Is five a difficult age? I feel like all my kid does is whine to get his way all day; I have no peace for more than a minute. I’m starting to doubt my parenting skills, and I’m very unhappy. I’m not really looking for advice, I guess I just want to know if I’m the only one feeling this way?
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I called it F you five’s but honestly 6 is just as bad if not worse
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Lmao why is my 2 year old already like this
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It can be a tough age especially in 2020. These kids are having adult issues put on them. On top of that, they are not babies but, not teenagers. My 5 and 6 year old are figuring out they are independent people. Yet still need help with stuff.
My 2 year old daughter is this EVERY F**KING DAY 
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Every years a hard age !
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Yes! My 5 year old is SO whiney all the time now 
Corina Jarvis-Amzil 
They’ll grow out of it. Just sucks in the moment. Something new comes with every age. Personally, I hated 4. Lol
My 5 year old and I butt heads like no other!! It is so frustrating at times. My 7 year old has an attitude and acts as if she’s 13, and my almost two year old is cling AF!
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I dislike the ages 4-6ish
My 5 year old is going to be 6 in 3 weeks. He didn’t have the terrible 2s or horrendous 3s… but 5… 5 has been the HARDEST year. You are doing great!
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My 3 year old grandson is the same way.
Every age is hard. I can confirm this up to age 10.
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1,2,3,4,5,6 every damn age is hard!!! 
5 was terrible.
I’ve learned that the most difficult ages seem to be 2, 5, & 17.
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I think all ages are like this 
My 5 year old seems to have skipped this or got it all out during the freaking threenager stage. She whines here and there, but not as often as what I’m reading in comments lol.
My son turned 5 in July and I can notice a huge difference in him … very mature … now I’m not saying he’s perfect but he’s certainly getting better and I enjoy it more 
I had a hard time with my son at 5. He’s come a long way from that behavior now and he’s 6.5
Nip it in the bud first up. Don’t accept any sort of whining, time out each time it starts, and say use your words… I can’t stand whining, does my head in
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All ages are ruff hun no age will let you rest until they are out of your house but even that they will still come back lol I got three 8&7 and a 5 month old
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My son got WHINEY at 6 years old 
complete opposite of what he has been.
Same as another comment, he was wonderful 0-5 but boooyyyyy once 6 came around 
its been a huge struggle. I dont allow it to go down as so, its gotten easier. Some days are worse than others.
5 is easier then teenagers haha
I straight up send mine to bed. I don’t negotiate with terrorists
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My son is 8 years old and Oh. My. Gosh. 
It is hard at every age. Just in different ways. Lol
Every year has its difficulties. Also, it’s very dependent on your child and their environment.
You just need to work out the best way to tackle the attitude, stubbornness and tantrums they throw!! It’s very challenging but once you work that part out it gets easier, I promise… just don’t forget to compromise too!!
Going through the same thing with my 5 year old!
Wait until teenage years
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Every age is a hard age!
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U think age 5 is bad wait till they hit age 13 an still cry like a baby:rofl:
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My kid is about to turn 4 and he whines and whines all day… I just tell him I dont understand him when he speaks like that until he tells me what he wants and uses please, then I tell him I understand. If I say no and he whines and whines, I let him know that is not how he gets what he wants. Just be consistent and drink lots of wine, it’s a phase that will pass
I had a whiner. He was driving me insane. I finally started telling him whining is for babies and you are not a baby any more. If you want or need something from me you have to use your normal voice. I no longer respond to baby whining. Every time he whined at me I told him sorry can’t understand use your big boy voice. It took some tome but I never gave in to the whine again and he stopped.
Five is a very hard year. Just take it day by day and understand it’s harder for the child.
