I’d be fine with it, it’s for feeding the baby and it’s appropriate.
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Maybe talk to their Mom & Dad. After your baby arrives it won’t be as awkward as you feel now. Your baby is also their sibling.
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Even though “nothing’s wrong” with it, I kept our feeding private. Do what makes you feel comfortable I guess.
Totally normal and kids are curious and should be educated…dads probably fine with it but maybe ask their mom first out of respect.
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Totally fine. Maybe talk with their mom and give a heads up that you will be openly breastfeeding so that she can have a conversation with them as well as you and your hunny talking to them about how natural and normal it is. Your feeding the baby and it is adults that sexualize it unfortunately. I personally would have zero issues with someone breastfeeding their baby infront of my daughter.
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As a bio mom, I’d like the heads up just so I knew I’d be fielding questions. But otherwise, that is your child and you feed that baby anywhere, time and how you feel. My own kids were 9 and 10 when I had my youngest and fed in front of them and taught them(it was their first experience around BF)
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I told my nephew that that’s how babies eat and he didn’t question it. He said okay and moved on. Do whatever is comfortable for you and baby. Maybe ask their mom if you want to be real safe.
Of course. Will you feed your bonus kids in front of your baby??
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I personally went into another room when my bonus kid was here while feeding 2 of mine. My bonus kid knew what I was doing, his dad explained it but I was never seen. I would talk with your bonus childrens parents and see how they feel.
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I don’t see why not, just make sure you talk with their mom first so she isn’t blindsided by questions or misinterpretations of what they’re seeing.
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The hardest thing was my step daughter wanting to help feed my son and me trying to save up my supply. We just explained it was how babies ate and after a few days it wasn’t a big deal anymore!
It’s what boobs are for , for feeding nothing wrong with it . But do what makes u feel comfortable don’t be ashamed in whatever you choose to do
Yes! Normalize breastfeeding! I saw a stranger breastfeeding her baby when I was 6 at our school library and I never saw anything wrong with it.
It definitely would help you to gauge the situation to talk with their mother. There is NOTHING wrong with it, but to keep drama from being started about it, I’d mention your concerns with their mother and their father. Hear their opinions on the matter.
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I have two bonus kids and I feed my daughter anywhere and everywhere I cover up in public to save the arguement if she lets me mostly just with my hand as she hates stuff over her. The first 6 months I’d leave the room or they would though… then it became normal etc … now they just don’t even acknowledge and will carry on a full conversation with me they never see anything you know I turn my shoulder my boobs aren’t just out … they are also older though 14 and 12 now
Honestly I would discuss it with both mom and dad first just to get their opinion on it, but I would be okay with it if it were my son. Its a perfect opportunity to teach them about babies and one way how to feed them. I wish it had been explained to me as a kid and not such a taboo thing.
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What’s inappropriate about feeding your infant?
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If you’re comfortable than it’s fine, if it makes you feel uncomfortable it can actually make the whole feed process difficult. Just do you
Depends on your family dynamic, everyone is different. My bonus son was 11/12 when my daughter was born. We had him and his 15 year old sister half the time. He wasn’t comfortable with it so I nursed in the bedroom when they were with us.
I think you’re way overthinking it. Do what feels and comes natural. Its nothing to hide.
It won’t be strange for them unless you or your SO make it so. It’s natural.
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I would breastfeed in front of them but I personally would prefer to pump in private.
I would discuss it with their mom. I would not my children to see their stepmom breastfeeding. I did not allow my children to see me pump or feed their siblings. If the mother has no issues with it then go for it.
Don’t make a big deal of it, just explain that’s how baby needs to eat and maybe let bonus kids help with the bottle feeding side of things. If it helps explain how most baby animals are breastfed and that people are no different, our bodies are made to create and care for our children. We explained it to my step kids when their sister was born and there weren’t any problems 
the oldest was a big help, I don’t think I would have eaten the first week after my youngest was born if it wasn’t for him fixing me sandwiches and snacks because he heard that “mommy should eat when baby eats”
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I’m all for breastfeeding and normalizing it. Kids don’t sexualize things the way adults do so it’s easier to explain it to children. If it were my kids, I personally wouldn’t care. Breasts have a purpose and that purpose is to feed babies, whether they’re mine or someone else’s. I’d want my kids to see only for the benefit of learning about it and carrying that into adulthood so they too could educate and inform others.
