Slam that door and lock it if you wanna feel safe
Some women see pregnancy as a hindrance sheâs getting closer âŠshe will move on your man while your hindered with the baby bump âŠdonât let her back in your life x
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I would ignore her as my guess is she knows stress is not good for pregnant women and is trying to stress you out as sheâs jealous. I would just ignore her and block her number and move on. Donât think about her again. But itâs your call at the end of the day thatâs just what I would do no matter how hard it was my baby would keep me going.
She sounds jealous and like sheâs looking for a way in possibly to get closer to your husband? Iâd tell her how she made you feel over the last 3 years and ask her why now. I would definitely air on the side of caution 
and personally wouldnât let her back in my life
I wouldnât have the time nor the patience to entertain this. She wasnât there then and she shouldnât be here now. Hanging out with the kid upstairs, driving past your house every day? No thanks. Donât need the drama. Sheâs just tryna get close to you go cause a wedge. Iâd ignore and block.
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Life comes in seasons, you are now on to the next phase. If you faulter your life path with the past, you may miss the doors awaiting for the future babe. Send out well vibes in the universe and move on
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No donât even bother to call her out she will play the victim just cut her off and go about your life. She is playing you
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Ignore her. U donât need that energy
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Sheâs just being nosey.
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Congratulations on your baby. U have every right to feel the way you do.
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Play the game she plays. Ignore her
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Do not engage that. Period.
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She seems to only care when she feels like it, you will never know where you are with her. You donât need people like that dragging you down.
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Honestly, I wouldnât bother responding to her.
Just block her number, block her on all social media.
Then, if your husband is one of those honest and true good guys, you can tell him âhey, this so-so texted me after three years. I blocked her. If she reaches out to you, let me know and also block her too.â You can also add to him that you guys have it good and that sheâs just back trying to create drama in yâalls lives and you hope he realizes it.
OR if you guys are one of those couples that are completely open about going through each otherâs phones, you can just block her for him.
Either way, she needs to be blocked from both you and him.
She literally reached out to you right after you announce your pregnancy- after all these years? Not a good sign.
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Not wrong to feel this way but say something especially if you have been trying for 3 yrs⊠if you dont care about her ignore herâŠ
Just ghost her like she ghosted you. Best friends donât do shit like that
You can care about somebody and let them go. This sounds like you need to let her go. Stress isnât good for the baby. Maybe thatâs her intent. Or maybe she genuinely cares. Either way thereâs too much drama from the past to keep her around. Youâll likely never trust her.
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NopeâŠtrust your gut! Set a CLEAR boundary if you feel the need to respond, and make sure that you communicate that boundary to your fiancĂ© as well; and depending on your relationship with the upstairs tenant, inform them of your boundary too. Babies are gravitational, but it seems to me that she does not have the best intentions or any regard to your feelings. Losing her brother may have thrown her way off, but essentially ghosting you while seemingly going on with her life otherwise as normal doesnât sit well with me. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy in peace, and then protect your newborn from any hostile energy. This doesnât sound healthy for anyone involved. Good luck, Mama!
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Follow what your gut tells youâŠ
Forget her she chose it not you
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How about you stop being childish and just talk to her? Lol I never get this beat around the bush shit.
She will continue to play you if you let her. Sheâs toxic energy. Block her.
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Maybe she took time out to heal as she didnât like seeing you with the guy your with , maybe sheâs been to therapy and got herself the help she needed and now sheâs in a better place sheâs reaching out . Iâm not saying this is true but it could explain abit xx
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Ignore, she isnât a friend. I would put her in the box of someone I used to know but no longer have an interest in. In fact, Iâll just block the number. Focus on you, your husband and your pregnancy. Donât give her the satisfaction of an angst filled text.
Iâd definitely ignore her. She ghosted you while still keeping tabs on you. Donât let her play with your emotions like that.
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I honestly think people mature and grow up, plus she sounds like she was going through a hard patch in life. My depression was so bad for 4 years I didnât talk to anyone. Maybe she realized her actions were wrong. I would definitely keep a little distance and set boundaries but also give them a chance things happen and people change. Best of luck
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Sounds like she thinks her feelings are more important than yours.i wouldnât give her the time of day.she will just hurt you again! Stay happy!!!
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I think you should tell her exactly what you said here. 
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I recently had people in my life do this same thing. Ignore her sheâs toxic and just being nosey
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Give her a taste of her own medicine and do not respond. Itâs hard but just ignore it. She gave up a friendship with you over something so minor which she has no right to even be upset about on the first place from what you have explained. You donât need friends like that in your life.
