So i am a a 32 year old mom of 2 wonderful little ones my oldest is 3.5yrs and my youngest is 3 months old. I decided i am good and dont want any more children . I have been very confident in that decision and went in yeserday and I had my tubal ligation done. Well last night I looked at my son and while feeding him I broke comepletely down as I realized this would be the last time I would be doing this. I am still confident that I will not want more children , I’m just wondering if anyone else has had this kind of experience? A total breakdown once the procedure is done?
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is it normal to get upset once you realize you will not have anymore children?
This is a normal response. I waited til my daughter went to kindergarten. Then cried. Those little people are amazing. U got this.
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Totally normal. Sorry about the baby blues momma. Praying for you.
I had my tubal after my youngest was born almost three years ago. I know I don’t want another baby but sometimes I miss him being little. So yes, it’s normal to have that feeling
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I’m on the waitlist for my procedure, I’m 26 this year and my kids are aged 4, 1 and 4 months old… I do hold my youngest extra tight and cry sometimes because it is my last tiny, my last late night, my last vomit pile like it does hit home just a little 
I would say normal…
I was told I couldn’t have kids… and then had a very hard pregnancy, with an emergency C-section for my rainbow baby 
We’re very blessed with our baby girl & have decided it’s not worth it try for another. And we’re happy with our family of 3 
However, I still have moments where I mourn the loss of what could have been…
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Absolutely. All feelings are valid. I plan to get a tubal ligation even though I have no children and I fully expect to feel a similar sense of loss for what could have been. These kinds of feelings don’t mean you’re making the wrong choice. 
Awww. This is completely normal. I still feel that way sometimes too. Same situation. Cheer up❤️
It happened to me but I later realized it was for the best
100% normal…my mom wasnt feeling well when she had to get her tubes tied after she had my baby brother for health reasons amd she told me he depressed she was and how much she’d cry Don’t ever think anything else .it’s completely normal💞
It’s normal. But keep in mind you still have a uterus. So if you do decide you want another child, you can do IVF. So you still have options.
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I would assume it is. I am 43 and have only one. I wanted more but knew my situation was already hard and I wasn’t willing to have another kid in the chaos. I have been contend with it but here and there haven moments when I cry. (But know I don’t want more)
I got mine done several years ago. I’m 32 now and mine are 10 and almost 12. I still get a little emotional thinking this is the last time I’ll do this or that, but I’m still glad I got it done. I know I don’t want more babies.
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I have 4. 20,20,13 and 7. I had a ligation after my last one. I still get a little sad that we can’t have any more.
Girl yes I did the same… I got my tubes done in 2020 after my Lil girl was born and then my sister had her baby girl and I cried because I new I’d never have one little again. It’s hard but I don’t think my health could handle another pregnancy so on the end just spend all the time you can with your little ones while you can.
Keep in mind you’ve got 2 children that will one day bless you with grandbabies
It’s normal. My youngest daughter is a year and a half. Including my bonus kids we have 6. We decided we are completely done having kids. As my daughter reaches different milestones I get a little emotional. I don’t want anymore kids but I still feel sad about it
I had to have a hysterectomy at 23 my only child was 2. Took me a long time to deal with it.
I was very happy to get mine, no regrets, but I had 3 kids and my marriage was over.
Absolutely normal to grieve closing a precious chapter. You just have to remember their are many more chapters to look forward to!
Had my 4th baby 5 months ago. I made the decision to remove my tubes. Probably the worse mistake I made. I’ve been mourning and it’s been extremely hard on me knowing I won’t have anymore. I’m really emotional too over everything with this baby
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Sweetie, it is a major life decision and change. It is not uncommon that there is a sense of grief over the loss or change in stage of your life.
For most people, the change in their potential to have children is a pretty major thing with a lot of thoughts, feelings and emotions attached to it.
And, like any other major loss, it needs to be grieved to get past, even if it is a desired loss.
Everything will be okay.
