My mom didn’t care 
it’s just weed, all I was gonna do is sit and watch dumb ass YouTube videos and eat chips anyway
Weed is no big deal. It’s becoming legal in places. Just tell him to be smart about it. He could be smoking meth or drinking
I am PROBABLY telling the other parents, explaining to my child why he is too young to partake in drugs. Tell him if when he turns 18 he wants to try we can do it together. If he goes behind my back than stricto tricto comes in. I cant imagine him trying to go against me and his father but my kids are babies idk what i would do in the moment
Tell him you know that he is going to do what he is going to do, and that he does not have your permission to smoke weed and if he chooses to smoke weed and you catch him. there will be consequences, next time you catch him to follow through with the consequence you promised, like lose a privilege that means a lot cost money chores screen time ect. Give him enough rope to hang himself and the power to make the right decision on his own after educating him to the dangers of smoking weed before his brain is developed and that you have to power to make serious consequences for him.
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I’d be happy it’s just weed they’re doing. The worse drugs out there n younger younger they are trying drugs. Yes is 13 but like I said be glad not alcohol or heroine, crack etc…. I have a 19 & 20 yr old and I have Always told them “ if u feel the need to try ANYTHING alcohol or drug it better be weed they try it I’ll kick their ass’s!!! I was by my best friends dude for 10 yrs while she dealt with a Junkie son Ik they effect of hard drugs vs weed. Weed is minimal issue .
It’s literally medicine. Some of these comments.
most places it’s legal medically. Biden is looking to federally legalize it. However he is super young. My parents smoked (hippy and nam vet) I started at 13 too. No my parents didn’t condone it.I’m 32 and I still smoke everyday. And I’m a function member of society. It’s better than being on the mind numbing medicine the doctor wants me on. It takes money from big Pharma and the only reason it was even made illegal in the first place. But maybe wait till 16 depending on maturity level. It’s really a life saving drug for many many people.
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Why are people saying he’s fine?
If people want to smoke weed that’s fine but not at 13. At such a young age it WILL impact him in numerous ways.
I would respect the fact he told you and use that. I would sit him down and have an adult conversation with him about the implications, possible side effects etc etc
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My daughter 13 and called me to come pick her up at a friends after school.I got there and she was white as a ghost and told me she had smoked pot.I could see she was not feeling well and scared.I just took her home and said it will be ok.I AM HAPPY SHE CALLED ME
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Well first things first…do you get high or drink alcohol?
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It’s the same rule of thumb as alcohol. 13 is too young.
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I don’t understand why a loving parent would encourage a kid to get high. He is a kid! Who is going to provide it to him if he wants to often? Talk to him nicely. If the mother doesn’t step up for her children I don’t know who would.
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I wouldn’t flip but sure it’s a worry. If he’s not getting into other stuff like crime keep talking and be open and honest with each other. Share future concerns and ideas to stay out of crime and how to deal with his use of this recreational smoke. Continue to find out what has worked for other parents. He may just be curious like we all were and move on. Good luck.
Basically if youd give your son a beer then that’s worse. Weed is medicinal. The stigma attached is unreal and this mum doesnt know of the benefits. Just tell him to be careful not to do it too much and not at school or anything.
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As a mother my best advise is to tell him if smoking is something he enjoys doing to wait until he is older. I understand that smoking is far safer than alcohol and definitely hard drugs!! But at the end of the day do you really want your child smoking anything ? Be glad you raised a honest kid! As far as weed being medical unless you have a medical condition what are you treating? Why take an aspirin if you don’t have a headache?
