Buy it for him so you know where it’s coming from and that he’s safe 
Ask him why he’s smoking cannabis.
Cannabis is medicine.
So if he’s using cannabis for anxiety, depression, pain, overwhelmed, school stress, effects from COVID stress, going back to school nerves…etc… He may need a medical cannabis card in your state to manage his issues.
One thing I do know is cannabis is a safer effective, healthier medicine than any Pharmaceutical drug.
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When I found out about my daughter smoking, at first I lectured her. Then we sat down and talked. She told me that it helps her with her depression and anxiety and she doesn’t want to get hooked on any type of medication. I explained to her that nowadays, you can’t just get it from anyone. You have to be extremely careful because it isn’t like it used to be when we were growing up. While weed in itself isn’t necessarily dangerous(except I’m allergic 
), the awful things that these scumbags are putting in it can be. You can never be too careful. I explained to her that she isn’t allowed to smoke with just any of her friends, especially “new” friends. Honestly, since we talked and she knows that I know and I didn’t ground her for life, she doesn’t want to do it as much. I think a lot of it really had to do with getting away with something and me not knowing. 
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Talk to him asked him why he did it and hear him out then u can express your concerns affter
Be glad its just weed hunny kids r doing worst these days
Well… You better pray to Jesus! He will help you and that demonic weed smoking stoner!
Regardless he’s still
Gonna do it
weed is better than any other drug makes you relax n anxiety
I started at 13 only lasted like 3 years
Talk with him. Tell him what is right and what is wrong. How stuff like that effect his health. And tell him you dnt want to lose him in anyways. It’s helps talking. I talk to my kids all the time. Teenage is a very difficult age. So talking helps always
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It’s just weed. They sell it legally for medical purposes. Maybe have a talk with him about being careful, making good choices and not falling behind in school. Maybe you don’t have to directly address the smoking, it could be a general conversation. Good luck.
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Just be thankful he was honest with you, that you have that type of relationship. Talk to him about it some more, my son’s good friend was smoking weed with a crowd and didn’t know it was laced with fentanyl. The kid had a small heart attack. I know some will go on about the benefits, which their are some but at 13 it could cause negative effects. Weed can actually increase the chances of anxiety and panic attacks. But I’ll also say growing up my dad always said if anything he’d rather see me with kids smoking weed then drinking. Just keep your relationship open and hopefully he was just trying it out. Just watch for behavioral changes. And I would set some boundaries with his use of it.
Honestly I don’t think there’s really anything wrong with it, although 13 is a little young. Maybe ask him why he chooses to smoke, his answers can maybe help you out
First I’m gonna comment on how many people think 13 is way too young. 150 years ago people are getting married at 13 starting their own farm and having children. It’s only in recent generations that we’ve dumbed kids down so much they can’t even leave home when they’re 27. When my son started smoking weed I talked to him about the issues at that time when it was not legal, and we also had an honest conversation about other drugs and what their problems may or may not be. Both of my children smoked pot and now as 30 and 38-year-olds, neither of them smokes pot and haven’t for quite some time.. I’m the one at 67 that still smokes pot! But because we were able to have an honest conversation and I wasn’t coming from a place of attacking them, both of my children were able to come to me and be honest with me. And not just about drugs, but about drinking and about pregnancy etc. if you don’t keep the lines of communication open you’re looking for trouble
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Have an open and honest conversation about it. Ask him why he’s smoking it. Explain to him that he can’t always trust what’s given to him by friends and could possibly get something that is laced and that you worry for his safety. Also talk to him about the legal trouble not only he, but you could possibly get into. It’s a hard conversation to have, but you’ve already got a start in the right direction in that he was comfortable enough to be honest with you.
I’ve done my share of smoking. All in my late 20s & for a good 10years. It makes you lazy and unproductive. I’m the hypocrite that says, you can do whatever you want….when you turn 18. Sorry it’s a motivational killer & teens need all the motivation they can get to get things going. I’m all for legalization but not for a kid/teen. It made my short term memory suck & I put off my career & education bc I was stoned all the time. And say what you want, you go through withdrawals. My body sure let me know when it was time for my afternoon joint & the headaches were horrible when I stopped. Treat it like any other substance, alcohol or drugs & do not allow it. Your job is not to be their friend or the cool mom. Shut it down! Take privileges. Speak to his friends parents. Don’t allow him over there, ect.
You are the adult act like it they are the child. If your not then hand them the keys to the house and the car.
