Slam that door and lock it if you wanna feel safe
Some women see pregnancy as a hindrance sheās getting closer ā¦she will move on your man while your hindered with the baby bump ā¦donāt let her back in your life x
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I would ignore her as my guess is she knows stress is not good for pregnant women and is trying to stress you out as sheās jealous. I would just ignore her and block her number and move on. Donāt think about her again. But itās your call at the end of the day thatās just what I would do no matter how hard it was my baby would keep me going.
She sounds jealous and like sheās looking for a way in possibly to get closer to your husband? Iād tell her how she made you feel over the last 3 years and ask her why now. I would definitely air on the side of caution 
and personally wouldnāt let her back in my life
I wouldnāt have the time nor the patience to entertain this. She wasnāt there then and she shouldnāt be here now. Hanging out with the kid upstairs, driving past your house every day? No thanks. Donāt need the drama. Sheās just tryna get close to you go cause a wedge. Iād ignore and block.
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Life comes in seasons, you are now on to the next phase. If you faulter your life path with the past, you may miss the doors awaiting for the future babe. Send out well vibes in the universe and move on
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No donāt even bother to call her out she will play the victim just cut her off and go about your life. She is playing you
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Ignore her. U donāt need that energy
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Sheās just being nosey.
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Congratulations on your baby. U have every right to feel the way you do.
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Play the game she plays. Ignore her
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Do not engage that. Period.
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She seems to only care when she feels like it, you will never know where you are with her. You donāt need people like that dragging you down.
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Honestly, I wouldnāt bother responding to her.
Just block her number, block her on all social media.
Then, if your husband is one of those honest and true good guys, you can tell him āhey, this so-so texted me after three years. I blocked her. If she reaches out to you, let me know and also block her too.ā You can also add to him that you guys have it good and that sheās just back trying to create drama in yāalls lives and you hope he realizes it.
OR if you guys are one of those couples that are completely open about going through each otherās phones, you can just block her for him.
Either way, she needs to be blocked from both you and him.
She literally reached out to you right after you announce your pregnancy- after all these years? Not a good sign.
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Not wrong to feel this way but say something especially if you have been trying for 3 yrsā¦ if you dont care about her ignore herā¦
Just ghost her like she ghosted you. Best friends donāt do shit like that
You can care about somebody and let them go. This sounds like you need to let her go. Stress isnāt good for the baby. Maybe thatās her intent. Or maybe she genuinely cares. Either way thereās too much drama from the past to keep her around. Youāll likely never trust her.
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Nopeā¦trust your gut! Set a CLEAR boundary if you feel the need to respond, and make sure that you communicate that boundary to your fiancĆ© as well; and depending on your relationship with the upstairs tenant, inform them of your boundary too. Babies are gravitational, but it seems to me that she does not have the best intentions or any regard to your feelings. Losing her brother may have thrown her way off, but essentially ghosting you while seemingly going on with her life otherwise as normal doesnāt sit well with me. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy in peace, and then protect your newborn from any hostile energy. This doesnāt sound healthy for anyone involved. Good luck, Mama!
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Follow what your gut tells youā¦
Forget her she chose it not you
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How about you stop being childish and just talk to her? Lol I never get this beat around the bush shit.
She will continue to play you if you let her. Sheās toxic energy. Block her.
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Maybe she took time out to heal as she didnāt like seeing you with the guy your with , maybe sheās been to therapy and got herself the help she needed and now sheās in a better place sheās reaching out . Iām not saying this is true but it could explain abit xx
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Ignore, she isnāt a friend. I would put her in the box of someone I used to know but no longer have an interest in. In fact, Iāll just block the number. Focus on you, your husband and your pregnancy. Donāt give her the satisfaction of an angst filled text.
Iād definitely ignore her. She ghosted you while still keeping tabs on you. Donāt let her play with your emotions like that.
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I honestly think people mature and grow up, plus she sounds like she was going through a hard patch in life. My depression was so bad for 4 years I didnāt talk to anyone. Maybe she realized her actions were wrong. I would definitely keep a little distance and set boundaries but also give them a chance things happen and people change. Best of luck
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Sounds like she thinks her feelings are more important than yours.i wouldnāt give her the time of day.she will just hurt you again! Stay happy!!!
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I think you should tell her exactly what you said here. 
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I recently had people in my life do this same thing. Ignore her sheās toxic and just being nosey
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Give her a taste of her own medicine and do not respond. Itās hard but just ignore it. She gave up a friendship with you over something so minor which she has no right to even be upset about on the first place from what you have explained. You donāt need friends like that in your life.
