be stuck in an immature place about intimacy and things of that nature
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Men are really simple … maybe afraid of poking baby lol … anyways he needs a damn filter on his mouth and learn that it takes a lot to make a baby and women need all the confidence they need at this time .
my husband wouldnt once i got so far along even found him" getting ready" once with porn it hurts i know but jusr remember it wont last long… and maybe talk to him about how it makes you feel…
Some guys aren’t comfortable with it. Not every man will sleep with you threw a whole pregnancy. Some think they will hurt the baby.
Just like how woman aren’t comfortable sometimes or just don’t want to have sex, MEN ARE ALLOUD TO NOT WANT TO HAVe SEX.
Flip the table and see it the other way. If you were really not in the mood and were having a rough pregnancy and he pushed you to have sex how would that feel? Have an intimate date night you dont have to have sex.