Walk away and enjoy your life x
To me it is cheating. Once that trust is broken you canāt get it back. Love is trust! If you donāt feel that anymore it will eat away at you eveyday.
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I know that feeling all to well, I still canāt get past the thought. And I sure as hell donāt trust him as much as I used to
Boots are made for walking, so start walking.
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Move on! Itāll hurt of coarse but itāll continue and hurt more later!!
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It is at least a LIE. Seek counseling
If he feels he has to hide it, (he obviously does) then he too knows he shouldnāt be doing it. Sorry but when extra folks ate added to. Relationship Iām out. Been there dome that. Without trust , you have nothing. Move on
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I had the exact same situation and Iād moved country away from my family for him. But after 10 years enough was enough. It was hard but I kicked him out and Iāve never felt better about myself. Iām content and peaceful and that to me is priceless. Good luck. Straighten your crown and move on xx
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Get rid of him. ā¦ 
You should have left along time ago
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So sorry for youā¦ been there, done it allā¦ the trust never comes back unfortunately. You might temporarily forget about itā¦ unlike me I forgave an ex plenty of times. It wasnāt until I though we was in a really good place (best weād ever been) that I found out he was up to his same shit (only this time wad the last time) Eventually youāll find the strength to leaveā¦ might not be today, tomorrow or even soonā¦ but you willā¦ 
Have some respect for yourself girl
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Itās still cheating! Once the trust is broken youāll always be wondering. If you donāt think you can get past it then itās times to end the relationship.
But if heās done it before heāll more than likely do it again xx
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Once the trust has gone then its time to move on it will be hard at first but you donāt want to go through this for the rest of your life, and the respect from him has gone for you too, you will find someone when you least expect it, that will treat you like your his queen xx
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U know ur husband better than anyone. Let him know u wonāt put up with that crap. Just dont make any drastic moves, especially if thereās a chance things can work out.
Iāve been with my husband 39 years, and no relationship is perfect. But here we areā¦
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You thought marrying him would make him change. You saw the signs before you married him and they made you feel uncomfortable but you accepted his lies. Cheating is defined by the person the wrong is being done to. If what he is doing makes you feel like he is cheating, then itās cheating. Do you want to stay with him and put up with it or leave?
My ex did this and I forgave him so many times. He never stopped and soon it changed to cheating in person. We broke up and I realized how weak I had been just being with him and I turned into an awful controlling person from it. Once the trust starts eating away, from personal experience, itās doesnāt really stop.
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If there is no trust the relationship is over
He is definitely cheating. Think about the wording of your vowsā¦ then leave.
If itās in your head, itās in your heart. Heās cheating
Cheating definitely, he should only have eyes for you, #getrid 
Itās your choice my dear itās so horrible having to go through to this. If you find something like that and he apologised then fair enough but it should be more than an apology. He should change his ways. If he starts making more of an effort to get your trust back in him then maybe itās something that you can hold on to. If he is still just saying sorry and going on about his day like itās no big deal then he clearly doesnāt care enough and you deserve better. Relationships are 50/50 but some days the are 80/20 people need to try harder when the other person is struggling. Good look my dear. I hope you end up having the happiest of lives xxxxx
If heās done it once he will do it again expecting you to forgive him all the time. Get rid. Donāt get why people need to cheat.
Also feel free to message me whoever you are.
The trust is gone and he destroyed the respect. If you stay, you have to forgive. Forgetting is difficult but you shouldnāt mention it if youāve decided to stay, that wonāt help. The messaging other women is his issue and not your fault. Maybe he needs to overcome somethingā¦
Definitely fuck him off the fact that he made the accounts just shows you what his intentions were
Heās a cheat, get rid.
Whether heās physically cheated or not, the intention to cheat is still there - thatās why heās messaging other women in the first place. That thought shouldnāt even cross his mind!
If heās sneaking round and hiding things from you then sorry but he knows what heās doing is wrong and yet heās still doing it.
Heāll fill you with the same bull to wriggle his way out āIām sorry, I love you, it wonāt happen againā blah blah blah. Oh but it will.
Get out of there.
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You need to check yourself
You donāt dictate what he can do because of how fragile or controlling you need to be
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Cheat too and youāll have nothing to worry about.
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You keep looking for something, youāll eventually find it. Problem is, when you find itā¦whatās your next move? What was the point in looking for something, without having a resolution or Plan B?? Now you stuck in a miserable relationship because you donāt wanna stayā¦but you donāt wanna leave either. & whatās worseā¦thereās no trust because you now know the truth. Just like the movie said, āYou canāt handle the truthā. Your thought you couldā¦but you obviously canāt. 
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This exact same thing happened to me, however, he only did it once and promised not to do it again so if hes done it more than once, Iād leave. However I know itās more difficult than that. I donāt believe āonce the trust is gone you should leaveā as there are more important things and believe me the trust can be re built, it just takes a lot of time 
It all depends on how he acts, e.g if heās secretive on his phone ect
Once youāve lost the trust thereās no going back. You might still love him, but sometimes love isnāt enough. Stay strong!
