My oldest was 4.5yr when 2nd was born then 2nd was 3yr and 1 day when the 3rd was born. I didnt think from 1 to 2 was that hard but 2 to 3 was a little harder only because my middle child is a super mommas girl so she likes to get all the attention but she was really good with her baby sister. Now my kids are 10, 5 and 2 and they all get along pretty well.
My first and second are 4 years apart. Honestly I think that was the hardest age difference. I have 6 of my own and a step son. They are 12, 8, 6, 4, 2 (step son), 2 (my son), and 3 months. I love them all being 2 years apart. At two they are becoming more independent and having a sibling helps teach them to be helpful. I Honestly feel like it is all based on the child as to how easy or difficult it will be.
It all depends on the parents. If you take it day by day and enjoy it all they will be fine no matter how far apart they are. If you stress they can tell and they stress. Stressed kids cause chaos.
Mine are 13 months apart. They grew up the best of friends and are still the best of friends. My brother and I are 13 months apart also, we have always been close as well.
I had my first 2 boys 14 months apart and it was awesome…definitely the hardest going from 1 to 2 but, worth it when they are older…like 3 and 4yrs. Old and it honestly just got easier for me to add more after that…i now have 3 and done
Mine are 13 years apart, no problem for me BUT the first one a boy “ demanded another boy” , which luckily he got! His excuse, “I ain’t doin’ nothin’ for no little girl, yuk, can’t even play with them, nope have a boy! Haha for boy one his first 3 children were girls! God has a sence of humor! The brothers are very close even with that age difference!
Let’s see. I had my daughter and with medical issues I did not have my son until she was 15 yo. Between my first and second son is 13 months. They were close as can be. When my second son passed at six and half months old, SIDS, my daughter and son are still close. Yes it was hard to start over. So its is wise to have children close in age. That way they grow up together and learn together. Its also easier when shopping for clothes, school supplies, and other things. So if you can have your children close in age.
I have 3 girls they were each 5 years apart I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer you do what you feel is best for your family good luck
I have 2 boys they are exactly 2 years apart. Its crazy that first year with them both so young. But I loved being done with diapers and bottles so quickly.
It’s hard but I wouldn’t have it any other way my girls are 14 months apart and they are inseparable! Best decision me and my husband ever made
I chose to have three in 3.5 years and never regretted it. As adults they are close and I was able to return to teaching once they were in school.
My first two are 4 years apart number three came 3 years later and number four came two years after the third. Quite honestly I found having them closer together was easier, I think two years apart is perfect
I had 3 with in 5 yrs, very easy…had my last 10 yrs after…he gets lonley…now the other 3 are adults hes 10 an still a difficult child…i would have tjem close
I had 3. The oldest and the middle are 14 months apart and the youngest was 3 years later. It worked out good for me but the 2 oldest were a handful especially the oldest.
I have 3 boys. They are all a year apart. It’s hard having that many little ones at once. Make sure you have a good support if you choose to have them this close.
14 months apart. They are best friends. I have 4. It gets easier than just having 1. Having only 1 was harder for me than having 2 or 3 or 4
My 1st 2 are 21 months apart. My 3rd and 4th are 19 months apart. There is a 6.5 year difference between 2 and 3. Personally, I loved having them 21 months and 19 months apart. The 6.5 years was tough for me. The transition wasn’t tough for me. The firstborn, however detested her sister. They fought constantly growing up, but in their teen years became closer.
My sons are 18 months apart and I would not have it any other way. Double diaper duty. double high chairs and bath time. Big brother helped train little brother in the bathroom.
The closer in age the better. I and my siblings were 18 months to 3 years (I’m #2 of 7) and were all best friends.
My sister and I are 1yr 1month and 10 days apart. We are very close. Yes we argued a bit a children. Now we are older and smarter.
Nope! Just make it fun. Let the older one help with what he/she can. Mine were less than 3yrs apart.
Its so much easier than having the first child. You know what to expect and you’ve already been a mother so it just makes it so much easier.
My girls are 25 months apart. Fought a lot growing up. Polar opposites from the beginning. Best of luck to you!
The transition isn’t difficult at all since you already have a young one. Having them close is easy because you already have one in diapers so you will get them out of diapers at close to the same time. They will most likely have a better bond as my boys did. The only question really is if you are ready. If you are, go for it.
My daughter was 3 when my son was born. It was nice because she was potty trained. Having 2 in diapers sucks! And she adored her brother
Me and my sister are 14 months apart my mom said if she did it again she’d have us that close together again
My 2 boys are 4 years apart. They are definitely not close, they tolerate each other. Not what I had in mind.