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Uh while they were rolling me into have mine done. I cried and told them I didn’t want to them they said it’s to late you already did al the paperwork and you’ll get over it. It had only need six hours since I had my last baby at 25 yrs old. But I’m glad I did it. While other moms are having babies mine are grown and now I’m living my life after giving all I could to my children and grandchildren
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You are not alone. We all have problems after we do some things.
I had 3 kids in 5 years and a tubal on the table with the last one. No regrets ever.
It’s normal to mourn the what ifs
Yes, all the time. Now I just enjoy other people’s babies a little more 
Yep cried like a baby called my friend super upset who listened and said it’s ok this is the hormones talking you will be ok this is what you wanted and she was right.
I’m a mother of four beautiful daughters and got my tubes tied 9 months ago after having my last baby I look at her and think dang ur really my last baby and get upset but I know I’m done I’m 32 years old my oldest is 14
I don’t have personal experience with this . But you always have the options to foster , or babysit little ones … in case you miss having a little one around , but don’t want anymore of
Your own!!
Pregnancy has still happened also after a woman or man get fixed to not have children anymore ….
I did the same thing. I waited until my youngest was 7 and had mine tied at 40. I keep looking at my boyfriend and wish I could have one more. But I’m scared because twins run in my family and I don’t want another set.
After my last son, I knew in my head I’d never have another baby. But when my HEART figured it out it was like a mourning.
Yes I did the same 6yrs later I’m glad I did though , this world is rough now days !
I had my tubes tied after my 3rd baby/4th pregnancy 7 years ago. I still have some days of dread despite very much not wanting another. It’s hard
The reason why I canceled my tubal appointment. I was sure I didn’t want anymore til I had my youngest and cried even before going in for my surgery.
I can understand the sadness but enjoy the freedom of not having to worry anymore.
I have one child and I want to have my tubes tied or a full hysterectomy but my doctor won’t book the surgery because I might change my mind.
I definitely won’t. I hated every minute of being pregnant and absolutely will not do it again.
I absolutely love being a mother though and my son is absolutely enough for me
I’m 33. My youngest son is 4. I got my tubes removed after he was born because I cannot hold babies to term. I did not want to jeopardize another child or myself. I get upset almost daily because I want another baby, but I know I can’t have anymore.
I had 6 kids. I still regretted getting my tunes tide. It caused me to eventually having to get a hysterectomy.
Yes, this is how I felt after my tubal, then again years later when I had my hysterectomy.
You can always adopt a baby if you ever decide on another child
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Nope. I nearly died during childbirth. I was 100% done as soon as I was done with labor.
Just think though, you can always babysit others and maybe have grandbabies when the boys are older:heart: and you can them give your baby’s babies love
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I have 3 6, 2.5 and 7 months. I did mourn the end of my birthing babies journey but excited to grow and experience new journeys with my babies. I’m content in my decision but I do get sad but I don’t regret it.
I did. I think it’s normal. I’m still glad I had it done, though… now that my two youngest are 13 and 15…. (Mom of 3 here)
After I got my tubes tied many years ago, I felt like I was no longer a woman. Even though my husband and I did not want any more children.
Girl you are all good. I had a total hysterectomy after my daughter was born and I am way past child bearing age but still sometimes wish I could have another baby.
My husband did and had a vasectomy after we had our son he had 4 kids before me a d after some time he felt that his decision wasnt fair to me as I only had one so he had it reverse and now we have 4 we just had our 4th yesterday. It can be reversed if you want more it does cost a pretty penny but we are so happy
I was still celebrating a week later, but I was on #4 when I had mine done!
I think that is a totally normal reaction-it is the end of a chapter:heart:
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You can always go to your local NICU and volunteer to hold pre-mees.
I had three kids and til this day I still wish I could’ve had more but I have a grandbaby on the way so I’m very happy about that
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I need a hysterectomy for medical reasons and I’m done having kids but I’m still not 100% sure I want to get it although it will fix me it’s just so final and something I can’t get back I’m only 33. So I feel yah
I need a hysterectomy for medical reasons and I’m done having kids but I’m still not 100% sure I want to get it although it will fix me it’s just so final and something I can’t get back I’m only 33. So I feel yah
I felt the same way when I had mine done 36 years ago.