Mary Plado - Varghese
5 is fucking terrible. My 5 year old does the same thing…
Definitely a difficult age! Mine was a nightmare at 5
I send mine to the room an she can come out when she done
I have a 5 and 8 yr old. They both are having issues and it got worse once we had to be confined to the house more because of the virus. My 5 yr old whines and doesn’t want to do things for her kinder class online and doesn’t want to learn how to read. My 8 year old antagonizes my 5 yr old a lot more so they fight constantly. I have wanted to rip my hair out so many times. All I keep saying is things will get better.
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5 was my favorite age (so far) with both my kids.
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I feel this way with my 3 year old. My 5 year old sometimes. Shes extremely sassy when she doesnt get her way but it’s not constantly like with my 3 year old. Some days I just want to pull my hair out.
Yes. We all go through it.
Just wait till the teenager stage!! U will love it!
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I have a 17 yr old and 3 yr old, I’m going through both horrible ones!
I have 5 kids. Ages 5, 7, 7, 9, and 11. Brace yourself mama. Its hard. But completely normal. You’re not a bad mother. Your kid isn’t a bad child. They’re learning emotions and life. Be patient, be understanding, but be firm. You got this!
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Just wait… but I dont listen when they whine. I put them in the room. My nerves can’t take all of that.
Gets worse when they get into teens
Just wait till the teenagers …
My son is 5. He’s a whole butthole. My 3 yr old daughter is completely normal. I don’t get it. Tried to go see Santa today and you see my daughter and their cousin who’s a baby obviously were ready to party…my son however gives no fks.
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A paddle across the ass will adjust his attitude .
He thinks he is to old for Santa, right at that moment, He is a mini teen ager, a baby one minit and big boy te next
Like 2 and up it seems lol
As an early childhood teacher in a preschool I find that 5 is a very diverse age. We have a huge range of maturity and behaviours. Some of our children are very mature, sweet natured, kind to others and a pleasure to teach. Others could give 2 year olds a competition for demonstrating their frustration. We have one who tantrums over the least thing and his father says he is the same at home and it is like being back in the 'terrible twos". I guess what I am saying is that all children are different and there is a huge range of behaviours demonstrated in children the same age.
My seven year old is a whiny cry baby about almost anything. I have a three year old and the constantly fight over stuff and cry over things. I use the age old adage “if you don’t cut that out I’ll give you something to cry about” and yes, I follow through but I only give a few swats. I don’t beat my kids and I don’t spoil my kids. Kids are gonna be kids. They will whine and cry and complain about anything and everything. Trust me, you’re not alone and you’re DEFINITELY a FANTASTIC mom. Don’t let anyone tell you different.
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I have a whiny 6 year old. I feel your pain.
I definitely think 5 would be less of a hard age for you right now if corona wasn’t a thing. It’s for sure a hard age, but daily school challenges their brain and wears them down from playing with other kids. Which I’m sure is true for most ages right about now. But hang in there. Hopefully soon some things can go back to normal and you can get a break and your little one can get some other stimulants to wear down that extra energy that’s currently being used to whine
Is whining getting him attention?
Whine in his bedroom that would be the perfect way to stop that nonsense,no need of that.
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he is trying you and you have obvislously given in to him before when he has done this so now the volume is TURNED up, do time out in his bedroom, or you in turn can throw yourself on the floor and throw a big hissy fit and see the look on his face then
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As sad as it is…kinda glad i didn’t know my stepson at that age. He is very emotional at 9 and cried at the drop of the hat until this year. We have worked a lot on expressing emotion in other ways and it helps. Five is a rough age. Kindergarten, parents not there all the time like before. Tons of new experiences. All three of my prior sons had a rough time at 5 years old. Hang in there 
I feel like every age will come with its own set of challenges. But my 5 year old whines way more then I’d like him to. I just try to keep in mind it’s been a rough year for him too.
At 5 they start getting independence feelings, realizing they can do more on their own, and they will push boundaries, they will try to get their way, honestly if you give in to them now all of the time it will only get worse. Be firm when you say NO and mean it, the more you give in the worse it will get.