I echo the comment about your decision. Do you want 2 in diapers at the same time? What about college costs? My sons were born 4 years apart. Our daughter was a bit of a surprise. She came 7 years after our second son, 11 years after the oldest. NOW THAT’S a difference! Almost like 2 families. Activities for the older ones are different than the youngest!
Easy. It takes your constant attention of your first child. They were 15 mos apart. She will be watching the new baby grow and help you. Just let her help you. 
No. They was 2 year difference and my son loved to help me with the baby. If I hadn’t got divorced we would of had another one even sooner. Was easy for me 
My children are 19 months apart and only a grade in school apart. They’re 7 & 8 years old now. I think the closer in age the better! 
Mine were only 13 months apart. Worked out great! Not that hard.
My 2 older girls are 14 months apart… it was easy for me. But I love babies and Children…
My girls are are about 3 1/2 years apart. They were always close growing up. Now they are 44 and 47 (48 next month) and are still very close. For us it was perfect.
I had six. All good people. I guess you’d have to ask them if they were deprived of anything, if so, I never knew.
5 under 6 here. They are just fine. Just include big sis as much as possible. Kids can feel left out especially if a new baby is coming. Make sure you make time for just her and mommy or her and daddy so she knows she’s still loved just as much
My daughters are 4 years apart and it was a hard transition but we are doing well now
I am one of 6 kids with a 5 year gap between me and my closest in age siblings. Would recommend a 2-3 year gap in age so they are close
My kids are 16 months apart. It wasn’t hard at all. They are now 25 and 24.
Its up to you and your husband. Some women like their kids close in age some like them spaced out. Best luck …
Mine are 2 years 1 day apart. They are still very close at 43 and 41.
Mine are 3 yrs ish apart… my last 2 are 7 yrs currently trying for her a playmate been trying 3 yrs.
Having 2 babies doesn’t allow the first one to finish being a baby and it puts alot on the mom
My daughter said it was but gets easier as time
Goes on
I have two daughters. When the second one came it was three times the work.
We had what I refer to as stair step kids - 96. 98, 99, 2000. It was awesome most of the time. I also homeschooled them so got no “break” aside from karate classes 3x a week. Now they’re 20-24 & either best friends or mortal enemies. 
Obviously twice as much work but we’ll worth it having them close is great
Mine are 18 months apart I didn’t find it difficult
It hardest for me to add my third child, but after that it’s like.myeah what’s one more lol but two isn’t to bad really
If you gonna do two, you should have them close together, and raise them to be each other’s best friend
It just depends on your child. My first is going to be 11 but I’m due on the 30th.
Not getting married? If you have to raise two by yourself, it will be very hard. Dont know if you work, how old you are, but a 2 and newborn are really hard if you work…
I had 4in a row, it was a lot of work but so worth it
May 96 and June 98 are my two wouldn’t change a thing!
You dont wanna wait till they get use to being the only child that’s when your problems begin
You don’t know until you try. All children are different as are parents.
3 to 4 years allows.baby 1 to grow out of infancy.
My first 3 are 7 yrs apart…4th is 17 months younger. My older girls required much more attention. Harder to get things with one under foot. Two play together and occupy each other, so I could get things done. They’re now 27, 20,13 and 12. The older two didnt get along, much jealousy. Now that they’re adults and have kids of their own they get along.
At least they entertain each other… I think.
Friends have told me it was harder switching from 2 to 1.
I had my 3 one in 56 and 57 and the last one in 58 I would not change it for anything and I was only20
One to two was easy…two to three was a nightmare!!!
I SAY HAVE THEM CLOSE IT HAR D BUT I THINK ITS EASY HAD FOUR CLOSE. IF I HARD IT TO DO OVER AGAING I WOULD DO IT THE SAMe way
I had 5 in four years then 4 year later I had another
14 months between first 2.11 months between second 2.easy to have 2 as 1.
Stop at 2!!! Three creates the devil’s triangle!
1 to 2 was easy but 2 to 3 was difficult
My daughter is 6 and I wish I wouldn’t have waited so long. However, one of my sisters is only 2 years older than me and the next is 4 years older than me, we all 3 grew up annoyed with each other constantly but as we got older we are closer. I also have my oldest sibling who is 15 years older than me and were just as close as the others so honestly i believe it’s truly how they are raised that makes the difference.
Mine oldest two are 17 months apart and I loved it
Get over it. My where a year and ten days apart. NMy sisters we eleven
My kids are 18 months apart.
