If your boyfriend comes into your life and he starts asking you to stop being friends with people you’ve been friends with for years because he doesn’t know how to be a grown-up, that’s a problem.
If they are really your friends and you are not hanging out with them alone or doing/saying things that would be considered disrespected of your relationship, he should respect that.
He could be gone next month and then you would’ve kicked people that have been in your life for years to the curb for nothing.
I think it comes down to what level of friendship you have with these people and whether you and your bf can come to an agreement as to what level of friendship you’re both comfortable with. That also needs to go both ways.
I also think you need to reevaluate some of those friendships and decide whether or not you’re holding onto them because they are an important part of your life or simply because you’ve had them for so long. You have to decide what’s worth putting your foot down over and what isn’t.
In the end though, I don’t think anyone should be making demands like that unless the friendship is a inappropriate.
My husband still talks to someone he slept with and I finally got to meet her the other day. She was actually really cool and I can totally see why he would want to stay friends with her
As long as they’re aren’t asking for nudes, talking about sex or making suggestive comments then there isn’t a problem. If you’re just starting out and he’s not sure because he had a someone cheat on him before it’s understandable. Just don’t be so in your face about it.
No, it’s not weird
I’m friends with people I hooked up with. If there was friendship there then I still maintain the friendship. Nothing weird about it
What’s weird is acting weird about it. Tell your boyfriend to grow tf up
Maintain who you are and your autonomy in your relationship. If you knew these people before him, and they are supportive of you; then maintain the friendships. He feels that way most likely because he knows given the same situation he would not be faithful.
Would you be comfortable if the roles were reversed? Men can be insecure too ya know, it’s not always that he doesn’t trust you maybe it’s he knows how men think and he doesn’t trust them…
I think context is important. Im still friends with a couple dudes I slept with. But it was like 10 years ago, one night stand type shit. What yall talk about and how is more important (in my opinion) than the fact that you were naked together once.
There are other dudes id never speak to again because they don’t respect boundaries.
I think its really up to you. Have you tried having them meet? Might help ease some issues.
Absolutely not if your an x your not even a consideration to allow back in my life. The only ex I even have to allow be in my life is the father of my son.
You can definitely be friends. Be adults about it, make sure communication is clear and boundaries are set and respected.
I do, but if it made my man uncomfortable, I know I would choose him over them. You can do what you please, really. But at the end if the day… Many years later, will you regret choosing them over someone you could have had a future with? 
Besides, if it’s a real friendship, they would truly want you to be happy and let you have some space
You want him to talk to chicks that he’s fucked?
Personally I wouldnt lose the moon counting the stars. Have respect and just drop them . If you already barely speak to them it shouldn’t be an issues
From a man’s point of view. I have a couple exes that have been friends with more than lover’s. I do love talking to them and reminiscing the past. Obviously not the sex or relationship part. But the part where we were friends,having each other’s backs especially when we were kids going through hard times. And if your other is insecure you have to ask yourself 3 questions. 1 are they worth not talking to a friend that you slept with year’s ago? 2 are your exes friendship worth losing your lover and 3 if your happiness in life is being questioned by someone and making you to choose 1 or the other. It will never work. I lost some really good friends that had my back in tough times only to be left by the 1 that made me choose them.
Once you see someone naked you can’t unsee it…
Big nope from me. Too weird unless it’s a small town or options are limited.
Put the shoe on the other foot.
If he was doing the exact same things you are with girls he’s hooked up with how would you feel?
Every couple has different boundaries that need to be discussed within the first few months of being together, but if you haven’t discussed them just keep in mind you can never expect him to be cool with something you wouldn’t be cool with and the other way around.
Should be fine if y’all are friends .
They’re friends. Regardless of history. Its what happens now while your committed is what matters. You’re allowed friends.
I believe that if one partner isn’t ok with it, that’s all that needs to be said. Now if it’s a friend you haven’t done anything sexual with, than no.
Personally I don’t think you can, at least not if it was a relationship. I tried being friends with one of my exes that I had slept with when I first started dating my now husband. We had been together a long time ( at that age) and it just felt wrong to suddenly not speak to him at all… however once my husband and I had been dating a few months, and started to get more serious, it just didn’t feel right to me. I didn’t want him to get the wrong idea or ever feel insecure - id like to make a point he DID NOT say anything to me about it. I just felt, as a respect thing, I shouldn’t do that. It made me feel uncomfortable, that it MIGHT make him feel weird, and I knew I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him hanging out with his ex. Everybody is different.