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first of all I would never call my stepkids bonus kids they are MY KIDS. but if its uncomfortable for you then go to another room. I mean u can always cover up. but BEFORE bby gets here try and talk to them about any changes that are about to happen to better prepare them.
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Yes? Just feed the baby if its hungry.
Most kids don’t even notice
Ignore those saying ask permission first lol
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Just talk to them, talk to there mom so she knows they may have questions. But I think once they adjust it won’t be a problem. Mynoldest daughter is almost 4 and we just had our second and i just started feeding the baby and then answered whatever questions my daughter had. There’s nothing wrong with breastfeed but it might make them uncomfortable at first of they have never been around it.
It is not inappropriate or unnatural. Feed your baby, explain what you are doing to the other kids & normalize it.
And no I would never feel uncomfortable about my daughters other mum feeding her baby in front of our daughter.
If I needed to breast feed and we had company I just covered myself with a blanket. No big deal🤷
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i completly understand why your reluctant with another womens children. I think its cool your are actually taking into account her opinions and thoughts. personally, if i was the bio mom, i would have zero issue. And if i were in your shoes i would maybe ask her? im not sure on your relationship and if its that civil. But i personally would just maybe ask her if shes cool with it out of respect maybe?? its not ahuge deal but i think it would make me feel more comfortable in the whole situation if their mom had told me like ‘dont worry about it!’
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I don’t see nothing wrong with it , my nephews and nieces always seen me feed my son 
they always like " aunt she she feeding baby?" I don’t think kids see anything wrong with it
ask the childrens other mom what she thinks is ok for you to do
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out of RESPECT take it up with their mother. These damn women on here saying your choice/home or its natural obviously have no respect for the bio mom at all. Just talk with the bio mom and ask her. She will have more respect for you for it.
I fed my son in front of my bonus children, as well as my own. I fed my son just like I would around anyone in public it’s natural and I wouldn’t hide in another room. I use two shirt method and even so they don’t see anything and they were educated by their father of the breastfeeding how it works and why it can be best for their brother.
I breastfed in front of my SS
Yes. Its fine. This is the normal, biological way to feed kids. Personally I used a shawl over baby’s head the majority of the time and had very little book on show, so in your situation would wait until I’m comfortable doing so. Maybe 2 or 3 weeks in.
If you’re feeling that way, maybe have a convo with dad and mom. But honestly, for me, I don’t really care so sees me feeding my baby. It’s not like I have both breasts out seducing anyone lol I’m just feeding my baby, if someone uncomfortable they’re more than welcome to walk away or go into another room but I’m not going to seclude myself either.
Tits are for babies!! Normalize breastfeeding!! BOOBS ARE FOR BABIES!! In front of everyone & anyone!!
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I wouldn’t make a big deal out of. You’re just feeding a baby nothing more nothing less. Breasts are used to feed babies. You never need permission to feed your baby so I don’t feel like you need to ask their mom.
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I felt awkward breastfeeding and pumping my second born with my first born in the room. He was four and all in my space.
I breastfeed in front of my step son. Always have. Currently tandem feeding my 5 month old and 22 month old. I didn’t really feel the need to ask “permission”. If it’s not normalized at home, how can we expect normalization to happen? He is 5 and is fully aware and comfortable with me nursing around him.
Maybe a question for bio mom not facebook ask her would it be okay. I personally didnt feed my daughter infront of any body not even step kids without a cover unless it was my husband and even then put if habbit i would walk to the bedroom and do it because that’s where all my stuff was set up of i was in public i would wear a cover or at anyone else’s house.
I would maybe give bio mom a heads up so that she’s not confused/weirded out if they ask her questions when she has them, because kids that young come up with interesting ways to describe things sometimes and it might come off as inappropriate. That way if one of the kiddos just kinda nonchalantly goes “oh I saw stepmoms breast” bio mom isn’t like “wait what”
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I breastfed my kids, and babysit on the side. No big deal, kids were fine it’s the “adults” who freak out.