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Dont waste your time and energy.
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Ask,then go from there
Actually she do are at all. Just keep moving forwardā¦she chose to leave your life years ago. Delete her out of your life.
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Fuck no thatās just meddling trouble drama begging to happen
Sheās being nosey so I wouldnāt even respond. Leave her on seen 
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Respond "I was feeling great until I got this textā¦ "
Then block her.
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Probably wants to be nosey.
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Iām petty so Iād send a long text about how amazing youāre feeling. How amazing your man is. How amazing the relationship is and youāve never been happier in your entire life
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You need to say just thatā¦
This is how I am feeling from a so called friend ! Listen friendships are 2 way streets, and she had no problem telling you not to date the brothers friend so, have no issues back on telling her how you feel! I am a 100% firm believer in what goes around comes around and saying what you are thinking !
I wouldnāt text her back or be her friend again if u paid me 
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Why would u want to be friends with someone that wants to bang ur man ā¦??? Thatās weird as hell
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Sheās trying to get close to you so she can live vicariously through you, youāre with her dream man about to have his kid. Sheās gonna worm her way in and possibly try more. Iād tell her to stay away.
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Imo she sounds like a attention seeking pigpen and hes the one she couldnāt get,shes not youāre friend, she probably never really was,dont engage
I wouldnāt even reply
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Id bring it up to her why? Why be so distant and all of a sudden give a shit.
Saw what you feel- be clear, be honest. The is NOT a true friend, what do you have to lose?
Sheās jealous and nosey.
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She probably just being nosey now that you announced your pregnancy. She probably wants to butt in and see how your relationship is going. Personally I would suggest letting her go.
thatās exactly what Iād say to her
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Then respond with exactly that, only if it will help youā or ignore her. The choice is yours.
Anyone that wants to be in your life will make an effort. Thereās no such thing as they are just too busy.
Not sure why youāre even stressing over this shoddy āfriend.ā
Try to stop worrying about it and enjoy your loved ones, pregnancy and new baby.
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Leave her at the door step . You donāt need her in your life . She wants to live your life .
Sheās nosey. Thatās all there is to it. You announced a big life event with the person she was interested in and now she wants to sit by and watch your life for her own entertainment. Block her and keep it pushing
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Tell her to kick rocks honey. Thatās not a friend.
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You owe her absolutely nothing and I agree with the other individuals sheās mosey, jealous and need to mind her own damn business 
I was in the same situation. She would drive by our houses everyday and just be a straight creep. She eventually quit but itās been 7 years and we have 2 boys lol
I agree with you 
Tell her exactly how you feel
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Nope keep ignoring her. She didnāt care for 3 years.
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Iād just text her seriously?? I think you have the wrong number then go enjoy your life minus herš
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Ignore her. She hasnāt cared enough in 3 years to even check in, she doesnāt need to check in to see how youāre feeling now.
If you do respond, keep it short and sweet and something she doesnāt need to respond to-
āIām feeling great, very excited to start this new chapter with insert fiancĆ©s name. Hope all is well with you and yoursā
And then donāt respond to anything else. I kinda feel like with how she acted when you first got with your fiancĆ©, that having her in your life may cause problems. She sounds like the type that would try to start drama just because sheās bored.
Donāt let her affect you. Enjoy your engagement, your new baby and your marriage!
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I would wonder just how you know she is driving pass your house every day,!! Unless you are always looking out the window !! Either way, if she talks to you then you have 2 choices, answer back with just the basics or ignore her, Bing cordial is everything & just might drive her nuts 
But that doesnāt mean you have to be friends with her
Nope. She wouldnāt be my friend anymore. Sheās mad & jealous that you took that guy from her (which btw yāall were both single sooooooo)
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Thatās a nosey stranger not your old best friend. Remember that
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You can ignore her or ask her why now, she cares how you are feeling.
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I would tell her how you feel
Personally I wouldnt give her the time of timeā¦she is just trying to get back in and cause trouble or be nosey. .you both have moved in different directions in the 3 yrs she has not tried or put forth effortā¦so my response would be nothing
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I think thatās a perfect response.
Do what she did & ignore her
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Realize that bf is no longer a bf, let her go, she just wants back in to see the baby hold baby, sheās a fake friend. Sounds like you have a good life enjoy it and cut people like her out of it!!
