I need to vent. Husband & I are separated. He came by this morning to get some of his stuff. Everything was fine until I brought up not upsetting our daughter. When he came the other day, he got all over her because she changed her mind about going with him (we don’t have a court order yet). He called her a liar & told her how upset & mad he was at her. I told him today he can’t talk to her like that. He flipped out yelling at me about how bad he was treated, I don’t take care of the house or kids, etc. He hasn’t given me any money to help with the kids. He told me he doesn’t need to help. Today he said I get assistance & it doesn’t seem like I’m struggling. Sorry for the rant just needed to vent.
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If you don’t have an attorney yet, get one immediately
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Just make sure you document everything, even without a court order. It may come in handy later. Good luck!
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Immediately file for custody, visitation and child support.
Then, gather ALL of his things for him to take, so that he has no excuse for dropping in and upsetting everyone.
Keep communication strictly about the children and divorce and document everything.
Trust me, you’ll have a lot more peace this way.
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Get a therapist instead of dumping your trauma on others. Others are struggling and consuming more trauma doesn’t help. Go to someone who can help you
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For child assistance you can pay a fee to file your papers with the court. Once filed, they handle everything. You should be aware of child custody laws. Partners are eligible for 50% custody and this frees them from paying. You really need to talk to someone in the know. You need to know your rights. Try getting some comments on your phone for future reference if he is verbally abusing you or the children.
.how old are your children? It’s not their fault. He shouldn’t make them feel guilty or upset. He is going to mess them up emotionally.
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Absolutely not immature behaviour he’s not validating his own child feelings
I would go to court
Are they not his kids that she is getting assistance? I think it’s good to hear both sides of the story and the whole story before I respond.
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Petition for legal separation, full custody & child support. Leave it up to him to petition for visitation. Don’t send your daughter with him until there’s a court order. You didn’t mention her age. You may want to get a guardian lad litem for her.
Ew he sounds just like my ex…even with a court order he doesn’t pay. Just a loser. Keep all of this for court.
He’s not going to make this easy right now. He’s deff bitter still. Deff go through the courts.
Understand why you’ve separated! What an ass! Sorry you and the kids are having to deal with all that.