Omg! Nothing wrong with that at all. I am 100% pro breastfeeding and children of ALL ages being exposed to it. Its time to remember what nature gave us breasts for. It starts with children. Teach them. Baby is eating.
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Talk with mom and the kids together and see how they feel ?
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It’s a great time to reinforce what breasts are and are not. I would have no issues with it.
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Honestly? I was/am a bit harsh about it. I’m still breastfeeding my daughter and DH’s sons are 11,13 and 15. If they are uncomfortable about me feeding a baby, they can stay in their rooms or simply not come over until my daughter is done breastfeeding. The boys used to walk into mine and my husbands room without ever knocking; now that they’ve barged in and was exposed to a full on meal for the baby; they don’t like coming into our room anymore, period. The way I see it is that someone needs to teach them that breasts are for feeding and not oogiling. I don’t think they’ll ever objectify women in that way again. 
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I wouldn’t make a big deal of it and explain that breastfeeding is natural and very good for baby.
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Talk to dad and their bio mom about it. See what they think. I personally think it’s fine. I have 2 step kids a boy and a girl. When our twins were born I breastfed in front of them. They were 6 and 7 but they have been my step kids since 2 and 3. It wasnt a big deal. Since then their bio mom has had two kids as well.
I personally wouldn’t mind at all if my kids dad’s girlfriend breast fed around my girls cover or no cover. It’s natural and that’s what they are made for.
You’re stressing much more than needed. Treat it as you would with anyone else eating. You have to eat, baby eats by drinking milk from mom. It’s nothing inappropriate or traumatic, so don’t treat it as something bad and they’ll see it as a natural thing too.
I think it’s normal. Maybe get with their mom and see if she would like to explain it she may feel like that’s something she wanted to teach her about. I don’t see an issue with it.
It’s no different from kids seeing you out and about feeding your baby 
and you wouldn’t stop then. I BF in front of all my nieces and nephews and they were all ages but all they did were ask curious questions
You can tell them that if it makes them feel uncomfortable, they can hang out in their rooms until baby is done lol
Personally I wouldn’t give a f. Your feeding your baby. That’s just plain and simple.
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its natural…dont sexulize it and children wont either
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Boobies have milk for babies, what else is there to explain?? Just don’t make a big deal about it, just feed your baby and if you notice the kids staring invite them closer for a snuggle on the other side of you, answer questions truthfully and be prepared to have your boobs possibly touched by accident if they go in for a kiss on babies cheek. Talk to their mother about it.
I used to breast feed my daughter in front of my little siblings. They would ask questions especially my little brother but I certainly didn’t a swer anything sugar coated. I just said exactly what breasts were meant for and how they had also breast fed when they were younger. They get it now and were comfortable walking in to talk to me while I was breast feeding.
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Talk to the mom so that theres no confusion. If shes not comfortable with it it may be best to just go to a private room when they’re there or cover. I might get hate for that but it’s better than a custody battle. And she might even be willing to talk to the kiddos about it 
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Voice your concerns to your partner. Other wise feed bub however you want. Use the experience as a teaching moment. In a world where women’s body’s are objectified and sexualised all the time you can use your feeding time to explain to the kids how breastfeeding works and what it means to you.
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Totally fine… I feed in front of all my nieces and they are 8… 11 and 13
I’d breast need in Walmart in front of the Queen herself. 
just feed your baby.
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I think it’s good for kids to witness but it’s whatever you are comfortable with 
But the main reason for my comment is to say good on you for thinking of the kids and how their mother would feel! 
Sounds like most people haven’t given that much thought and even though I’m sure the mother would be fine about it, I’m sure she would appreciate that you are considering her and her children’s feelings.
Ask their mum. Their mum may not be comfortable and you don’t want to step on her toes for the kids sake xx
Its YOUR baby, YOUR body and YOUR home. Feed that baby whatever way YOU want and dont give a shit what their mum, dad or them think. The more people freak out about this kinda stuff the more it backs up that breastfeeding isnt normal!
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I find this question sad because its natural and im one of those people that normally hate stuff like this but theres nothing better then showing children what is natural. Breast are for babys thats why only females have them.
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If my kids were your bonus kids I wouldn’t mind just as long as we could sit down with the kids together and explain it to them. Or if you told me that they saw and how you explained it to them.
