I’m just curious is it normal for teens to not want to hug or kiss parents good night? They also don’t like texting or calling,their dad who works out of town(he text them every night but usually no response) they say “why do we have to call or text when we are just saying the same thing every day” Is this normal? Was I treating them like little kids wanting to hug and kiss at bedtime?
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I was like that as a teenager so im assuming yes it’s normal😂
Defo normal , they are all for them self these days , my eldest is 13 and she does the same she won’t be hugged anymore unless on her say so she does have disabilities but yeah she doesn’t reply to her grandparents xx
Yeah it’s normal. Teenagers tend to be moody assholes.
My son is 16, still gives me a hug good night, but barely texts unless he needs something and never calls!!! Lol
It’s normal for teenagers to not want to show affection towards their parents, but I do it anyway. I would also make them call and talk to their Dad every night or it least text. If you and your husband are paying their phone bill they should have to reply back or answer the phone when ever you text or call. If my teenagers didn’t answer our calls or text they wouldn’t have a phone
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It’s definitely normal! 
self entitled fucking brats anymore, i swear!! take their phone away, WHO PAYS FOR IT??
#littlejerks
It’s embarrassing to them I would assume. The texting part surprises me though cause teenagers these days are glued to their phones. Lol.
Yes it’s normal… but hug away… they’ll do when they have children…
Pretty normal I always told my mom goodnight and hugged her but that’s just how we were raised having a single mom taking care of us.
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Yes, lol, it’s practically the defining feature of adolescence to not want to talk to or show affection to parents.
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My daughter is 12 she will hug me goodnight but no kiss. My son is 6 and I still get unlimited hugs and kisses
If you like it, teens don’t. That’s normal. This is why no one likes them. lol
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Its normal but im lucky cuz my 14 almost 15 year old still hugs and kisses me 
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It’s normal I still don’t hug or kiss my parents I don’t even say I love you to them. I do love them I just rarely say it. Also I’m 18 so ya
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It all depends on their moods… Sometimes they do sometimes they don’t.
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My 6 year old already wants me to hug and kiss him when his friends are around
Yea definitely normal.
I always gave my parents a hug and a kiss before bed or when my dad would leave to go hunting. Some teenagers don’t like to.
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Yeah. Its pretty normal
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Definitely normal lol. When i was a teen, i never wanted to talk to or hug or kiss my parents. Now im an adult and I stay up my moms butt
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Totally normal but I would tell them the least they can do is text back 
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I couldnt have been normal then I’m 22 with 2 kids of my own and still kiss my mum and dad goodnight when I stay at theirs 
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Yes they try to get out of it but don’t let them. As for their father and not answering him, that is just disrespectful. They have no problem spending the money he’s earning. Do not allow them to not answer, it takes seconds and shows their appreciation. If they don’t then they probably don’t need their phones.
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I think its normal for most teens. Thankfully my 16 year old still likes hugs but no kisses lol
I don’t see why they can’t reply to a message. They can’t text their friends back. They can text their boyfriend girlfriend crush whatever and say goodnight then they can do the same with their dad. But a phone call every night is a little much. I could see if he is gone longer than a week then a phone call a week. As for hugs and kisses goodnight no that ended for me at like 12/13. Kisses probably younger than that.
I have two grandson’s who are 18 and 21 and still hug and kiss me, even in front of their friends.
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God forbid you ever have real problems with teens
I think once I turned 16 I usually just gave my dad a good night I love you and headed off to my room, I’d go in and give him a hug or a kiss on the cheek every once in a while. it might just not be their love language.
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How is this funny . Parents get sad too wen there baby’s ain’t baby’s nomore and it’s sad that one day they will grow up and leave you .
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The not kissing is normal but the non response is a lack of respect in my opinion.
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It is common (i wouldn’t say normal) that as a teen you pull away and don’t understand what time there is left with your parents. If they can’t be respectful and give a few minutes of their day to their father…who supports them, keeps a roof over their head and pays that phone bill, then take the phone away. They can say i love you, be safe, etc. They talk about the same meaningless drama with their friends everyday, they can show the same respect to their father as well.
As for the hugs/kissing, I did that as a teenager too. I wouldn’t push it. Their body, their choice. It hurts, as a mother now i understand that, but we have to respect them as well. One day the child will regret it. They will look back at the missed opportunities they had and wish they could go back. It still sucks. Maybe make a point to say " I miss our hugs", but don’t force them.
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The no kissing is normal. But as far as the ignoring their dads text that is plain disrespectful and if they were my kids they wouldn’t have their phones. If you can’t use the phone I pay for to answer my text then you don’t need to have it . Plain and simple
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It’s normal for them to fight common decency and normal for you to drill it until exhaustion that they must be decent. I’m sorry.
I didnt want to. Lol. But I always hug and kiss them goodbye now that I am an adult
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Probably normal. Im older and was always affectionate with my mom, but that was a different time, before Facebook or cell phones. But my nephews that are in their teens: no. Not interested in that sort of thing. Even at holidays I have to tell them to stop being cool and give me a hug. Doubtful they hug their moms before bed. They’re too cool for that, ya know? Lol But I know they still love their moms. They talk about her when they visit me, and work out surprises for her. It is just a different world we live in now.
