So y’all me an my sons dad are going through a divorce an we have a 10 month old do yall think meeting at 8 at night is an appropriate time to meet. I also have 2 other kids that will have to go with me for this pick up
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Nope. I have strict boundaries around bedtime. Sleep is crucial for little ones. In my opinion, past 8 is too late for a 10 month old and I sure wouldn’t sacrifice my kid’s bedtime for a drop off. Kids health comes first.
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I think it depends on your situation. Do you guys get along? Do either of you work weird times, other kids have any extra curricular activities? My son’s dad and I get along pretty well and adjust days and times as needed, but I understand that that might not be something others are able to do.
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My son is 4 and we have 7pm for exchange time which i feel can be a little late. The courts tried to give us 8pm and we were exchanging earlier because we both felt it was too late.
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My 3 kids are 4:30pm because we have to travel 1.5 hours back home and through Melbourne traffic and also have a baby whose bedtime is 7pm.
Everyone’s situations are different.
Not a whole lot of context to this so it’s hard to say but I’m inclined to say no, not the end of the world so long as its workable in your circumstances. Eg. Dinner, bath, pjs can all be done or kids don’t have to be up super early the next day etc.
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Depends on what time child usually goes to bed 8 would be to late for me. Got to consider the drive back home then you got to get the child settled in. Do what works best for the child
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My kids are asleep by 8 so I’m no help
I know growing up and my dad had me and my siblings every other weekend he would pick me and one of my sisters up at 6pm on a Friday at my mom’s and drop us back off at my mom’s at 6pm Sunday.
My mom had custody of two of us and my dad had custody of my older two sisters.
Meeting who? Picking up who? A little clarity?
I would do between 6-7 to give you time to get baby home, calmed and ready for bed
You can always have it change to 8pm whenever they hit XX age but also consider homework and whatnot. Do you think the other parent will ensure homework is done, etc.
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I personally don’t think it’s too late but I have no idea what your regular routine and schedule is so I don’t really know if that’s too late for you 
everybody has different bedtime routines. I always put my kids to bed at 9:00 p.m. so eight would be okay with me. Is there a reason it has to be that time could it be sooner if you feel it’s too late?
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We do 6 pm and that’s court order just how they do it which is good because kids need time to settle down. And it always took my kids a few days to get back into the routine after their dad’s that includes behavior issues also lol. Routine is good. Also my ex didn’t feed them much either so it was best for us.
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People in these comments are outrageous! 8pm is NOT too late. Be thankful he wants to/is trying to coparent. Smfh
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8 pm is not to late, if that’s the time the father is able to meet then let that be. I get that there are 2 other children, but in reality it isn’t his job to accommodate your other 2 children, it’s his job to accommodate with his and your 10 month old child. I’m sure it is 1 time a week or 2 so be it, it isn’t everyday why make it even harder accommodate each other sheesh at least he’s still trying to parent both of your child you have together.
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6 or 7pm is typically what I’ve seen courts do
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My daughter’s father brings her home at 6pm and she’s 8. Bed time is vital
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My states general guideline is at least an hour before bedtime. Standard is usually 6pm, gives kids time to get home and wind down, have dinner, etc before going to bed. My younger kids are in bed no later than 8pm, my teen is 9:30 on school nights (early bus pick up and he takes awhile to actually fall asleep) so 8pm drop off/pick up would be late for us since it would interfere with my other kids routine. We do 6pm drop off/pick up for my oldest with his dad, gives us time to get home and do a quick, easy dinner for that night, him to shower and start winding down.
Yes,them babies belong in bed
Too late for me but this is really between yall
I think it is a little , 8 it’s normally when most parents start with the bedtime routine, specially for a 10 month old
Depends on bedtime routine and the distance between two places. My ex and I live a mile away from each other so we do 7pm.
Court orders usually state 6pm for exchanges.
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8pm is ok as long as child has been fed bathed and put into jammies ready for bed when they get back to you
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Just be glad that he wants to see his child because some men don’t
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It needs to be a reasonable time. A baby needs a schedule and so do your other kids. You can put that in the works for when you go back to court. Maybe even shoot for just 7 if it’s a bit of a drive (need to think about the weather for all seasons, deer ect) or if it’s not far (5-10 min) then go for 730
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8 is too late. they should be on there way into there bedtime routine by then, if not asleep yet atleast getting around for it
I thought this was like for a date or something 
it is the baby’s father 
just depends on when the little ones go to sleep I guess 
only you can decide that hun
Need more context, gotta do what’s best for the family though. Is it cause of work?
8pm is to late for my schedule with my kids, they’re in bed at that time and asleep by 8:30. & now you don’t have to be “grateful” he’s trying to coparent. lower your standards ladies, he’s a parent and his kid. he’s doing what he should.
If 8 works for you, Dad and your little boy it is fine. The baby can sleep in his car seat if that it bedtime. What is important is Dad is asking to spend time with him. Flexibility is the key to successful co-parenting.
I mean really it depends on your routine/ schedule or what you agree on. Im not off from work til 615, have to do a bank drop right after some nights & then go meet my ex from there which is another 30-35 minute drive from the bank then 45 minutes to get home. It puts me getting home from meeting at about 7:45-8. What does your custody agreement say, sometimes they give a set time to meet?
I mean it’s not a great time for pick up/drop off. I’d say if that’s the best time then that’s what’s going to have to work for now. It’s not going to stay that time for next 18 years. Maybe dad can drop off at your place with kiddo prepped for bed to make the transfer easier for the little one.
Too late for me! My baby is 3 and is still in bed by 7:30pm
No! That’s about bedtime. And no time to settle down
my sons father and i have 6 pm set for our 5 year old. him and i felt like 6 was a fair time. gives a few hours after either of us get him to spend time with him as well as it’s early enough to make him food and give him a shower.
We have a 7:30 pick up time and then a hour commute and with 3 youngest kids (10 mos, 2, and 4 yrs) it’s hell and we are all going to bed at 9:30 or later and then up early for school. Maybe if you guys lived real close and had a lateer start to your day…ect to many factors need to be considered here, in general no not a great time
Talk it out is there a reason
Yes that’s to late. That’s around bedtime. No no no.
If 8pm would interior the baby’s or your other kids routine yes it’s too late. I wouldn’t do it. My kids were all in bed by 8. If it’s disrupting the children’s routine & he insists he doesn’t care about your kid. He only cares about controlling you. Let him take you to court requesting that schedule. I doubt any judge will force that.
Obviously you already think it’s too late! Why are you second guessing yourself?
More context!
Is it because dad is just getting off work?
It’s the most convenient time for both parents?
Also, it’s nice to hear that both parents want to be involved in the child’s life.
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