If the kids are uncomfortable with it, do it away from them.
Just tell them how its natural and all animals do it. (I.e. kittens, puppies,etc.) Don’t hide away. Especially after giving birth. Be comfortable in your own home.
I never even thought about it… but my child’s brother was never phased by it… their father surprisingly never said a word about it… I’m sure the mom wouldn’t have been to thrilled to learn about it though if she was a decent person and what not I might have asked her if she was ok with it had I thought about it. Regardless of the pain she was, I still respected her as his mom and her wishes.
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I have a step son that is almost 8. He understands that I’m feeding his brother but I don’t do it in front of him. I excuse myself or tell him to go play in his room while I feed his brother. Honestly I wouldn’t ask the mom anything. Your house. Your body. Your baby. Has nothing to do with what SHE wants. Do whatever you are comfortable with!
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Absolutely. I breast fed my daughter in front of her sister.
My household runs the same way when my children’s sister visits and when she isn’t here.
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I lived with my parent for my daughters first few weeks and fed in front of my 8 year old brother. Just explain it’s natural, baby needs food. If you don’t make a big deal, they won’t
Baby has to eat. Do not feel ashamed. If they have an issue, they can either do a chore or go to their room until you’re done feeding.
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I think its totally fine. My son is 8 and has 2 new baby brothers 2 months apart (1 at my house and 1 at his Dad’s). My baby was born 1st and he was so curious when I was finally able to being my son home and would always want to sit with me while I breast fed his brother so I wasn’t sitting by myself. He asked questions about breast feeding and I talked to him about how it was ok for him to do the same with his stepmum once their baby was born if she was ok with it but also explained if she was in her room feeding it was best of ask if it was ok coz sometimes mums just feel more comfortable feeding in private to start with.
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Honestly ask the kids how they would feel if you feed Bubs in front of them let them in on the conversation and decision as well. They are old enough to voice if it would make them uncomfortable or allow them to feel involved in the decision making. Allow them to have a conversation with you about it allows them to feel like they can help burp the baby, get you something like food or water but, also ask questions about Bubs and bond with you and the baby as well.
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It’s natural so you should do whatever makes you comfortable. If you feel that it would be weird for you to do it in their presence then cover up or go to a different room. If YOU have no problem with them possibly watching and asking questions, whip them out and feed the baby. It’s natural to breastfeed. However, it’s also natural to not want others to watch. Especially children. My nieces watched me once and although they knew exactly what I was doing, it was weird for me. And if you still want opinions ask their mom and dad what they think. But in the end do what makes you comfortable.
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My daughter was in early grade school (kinder or 1st) and watched a friend breastfeed. At first my friend starts apologizing with, “I’m so sorry to be popping my book out in front of your daughter…” I stopped her right there and said there was no need to apologize because baby was hungry and she was doing what her body was designed to do. My daughter was a little perplexed, but we explained this is how babies eat - some eat by bottle some by breast. She thought this was such a great thing to experience. When she sees a mom nursing, she just smiles and goes about her business.
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I don’t think it’s a big deal. Your feeding the baby it’s that simple. I wouldn’t worry
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As a mom who has been breastfeeding for 4 and a half years, my point of view is this - every mom that openly feeds, allows discussion on feeds, and answers questions during feeds is an absolute superhero. When I started feeding my eldest, I was so embarrassed I would leave the room to feed. Then suddenly I noticed that I was spending a lot of time alone - not good for a new mom’s mental health. Breastfeeding is not easy and it is a learned skill. The more young girls and boys understand it to be the norm, the easier the next generation of moms will have it.
Be the mom that feeds in front of step kids, in the car, in the park, in the fancy restaurant, in the plane. You are being somebody’s whole world whilst creating a new world for everyone.
You sound like you are an amazing mom already.
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Your baby, your body you feed that baby ! I wouldn’t have any problems at all. What makes you different to them seeing any other female Breastfeeding their baby. Totally normal. I had my second baby and my first son was 16. I didn’t care. He knows it’s normal. He was there at the birth. Lololololol
Idk. My bonus kids were like 8 and 9 when my baby was born we had custody so i told them that its a natural thing, that they might see me feeding the baby from my boob. Now i wont lie everytime i fed my son i went to my room but that was jus me. I didnt breastfeed long due to extreme tongue tie. Also whats your relationship with bio mom. I dont see a issue but some females are petty.