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Dont waste your time and energy.
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Ask,then go from there
Actually she do are at all. Just keep moving forwardâŠshe chose to leave your life years ago. Delete her out of your life.
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Fuck no thatâs just meddling trouble drama begging to happen
Sheâs being nosey so I wouldnât even respond. Leave her on seen 
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Respond "I was feeling great until I got this text⊠"
Then block her.
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Probably wants to be nosey.
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Iâm petty so Iâd send a long text about how amazing youâre feeling. How amazing your man is. How amazing the relationship is and youâve never been happier in your entire life
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You need to say just thatâŠ
This is how I am feeling from a so called friend ! Listen friendships are 2 way streets, and she had no problem telling you not to date the brothers friend so, have no issues back on telling her how you feel! I am a 100% firm believer in what goes around comes around and saying what you are thinking !
I wouldnât text her back or be her friend again if u paid me 
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Why would u want to be friends with someone that wants to bang ur man âŠ??? Thatâs weird as hell
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Sheâs trying to get close to you so she can live vicariously through you, youâre with her dream man about to have his kid. Sheâs gonna worm her way in and possibly try more. Iâd tell her to stay away.
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Imo she sounds like a attention seeking pigpen and hes the one she couldnât get,shes not youâre friend, she probably never really was,dont engage
I wouldnât even reply
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Id bring it up to her why? Why be so distant and all of a sudden give a shit.
Saw what you feel- be clear, be honest. The is NOT a true friend, what do you have to lose?
Sheâs jealous and nosey.
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She probably just being nosey now that you announced your pregnancy. She probably wants to butt in and see how your relationship is going. Personally I would suggest letting her go.
thatâs exactly what Iâd say to her
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Then respond with exactly that, only if it will help youâ or ignore her. The choice is yours.
Anyone that wants to be in your life will make an effort. Thereâs no such thing as they are just too busy.
Not sure why youâre even stressing over this shoddy âfriend.â
Try to stop worrying about it and enjoy your loved ones, pregnancy and new baby.
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Leave her at the door step . You donât need her in your life . She wants to live your life .
Sheâs nosey. Thatâs all there is to it. You announced a big life event with the person she was interested in and now she wants to sit by and watch your life for her own entertainment. Block her and keep it pushing
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Tell her to kick rocks honey. Thatâs not a friend.
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You owe her absolutely nothing and I agree with the other individuals sheâs mosey, jealous and need to mind her own damn business 
I was in the same situation. She would drive by our houses everyday and just be a straight creep. She eventually quit but itâs been 7 years and we have 2 boys lol
I agree with you 
Tell her exactly how you feel
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Nope keep ignoring her. She didnât care for 3 years.
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Iâd just text her seriously?? I think you have the wrong number then go enjoy your life minus herđ
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Ignore her. She hasnât cared enough in 3 years to even check in, she doesnât need to check in to see how youâre feeling now.
If you do respond, keep it short and sweet and something she doesnât need to respond to-
âIâm feeling great, very excited to start this new chapter with insert fiancĂ©s name. Hope all is well with you and yoursâ
And then donât respond to anything else. I kinda feel like with how she acted when you first got with your fiancĂ©, that having her in your life may cause problems. She sounds like the type that would try to start drama just because sheâs bored.
Donât let her affect you. Enjoy your engagement, your new baby and your marriage!
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I would wonder just how you know she is driving pass your house every day,!! Unless you are always looking out the window !! Either way, if she talks to you then you have 2 choices, answer back with just the basics or ignore her, Bing cordial is everything & just might drive her nuts 
But that doesnât mean you have to be friends with her
Nope. She wouldnât be my friend anymore. Sheâs mad & jealous that you took that guy from her (which btw yâall were both single sooooooo)
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Thatâs a nosey stranger not your old best friend. Remember that
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You can ignore her or ask her why now, she cares how you are feeling.
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I would tell her how you feel
Personally I wouldnt give her the time of timeâŠshe is just trying to get back in and cause trouble or be nosey. .you both have moved in different directions in the 3 yrs she has not tried or put forth effortâŠso my response would be nothing
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I think thatâs a perfect response.
Do what she did & ignore her
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Realize that bf is no longer a bf, let her go, she just wants back in to see the baby hold baby, sheâs a fake friend. Sounds like you have a good life enjoy it and cut people like her out of it!!