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This might sound weird to some of you but for the last few weeks our dog has been just laying around sleeping then up whinning alot and we don’t know what she wants. Thought it was change of weather but not sure. Maybe time change is effecting humans and pets. Anyone else having this problem
My niece just turned 6 in September. Boy oh boy was 5 hard with her! Defiant, mouthy, miserable, like a 15 year old. Now she’s fine and great!
Stay patient and consistent
My daughter is 2 and she whines all the time because she doesn’t get her way or bc I’m telling her no I just simply don’t let her get her way unless she has had good behavior if she doesn’t I refuse to let her get her way. It’s normal momma hang in there it does and will get better 
Every age is difficult in its own way
Find yourself a break just for you. Being unhappy and burnt out doesn’t help and your child can feel your frustration which in turn can make him frustrated. Then set yourself and him a routine, routines help more than anything
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Every age is difficult. Kids will constantly test their boundaries to see what they can get away with. Address the issue early on and put a stop to it. Ignoring them will make this behavior worse and possibly more in the future. Let your child know what you expect of them, but within their age understanding. Hang in there!
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My twin boys are almost 5. They do nothing but whine for everything. I’m strict. I don’t give into whining. We talk about how, when they whine, they are not going to get what they want. They still whine. They also need more supervision than they did when they were 2 or 3. Between the fighting and the sneaking to do things they know they shouldn’t, I can’t even blink.
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At 5 kids are just eager, adventurous and seeking independence all together. My 5 year old never stops TALKING and asking questions. As long as he’s awake, his mouth doesn’t stop moving. So when I get tired I calmy let him know that he can ask me 1 last question cause I need a break. I know this phase isn’t forever so I embrace the connection now.
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I found the terrible twos were not as bad as the tornado threes. 4-5 were the Diva years for my girls and 6 was 6-nager territory.
7 was the worst year.
My boys were chill AF until 14. Then they got moody and aggressive and hungry - so basically permanently hangry lol
They calmed down at around 19.
I have 6 kids (3 of each), 22—>4.
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I feel like it differs from kid to kid. My daughter was pretty easy at 5 (2/3 was terrifying, lol) but my oldest son was fine up until now (he’s 5). My youngest is almost 3 and still thinks he’s a little baby, lol.
But no, you’re doing fine. Kids can be several handfuls.
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My son is 5. He is currently seeing how many mini donuts he can fit in his mouth. This is after he already had a mouthful and was spitting it out in my living room, at the cat…and me.
He will repeat everything I say. Climb on the back of my furniture like an animal. Pretend to have broken legs when he doesn’t want to walk. Scream,cover his ears and run away when I wanna talk to him. Wipe boogers on the inside of the car door where he sits. He also used the main vent for the central AC this past summer as his urinal…but he is 5. And he is also witty, cute af, hilarious, smart as a whip and incredibly loving at the most unlikely moments. So we forgive and forget and move on. I mean we’re all an asshole sometimes.
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It’s actually imo is a challenging age and doesnt stop there. I have 4 daughters aging 18,14,13 and 7 and for each I found that 5-8 has been by far the most challenging.i think it’s the age where they try to become their own person yet dont know how to be. And the less confidence in themselves leaves them insecure and ornery…just keep pushing forward.they will figure it out and on individual bases I find they resolve their problems as they grow secure with themselves.! Good luck honey
.believe me the rewards are endless as they grow! Much love and strength to you!
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5 is an asshole age… we have 3 kiddies. 12, 6 and 15months… speaking from experience. 5 is a pain.
The only advice ill give you is that when our kids whined, we would pretend to go deaf. We convinced them that wining doesn’t register. When they speak properly we can hear them. 
lol we would always say speak nicely so I can hear you. Honestly, it only took about a day or so for them to get it.
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Everyone talks about the terrible twos like ages 3, 4, and 5 aren’t an even bigger nightmare 
you’re definitely not alone
You have to put boundaries in place and if they cross the line, put them in timeout and explain appropriate behavior. My father once told me … how they act at 5 … take that times 100 and that’s how they will behave as teenagers / young adults. Better to correct now that deal with worse later.