I have no worries if my fiance talked to other women on Facebook,I talk to other males but I would have a problem if he was hiding accounts from me cause thatās a red flag to me
If you canāt get past it, thatās an issue.
Not because youāre wrong! But because relationships cannot thrive without trust.
If you canāt trust him again? You need to be honest about that, and you two need to think about a divorce. Iām 100% about saving relationships and I donāt at all believe cheating has to be the end (though it absolutely can be. I just mean that relationships can thrive after it), but, it sounds like you two have tried, and youāre justā¦ Not okay with it. And thatās fine. But you need to be honest with him and then move forward from here.
Donāt stay if you canāt truly work over things and be happy. You tried, itās not workingā¦ Donāt hurt yourself further. <3
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Does matter what he did. If you feel cheated by him doing that than yes it is absolutely cheating. He has no regard to your feelings. Trust is easily given, easy to break, hard as hell to gain back. Go with your gut and heart. If you stay most importantly always protect your feelings and heart.
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Itās normal you canāt trust him anymore he needs to earn your trust back.
He is curious, ask him or do something for him
He is a no go cheating man. My question to you is what are you going to do about it?
That is cheating!! If he is giving someone the type of attention that only YOU should br recieving, then its cheating!!
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From a Christian perspective:
The Bible tells us just to look at someone else with lust in our hearts is adultery - so yes your husband doing that is considered cheating.
It may mean your husband is struggling with some sort of sex addiction or porn addiction which can move away from the internet t something more real should it keep on escelating.
It is really something both husband and wife should work on together, pray together and seek God together because this is a spiritual attack on your marriage and on your husband. The more you fill that gap with Jesus, the stronger your spirit gets and the less control your fleshly desires has over you.
It all starts with a choiceā¦
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I would say, see ya.
If the trust is gone, itāll never work.
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Leave now. Why wait. He has showed you where you stand with him. Leave now while you can. Before he breaks your heart even more. Donāt you think you deserve better?
If you feel disrespected, then you have every right to leave. Your feelings are always valid. I wouldāve left after I found those things but I understand the struggle. You have to respect yourself more than you love him or youāll just become a doormat.
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Ehhh if you have to hide it then itās no good. Especially when it comes to hidden accounts that exist for the simple fact that he wants to act single for random women. Red flag bright red.
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Thereās having conversations with the opposite sex, then thereās flirting, sexting, hiding your relationship, and everything else. Regular conversations are fine of course but he wouldnāt need to hide that.
Itās likely that if heās been having all these fake profiles, and talking to all these other women for all these years heās probably met with them too, at least some of them. Iām sure youāve told him over and over again how upsetting it is and how disrespected you feel, and yet he still does it? Telling you itās not cheating because itās virtual? Nah, if he canāt respect you enough to not do that stuff, and not respect you enough to call it what it is and actually stop then you will never be able to trust him. Trust is earned and heās given you no reason to trust him. It absolutely is cheating, and like I said itās very likely after all these years heās actually been with some of them in person. What you do about it is up to you. Stop listening to him, and listen to your gut. You already know.
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Personal opinion, men like that donāt change. They just find new ways to hide shit. Pleeeeease save your self, run.
If he is acting single / hitting on them than yes itās cheating .and because he feels like he did nothing wrong heās not going to stop ā¦will he follow through ?? If there is no trust in a relationship than there is no relationship ā¦you canāt live and be happy always having that eating away at you ā¦time to move on
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Once trust is broken itās nearly impossible to get it backā¦I personally couldnāt deal with that cause in my mind that is still cheating
Itās cheating and itās not a mistake, itās a choice. A mistake repeated isnāt a mistake at all.
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This is cheating and he isnāt going to stop because you keep forgiving and staying. Trust me. If you donāt use a deal breaker as an actual deal breaker, they will think it is just pushing a boundary. Get out now before you waste more time. It sucks and it hurts but that is the only way for you to be happy. Then you can find someone who actually loves you and wonāt do anything to jeopardize losing you.
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Itās definitely cheating and itās actually considered habitual cheating. Long story short, he wants to cheat and he will. Thatās why he does it. If he didnāt want to , he would go through all that to make fake social media accounts for the sole purpose to cheat.
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Coming from someone whoās husband did all those same things for over 4 years without me knowingā¦ heās cheating. It took me a long time to find out, maybe I was stupid. But he was doing all of those things and had a whole other relationship I didnāt know about or see any signs of.
Cheater, aināt never gonna change girl, trust me, leave
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No, leave now or kick him out.
For me this is cheating and it sounds like it is for you too. No one can define the boundaries of your relationship and what counts as cheating besides you.