Because I met a wonderful man who is now my husband. He has never had children.
yes. whats helped me is even tho ur having your lasts with ur youngest, theres still firsts to have with your oldest…like first tooth lost ect.
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It’s just the thought of it being sooooo FINAL that bothers most I think. Not for me, I was happy to have my tubes removed. Health wise/age wise, it was the best decision I could do for myself, and I absolutely knew that I was done having children.
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I had my tubes removed 1 month ago, when my son was born. He’s my 3rd & last. I had a weird moment laying in bed a few nights ago, seeing myself giving birth to my children, one by one, it was so weird. I just cried & cried for a good hour. My oldest is 3 1/2, 1, & 1 month old. I felt so sad my journey being pregnant & giving birth was gone. Even though I hated every single part about being pregnant & giving birth.
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Happened to me too. Well I should say I had one terrible ugly cry shortly after and every now and then get all lost in my feelings about it. But I know I made the right decision for me and my family. My body can’t handle another pregnancy and honestly my sanity can’t handle another child. One day when my three are a little older I’d like to open my home to fostering.
Yes and i still think about it sometimes. I had 4. 2 boys and 2 girls boy girl boy girl and my baby turned 8 on 2/22/2022. Then I hear them fighting and I snap out of it. 
thankfully my brother is having his first child and he already knows how much I’m going to have her
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I went thru same thing after my second. But happiest decision i made after all is aid n done
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Yes ma’am I turned 34 this year I’ve had a breakdown a few times but I knew it was for the best 3 was enough with my age. (4yr boy on Fri. 2yr old boy September and 1yr girl September)
Eh you could have tubal implants. Plus I got pregnant after having my tubes done. Along with alot of others.
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I had that same feeling after my tubal at 24. I had 2 sons and had longed for a daughter too, but realized that 2 were all I could manage. I was at peace with my decision, but still cried holding my youngest son and knowing he was the last baby I’d ever have to call my own and cuddle as much as I wanted. It was grieving a loss, but didn’t take long to process. You’ll move through it.
I didn’t do the procedure but I have pcos so it seems I won’t be able to my son is 15yrs and tried as I may I have not cocncieved since so I know how you feel
The day I had my tubes removed I bawled when I woke up. Your not alone. I so do not want any more babies but none the less I was still sad
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I am 47. Just had a hysterectomy on this past Thursday. I am beyond the baby days and have been for some time but you still get a bit sad. You learn to enjoy the other milestones our kids give us.
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I’m 33, have 2 boys oldest 11 years baby will be 6 months on the 9th. I had my tubes removed in February for multiple reasons, health issues being a few. I haven’t had a breakdown but I do catch myself getting emotional knowing that this is the last time I will have a baby and experience everything.
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Yes, I have had 3 pregnancy all came with problems my last almost killing me so we decided I would have no more kids and have my tubes tied during my csection, and my baby girl is 9 months and it still hard I’m very sure I don’t want anymore kids but the thought of never smelling that baby smell again or have a infant it’s tough some days I’m just soaking up all the love I get from my little lady!
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Totally normal. I’ve always wanted two. When we found out I was pregnant with our second, my husband and I agreed that he would get a vasectomy after our son was born. He got one shortly after. About a year after I regretted it so much. I still feel like we are “done” but am so sad about never being pregnant again, never getting that newborn time, no more firsts. All of that. Sad, but normal. 
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I felt the same way after I had mine done. I’d say that it’s totally normal. I also had mine done at 32.
I think in some ways, having children is part of who we are as women. Whatever the reason, whether it’s a tubal ligation, hysterectomy for medical reasons or menopause, I think there us a sense of loss. I thought I was pregnant three years after my third child. I had never been so late. We really couldn’t afford it, thought others would think we were crazy…and then I got my period…and cried. I was so sad that I wasn’t pregnant once I knew I wasn’t. I think it is just part of who we are, as I said.