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My biggest regret about breastfeeding, that I cared so much what other people thought about my breastfeeding.
If you’re planning on breastfeeding it’s basically going to happen that they are gonna see you feed the baby. We tell everyone who comes over that they need to know they might see me feeding the baby, though I do practice discretion by using a blanket or going to another room. The best way to explain it is that you are feeding your baby. Kids don’t think it’s weird because they don’t sexualize it like some adults do. Ask their mom or your husband if it makes them uncomfortable as a courtesy, but in all reality there’s no avoiding it if the child walks in the room when you’re feeding the baby or when you’ll be forced to feed the baby in public so you can go grocery shopping. It’s not weird to breastfeed and you as well as the others around you need to understand that.
you definitely need to tell the kids parents and aee make sure that they are ok with there kids seeing it no matter what you think or feel about it it’s what they want their kids expose to so you should absolutely ask them if they are ok with it if they arnt politely tell them you wont be able to watch the kids anymore
It’s completely natural and it would be good for them to se you breast feeding and to be comfortable around you doing so, so they don’t grow up thinking it’s rude and women should be covered up feeding their child!
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I just had my daughters 7 year old friend over and fed my babies in front of her and did not even think about it lol. I just knew I had to feed them. I did not explain to her or her mother did not even think about it because it’s not wrong or anything to be ashamed about your just feeding your baby.
My son was 11 when my 2nd was born. He’d have friends over often. I just fed baby when she was hungry. They never seemed to notice. I say just do it. If they have questions then be honest. "I’m feeding baby. Some mom’s choose bottles. I choose to feed baby the natural way " You may want to talk to their mom ahead of time. Just so she’s aware in case of questions & isn’t caught off guard.
I have three and I breastfed for over a year in front of them. It’s always been natural for them. My oldest bonus made me a sign for our house saying breastfeeding safe zone.
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Just cover up with a light baby blanket. There will be times when you are out in public and have to feed your baby so feed like you are out in public.
I would just try to stay covered up when they are around or maybe in another room but also explain to them that u are feeding the baby its natural and he/she has to eat and that’s there’s nothing wrong with it
I definitely wouldn’t advertise it and be decent about it.
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Explain to them that this is how baby eats until they get older and can eat like they do. It should be up to you and your husband on how you decide to feed baby, their biological mother should understand that after 2 kids of her own.
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There is nothing private needed. Just feed your baby. They aren’t going to come up close to try to see anything and baby’s hearing blocks the view. I don’t think there is any reason at all to cover up. Might teach them to be really nurturing and it’s just feeding your baby. Your nourishing their sibling. There is nothing bad or shameful about the act of eating. Breasts are only sexual in the bedroom with your hubby. Anywhere else and they are just an amazing and readily available food source for the little one!
The amount of WOMEN and MOTHERS telling you to cover up is driving me nuts! We need to stop acting like there is some shame to this. Otherwise our daughters will be uncomfortable when it comes time for them to feed their babies and might just bail on the idea of breastfeeding without trying because of the conflicting feelings. We need to try really hard to own this amazing gift we have to nourish our babies and stop acting like it needs to be something hidden. I’m not saying whip both breasts out and dance or anything but when I breastfed and my step kids were around (one lives with us and one doesn’t and they were age 9 and 7) I would pull my shirt up and put a receiving blanket over my tummy if it was chilly, one side of my shirt covered my other breast and the other was up just resting on my breast and baby would just eat away. No one could see anything at all or even tried to! They talked to me like normal and we never had any weird feelings about it because I treated it just as normal as if I gave them a snack of cheese and crackers at the table
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I used to hide the latch but that’s for my own insecurities I didn’t want anyone looking at my nipple but once latched they can’t really see anything but skin. I’m sure they don’t want to see your areola but the act itself is harmless and normal
Absolutely, normalize breastfeeding, this is how baby’s eat
Do what seems best or most comfortable for you.
Its ehat breast are for. Teach them that its natural and not sexual. Of course it’s ok to nurse around any one you want to. Even more so kids to show them that it is natural and not fking sexual.