Go old skool on them. Learn them that it’s not about if it’s legal or not they are young and it’s your house.
It’s really not difficult, he tried it and he’s forgiven, but from here on out, it’s not acceptable under your roof and there are consequences for using illegal drugs. He’s 13, regardless of the state you live in, it’s illegal. If you catch him high again, you offer the option of treatment or a call to law enforcement. A 13 year old who starts with weed WILL progress to more dangerous substances. Get him involved in sports or extra curricular activities far away from the kids who you know use weed and make sure those kid’s parents know what their kids are doing. You’re his mother, not his buddy. If he were 23, I’d give you a different answer, but this is not something a 13 year old should be involved with. He will become an addict if you don’t act now and correct the behavior before, you will end up burying him because he OD’d on heroin. As a former addict myself, I share this advice. I’ve watched as friends and family members have gone back and forth between prison and homelessness if they we’re lucky, many others died from an overdose, I can’t stress how important it is to end the problem now while it’s easy and before it escalates to a point of no return. Track his movements and be around or nearby whatever he’s doing. Be open to discussion on the topic and the temptations he faces, but under no circumstances condone or enable that behavior. I know I sound harsh, but I’ve seen what can happen. 
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With a mom like this …well shit I need a toke now
Just tell him remind him you are really the only one he can trust, and he can be honest with you, or your there if he won’t someone he can really trust to talk to, tell him all the time, that’s all you can do, or you can lay down the law, best way is to put yourself in his shoes, in this day and age, in this really bad earth so full of hate, evil good luck
Imma be the mom and say it.
Out of all the drugs on the street that could kill my kids , I’d be relieved to hear just weed!
Better than drinking in my opinion
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Safer then drinking or drugs
It’s legal, who cares. Most kids go to alcohol, that I’d have a huge huge issue with (and they’d have a huge issue with sitting down for the next month or year)
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Roll one up and smoke with him then proceed to burn his dinner
Then blame the pot
Its hard to say. I smoked weed when I was 13. So really I cant say anything. But I’m the parent so I can say what I please. I wouldn’t want to push him away, because that’s what happened with me. I would definitely think on it. It’s nearly legal, but not to a kid so…u r his mom. You seem like you are on top of things. It will work out.
I think the best thing you can do is be absolutely raw with him but don’t be a bitch about it. Open up to him and be honest. Educate him.
Show him the medical information/effects of the adolescent brain and weed. Probably won’t stop him but might make him think first. Glad you seem to have an honest one 
If it were me I’d be worried about his age mainly and the long lasting affects from smoking weed. So if he’s going to continue doing it I’d just want to make sure it isn’t habitual.
Screw that. No more going to friends house. Friends can come over, supervised, but that’s it and not anytime soon. Grounded first. No phone. No friends. No video games. And, I’d be on the phone with that kids mom in a heartbeat! What irresponsible parent let’s this happen under their roof? I’d be on the phone to the cops.
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I smoke and it helps me a shit ton so I have no advice ugh 
I feel hypocritical when telling my kids about weed and drugs ugh shouldn’t even be in same category
Weed is so much better than alcohol. You pick your battles.
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I’m a pot smoker but I would not allow my 13 year old to smoke. No question. That’s just silly. They are still developing
Get him into a therapist. He can talk to them and open up to them about what’s bothering him
You may as well give him the ok or he’ll be doing it behind your back. It’s much better than alcohol & hard drugs.
I smoke weed. So as a parent I don’t feel like I can dictate my kid in their life. As long as they’re responsible and finish school that’s fine but if it accelerates then I’d take further action. Weed is going to be fully legal by the time mine reach of age.
Let him smoke. Drs prescribe way worse like Adderall to children.
Yall might hate me for this but I honestly wouldn’t care. I’m not going to freak out bc he smoked a bowl with his lil friends. If it’s not effecting his behavior/ grades / life I don’t care.
I’d be okay with like delta 8 thc but only vape or edible. I just don’t like smoking of any kind besides vape. Thc is medicine to me though and it helps with anxiety.
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Just educate him. No reason to be mad that’s probably why he hid it in the first place because of how you would react be happy your son hasn’t started up any of the other drugs out there on the street. Most of the time why kids hide stuff from their parents is because they see how their parents respond to everything so if you scream or yell over every situation and make a big deal out of every small thing that’s probably why he hid it from you kids rather hide things from their parents than to get yelled at screamed at etc. You should be proud of your son that he’s not on meth cocaine spice etc
My son smoked weed when he was 15 until about a year ago. Did good in school, worked a full time manufacturing job, while a Sr in HS. Graduated and is a productive young man at 24. My only thing to him was, do not buy it off strangers, they can lace it.