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His brain is still developing, weed isn’t going to be helping him, it will become an addiction and will get worse. Seek help for him, remove him from where he gets it from. I know it sounds harsh and I am pro weed but at 13 he’s too young. Glad that he’s open to you about it as others wouldn’t be. Hope you receive the help z
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Um,13 years old. I would make sure he didn’t hang out with those boys
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He needs new friends
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13?? Heck no…(just my opinion…nobody come at me) it is still illegal here…my son would be in super trouble with me, and not going to that house ever again and those other kids wouldn’t be allowed at mine…
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He is 13 too young to regularly smoke anything. Tell him now that he has tried it and knows what it’s about you don’t want him doing it continuously. He needs to wait until he is 18. And if he chooses to use it again there will be repercussions. Tell him you know the signs and you’ll be looking for them?
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Explain the dangers of smoking and that he’s simply too young. I would tell the other children’s parents too.
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I don’t understand how it’s good for your health, didn’t bob Marley don’t die from cancer
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Have him research drug laced… impaired driving… with you. Does anyone in your family have any addictions? No one expects it to happen to them or anyone they know. I tell my boys all the time, addiction is in your family. You don’t know how your body/mind will respond. It could be 1st, 2nd, or 22nd time. Then your body may not react the same as it did the 1st… 22nd time, and your mind/body will look for other ways to get that feeling. I try not to say you… because I feel like you can control everything. Using your body, makes it something else responsible, they can’t control.
Sit down with him and both do the research of pros and cons of smoking weed. What affects it has on his lungs, etc. See if there are other things to help him that he may want to try such as diet changes since lots of foods have toxins that may contribute to certain issues like ADD, ADHD, Anxiety, etc. Knowledge is power.
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I was 13 when I started. It is the average smoking age. I dont think it’s as big of a problem as cigarettes or alcohol. As long as they know not to drive under the influence when old enough. I know some parents that allow it as long as their children do it in the comfort of their own home instead of out with bad influences that will talk them in to doing more than just an herb.
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If he smoking because he stressed or he needs to relax other ways to go about it he doesn’t have to smoke THC cbd also helps I would consider asking him to do alternative because nobody wants to child to be smoking weed at 14
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You aren’t going to get a good answer here…too many of the pot lobby around who can’t have bad press get out during their quest to make pot legal everywhere…they are more concerned with THEIR agenda than your child.
Treat pot just as you would if your kid came stumbling out of school at 13 drunk….be parent and lead them into making responsible decisions….
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Talk to him. Express your concerns, tell him how you feel about it and let him do what he’s going to do. Let him know you’re not supporting the habit or advocating for him to do it, make it clear that it can impair his motor skills. Talk to him about the dangers of driving high, basically make him clear and aware of any consequences when it comes to the law. I personally would ground my child, I wouldn’t keep them away from their friends though. And I agree, telling him not to won’t make him stop but trying to force the issue won’t help either.
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I would ask why? Because some people smoke it to feel normal and focus. Some smoke to help them sleep. At least he was honest with you. You guys need to sit down and talk because since y’all are close if you out right demand him to stop and get mad. He’s going to feel like he can never go to you again. I would try to have some type of compromise with him because weed isn’t that bad, but you are his mother. So it is completely up to you, but you’re right he will try to smoke it behind your back and for me. I rather know my son is doing it and be ok and know he can call me if something happens. Rather him not tell me and I don’t know where he’s at or what he’s doing.
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I started smoking weed when I was 13. I’m 30 now. Granted I had some problems growing up along the way, but I maintain to this day that marijuana did far more good for me then bad during those years. I know everyone will have different viewpoints on this and everyone’s child is individual and different circumstances. Just chiming in to say it’s not the worst, and that’s awesome he can communicate with you!
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I’m in a legal state and I’m also a cannabis educator. Get educated and get him a medical card. It’s super beneficial. I have a son with autism and ADHD that is now a amazing student and is involved in sports. He also attend Vo- tech. My oldest has myoclonic dystonia. He has had 3 DBS surgeries and cannabis has been the best medicine to control his seizures. I can send you some link for books if you’d like. If you’re going to let him medicated he might as well do it properly.