I am 57. My youngest will be 32 in August. A couple of days ago I saw a pregnant woman and I cried because I will never be pregnant again. Yes it is normal.
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I am 34, my youngest will be 4 in July. We were 100% done after her. I still get a little emotional knowing I can never have any more if we changed our mind.
3 years later and I kinda regret my tubal. I will be 32 this year and I have 3 kiddos 2 boys 13&7 and my girl will be 3 this august. I know I don’t want to start all over at the newborn age though and that helps lol
I’m 41 and just had a complete hysterectomy 3 weeks ago. I’m struggling with it even though I know I’m done. I talked to my therapist about it and she said it’s completely normal. It’s not like I was 65 and couldn’t have anymore I’m still in child bearing years. As humans we typically want to procreate and have children. I’m still a little sad I didn’t get my baby girl but my boys are my life and I just pray someday when they make me a grandma I’ll have a granddaughter to spoil (if I have a grandson I will spoil them just the same lol. I won’t treat them different). It is hard.
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It happens. It’s one thing to think about doing something and another to have actually done it. I had a tubal almost 9 years ago, after my daughter. Seeing friends and family with babies makes me regret it every single time. But then I remind myself of why I chose to have it done.
Completely normal. No matter how many you have you grieve the phase of your life
I did too…but also i found im much more over protective of my youngest as she’s my last baby
i am 30 and had my ligation done a few months ago, and i WOULDNT change it for the world
i look at my son and thank god i was finally granted my surgery hahahaha. i love him dearly - but no more for me
i dont think ill have those feelings ever - but reading these comments i don’t think you are alone at all gf. everything will be alrifht
I’m 2 weeks shy of 37. I had to have a hysterectomy at 24 I only had one child a daughter. It’s difficult because I did want more children yes you think about it but after time it does seem to get a little easier. Occasionally when I see a baby I still get teary eyed. My daughter is 16 now.
Yes ! But then I realize I’m only upset because I don’t have the option anymore, not because I actually might want more; also, I then think of grandkids and how I can spoil them and then give them back 
Yes! I had mine back to back, and had my tubal 3 years ago. And sometimes I still get sad. But I made the decision for a reason, I just have to remember that.
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I had my tubes tied 16 years ago. For me the answer is yes. I knew I didn’t want anymore children God blessed me with three. Knowing you don’t want anymore and knowing you CANT are two very different things.
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Felt that way until until my infant turned toddler. Definitely knew then I made the right decision
Completely normal. We decided after our second that my husband would have a vasectomy. While I’m extremely happy it was done, I definitely have moments when I get sad thinking that I’ll never experience pregnancy or having a newborn again. But then I think about all the stuff I don’t want to experience again (babies screaming in the carseat because they don’t like it, nursing all the time & especially all through the night, and just all my not favorite things about babies and toddlers). Yes, I always miss the thought of being pregnant and having another. But I truly know I don’t want to actually do it all all over again.
I think that’s a normal reaction, I broke down after having my tubal after my 4th child. Like there was no way I wanted anymore so I don’t know what the break down was for.
I had my tubes tied 47 yrs ago and I haven’t regretted It one second.I was 31 at the time
Completely normal. It will pass
Yes completely normal
Yes. That feeling is completely normal I was like that with my last child too soak it in mamma soak it in
Yes normal reaction.
Yes! Had my one and only at 20 and could not have anymore!
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That’s what I want after this baby is born… I got pregnant almost right away… My baby is 8 months but born 7 wks early… I’ve had 2 stillborns and 1 miscarriage and I have 3 kids (w one on the way) but I want to go on birth control when I’m done jus in case I change my mind… I jus turned 30 
I did and sometimes I still do.
Everyone is different. I was relieved when I had my last. Don’t get me wrong. I still love babies. I just like my sleep better
Yes, it hit hard after my last had her 1 year birthday… and again when she started school.
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I haven’t had this done but I feel like this would be a normal response.
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