I was about 16 when my mom told me “if you ever start smoking marijuana…just let me know.” She also stated that “she was young and dumb at one point in her young life.” But she would rather i smoked weed and not harsher drugs that can ultimately ruin your life.
At least hes not doing cocaine, meth or fuckin heroin. Now I dont condone children to smoke marijuana because their brains arent fully developed yet. But, besides marijuana being federally illegal I still see no harm with someone smoking weed. But like I said only if it isnt being uses by children.
Also he told you. Remember that take that into account.
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Personally, I’d tell each of the kid’s parents and my kid would be grounded af Nope.
I was 12 years old when I started smoking weed and my older brother had told me it would help me calm down and help me relax. I have ADHD and the drs had put me on Ritalin and it made me feel like a zombie so I myself stopped taking the medication. Well after I started smoking it for about 2 weeks my mom and grandma noticed a big difference in my behaviour and my brother told them both that he was letting me smoke weed to help with my hyperness. My dad found out about it and told me if I was going to smoke to do it at home and not at friends to keep me safe. I’m perfectly fine as an adult and when my son turned 15, he came to me and said he wanted to try it so I agreed and I had let him try it. He tried it and he hated it. So I never had any problems with my kids as far as drugs are concerned. And WEED IS NOT A DRUG!!! It’s a plant God put on this earth for everyone to use. And for all of those people saying weed is a drug, yall need to do yalls research because drugs are made in a lab and can be gotten from a Dr. Weed on the other hand is a plant for us to use. Weed IS my medicine. So I could care less about all the “Karens and Kyles” out there bashing and talking shit out their mouths when clearly they don’t know jack shit about this amazing plant GOD made for us to use.
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Educate educate educate!
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You have a a relationship based on honesty with your son. Cherish that! Protect it, even if you may sometimes know about behavior you disapprove of. Let him know you disapprove but don’t harp on it. Mention how bad his life can be if he gets caught and help him make good choices as far as where, when, and with whom. Bravo, Mom. Trust is key in raising children. You already nailed the most important thing.
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Choose your fights. Don’t alienate a kid who talks to you
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Drug test him. Maybe it’s more than weed .
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I wouldn’t tell him “don’t do it” or punish him cause there gonna be a day where it becomes his choice and the best way for him to make that choice is to be educated about it. Pros and cons of smoking. He gonna be around it quiet often but I think most gracious thing you can do is educate him on the cons and pros because education is more value then it is to instill punishment and fear.
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Show him a real brain on weed and one that is not. Explain what happens chemically. Then take him to shelter, A psych ward or Prison and find someone who can give him the down and dirty of said gateway drug. I did just that and set my son on the right path. Intervention time. Do not wait
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This is a teaching opportunity! Show him that you can be understanding and respectful while still being a parent. Educate him, help him understand how it works in your body and how to do things properly and safely. Do not shame him for this. If you do it’ll only get worse. Make sure he understands that weed is a medicine and if overused, it can become unaffective
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First off … celebrate that he wasn’t drunk … then help him understand the benefits and shortfalls of THC … research and educate together … it is not as scary as one might think … use this as a pre-adult bonding opportunity
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Weed makes the mind lazy.i don’t smoke it but I think it would be better if they just legalised it as you can’t seem to escape it.control of it would make it more controllable and cleaner
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Ground him, 
he’s a child.
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Teach him specifically & scientifically about why he shouldn’t during brain development at his age. And about self medicating to cover up issues he needs to learn to handle to be successful
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Random drug tests with consequences
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Personally I would beat his ass. And ground him to his room until he is 18.
He was honest with you. Choose your battles.
It’s weed, at least he’s not getting wasted with his friends.
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just let him smoke weed if you dont he will do it behind your back and eventually get in trouble or push to harder stuff. it’s literally legal in most places its not gonna kill him LMAO
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I started smoking really young and it definitely did effect my brain. Explain to him that in places where it’s legal (like Canada where I live) there’s an age on it because his brain is still developing. I’d tell him to try and wait till he’s older if he’s going to smoke so it doesn’t damage anything.
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I started smoking weed very very young. And my mom hated it, but she picked her fights 
I still did good in school and didnt skip class. So she didnt say much. I would just let it go. As long as he is still doing what he is supposed to do then I wouldnt worry about it too much.