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I don’t understand the mentality that a lot of people seem to have - “well at least he isn’t doing” or “it is not as bad as”. This thought process makes no sense to me at all. I cannot justify something my child is doing wrong by saying that they could be doing something worse. That being said, I think it really does depend on your standing when it comes to weed. I don’t believe that my 13 year old should be drinking, getting high, smoking cigarettes, doing crack, popping pills or anything like that and I have always been very clear on that. So my response would be that his actions are against my rules so therefore there is punishment/consequences. Additionally, although I am very proud of a child who is honest, honesty will help with my trusting him again, but it is not going to nullify the consequences. You don’t get to intentionally break the rules and then get away with it just because you were honest when asked about it. I have raised all 4 of my kids (ages between 29 and 13) with this same mentality.
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Just have a talk with him and let him know that he needs to be honest with you about when and we’re he does it so you can make sure there is nothing else going on and he is safe ! If his grades start to drop then I would make a big deal out of it but for now just make sure he is being smart about it !
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I am a smoker and so is my brother. We both have kids and my brother has ALWAYS been very open with his kids and leaves his smoke around and I didn’t do that I put it away only smoked when she was asleep … However when she found out I did smoke I was honest with her and told her WHEN she wanted to smoke (if she ever did) the only thing I ask is she come to me and I would get her what she needed and I wouldn’t judge. Well she came to me her freshman year and told me she wanted to smoke , so with her being true to her word I was true to my word and got her her first joint. She is now a sophomore and will smoke once in awhile but not as much as her friends. And whenever she does she will tell me. My brother thinks I was to open with her and shouldn’t have let her smoke:woman_shrugging:t4: but I figured I’d much rather her come to me and I get her what I know is clean and good and us be open about it then her hiding it behind my back and getting something laced (it does happen) and me not know what’s going on 
. As long as her grades stay up and she doesn’t get in trouble at school or anywhere else, earns the money to buy it , then I’ll let her keep doing it.
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You are his parent not his friend.
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Better for him to be at home then out run I around
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I would just tell him your concerns and how it makes you feel. Make sure he knows your not going to tell him no but so that he knows how it affects you and your family. And to just be smart about it. Kids are going to do what they want but sometimes knowing how it affects their loved ones they think twice about it.
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I started at 14. Still smoke every day. I was in a bad car wreck when pregnant at 16, broke half my body and had to relearn to walk while 8 months pregnant lol. I became addicted to my pain pills. At 17 walked around with 100s of narcotics. No one batted an eye, and that I still don’t understand. I became addicted to heroin not long after my surgeon stopped handing out scripts. I went to prison and rehabs. And now the only thing I do is smoke weed. I have major ptsd from my ex hurting me, very abusive relationship, where I was first introduced to drugs. I truly had NO idea what that stuff was. I was 21 when I found out what heroin was. Make sure you stay open. And don’t turn away when they need you. It’s okay to be against what they’re doing but there’s a reason he’s doing it which may just be that his friends were. And that’s scary to think of what could come of it. But as long as you are open and trusting he should be able to come to you when those days come.
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Pastor Jentezen Franklin said in one of his sermons: “In todays life, im not scared to raise my kids. Because if u put enough blood of Jesus over their lives, NO HELL CAN KEEP THEM”. Pray mommie, pray unstoppable for your child. Call ur sons soul to obedience to God in prayer. Command the devil to leave ur house and loved ones. Let ur son do what he does, and you do what God wants u to do. PRAY. In no time, ur son himself will see that whatever he is doing, is not for him. Because God will step in and God will change ur circumstances. Pray mommy, pray, non stop
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You have a bigger problem already if your kid values pot more than he values his relationship with YOU his parent….if he would just go behind your back as you say.
A very important point in his life to learn the difference between decisions and priorities and respect.
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I started at 13 because it was the only thing that helped me relax and de-stress I was bullied alot and severely depressed and it helped it still helps to this day and I’m almost 30… ask whats up and don’t just immediately jump on him there could be something wrong or he just wants to fit in with his friends.