All my children are 2 years apart
my were 11 month apart. love it
Mine are 22 months apart and it was perfect (2 girls)
I had 3 in 25 Months and we all survived
Not at all…go for it!!!
The more you Got The easier it is
1 to 2 good. 2 to 3 or 4 or 5… or …not good.
They day any less than 5 years apart there is fighting. My 2 girls are 5 1/2 yrs apart and are close. The older one protects her baby sister. They are almost 25 & 19 yrs old, no issues!
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I wouldn’t know the transitioning between 1 to 2 kids because God gave me twins. I’m pregnant with their sibling and it will be 15 months apart. Me personally, perfer my kids close in age. I know it will be hard but at the end it will be worth it
Four years of fertility help trying to get Pregnant with my first child, she was born and 3 days shy of being 11 months old her sister was born with no fertility help. They will be 29 and 30 years old, here soon. We went on to have two more daughters. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
We had what I refer to as stair step kids - 96. 98, 99, 2000. It was awesome most of the time. I also homeschooled them so got no “break” aside from karate classes 3x a week. Now they’re 20-24
I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was 10 months old. It was hard but not nearly as hard as I was expecting. My biggest concern was that my son would get tossed to the side and not get the attention that he definitely needed. Thankfully that didnt happen. Probably because I was so self aware and already afraid of that. I think you will be fine! Just be self aware and make sure to spend just as much time with your first baby.
My husband and I on the same page as you are, we wanted another kid but decided to wait till I finish school next year rin may, and the second we decided to wait and changed our minds, we had 4 positives test and have our first appt on the Sept 24th… but by the time this new baby comes our son who is 15months now will be almost 2 caus emt due date is may 10th and his bday is may 23rd
Sometimes. No matter the age difference, they fight. Sometimes it’s a crap shoot. Just have them. Love them.
My two
Are 5 years apart. Both are adopted and it took us that long to get a second child. Big Brother always adored her and loved to help out with her. She followed him everywhere and he never hit annoyed. They are inseparable til this day. We didn!t plan it that way but it worked out for college also. We are so blessed.
Mine are from oldest to youngest 1 year apart, 21 months apart, 8 years apart, and 19 months apart. It doesn’t matter at all the distance. Their personalities have been what has determined if they are close or not. The oldest two are not close to any of the rest or each other. The middle one and the fourth are very close as are the fourth and fifth who is also close to the middle. Those three are also the most easy going all in their own way while the older two are very, very strong willed and have harsher independent personalities. Once we had 3 I feel we could have ended up with a dozen and it wouldn’t have mattered. 3 was when it was difficult. Bigger car, bigger house, not enough hands to do it all. 1 and 2 were easy.
It’s not hard transitioning from one child to two. Or from two to three, or three to four. We have four kiddos. All grown. The hard transitions are the reverse ones. It is hard to switch back as the nest empties. Every wall in our home echoes with all the life of their childhoods! The laughter, screams, fights, questions, Love struck, heart breaks, ALL of it! A few years ago I let slip out that Dad and I were thinking of selling our kitchen table in front of our second child. Her face fell in sadness. “You can’t! So much happened at this table! Homework! Research projects! Jokes and insults and fights and making up to each other! Learning how to cook, manage money, time, relationships, we did it all here! I love this kitchen table! I love this home! I love my old bedroom! You and Dad made sure to “expand” this table (that doesn’t expand) to include anyone who comes into this home!” We ended up keeping that table, and are glad we did. Teach your kids by example. You are their first and most important teachers. They are watching, listening and taking in everything you do and say. Tell them you love them often as they grow. Tell them you love them at the end of every phone call. Hug them every chance you get. Hug them even when they are teens…“MOM! My friends are watching!”. Now Dad and I are no longer as young as we used to be (physically), but are happy to see our older kids are in stable, loving, long-term relationships, with good jobs. They are happy with their lives, and are well-adjusted adults. It has been amazing to watch those sweet babies grow and become the wonderful people they have become. Here’s hoping you experience life with your kids like we do with ours.
My first 3 are 2.5 years apart then had one more 9 years later. It doesn’t really matter. Whenever you’re ready
Think of college. Do you want to finance them so close together. At least 4 years apart unless you can afford it or your biological clock is ticking
For your health and of the wanted baby, I personally would wait til the pandemic is more in control.
mine are all 5 years apart. two is the adjustment. 3 is a piece of cake
More wore sure, but I found #3 to be the biggest change.