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It depends on your stance about pot honestly like for Me it’s more of a I’d rather you smoke under my roof just in case that batch was laced that way I can make sure you’re okay but I ain’t paying for your habit on the other hand I didn’t start till I was 16 and wouldn’t want my child to until they were old enough to support said their selves
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Weed is not bad…for adults. It is a medicine and he is abusing it. Explain to him that it will affect his brain development and caise memory loss, in-coordination, and weight gain (munchies) among other things. It will keep him from retaining information well, at school and home. Your super close you said. Sounds like he is a smart young man and can handle it.
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Good lord its weed its not meth or heroin yea hes 13 but he’s gonna do it anyway if u try to push him away from it …trust me I had military parents the white glove cleaning test and all …even with as little freedom I got I still raised hell and did shit behind my parents back
I would go with the fact that he broke the law. I’m your area of it’s legal what’s the legal age? Some laws are just stupid but laws are laws. As a parent I am trying to raise productive law abiding citizens.
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Take him to a lung clinic or a hospital with bad lungs. Smoking (anything) is never good for the lungs, airways, or throat. No matter what anyone says, it just isn’t. It is an irritant to the breathing system.
Im not against weed at all. My dad smoked it and then quit. But when he got cancer and got to the end of life, couldn’t eat. My brother would go buy weed and have him smoke it. The only time he could eat without vomiting. Marijuana has it’s benefits. I will never smoke it, but if it is ever legalized in my area, I’ll eat the gummies to manage my pain from rheumatoid disease. As long as my specialists say it’s ok with my other meds. But being a respiratory therapist, for over a decade, has taught me that I will never do anything to destroy my airway and lungs. I don’t want to smother to death in the end of my life.
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Don’t punish him! I was 14 when I had start and because I was punished I did it more, behind my mom’s back. My mom and I have always been close, but do NOT destroy that bond over a learning opportunity. Show him research for both the benefits and side effects that come with it. Tell him if he continues he has to atleast have rules set. (I.e, limitation, grades, curfews) and if you see him starting to decline into worse things like alcohol and stuff like that, he is NOT the issue. However, his friends are since they’re supplying it; in this type of situation it could be peer pressure or just a living style at the friend’s house, but if you establish where you stand on it and guide your son towards a healthier mindset over it which is knowledge and trust it will have a better outcome. Communication in this subject is more important than anything, but negative reinforcement will cause him to start inching away from you as a parent. My grandma started smoking cigarette’s at the age of 10, back when it was a dime for a pack. She stopped at the age of 15. If you feel that your son isn’t in a good place, good friend group, take him out of it or set boundaries. He isn’t the one to be punished when he is at the age where he’s experimenting with the things his friends do or showing curiosity towards it because he already sees them doing that. It’s just as much a learning opportunity for you as a parent because it opens a cacophony of potential outcomes.
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Just let him smoke not as bad as everyone thinks. Education on it is very help full does he have ADHD my son does and he smokes pot helps him concentrate not so anxious before he would sit still alway in trouble failing all classes but now is passing stopped getting in trouble and he smokes hear at home so there no worry because I can still watch him to each there own
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A majority of the responders are still calling Cannabis a drug, like seriously this is 2021 and the fact that he was honest shows you he’s not dumb and and is not running around causing trouble and doing actual drugs. Yes he’s too young to be over indulging in cannabis use but(and I can hear the Karen’s now) smoking with his friends on occasion is not a big deal. And not worth punishment. Do what you feel is right cause in the end we are all just throwing our two cents and from what I see they’ll judge you regardless. Good luck mama!
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If he’s going to smoke, tell him to smoke at home where you can keep an eye on him. That’s the rule.
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If you don’t find a problem with it, I would sit him down and explain that as long as it doesn’t affect his everyday life (getting irritated without it, choosing it over more important things) that it’s alright. Does he suffer from anxiety or depression? It could actually be very beneficial if he does.
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I been smoking since 12, I personally always used it for my depression stress anxiety and such, not agreeing he should do it but maybe talk to him about why he maybe do it and go from there.
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Where is he getting his money? Weed isn’t free!
