Is it wrong to be the surrogate for my brother and his fiance?
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Girl this is an extremely personal question only you can answer for yourself. Why does a bunch of strangers opinions matter to you?
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You do what you think is right. If my brother needed me to and I was healthy enough I totally would. But again, it depends on your feelings and you relationship. Only you can make that choice.
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Yes. No. You’re decision.
Is it wrong? No absolutely not. That is a wonderful thing to do. Is it for everyone? No. So that’s a decision only YOU can make because it is your body. If they asked you, you are 100% the only one that can make the final decision. And you shouldn’t feel bad if you say no. But it isn’t wrong to do it (since that’s what it seems like you’re asking).
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I think having a family member as a surrogate is actually pretty common. As for whether it’s ok or if it’s something you should do, that’s a question that’s best answered by you.
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I would literally give anything for someone to carry my son or daughter for me.
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I think it’s a beautiful thing if you could give them that gift. If you are comfortable with that decision.
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Morally? Absolutely not. Personally? Completely up to you. You don’t have an obligation to be a surrogate but if you want to be and they want you to be then there is nothing wrong with it. There is also nothing wrong with you choosing not to be. Pregnancy is very personal and potentially problematic. Both of my pregnancies almost killed me.
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I wouldn’t do it personally but if you feel comfortable with it then go for it!
I think the answer is yes! As someone who struggles so bad with fertility it would be such a blessing to know someone who would do something so beautiful for me. HOWEVER you have to fully accept your going to feel this little baby move, you’ll see the ultrasounds, you’ll obviously have some attachments and you have to let that baby go. Yes you’ll see the baby because of your brother but that of course is not the same as a normal pregnancy/birth story. It wont be you buying the little things and getting the little snuggles all the time afterwards. Itll be emotional and I’m sure to a degree heartbreaking but also such a rewarding thing. I’m not trying to scare you at all but this isnt just a “oh I’ll just have a baby and let it go because it’s my brother itll be easy!” Which I’m sure you didnt just think that but it’s a very big thing your doing. The other thing is, if you have a partner what have they thought about it? Yes it’s your body but for 9 months you two will be growing this beautiful being and itll be strenuous on him/her as well. I think your a wonderful person for even considering this for your brother! But please really really consider the cons to this adventure before you commit. I wish you all so much luck 
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Personally it’s not something I could do, having that bond with the baby as your pregnancy grows and then your brother being someone you spend regular time with it would be hard to hand the baby over and see him/her all the the time and not be able to take home.
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IF you are ok with that and so is your family yes, don’t let people guilt you into not doing something beautiful like helping someone else have a child. You will be implanted with her fertilized egg, it is not like they are going to impregnate you with your brother’s sperm. Good luck.
I personally think it’s a precious thing to do. That’s solely your decision though.
Why are you ask strangers such a personal question
If it was me I would…It’s a beautiful amazing thing you can do for someone you love…It is your decision at the end of the day…
If I was still of age and was able to have children I would 1000% do that for my family member or even a very close friend. For ppl saying you wouldn’t take the child home blah blah blah it’s not yours you simple gave it a place to grow. Don’t do it if your not emotionally or mentally strong enough though. This should involve some counseling on everyone’s part!!!
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It’s a selfless act and i think its a great idea
I would do it there’s no shame
Go for it. You are giving them the biggest blessing anyone could.
I think it’s a beautiful gift
No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a surrogate. It’s a selfless and amazing thing to do.
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Totally depends on how you feel about it. I could not. I have fairly high risk pregnancies and the anxiety of something happening to their baby because my body sucks would be too much for me to handle.
No. You’re giving them an amazing gift!! It shouldn’t matter who bares it for them and that’s incredibly sweet of you to do that!! If my brother asked me, I’d be quick to say yes!!
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I was going to do it for my brother! Unfortunately the relationship ended before we could go through with it.
I think if you are able to and in heart want to then go for it!! My brother has asked me to be one for him and his future spouse…I guess when the time comes I’ll have to come to a decision
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Not wrong best gift you could ever give someone!
I think its the most beautiful gift you could ever give your brother… You’re a lot stronger than I am… I don’t think I could do it… Prayers to all.
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That be a NO for me ! I don’t think there is anything wrong with carrying a child for them it’s not like it’s your baby it will be theirs ! I’d say you would be a blessing 
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I think it would be a beautiful thing to do. Just remember, this is not your baby but your brothers. Good luck!
If you and them are comfortable with it then I think it’s great. Just make sure you know deep down it’s not your child, and make sure you can hand the baby over. Also remember to that baby you ate his/her Aunt and have to remember that roll when you’re together. I think anyone who can be a surrogate is an amazing woman. Best of luck to you and your family!
If you can do it , do it girl . Best gift you can give someone. My sister was a surro for a couple in Australia
I think its beautiful to do that for family, and unlike other surrogacy, you’d still get to be in the child’s life.
If I didn’t have the issues that I did…then I would of been a surrogate…I ABSOLUTELY LOVED BEING PREGNANT 
No why would that be wrong??? You are helping somebody have a baby and I don’t see how that is wrong!!! if I was able to have a baby again I would probably do it for a friend or family if I could I mean because you’re bringing a child into this world for that person and that is the most awesome blessing you could ever do for somebody if you know what I mean lol. so no definitely it is not that bad to be a surrogate for a family member or a friend.
That’s amazing… Truly a blessing for all involved!!!
I would in a heart beat
I think its brave and selfless to carry a baby for someone else what a wonderful gift. If I did not have so many complications during pregnancy I would do it
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It’s lovely idea very selfless
No, you do what feels right for you and your family
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I think it’s truly wonderful. Not many people want to or can be a surrogate.
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I would have been, in a heartbeat, for my sister if she needed it.
Go for it! However make sure you check the laws in your state. Last session our state had bills to pass on this to make it illegal. I can’t remember if it passed or not. I believe it was more geared toward making money.
I assume your thinking something like it being incest? It deffinitly isnt close. It would be his swimmer and her eggs. Your dna would NOT be in the baby at all.
No if they are not married
Do you have kids. Do you want kids. Does your life allow you to do this without stopping your life as when the baby is born you’ll be expected to go back to life as if you didn’t have a kid. Will you be ok mentally if you lose your brothers baby even if it isnt your fault. Would they be ok. Are they willing to do it with someone else if you say no without being mean about it ? Do they understand that it might not work? Hugs you are amazing for considering this. Make sure everyone is ok with this. First you. Hugs.
You will have a close mond with them and the child knowing you gave life for them to start a family I would have done it for any of my brothers or sister if I could still have children and was younger
If they can not have children and you can - go for it.
I offered to do this for my brother and his wife after they lost a child. It’s amazing that you would give them the ultimate gift.
I do not feal it is wrong.
It’s the most beautiful gift you can give!