Yes it’s normal. They’ll grow out of it.
Completely normal to not hug and kiss before bed. Not normal to not reply to a text. I text my kids every morning that they’re at their dad’s and they always reply. For context they’re 17 and 12.
They’re teenagers lol They’ll want you guys back when they hit their mid-late twenties 
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Hugs and kisses yes very normal for teens especially boys. Not at least responding to Dads text is just disrespectful and to me would warrant a loss of phone. I’m not saying they have to have a long call/text conversation but answer call or text “yeah good day, how was yours ok goodnight”. He is working to support them and pay for those phones.
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Yes but telling them you Love them brings them joy!
I Wish My Parents Were Around To Hug and Kiss …
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Respect other people’s boundaries… yes, even your children.
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I can see teens not wanting hugs and kisses anymore 
Well I have 4 kids and I always worry about them it tends to be normal for them to not want to show affection no matter what every morning and every night I tell them I love them! They always say it back and the not texting back it drives me crazy but I know it’s not cause they don’t respect me not trying to excuse it but they are teenagers and they tend to forget they feel if they are okay that we should know that it’s like thier other sence that we should know. They do show you love in thier own ways.
I always have my dad hugs and a kiss on the cheek well into my teens. The texting thing though I get. I hate having to send the same thing everyday.
It depends I guess, I’m super lovey dovey with my dad more than to my mom I hugged and kissed them both good night when I used to live at home I’m married now and I live 700 miles away and my dad and I call each other every other day and my siblings f26 & m36 who still live with my parents don’t kiss or hug them they don’t even see each other while living in the same house!!!
Because it not just saying things just to say them, its saying things because you mean them and if something were to happen you want them to know you love them. Apparently your kids aren’t understanding the meaning. You should help them understand.
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Sounds like a normal teen to me.
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While every teen is different, and some don’t mind. Some do.
To them it feels childish…eventually they’ll outgrow it but for now just leave it be.
As far as texting goes just let them know how much it means to their dad. Teens tend to have tunnel vision when it comes to things…but they’re not completely without empathy.
It’s not unusual. They’re at the oh uggh my parents, age.
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Yes. They’re teenagers. Buckle up.
Not wanted hugs n kisses is normal. They will come around on that but not responding back to a parents text or phone call should get a punishment. That’s totally disrespectful.
Depends on the kids. They should never be forced to hug and kiss anyone. Even parents! And as for texting… they are probably bored with having the same conversation. It is normal but not okay for them to ignore a parent! They don’t ignore you at home do they!?
Yes it’s normal, my son was like 9-10 when I stopped getting hugs at bedtime. Don’t take it personally. It’s just natural process of growing up.
Very normal they are growing up!
I think teenagers its completely normal for no hugs and kisses at bed time. But as for texting or talking to dad when he is out of town, isnt! Maybe tell dad to change up the conversations, like tell them a story of when he was younger that has to do with whatever they are going through at the time. Like try and relate to them or bring interest into the conversations. Now if they just genuinely do not want anything to do with their dad, there may be something else going on. (Not saying this is the situation, just from past experiences, when i didnt want to anything to do with a certain someone, there was a big reason why and i was to young to speak up and too afraid)
That’s normal for teenagers to do. It sucks, and they’ll realize when they’re older that they should’ve. But completely normal
Yes if they want to they will forcing them to can cause repercussions and give them bad ideas
Wow.
You even have to ask lol
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They sound like normal teens to me they will eventually out grow it
Because teenagers suck
Teens don’t want that. It’s very age appropriate to me .
It’s normal for teens to do that. Don’t take it personally. They’ll grow out of it in time.
Give them space. The more you make a big deal out of something the more your going to get push back. They may be looking for a more in depth relationship. Hugs and kisses and a “I love you” text may not be enough for them.
They’re no longer little
The hugs and kisses, pretty normal. Mine are 15 and 16 and act like that, so I don’t do it often but I find that when I do it anyway, they lean into it and appreciate it. Sometimes you forget how nice it feels to be hugged 
Occasionally, just say “I know you don’t want one, but I could really use a hug right now.” It’s good for you both…
As with the hugging, kids don’t always know what they need or what will be important to them. I would tell them that they need to send back at least 1 emoji as a reply when Dad messages. It’s hard on a relationship to be separated so much and it’s a good way to keep some kind of communication going. Dad should ask a different question each time. What did you do today? What did you have for lunch? Etc… My policy with my teens is this - I pay the bill, so I darn sure better get a response back when I text or you’d better answer the phone if I call. We spend the money on these phones and service to ensure that we can get in touch with them when we need to. Their access to Snapchat and Tik Tok are bonuses.
My comment to my sons is “you’re never too old to hug your mom…and it’s gotta be a two-armed hug!”
