Masterbation in marriage:
My husband gets home from work several hours before me each day. I’ve developed this insecurity of him watching porn and masterbating while I’m not home… I know it’s a natural thing and even can be good for a relationship… However it just makes me uneasy and makes my heart race thinking about it. I do have past trauma that has caused this insecurity… I masterbate from time to time even, and sometimes watch porn. I know it’s just a momentary thing and I’m not wanting it to replace my husband. We have a pretty healthy sex life. I’m just sick of feeling uneasy about it when I know it’s probably not a big deal. We have talked about it and he knows my feelings, it’s not that I need or expect him to stop, I just want other perspective or ideas of how to make it not bother me so much. We have an amazing marriage and he’s an awesome guy. How can I change my way of thinking so that this doesn’t have to cross my mind whenever I’m not home with him?