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Honestly this is how I see it and other people may not like this… but as you said if you get mad he’s just gonna do it behind your back anyways and that’s not any better. If you’re aware he’s smoking, at least tell him that you want to know where he’s going to be and with who, let him know if anything goes wrong you’re there and you’ll go get him. I think it’s way better for you to be open with him so he can be open with you in return so you always know he’s safe. Getting mad only makes your child feel like they can’t talk to you about it which can end up being dangerous if anything goes wrong.
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Well I’m a cannabis advocate so We have talked many times about weed and it’s benifits, but also about their developing brains. They know I would prefer that they wait till they are legal adults.
Weed may not be that bad but Kids should not be using anything that alters the mind.
If they have a medical reasons, we would look into better options for them then smoking.
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Pots not so bad…rather mine smoke weed than cig or drink…fingers crossed they do none of em but
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My husband and I allow my son to smoke it every now and then, but my husband is to be present. Cause I hate the smell of it 
but my son has ADHD. It helps him relax and calm tf down 
it’s not a laughing matter but it’ is to me. Cause if you knew my son, you’d know what I mean. My 13 year old is literally hyper from sun up to son down. And he can’t help it. We opt him out from taking prescriptions for it, we decided to try another approach. He’s been smoking for months now. I’m a everyday cigarette smoker. His dads a drinker… But he calls us kalakas (gross) for doing it:joy: that’s how I know I can trust my son to NOT do any of that. It’s all about trusting your kids to make good decisions.
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Children should not smoke weed, I wish peoples parents cared more about the long term affects of smoking weed while young. Once you’re older go for it, I am 420 friendly but not as a child.
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Whatever you do make sure you are respectful and gentle or else you will just push them away. There are people that give their kids ADHD medication starting in preschool. He will be OK
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there are to much drugs out there now. just becareful. that it could go further. an you don’t want to see your child go through that… why does kids have to relax now. for what
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Fact of matter he is going to do it behind yr back…let him know you dont agree or condone it and you dont want to be picking him up high…however…you would definitely want to know verses not…and theres way worse things he could be doing…
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I don’t personally think weed is a big deal. As long as he is being responsible with it and not driving on it, attending to priorities and such. One thing I do recommend is although I do not believe weed is a gateway drug I do believe that kids may try other drugs thinking it’s no big deal like weed. Also if there is any type of mental health or addiction that runs is your family it’s important to speak to him about that so he knows he needs to be careful cuz all it takes is one time especially in the events of a brain that has already been dispositions because of addiction . I say this because I am a recover addict and addiction runs in my family and I thjnk it’s super important to share with our kids so they are aware. I don’t mean to share too much I just wanted to explain so you knew what I was talking about. I think it’s really awesome you have a good relationship with your child and they can be honest without fear of judgment. It’s great you’re reaching out for advice. Take care!! Hugs to you mama!!
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Smoking isn’t bad, it’s alcohol that’s the gateway you need to worry about to be honest. I started when I was 12!!! And I have 3 college degrees. It’s becoming legal everywhere. Constantly be open with him, ask why, make sure you tell him not be stupid and be driving around in cars or in public. Or with stupid “flashy, loud mouth friends” they aren’t the ones. But if it’s for his mental and emotional health then, okay, he’s doing self help, and ask if he also wants to go to therapy or wants to do CBD instead. There’s options. But, to be like weed is bad, you’re gonna lose him period. And then you’ll lose him to LITERALLY ALL THE DRUGS AND ALCOHOL. and I’m in my 30’s and have buried my best friend on 20+ years and many others for the same thing. Trust me on this.
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Why is he smoking it and how often? Does he say he just likes it or it helps with some issue he has? How do you feel about it? Who is he getting it from? Definitely needs to be someone you know and trust so he doesn’t end with something laced with anything else.
You both need to have an honest conversation about it and when it’s not ok to just be high(like school etc) Being responsible is major.