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Teenage boys and girls think it’s uncool. The comment” why text or ring it’s the same thing every day” when they ask for something lunch money use the same words back at them let see that the same word are boring from them to you .
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Mine just started not doing the hug kiss and bedtime. Its ruff, but I remember I stopped when I was a preteen. Just said “ok, night mom, love you” and that was it.
Now my oldest does that…hes 13 in February…
As for not calling dad…guess it depends on the home. Maybe call as a family each evening after dinner. Even if all they say is “hey dad”…and that’s all…and u get to say hi to him as well.
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They are not little kids anymore it’s very normal for a teen to not want to have hugs or kisses. They are just becoming young adult
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Yes, its a kiss of death to go near my 13 year old now… just a stage.
I grew up in a very non affecte house. No hugs no kisses from a very young age. So even as a teenager if I could get one I would. I am very affectionate with my kids. I have two teenagers and will always give me a hug and kiss but I ask first.
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I always kissed my parents good night and also when I was going out. I did the same for my children and they do the same and we always say love you whether we are talking on the phone or texting.
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Nrml asf…pmtfo……my son stopd kissing me ‘Goodnight’ wen he wz 9yo, sayn “Mum…im too old for tht”…
…wtf…lol & evn nw at 25 & onli seeing me once a yr, he lives n Aus, i n Nz, he stil wont gve me a kiss…
…bt he LOVES me…he tels me EVRIDAY…and thtz all tht Matters…MSU son…
Don’t worry, Mom. They will come back to you💓
Depends on the teen. My 18 year old daughter hugs me all the time and holds my hand in public. My 19 year old son gives me like an awkward bro-hug on rare occasions. Different personalities. I just hug my daughter and give my son a fist bump. He seems to accept maternal fist-bumps as a comfortable display of affection.
Definitely normal lol.
I’d say it’s normal. My parents worked 2nd shift since I was probably 13-14 I never seen them so therefore never did that. I do hug and kiss my parents goodbye when I leave after a visit. Now with the phone call thing they could at least text their dad let him know they’re thinking of him. It’s hard to be away from your kids as it is.
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I still kiss my 13 year old son goodnight 
Parents are “uncool”. That’s why they prefer peer companionship. Adolescent behavior. Already learned this. When they hit adolescent age, the whole peers thing takes over and we parents become the back burner. We are annoying and uncool.
We quit kissing our parents when we were 10-11ish. We still hugged after that though. My dad would kiss our foreheads after that. I think it’s normal for them to grow out of wanting to kiss you. And some people don’t like hugs. I only hug my immediate family. I hate hugging other people or strangers. As far as them not texting him back, that is a bit odd.
Yes it’s normal but get your hugs and kisses girl. Tackle them, pin them down and kiss them until you can’t kiss anymore. Because you’re mom and you can. Also, they better text their dad back or they get no phone to text on at all. There. Ha.
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it all depends on whether you have a relationship or not. If the relationship is not growing into a adult to adult one, then they are needing to push away to establish one. It’s the age of growing in separateness. Hopefully you will respect their “no” so they can freely say “yes”
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It’s pretty normal for teens, but since dad works out of town I would say that it’s hard for him to be away from them and he misses them so sending a message back with kill them but it’ll mean the world to him!
One of my boys doesn’t like it anymore. My other 5 always hug & kiss me & tell me they love me
I think that is quite normal. But my 18 yr old son hugs me frequently still. But i think im just "lucky"
Normal. Mine are grown now and we always hug n kids when saying good bye. They try to avoid the kiss tho. Lol
Absolutely normal. I’m 20 so that wasn’t long ago for me lol I remember clear as day HATING affection from my mom. It was just a phase for me. From about age 10 to 13. Then I actually wanted to cuddle my mom and give her kisses on the head and hug her all the time and sleep in her bed lmao. Teenagers are weird
My kids kiss and hug me good night and thorough the day. They sometimes even sneak their phones into the bathroom at school to text me I love you. They’re 12 and 14 years old. I dont see this pattern changing anytime soon. I think it depends on home life and how the kids interact with their parents as younger children.
yea perfectly normal.
My 15 year old daughter still kisses and hugs me. It all depends on the child and what they are comfortable with.
Didn’t you know that teens don’t have parents? They were hatched! Yes, totally normal. I have a pre-teen and she is starting to become this way.
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Definitely a phase thing. Or that’s not their love language. We’re all different.
Respect their boundaries. If they don’t want a hug and kiss, don’t try to force them. Teens are preoccupied with navigating high school, friends, education, whatever is going on in their friend group…
I don’t know what is normal these days, I’m one that likes to show my love to others, but I guess not all feel the same, breaks my heart
I think it’s ok not to hug and kiss goodnight but should reply to their Father goodnight
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Yep . I warned my son it was coming. He’s hurt by it . But its totally normal. They just think they’re to old for that. It’s hard to let go of your baby . It gets better .
My boys are 15 and 17, they always hug me, and they have a personal hand jive ’ thingy ’ they do with their dad every night.
Yes so normal makes me sad but it is.
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