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Sadly, women can be very jealous and mean⊠I say just keep your distance! I donât honestly think she has your best interest at heart. You can have a relationship but keep it at bay. JMO good luck dear 
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Leave her where she been tf
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Dont ignore her wtf thats so immature. Have an adult conversation and explain you were hurt and ask your questions. This is why there is so much anger in the world. Just ignore her 
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Do not engage ⊠huge red flag, you deserve better âŠ
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trust your gut you know what to do
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She was your best friend for 15 years. Iâm sure she has missed you. We all make mistakes. You will probably regret not letting her back in your life. If it does not work out- you have not lost anything.
I canât imagine how hard it was for her to reach out to you.
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Whats in it for her??
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You could just politely say, I am feeling fine thank you for asking. Regret is a bitch and sometimes we make choices that cost us friendships but we realize too late. It sounds like that is what is happening with her. Itâs ok not to be best friends again, but thereâs no reason to be hostile ⊠only upsets you in the long run. You donât want to ignore completely because then you are behaving the way she has âŠand you want to be better than that. You donât have to be best friends again but less drama this way.
Too little too late. Not worth the effort. Btw. CONGRATS!!!
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Sheâs jealous and now Only cares bc ur pg and wants to stick her nose where it donât belong. If I were in ur situation iâd give the same energy back to her. Ignore her. Let her find out on her own.
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I would ask her why she stopped talking to you! Donât start an argument because there is no need to stress about someone who didnât want to be there. Just so you get answers maybe.
Or you could always text back saying âwho is this?â Lol
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Honestly I think itâs time for you to move on because she has some serious jealousy issues. And after the little stunt that she pulled with trying the guilt trip and not letting you and the man you love be together, itâs best to move on
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Iâd tell her to kick rocks.
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I would say exactly what you want to say. Donât leave yourself wondering. If she doesnât answer atleast you have YOUR answer.
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Exactly what you wrote is exactly how you should respond!
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As someone who eliminated my best friends from my life bc they couldnât be supportive, were rude and so much more⊠girl, move on and donât look back! She doesnât deserve your time or energy. You tried, over and over again to no avail. I wouldnât respond and Iâd prob block her from being able to contact you any further. A friendship isnât when it works for you kinda thing and treat ppl like crap in the meantime⊠you do you!
Donât lower yourself to her level. Be civil to her but share donât share your dreams and plans with her.
Keep it cordialâŠand keep her at a distanceâŠ
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Youll have loose ends and have questions all the time if you dont talk to her. If you were great friends then communicate
Youâre pregnant and now suddenly she wants a friendship? NoâŠsounds like trouble. Where was she when you reached out to her? 
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I wouldnât give her the satisfaction of thinking your still bothered even. I would reply small and simply. Say you feel great and move on.
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She doesnât care, Sister. Sheâs being nosy. Ignore her completely.
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I would write her exactly want you said. Or just do what shes done to you.
Ignore her just like sheâs been doing to u⊠Donât let her put that negative energy on u or ur unborn baby⊠Nah I wouldnât give her the time of day⊠She had no rap for u soooo it goes both ways
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Tell her thanks for asking and you move on. Stop trying to have a relationship with people who donât want to be bothered with you. Know in your mind the type of friendship/relationships you expect from people and donât settle for less. This way you will avoid stress.
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Just donât reply then
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Ignore her and move on.
I wouldnât have tried for 3 years. I can take a hint and if you donât wanna be in my life then you can go do you and leave me alone.
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Why do people not say what they want? If you have a question, ask it! If you need to say something, say it. There are ways to do it an still be cordial, but do it. Youâll feel better
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Donât let her back in your life
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You have no idea what sheâs been through in the last three years youâre judging her⊠do you miss having her in your life? Do you miss your best friend? People make mistakes thatâs part of being human, forgiveness forgiveness is part of being human too. Itâs 100% totally up to you if you want to hang onto your anger and unforgiveness.
if you donât wanna be her friend anymore donâtâŠ
I think Iâm more worried about you hanging on say some stupid bullshit. Let it go, even IF u donât continue the friendshipâŠ
I had very good friend that did this to me too⊠it hurt⊠we are friends again after a 4yrs of her being that way. For no reason⊠itâs not the same at all⊠like at all⊠but I know in my heart I forgave her but I wonât trust her again like that.
Sounds like a scary situation. Iâd stay away from her. Move if possible.
Maybe i watch too many murder mysteries but Iâd bail
Donât lower your energy to be her fair weather friend. Itâs not worth it!!! Silence is golden!!!
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