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First of all, YOU dont panic. I would…because I never tried it myself. But YOU dont panic. Second, find out how much or how often he is smoking. Third, get the medical FACTS, good and bad, then present it to him in a calm, frank discussion. Explain the consequences. Tell him how that could lead to him wanting stronger drugs because the time will come when he cant smoke enough pot to get high. Show him GRAPHIC pictures of kids who have been picking their faces, kids in a morgue, kids in a coffin. Appeal to his teenage conceited good looks…he would rather have the hot girls than the hot joint. Lastly, pray. You are doing all that you can do…so PRAY…and I am going to pray with you!
Find out why…. And tell him he needs something to look forward to when he’s older and don’t ruin it all now…. Preferably til he’s 20 and brain has developed
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My son and I watched a lot of videos on YouTube about pot rot. I tried to explain to him what that is as an adult person and how it happens at that age from smoking too much weed. It charges your brain and how it develops. Your learning is so severely capacitated and in Early adulthood and now you turn into an adult that constantly has the pot rot and everybody knows it.
At home drug tests, no yelling or arguing, possibly therapy. Get him into activities to find new friends. I started smoking everyday at about 13 and find it extremely hard to quit now at almost 30. Even though its not as bad as alcohol it is still a drug and shouldn’t be used at such a young age.
My son did smoke marijuana from age 14-17 I always talked to him about me not feeling confortable him doing it at his young age, he has depression and anxiety and talked to his therapist and she agreed with me that it wasn’t a good choice. He continued to do it and I continue to talked to him that it would be nice if he can at least wait until he was at a legal age to do it. One day he told me I know it would mean a lot for you if I quit, I will but can’t promise you for how long . No his 18 going on 19 working and hasn’t smoked weed. Maybe he will one day I just hope he will be mature enough to do it in a responsible way. There is hope trust me.
I was young when I started. I’ve always been open with my kids about me doing it and they know all about it. My parents didn’t approve and that never stopped me and did put a dent in the relationships. I have a 15 year old son and he’s never smoked or asked too. but I’m hoping if he does one day he’ll come to me. 13 is a little young but kids mature a lot faster now a days. Id have to set rules about school work and stuff if he’s going to be smoking. But in the end you are his parent and not us 
It’s their body. Teach em the consequences. The effects. But no one dies from marijuana. The legalalese in your area . But accept that ultimately they will do what they want .
I would talk about the why? Address that it is illegal for a 13 yr old to smoke. Get videos on the effects of smoking on brain and lungs.
Personally I don’t care if someone else’s kid wants to smoke pot but if it was my kid he’d have a foot in his ass I started “only” smoking pot as a teen then it was only pot and alcohol then it was only pot,alcohol,and cocaine once I got in too much trouble I figured ahh what the hell it’s only Vicodin before I knew it I was “only” shooting speed balls of haroin an crack
Lost everything I ever loved including myself for a very long time and I’m one of the few lucky ones that lived to tell it next month will make 6 yrs clean for me good luck to your children
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Be glad he was honest with you and ask him to just smoke at home where you can know what he’s doing…it will open up more communication than you will have otherwise 
He’s going to do it anyway…you might as well control the situation 
Its a hard situation because no one wants there kid smoking weed at 13 but at the same time his only going to find a way to do it behind your back so either way its a loose loose situation 
Let him beware that if for some reason they suspect him high they will drug test him and place him in a boy’s camp or foster home I mean that’s what they do here n my state. Um, don’t let him around them so called friends he could be just doing it to fit in with the crew of COOL KIDS I’d really have a sit down convos with him since he’s very comfortable talking to you about anything. Let him know it would destroy you if he gotten taken away from you over smoking weed ect
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I’m glad he was honest with you about it. Hopefully he won’t take it to next level. You can’t overdose on weed.
