Am I normal or weird to be grieving about baby gender? This is our fourth and last baby. We had girl boy and girl before. We just found out the gender of the last is a girl. I know I should be happy but I’m here sad that I won’t be having another boy.
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I think so.
My twin wanted a girl so bad. She wanted to be the one in the family to bring a girl into the world but she had a boy. And I think she still grieves cause it was her only pregnancy. But, i think it is normal to grieve for the gender. 
congratulations mama.
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I was a little like that I had a boy then a girl and really wanted my last to be a boy but I had a girl and now I’m so happy I had to girls and a boy life wouldn’t be the same without my little girl I’m sure when you hold her you will be so in love it won’t matter 
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I had 4 girls. My hubby was thrilled, but I so wanted a boy. Got my boys in the form of grands. Don’t fret you will get another boy in 20 some years
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Some women can’t have children . Be happy with what you have.
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God has a reason for giving you more girls. Accept the blessings.
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Perfectly normal. You’ll work through it. We all have things we expect out of life and it’s okay do be disappointed when they don’t happen.
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I definitely had some gender disappointment when our 3rd and final was another boy. I wanted a girl so bad, and then it didn’t help when both my and hubbys brothers had 2 girls each. But I wouldn’t change my little boys for anything, and I love to spoil all my nieces
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Sex not gender but yes it is normal.
Yes. I only had 2 children. They told me my youngest was a girl then he was born and nope was a boy. I grieved so much. I wanted a boy and a girl and I got 2 boys.
Girl feeling same I’m around 5 months n was it’s mother girl I’ve never cried so much before
This is one of those things that should not be taboo and the more women are vocal about it you will be surprised that it is very common to happen and occur. I remember my mom being so sad and crying cause her last 3rd child was a girl (we were all girls), and then she went to church that Sunday and witnessed a mom who was carrying for a special needs adult child and heard her talk about so much joy that child brought her… and she immediately started crying about how petty she had felt given she had a health baby she was carrying that there are more significant things to be upset over.
Gender disappointment is a common thing that just isn’t discussed all to often.
Hormones raging doesn’t help the situation with women and how they are currently feeling.
Don’t be afraid to discuss with a healthcare provider/seek a counselor to help you “grieve” and process. The sooner you seek help the more adapt you will feel when your baby has arrived.
Also, don’t be afraid that once birth has occurred for feelings to resurface for a period especially if you are at risk for postpartum depression.
(I graduate in Nov as a RN and ultimate goal is to become a midwife). I love helping women and babies thrive.
Goodluck on your journey into delivery.
I didn’t have that, 3 boys and 2 girls, but I don’t think it’s wrong or abnormal to feel that way.
I can’t have any more, but I still would be just as excited either way.
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Just be happy if your baby is healthy
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Just be thankful for healthy children. I have always wanted a girl but have 2 boys which I wouldn’t trade for anything.
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Your fine with being disappointed, your fine with taking a bit of time to work through that disappointed. It’s not fine if you treat your kid differently because of it or dwell on it if that makes sense. We all have issues about things with kids that should be made ok to talk about and work through. It sucks there’s still people who try to shame others for having questions or thoughts when all of us are thinking “same”. You can be both things, grateful for the baby AND disappointed. It’s not always one or the other.
It’s perfectly normal. I cried when my first was a girl, I wanted a boy so bad. I was disappointed when my second was a girl but when I found out with my 3rd, I wanted a girl so they’d all grow up together and steal each others makeup and be best friends as I got 3 brothers & would’ve loved sisters. I got a boy and he’s the most precious. He’s nearly 15month, we all needed our little bear, my girls adore him 
Gender disappointment is so common but unspoken of. It won’t matter once you hold her x
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I still do and she’s 19yrs old.
Damn she was supposed to be a boy.
You’re entitled to your feelings!
I think so. But, don’t let it make you resent the baby or treat them differently. I’ve unfortunately seen it happen … 
I went through that with my second. I was determined she was a boy because the pregnancy was so different. But nope she was a girl
What a horrible thing to say. I feel sorry for your baby.
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I went through this too I wanted a boy .my heart broke everytime I found out it was a girl .I now have 6 girls and no boys
I have girl girl girl boy girl. It’s normal. My heart broke every time especially the last. But I wouldn’t change my girls.