I’m friends with people I’ve slept with and people I’ve had relationships with. My husband is also the same, he’s friends with his exes.
To us, there is no issue. Both of our exes were at and celebrated our wedding with us - in fact, one of my closest friends is his ex girlfriend; so much so that I’m one of her bridesmaids. My son calls her aunt, and her daughter calls me aunt. She was the first person outside of family that I told when I was pregnant and vice versa.
Everyone is different and I’m all for respecting your partner and taking their feelings into consideration so I’d say you need to speak to him properly about this and put your own opinions and feelings across. Only then will you be able to come to a decision that suits you both. X
Not it’s not! I am friends with women I have hooked up with in the past. Not all of them mind! I wish them well in whatever they are doing. It depends on how insecure you both are!
I personally think if you’re single it’s whatever. But, if you’re in a relationship you should respect that it makes them uncomfortable. Would you want your partner to be friends with someone who they have slept with in the past, even if they’re “just friends”? Goes both ways.
It is his insecurity
I am friends with one of my exs, it was barely a relationship, a blip in our decades long friendship.
my partner doesn’t care that we are friends, because he understands that was in the past and we were kids at the time. if he were to tell me he was uncomfortable with it, I would of course put an end to the friendship. our family comes first above all. sometimes I feel they are better friends haha.
i think it’s complicated. but your boyfriend should never be trying to dictate who you talk to. you know in your guts if it’s right or wrong so it’s on you. i’m not friends with men who i know want to sleep with me bc for me, it’s too weird of a strain on the friendship. all that said, every situation is different. my husbands best friend is gorgeous. it’s kind of a relief that she lives across the country but i would never tell him he shouldn’t be friends with her bc i know it’s my insecurity. my problem.
There are two elements here. He isn’t comfortable with you being just friends with men you’ve slept with in the past, which is fairly normal depending on his past experiences with relationships. You seemingly want to continue casual, just friends relationships with men you’ve slept with in the past, despite your significant other stating that it made him uncomfortable. What should you do?
Respect your relationship or end it
Yup…We even hired mine as our Attorney. He enjoys hanging out with my husband more than he ever did me.
I think you should get the train running Lol
I personally am still friends with a few of the people I’ve hooked up with. We talk a few times a week and once in a while hang out in a group of mutual friends but nothing more then that. We work better as friends and we have a pretty set communication rule and we have a really great friendship
I am friends with ex boyfriends and ex lovers. Relationships change over time and some can remain friendly after an intimate one is concluded. It is not odd. I will say this, if you feel like you would have an issue with your SO talking to his ex lovers then you need to really acknowledge his trepidation. If you cant introduce your friends to him then maybe he has a right to be concerned.
Hey ladies I will give you a dudes point of view… I used to have a problem with it? But I realized I was being controlling. If you trust your partner it shouldn’t matter. I used to be kinda ho-ish and it would be kinda stupid for her to get mad at me talking to every woman I’ve ever had relations with because I would be limited to family … truth be told I have a hell of a lot more chick friends then I do guys. If I hang around guys too long it’s usually gonna end in a fight. Trust is key.
Maybe he has a reason to be concerned about it, we don’t no the actual circumstances of why he has a problem with it, sometimes there is a reason to be concerned in my opinion because it can end badly
Out of respect for your partner anyone you’ve had a thing with in the past should become nonexistent. It all comes down to this: which of the people do you have a future with? Clearly it’s not the people from the past so focus on being happy with your significant other.
I am friends with my ex husband. My ex and I “hooked” up a lot 
In all seriousness, my husband and I just got back from a Universal trip with my grown children and my ex. They get along just fine. It all comes down to trust.
Your boyfriend sounds like he has trust issues. He needs to work on that.
Depends on the level of comfort you and your bf have with one another.
My husband knows I still chat occasionally on Facebook with old boyfriend’s. He has even met them. Let’s see I was 18 when I dated them, I’m 35 our lives are a bit different. Lol now I wouldn’t try to hang out with them in person. But a friendly conversation is no biggie
Would it be ok with you if he was still friends with girls he has hooked up with in the past?!
Don’t be a hypocrite!