If you come down heavy handed laying the law down, he will just retaliate, talk and relay your concerns to him, I would take cannabis over alcohol any day
I’d be more curious how they are getting it/paying for it? Is it legal where you are? Since he open about talking to you, explain the pro and con of smoking
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Don’t make a bigger deal out of it than it is. It’s just weed, tell him the truth. He could get in big big trouble if it’s illegal in your area and he’s underage. Good luck.
Like everyone else has said, I would start off by asking him why he is smoking and go from here. I was introduced to anyone that smoked until I was around 16, so I have no experience with smoking at a young age. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with smoking, if you are old enough to be doing so or have a medical card. I dont think a kid should be smoking that young but it all depends on why he is doing it.
Probably all you can do is try to bore him to death with educational videos or health classes to deter him.Tell him smoking it will damage his lungs and buying it can get him sent to jail
When my youngest was that age, he started dabbling in it with his buddy. He is 19 now and still very close with his buddy and buddies family. My son does it all of the time with them. I don’t condone it at all but at least he isn’t doing anything harder which he has (happened a few years ago). My son has a lot of mental issues but he is one smart cookie though. All I can do is tell my son I don’t like it and to not do that crap around me. The only way I would agree to that is for medical reasons not leisurely.
I would start by calmly telling him that you appreciate his honesty and reminding him that you are always a safe place for him to come and talk.
Keeping calm in a situation like this where you want to freak is vital in establishing a safe refuge for your child. Sounds like you both have good communication already. 
I would simply ask him why he does it and how it started. So many teens at that age experience stress and peer pressure so it may be a way for him to relax and feel less stressed or it may be a way to bond with his friends. Ask him how it makes him feel and then be sure to let him know how it makes you feel. Next, depending on his responses, see if the two of you can come up with an alternative creative outlet. For example, if he smokes because he feels stress and pressure, discover an alternative or two that will help him relieve stress.
Finally, you are right about one thing. He will do it regardless, if he really wants to. Ask him directly if he plans to continue to smoke. Think about how you will feel if he says yes. What will you do if he chooses to continue? As a developing young adult, he’s moving experimentally into his own free will. What it boils down to is what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not. Are you willing to allow him to figure it out on his own with minimal intervention? Will you institute rules and consequences? Ultimatums? Perhaps a youth drug program? None of these are necessarily right or wrong. The decisions are entirely up to you. Just remember to make sure that your son knows that whatever action you choose comes from a place of genuine love and concern for his well-being, which, as it sounds, comes naturally for the two of you. Good luck, mama. 
A not known fact is that even mild use can trigger the onset of mental illnesses if there is the genetic predisposition for things like schizophrenia. Make sure you are honest about how you feel and tell him that you do not want this to cause him to try to hide things from you. Tell him about the side effects of loss of motivation and problems to watch for with friends. Like when are the friends using are they doing it socially because they are just with their friends or are any of them using it to cope with problems in their lives. Using It to cope is a problem because when it no longer helps them cope they move on to harder stuff.
As a parent who smokes finding out my son at age 12 was on a acid trip and smoking pot. The way I see it is. I would rather my kids come to me with Curiosity about a drug. And be under my supervision. THAT DOES NOT MEAN MY KIDS ARE DOING HARD CORE DRUGS UNDER MY ROOF. If it’s pot ok but I’m sorry me getting my kid pot or smoking at my home is WAY BETTER THERE GOD KNOW WERE AND WITH WHO!!! And I have learned some times you have to be their “friend/parent” their safety is what’s important. And with most young kids it’s something they will try and get burnt out or grow out of it before too long. And Pots going to be legal. A little herd never hurt no body.
I think reaching for weed to feel relaxed is better than reaching for the bottle . I have a 16 year old and she knows that I won’t freak out too much but so far I don’t think she has smoked .
My son is asd/adhd and after the death of my niece (his best friend) by suicide at 13 he spiralled out of control. He experimented with some
Pretty awful things and had an extremely rough couple of years. It was terrifying.
I had stopped medicating him around a year before this happened as he was getting home schooled and really never left the house.