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I find all kids are hard & each are different to their own , my older kids are so chilled out never had a problem
My 3rd is so hard wants attention all the time , hates the word NO if she’s not occupied I can’t get a break
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Everyone at some point feels like this. All children are different do dont compare to others just remember noone know with children they dont come with instuctions. If he goes to school try to take a time out for yourself then. Xx
Definitely not alone. I have a 5 year old daughter too. And with them being at home is very hard. I try to not be so hard on her. But definitely drives me crazy sometimes. She’s very sassy. Don’t feel bad mama. We all have our days.
You are not alone! My youngest son just turned six and he still is whining and I’m an idiot and give into him, because I can’t take it. And this remote learning is not helping either. The only time I get a break is when he eats dinner, because dad’s home by then. And on Wednesdays if my dad has the day off, he will try to keep him busy so I can shower in peace.
They have to learn self sufficiency otherwise yes they WILL drive you mad encourage tasks that the child can complete by themselves etc .
I’m a grandma to a boy who is going to be five in December and a girl that will be 5 in March. They’re at that age of wanting their independence but doesn’t want to give up their dependence. They whine when the can’t do something they think they can do. The girl lives with us full time and there are days when she is an emotional wreak. Than the next day she happy go lucky. I wouldn’t trade this age though for anything.
Honestly, from 2 on up it just gets harder. Then they hit their 20’s and they finally realize you’re just doing everything to prepare them and the love you for it.
You’re not the only one. My son is always up my butt and throwing fits if he doesn’t get his way
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Yes. My son is 5. It’s a difficult age. It’s like he’s a toddler again crying to get his way.
Every kid is different. My daughter wasn’t like this at 5.
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When MyTyguy was small I got him a prepaid Amex card that I could add funds to; Each day he wasn’t a jerk he earned $.50 if he was a jerk I subtracted $.25 at the end of the week we’d settle up, add the $ to his card and if he saw a toy/ treat he could get it himself or save it up for the next week. He’s now 20 years old, he has a great sense of financial responsibility and knows the benefits of both good behavior and savings. I highly recommend this method!!!
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No your not crazy, your five year old is starting to gain independence. What you let him/her get away with now sets the stage for later. Hang in there.
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No, you are not alone. I have B/G twins and will be 5 in December. They drive me nuts lol. I have an older son who was very passive and easy going as a child and the difference really is night and day. All these two do is fight over everything 
I keep telling myself that maybe it’ll get better the older they get, but it seems like I’ve been telling myself that for the past 3 years. And now with this pandemic having them home 24/7 is really rough. The only thing I can suggest is to try to get some alone time JUST FOR YOU if you can. Even though the only alone time I have is when they are sleeping lol.
Set up a system of checks and balances rewarding the good behaviors and creating a form of discipline for the bad ones
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You are NOT the only one. 5 is way more difficult. Honestly, it’s been the hardest age so far. Hang in there momma, you’re not alone!
My 5 yr old is the same way he’s full of energy and bouncing off the walls from when he opens his eyes until he closes them and he gets 0 sugar
I have a twin daughters they are almost 7 years,5 wasn’t that hard,but i felt if i break the rules,they get messy and unorganized,so i guess we should keep them on track to feel in control thats all
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He’s whining because it’s working. Begin the day by saying there will be no whining today. If he wants something he can ask for it and if the answer is no and he whines then 1 reminder and a time out. You can explain why the answer is no. He’s only doing what you let him do.
My daughter is 4 1/2. Right now, I’ve never been so wrong in all my life! X
Parenting doesn’t get any easier with age. 5 is hard as much as 15 will be, just different experiences.
I told my three " Ask me once, I’ll think about it; Ask me twice, you’re closer to a no; Ask me three times the answer is always no"
I used the 1 23 magic technique. It works and I still use it on my now tweener. In the end children are not robots and they will try and try again.