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Sadly, women can be very jealous and meanā¦ I say just keep your distance! I donāt honestly think she has your best interest at heart. You can have a relationship but keep it at bay. JMO good luck dear 
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Leave her where she been tf
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Dont ignore her wtf thats so immature. Have an adult conversation and explain you were hurt and ask your questions. This is why there is so much anger in the world. Just ignore her 
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Do not engage ā¦ huge red flag, you deserve better ā¦
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trust your gut you know what to do
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She was your best friend for 15 years. Iām sure she has missed you. We all make mistakes. You will probably regret not letting her back in your life. If it does not work out- you have not lost anything.
I canāt imagine how hard it was for her to reach out to you.
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Whats in it for her??
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You could just politely say, I am feeling fine thank you for asking. Regret is a bitch and sometimes we make choices that cost us friendships but we realize too late. It sounds like that is what is happening with her. Itās ok not to be best friends again, but thereās no reason to be hostile ā¦ only upsets you in the long run. You donāt want to ignore completely because then you are behaving the way she has ā¦and you want to be better than that. You donāt have to be best friends again but less drama this way.
Too little too late. Not worth the effort. Btw. CONGRATS!!!
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Sheās jealous and now Only cares bc ur pg and wants to stick her nose where it donāt belong. If I were in ur situation iād give the same energy back to her. Ignore her. Let her find out on her own.
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I would ask her why she stopped talking to you! Donāt start an argument because there is no need to stress about someone who didnāt want to be there. Just so you get answers maybe.
Or you could always text back saying āwho is this?ā Lol
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Honestly I think itās time for you to move on because she has some serious jealousy issues. And after the little stunt that she pulled with trying the guilt trip and not letting you and the man you love be together, itās best to move on
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Iād tell her to kick rocks.
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I would say exactly what you want to say. Donāt leave yourself wondering. If she doesnāt answer atleast you have YOUR answer.
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Exactly what you wrote is exactly how you should respond!
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As someone who eliminated my best friends from my life bc they couldnāt be supportive, were rude and so much moreā¦ girl, move on and donāt look back! She doesnāt deserve your time or energy. You tried, over and over again to no avail. I wouldnāt respond and Iād prob block her from being able to contact you any further. A friendship isnāt when it works for you kinda thing and treat ppl like crap in the meantimeā¦ you do you!
Donāt lower yourself to her level. Be civil to her but share donāt share your dreams and plans with her.
Keep it cordialā¦and keep her at a distanceā¦
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Youll have loose ends and have questions all the time if you dont talk to her. If you were great friends then communicate
Youāre pregnant and now suddenly she wants a friendship? Noā¦sounds like trouble. Where was she when you reached out to her? 
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I wouldnāt give her the satisfaction of thinking your still bothered even. I would reply small and simply. Say you feel great and move on.
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She doesnāt care, Sister. Sheās being nosy. Ignore her completely.
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I would write her exactly want you said. Or just do what shes done to you.
Ignore her just like sheās been doing to uā¦ Donāt let her put that negative energy on u or ur unborn babyā¦ Nah I wouldnāt give her the time of dayā¦ She had no rap for u soooo it goes both ways
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Tell her thanks for asking and you move on. Stop trying to have a relationship with people who donāt want to be bothered with you. Know in your mind the type of friendship/relationships you expect from people and donāt settle for less. This way you will avoid stress.
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Just donāt reply then
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Ignore her and move on.
I wouldnāt have tried for 3 years. I can take a hint and if you donāt wanna be in my life then you can go do you and leave me alone.
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Why do people not say what they want? If you have a question, ask it! If you need to say something, say it. There are ways to do it an still be cordial, but do it. Youāll feel better
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Donāt let her back in your life
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You have no idea what sheās been through in the last three years youāre judging herā¦ do you miss having her in your life? Do you miss your best friend? People make mistakes thatās part of being human, forgiveness forgiveness is part of being human too. Itās 100% totally up to you if you want to hang onto your anger and unforgiveness.
if you donāt wanna be her friend anymore donātā¦
I think Iām more worried about you hanging on say some stupid bullshit. Let it go, even IF u donāt continue the friendshipā¦
I had very good friend that did this to me tooā¦ it hurtā¦ we are friends again after a 4yrs of her being that way. For no reasonā¦ itās not the same at allā¦ like at allā¦ but I know in my heart I forgave her but I wonāt trust her again like that.
Sounds like a scary situation. Iād stay away from her. Move if possible.
Maybe i watch too many murder mysteries but Iād bail
Donāt lower your energy to be her fair weather friend. Itās not worth it!!! Silence is golden!!!
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