One day my partner forced him out and off the Xbox and it was literally that day he first tried weed!
Being high risk he of course took a liking too it, it was just unfortunate of the tragic loss he was grieving and the naivety if him that it lead to other things.
I was very lucky that my son was open with me and I knew everything he was doing, sometimes after the fact &
Little did he know when I knew where he was I was often anonymously sending police there in a bid to get him home and off it all but he needed to just fall a bit before he was ready to get backup and luckily he did.
I always said never will I let my kids do it ect but most are going to try at some point, the only difference will be whether your child trusts you enough to tell you and your son does.
I have told my son who’s now only 17 (this all happened 14-16) that I understand weed makes him feel calm and focused so I get it, I don’t really like it, or agree with it but i understand it.
You could look into CBD oil if you don’t think this is just a faze and he actually likes how weed makes him feel? Would need to be THC though
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Educate him about marijuana. The good, the bad and the ugly. That is the only thing you can do. He’s a teenager. Teenagers will do what they want to do. Even if you are against it, they’ll do it, and lie. Freaking on him would just turn him against you and he’ll pull away. Educate, best thing to do. Talk to him about it, even send him articles about overdoses because of laced marijuana. Marijuana use as a teen can be a trigger for schizophrenia. Marijuana use can be a gateway drug to other more harmful drugs. …
Smoking weed is not bad for them. I would just not like it if they do other harmful drugs. They gonna smoke it behind ur back if not allowed to.
Tell him the negatives about smoking weed. Nothing but truth. Do not forbid him doing it. Let him learn on his own. I would guess every kid these days will at least try it. With your help and love, hopefully he won’t continue too long.
Educate your son about Marijuana safety. Risks of getting bad weed mixed with other drugs. I don’t believe weed is a gateway drug. It’s all natural and not addictive. Make sure his weed supplier is giving them good clean, old fashioned weed. Educate him to never carry it on his person or to buy large quantities. If he plays sports, he can be subjected to random drug tests and become ineligible for sports and work. There are worse things he could be doing. My son is 17 and has always been honest about sex and smoking weed. It’s very common now! Decide what’s right for you and your son. Make rules, provide guidance, and make expectations clear.
Be careful, you could end up with him inviting friends over and that could end up great or a pissed off situation with a friends family. Is it legal in your state?
I was heavily bullied at 13 and wish I would have smoked because it probably would have helped my depression and maybe not made me want to die every day. Since he’s open and honest with you and yall have a good relationship, ask him why he feels the need to smoke. The true reason why. I would MUCH rather my kids be smoking weed at 13 than doing heroin or meth. But there’s always a reason why. Honestly if it didn’t completely knock me out every time I smoked I would be a daily smoker now too.
Firstly congratulations about his honesty!!! Lots would just lie so you are lucky to have that honesty. Main thing is talk to him about becoming addicted some say it’s hard to break the habit!!!Also he is only 13 and you need money to get this so explain to him the waste of money. Also he is to young to truly understand so you will have to talk about it and how it can ruin lives!! I am not an expert but have seen a lot of people over time let it control them. Wishing you luck with this and thank goodness you can talk to him and get an honest answer!! 
I started smoking at 12.
Straight A student and excelled in extra activities.
My dad’s famous quote when I talked to him about it.
“If the worst thing you ever do was smoke pot, then I’ll go down in the hall of fame as a great parent.”
Just be open about it. Educate about proper times, the risk of laced weed, what you can or cannot do while smoking, is it a social thing? Or is it to help with anxiety, depression, stress etc. Ask him how it makes him feel. If he likes that feeling. If this was the first time or has he been doing it. Talk to him about the dangers of being under the influence in certain situations. Etc.
If you tell him to just stop. I can almost guarantee he won’t. He will just stop telling you.
Rule in my house growing up was you asked. Get educated and if you want to try it (for certain things like alcohol and weed, mushrooms etc. Nothing hardcore) you tried it at home.
