Is this bad talking?

So myself and my partner have been together for 8 years and we have a 4 year old together. Recently we’ve been arguing more. He doesn’t like communicating, and looks at it as arguing so this was a big step for him to say. He said he thinks whenever I talk to his mom and his sister so family just family about how I’m being treated by him he said it’s bad talking him. I only say it because it’s his family and they know him better and for advice on how to deal. Am I in the wrong for not understanding that I don’t think that’s bad talking since I talk to his family about it? And I guess this forum.

Get a marriage or family therapist and leave his family out of it.