Is this normal?

I have been with my bf for 10 years we have a 4 year old together. I work full time and do ALL the “women duties.” I am exhausted. Is it normal for your partner not to help and instead get annoyed when you ask for it? He goes out every chance he gets until 4am drinking and then sleeps until 3 or 4 the next day and then sometimes will go out again. I’m all for socialization but I feel taken advantage of. So I’m watching the tot and working from home majority of the time. I hardly ever go out maybe 1 time every 3 months, or have time for myself. Trying not to have a pity party constantly. Is this normal?