I don’t smoke anymore. It was always for medical reasons or social. Never became a daily smoker. I don’t drink. There is a long line of alcoholism in my family and I have medical problems and it’s not worth the risk. Education is key. He’s at that age he wants to start making his own choices. Teach him to make educated ones.
Probably felt they can’t talk about it because they gonna have a negative reaction. Just be calm and talk. Do not threaten or they really will retaliate.
Personally, I’d talk to him about safe smoking…
Making sure he knows where it’s come from, who rolled it ect
Like you say, if you make it a major issue, he may just stop telling you x
you need to be real. no scare. i would say i don’t like seeing you high at your age because i think you shoud be learning-smoking pot interferes with the learning process of a brain that is still forming-it’s not permanent, but for now you are supposed to be focused on your studies, so please don’t let me see this again-it upsets me. also -no matter what you do in life if what you do is somehow keeping you from your responsibilities to family and yourself you should stop. that goes for anything, drugs, alcohol, sex, food, tobacco, sugar-anything. this is what we said to our own kids. you are responsible for you-you know when you are screwing up-just say no-to yourself.
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Start drug testing him every week. Take things away if it’s +. Phone, car, items from room. He is 13!! Do it now.
There’s a reason he’s doing it wether it be because his friends are doing it or either y’all aren’t as close as you thought y’all were and he’s using to numb or not feel something.
I started when i was 16 but i rather have my kids do that then anything else
replace it with oregano and smoke his stash. everytime i find it i repeat the process 
Nothing. He’s gonna do it no matter what you say or do. Mine are grown and been smoking it since then
My parents found out at 16 and it helps my anxiety im.now 28 and still smoke
The pot of today is totally different then the pot of the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s. That was real weed grown from seeds. More then 98% of the weed out there today is synthetic. And the amount of THC in this weed varies by the different types and for what it is being used for.
At 13 a child is still growing from brain to toes. Smoking pot at this age can have very harmful effects to the brain, especially this synthetic weed. It can stop brain development and can cause mental problems. I had a friend on junior high in the 70’ s that smoked pot and it made him very suicidal.
Please look after your child and get him off the pot
Yes talk to him communicate without getting mad… see what hes usuing it for?
Tbh it doesn’t really matter if you tell him not to do it he’s going to do it like you said and go behind your back. I mean he basically did that already and just got caught.
I will say smoking weed can be deeper than just getting “high” but as a parent and adults that don’t smoke see it like they’re using crack.
So one it’s not the end of the world but explain the consequences behind smoking weed and the long term effects on his mental state.
He’s probably going through some things or he just enjoys the carefree sensation lol
My biggest concerns:
1.) when you smoke weed often you can sometimes process things slower because you don’t care to think as hard about it but everyone is different
2.) When you enjoy smoking weed it’s hard to get a decent job if you have to always worry about a drug test or having to get someone’s urine
3.) pot head friends tend not to be friends at all, in fact the biggest thing they have in common is they smoke weed.
4.) last being high and operating in public can be stress inducing and getting caught with any weed whether driving or smoking with friends can mean jail time.
5.) ask him how long he’s been smoking and for him to be honest with you. If he just started you may be able to get him to stop early but those friends are going to have to go or he has to learn self control to not smoke with them especially with peer pressure.
If he’s been at it for a while it’s going to be a little harder for him to give it up, because it’s possible it has become a habit. It would be up to him to decide for himself then whether he wants to stop.
Ex-pot head here lol
Ask him who his supplier is?
Waaayyy too young…drug test him and keep him away from those friends.
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Cool…he told you…you’re winning…if he felt comfortable enough to try it then he should be able to have a conversation about it…tell him that his brain is still developing and he might want to rethink it…tell him to keep his shit together because ultimately he’s in charge of the vessel…if you freak out on him it won’t help.
To add: I’d take my kid smoking weed over drinking booze any day of the week!!! Alcohol is the devil.
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As long as he Is safe who cares. He could be doing worse things