Why would you even marry the man knowing he had issues with staying faithful? You set yourself up for failure
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I would have left the first time and never looked back, I doubt itās going to get any better.
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Cheat back 
. Yāall are too scared to do a bum dude the same way. Fuck that guys think weāre going to keep dealing with it. Naaa baby you gotta make him eat his shit too. Maybe then heāll stop. If not then let that man goooo
And remember all the crap he does has nothing to do with you, itās his own insecurities. Youāre too much of a woman for him
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LEAVE while you still have lots of life left to live
When trust is gone,nothing is left. You deserve to be cherished and the only one. Go now ,you will wonder what took you so long.
Honey. You know the answer. He is a cheater and you need to leave
He did it more than once, he WANTS to be singleā¦let himā¦dont waste your years on someone like that
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Itās cheating. If heās even thinking about anyone other than you, thereās a problem periodā¦no communication, no trust will lead you to hate everything about him. Also he may turn this into projection and blame you. I know itās hard but I just left an 11 year marriage because of control issues and cheating, my heart just couldnāt handle it anymore. We have 3 beautiful boys together and made an agreement that they come first. Now we are both in relationships and heās getting a taste of his own medicine. Trust me,. If you have an out, or can get him out, please do it for your peace of mind, stress can make you very sick and hurt you so much more than leaving.
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Itās up to how you define cheating and what youāre willing to put up with.
Divorce him, he is just using you!
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Councelor time if you care at all.
he is a cheat . get out asap
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What you allow is what will continue
To me, keeping these things a secret, is cheating. Would of left him the first time I found out.
It doesnt matter if other say its cheating or not, you set a boundary and he broke it
After that itās just āallowingā the situation to continue unfortunately
I didnāt read all but trust me they donāt change , move on you will thank your self later! Save yourself the hurt.
Definitely cheating. Heās going out of his way to be sneaky and make fake accounts and putting in the extra work to try and make sure you donāt see it, because he KNOWS itās wrong. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! words do not mean shit if their actions are showing otherwise.
From experience, if it were me, Iād end it now before you waste more time and energy. Itās not worth it
Not only is this person cheating on you, he is going so far out of his way to do it. He didnāt just meet someone at work or get too close to a friend or any of the many other run-in scenarios there are out there. He is literally actively making many accounts to find other people not only is he cheating he donāt give a fuk about you. This person is selfish uncaring does not think about you and Iām sorry to be harsh but I have been there and you do not want to keep wasting your time. Projecting Your Love onto them. Because they donāt feel what you feel.
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Thatās definitely cheating. Heās creating all the opportunities needed. His intent is to sleep with other women. Thatās the bottom line.
Doesnāt matter if you canāt trust thereās no point. But yes emotionally cheating is still cheating
Doll. He aināt the one. #redflagseverywhere
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If youāre secretly talking to other women and have to hide it behind fake accounts itās CHEATING. Get outta there while you can.
Itās absolutely emotional cheating. Heās lying and living a double life, and hurting you. Not cool.
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In my experience , people that do that donāt change. They just get better at not being caught.
I would attempt a short counseling term. Usually when the trust is gone, it doesnāt ever return fully. You just always wonderā¦Ive found once a cheaterā¦always a cheater. They just get sneekier. I refuse to live that way. Did for awhileā¦you knowā¦for the kids. That was a bs excuse. It truly hurt them more than help. A short counseling session for you to get YOUR HEAD STRAIT THEN go if you ever even once find him cheating again. Texting is cheating! Donāt waste too much time on a loser cheater like I did!
Why are you enabling him? He is a liar. Change yourself,not him.
Yes same as cheating
Leave. Thatās not love. And itās disrespectful.
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Leave him!! He doesnāt respect you if heās going out of his way to do it. I wouldnāt trust them after this and would have to walk away you deserve better
If he isnāt physically cheating, he is mentally cheating. And if your trust cannot be rebuilt then I think that tells you everything you need to know. You canāt live your life this way forever
Iād stayā¦you wonāt get better than him, and youād be worthless without him
He may aswell cheat , nothing worse than knowing he gets off using other women , you deserve better than that , you deserve to be the woman recieving his messages , do yourself a favour be happy just walk away , the trust is gone it wonāt never come back , wish you luck and send you love , step out gain your happiness back 
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If the trust cannot be rebuilt then its time to move on. Hiding stuff is dishonest so he knows you donāt approve. You wouldnāt act like he is and if u did your husband wouldnāt accept it. Sooner or later the thrill of secret texting wonāt be enuff so deal with it now
The trust will never come back. Sounds like heās had too many chances ready. If thereās no trust then thereās no relationship. Let him go. You donāt need someone who is going to constantly make you worry
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These kinda men need stringing up by the balls 
I mean you have the proof. Just go and do you Hun. why would you stay?!
Leave. Just leave. Heāll never stop.
Ask urself
If u did the same would he still be there?
& thereās ur answer.
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