I think you are normal . I know this may sound crazy but now that I am older ( I was like you and wanted a girl and finally did have one lol ) , I see SO many people who just want a healthy baby . One of my own is trying so hard just to have a baby ! Any kind of baby . Please just remember God knows what is best for you and He won’t steer you wrong . I know she will be so loved 
After years of IVF and losing 4 babies, we didn’t care what we had as long as he or she was healthy.
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Hey… I’m just grateful mine is healthy. And what they’re born as doesn’t dictate the gender they’ll end up anyway! You might end up with a boy by the time they’re an adult…
Gender disappoint is normal for some. But you’ll forget you disappointment as you fall in love with your new baby girl and then you understand that’s she was always meant to be a girl and she is perfect as she is. I had similar feelings with my boys who I wanted to be girls. But when they I came I loved them as they were and knew they were never going to be anything else but what they are and they are perfect as they are.
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I was just happy to have a healthy baby. Did not care if it was a boy or or a girl
My mom‘s best friend of over 30 years learned and shared with us that her grandson is physically disabled. And this is the hill you wanna die on? I mean you do you. But I’m telling you there’s bigger things in this world than being disappointed over not having a boy or a girl. I would want my kid to be healthy, my kid to be safe, my kid to have love. But again, whatever the new generations, just kind of blah. 
At least you can have children, some people can’t
It’s called gender disappointment
I bawled my eyes out when they told me I was having a girl cuz I was a boy mom. Tho when I had her it was one of the happiest times in my life and I love my little girl so so much I’m so glad I had a girl instead of a boy now, but my whole pregnancy I was depressed about it. Your feelings I’m sure will change the minute you hold her in your arms❤️
I think this is more common than we realise but it’s considered taboo to talk about so we feel shameful for having a moment of disappointment.
You had a vision, a dream, and it didn’t pan out that way and you have every right to be disappointed about that. You won’t love her any less.
I always wanted boys and was blessed to have just that but my partner desperately wanted a daughter and I will forever be disappointed that I couldn’t give him that
I had 3 boys and if the last wasn’t a girl I would have probably felt the same way.
I would say it’s normal but I never went through that. I was told I could never have kids, impossible and if I did by chance due to my medical and health issues the baby would probably die, or both of us. So I went in, hoping for every check up for good news I went every 2-3 weeks then every wk. And I went to specialists 5 hrs away. I didn’t want to know gender, just healthy or not. Well I was at my 8 months appt and a doctor that popped into grab the nurse spillrd the beans that it was a boy, the nurse flipped out and apologized. But I didn’t care, so long as the baby was healthy and we made it through. He is almost 11 And is a little hellion lol but I think you should just be happy the baby is healthy.
Some of you people are horrible, disgusting creatures. You CRIED over your baby’s sex? You don’t even deserve what you got!! Ungrateful, vile, awful people. Just fn WOW!!
I had about half a day of disappointment with both my children. I think it’s normal
As long as your baby doesn’t know about it later down the road. Don’t resent the baby for something neither you or her can control. A lot of people want boys or girls and end up with opposite. It just happens. Some men dream of having a boy so they can throw baseballs with them, some women dream of having daughters so they can play dress up with them.
I’m going to be honest there are a lot of negative comments on here about being grateful. It’s ok to feel what you’re feeling. You’re letting go of something you were hoping for. Things don’t always work out how we originally planned, and it’s ok if that brings up upsetting feelings. Take time to process them and then pick yourself and move forward. Sending much love to you.
It is not weird to be disappointed if you had hoped for a boy and are having a girl. You will love her just as much.
I’ve struggled through fertility for years and just did IVF with loss after loss… just be grateful your having a baby with 0 problems, while others are still struggling. I wouldn’t care long as my baby was healthy that’s all that matters at the end if the day…
This is why I did NOT find out the gender with all 3 of mine until birth because to me… it was just a baby, a blessing! I didnt need to know. I just wanted my babies! When I held them, it didnt matter!!
I had 2 boys then a girl. I was so angered by those asking me if my 3rd was planned or if I was trying for a girl! Geez!!!
Please count your blessings. I would have loved a 4th child. I never had gender grief! And if I already had at least one of each, then it would be a lil weird to me to want a certain gender.
Congrats on Baby #4.