I had my tubes tied after I had my 5th, and yes, I felt really conflicted and sad about it for a long while afterwards. When he turned 4 we became foster parents, and that turned out to be a perfect fit for us!
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Technically certain things won’t be the last time because if you’re kiddos grow up & have kids ,then you’ll get you’re baby snuggles in all the time.
It’s Perfectly Normal I had my tubal ligation 12 years ago and every once in a while still think to myself I want another baby
I had my tubes tied when I was 30, and had my last bub #5.
I didn’t regret it to begin with. But now, it plays on my mind alot since my bubs is 5.
Absolutely. I have four kids. Oldest 11. Youngest 14 months. All girls. My fiancé was/is hell bent that we are DONE. My youngest ended up being my only c section and I had my tubes removed. I am still to this day regretting that decision. I’ll be 31 in October. He’s almost 44. So IF we were to ever try again. We’d have to go through ivf
I had mine done Thursday and I did that morning and after
I had a breakdown on the delivery table (in February) cause I was positive I wanted a tubal done and in case I had to have a section the would do it. As soon as my Dr broke my water she didn’t feel my son so she was scared he flipped and she was going to have to do a section. Had to do a Sono to make sure he was still head down and all. Once that happened I was like I don’t want a section that is was positive of and then just the thought of not having any more kids scared me. Mind you he’s my 4th and LAST baby. But still just all the emotions at once hit me so dang hard.
Most women do have a sense of regret when they realize that they won’t have any more babies. It’s very natural even though common sense tells us differently. I had my last one at 40, tubes tied too, I still had those baby feelings on and off; even though I knew logically I was too old, and I had my hands full with raising and caring for my child. Hormones?
I have a good friend who has regretted it since 
she had it done when she was 24! She had a hard time getting the doctor to agree. I do think it’s a normal response though… I’m 32 and about to have our 4th and final. I’m 2000% at peace with him being our last (husband is having a vasectomy soon), but it’s still hard to accept this part of my life will be over…
I had my second baby a month before I turned 21. I had had a baby just 16 months before that. One was a pill baby. One was an IUD baby. My marriage was in the toilet. I knew if I had any more kids I would be trapped with that man forever. I would be doing good to survive raising two on my own. So I made the decision to have my tubes tied. Back then, your husband had to give permission. He hadn’t wanted any kids in the first place so he agreed right away. When delivered my daughter, they let me rest overnight, then tied my tubes and then removed them the next morning. I was kind of relieved. I knew life was going to be tough. I didn’t want to drag any more kids than I had to through that.
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I did the same thing. I make healthy babies but I’m terrible at being pregnant. 11 years between my two boys and I got my tubes tied during my c section two years ago. I immediately found myself heartbroken to realize I was not going to have more children even though I don’t want any more. It feels like a choice has been taken from you after the procedure is complete. I thought I was crazy, but did the same thing, broke down in tears. Your not alone 
IN these times 2 is plenty … I HAD 4 YEARS AGO , now middleagd an no contct so no dramas , Not that i have any regrets its just hard on ones own husband passed 26 years ago … ALL GOOD DOING THE BEST I CAN …
Trust me u will be glad u stopped at 2 my to are EXPENSIVE
Yes. It’s normal. It’s a part of your life that is over. I don’t want any more but ugh never seeing a test pop up with two lines again and feeling that excitement and then having a little tiny baby is rough .
Yes and I had it done back in 2004. I broke Down years later… like wtf did I do .
no, I ended up a single mother & it was very difficulty raising & caring for the 2 I had, I couldn’t imagine, having another one. Plus I was & still am very grateful I had 2 very healthy beautiful kids. I tried getting a tubal when I left my husband, but no GYN would do it, Finally when I hit 30, I found one that would do it, Best decision I ever made, Be grateful for what you already have & think of it that way
I only have one, and for health reasons can’t have anymore. It breaks my heart because I was an only child, and ALWAYS wanted at least 2! My son is my pride and joy, but the older he gets the more it really bothers me that I can’t have anymore
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I would love to have one more baby…but my body just says “No”…I haven’t had any tubes tide my last baby is now 3…but I have been blessed with 5 beautiful children…not the same but kinda on this post.
Yep normal. I’d have random feelings of disappointment but it would pass. My youngest just turned 4 and I’m excited now for the future milestones! I have 4 sons
Yes. I decided 5 kids of my own and a bonus was more than enough kids to raise. So I had my tubal right after my last baby was born almost 2 years ago. My kids are 18, 17, 14, 3 and 1 plus bonus 15. I’m beyond happy with my decision, but I am not gonna lie and say the part of me gets sad knowing I’m doing all my “lasts” this time around…
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Normal to feel that, sense of loss
it is normal to feel that way - just think though the way prices are now adays re-raising kids isn’t cheap -i would say doing right thing and just looking at your youngest right is gonna take time to get over but u did right thing
Totally normal- I have 3 (14,6,4) and I am set in my decision that we are done. My youngest will be 4 tomorrow and I still get sad 
the newborn stage is so special 
no wonder youngest are always so spoiled lol
It’s very normal. I didn’t have the procedure but was told by specialists I was lucky to have the child I have.
I had my tubes tied in Sep 2014 after I had my third baby. I was 25 at the time and I was 100% sure at the time that I did not want anymore children. I regret it completely I would have loved one more. I heard someone say after the fact to not get your tubes tied because you truly do not know what you will want in the future just because you are 100% sure at that time doesn’t mean you won’t end up changing your mind in the furture. I wish someone had told me that before.
I did this and look at my 8 year old and wonder if I did anything wrong. But emotionally I know I couldnt handle any more than 3 kids. Especially where I have mental health issues and enough to deal with on my own, aside from family.
I children are 8 and 10, I’ve been telling myself since my son was born that I was done having kids, but still have many days where I’m extremely sad about knowing I won’t be having anymore, just had one of those days last week. I don’t think it’ll ever truly go away.
See now in the uk, unless there’s any medical reasons, you would not have been able to do this. You’d be deemed as too young as you are still of childbearing age and healthy. There are other forms of birth control you and he could’ve used.