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I think you should just keep an eye on him and make sure he’s still doing everything he needs to do. It’s very normal for a kid to smoke pot with friends at that age. Not that parents ate gonna be ok with it… I’m just saying it is normal. Pretty much everyone has done it. It could be much worse if you dont just have guidelines and keep your eye out. Pick your battles bcuz you can push him away to much worse things. If all his friends mess with is pot and that’s all he tries rn, consider yourself very luck. All my friends did way worse shit but I was too scared. If he’s anything like that he’ll be fine
13 is too young. There could be all kinds of legal implications for him and you, now that you know. Kids are going to experiment with alcohol and weed but he’s too young to be traveling that road already.
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Nothing lol that’s what you can do. Maybe suggest gummies if you’re worried about the smoke I smoked many times as a kid and I work in criminal justice now. Let him be a kid
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Ask him why he smokes. Some doing because of depression, anxiety or just to hang with friends
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Just show him what it does to immature brains. Lots of information on this. If he knows what it’s doing to him and he does it anyway, there isn’t a heckuva lot more you can do other than keep telling him you love him and want him to have all his brain for all his life.
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Does he smoke all day everyday? If it’s once in a blue moon I wouldn’t be super concerned. excessive use of marijuana would cause long term effects. definitely explain the effects on the brain to him so he understands as it is still growing.
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As an active weed smoker I would say I have to applaud his honesty. On the other hand i think that its not something I would recommend a young person.
Maybe encourage him (subconsciously) to invest his time more in hobbies or even other friends (no pressure) because in the long run it could trigger mental problems (with over use or bad diet) or delay of responsibilities because weed has natural relaxing elements
It would also be nice if you could advice him to have a good diet (eat well before smoking) and to know what he is smoking with whome because some weeds are crazy strong
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Be thankful atleast he’s honest
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My husband and I were 13 when we started smoking weed. My parents were very strick so we went to his house growing up because he family was more relaxed and we felt more comfortable. Please keep that in mind. No matter how much you think you know your kid, you really don’t if your to strick. 
I love that your asking for direction/opinions!
Beat his ass twice , 1 for what he did en 1 for the things he is going to do.
Everyone saying its fine you did it bla bla. Then go on to say you do it for depression and anxiety now…
The brain is still developing and thats a crucial age. Using drugs can definitely have a negative effect on his brain development.
Weed had so little thc in the 70s it was 1% now its around 30!!
THC also connects with receptors on nerve cells in other parts of the brain that affect thinking, memory, coordination, and concentration. This can cause unwanted side effects, including: trouble thinking and problem solving. Decision making, problems with memory and learning.
And the list goes on!!
Simply google what does smoking weed at 13 do to the brain and show him!
Just bc so many ppl do it doesnt mean its not bad.
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I have a brother that started smoking at age 12. It was given to him by older cousins and older friends. His whole life has been affected. He could not go more than 4 hours without lighting up. He could never hold a job, keep a marriage, be a responsible father, do basic accounting so that he could own anything more than a rusty vehicle. He got a criminal record when he tried to grow it to support his habit and “pay” back the cousins/friends who supplied him for years. Now he lives on the streets in a cold country and is in his 60s. The brain does not fully form until age 26ish. Get help for your son please.
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Get him treatment and change friends tough love works do not be weak
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Honestly let him. It’s better then the harder shot and weed isn’t as bad as most think it is
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If he wants to smoke it he’ll find a way. I’d tell him since you really can’t stop him unless you ground him to the house until he’s 18 to at least NOT smoke before school and use visine. And not to do all the time. Also, ask why he does it like someone else mentioned.
Yeah… no!!!
I will do everything in my power to keep them from it until they are old enough to make their own choices. They are not adults, and it is not legal. I also am responsible for my children until they are 18. My kids will lose privileges if I find out they are doing it. I will not ok it either. To each their own, but giving in and saying ok is not something you will hear from me. I love my kids, and my job is to protect them. I know there’s a chance they could be doing that while they are away. I will continue to tell them I do not condone it.
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What is this??? A bunch of teenagers responding?
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I would whoop my child’s ass! Point blank. Don’t give a damn about nobody’s opinion on how I raise my children 
It’s not about weed being the issue. It’s about being 13!!! I’m all for majestic botanicals occasional smoker here with my medi card:raised_hand:t4: but I’m a grown ass 31 yr old woman with 3 kids. 13, 12, & 7. And none of them have health issues requiring weed. Nah, not on my watch 
Best of luck to you…this never gets easier.
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my first thought: he could be doing far worse than marijuana lmao.
I’m not here to tell anyone how to parent their children or condone any use of weed but in today’s time children his age are smoking way more than weed if u catch my drift… just make sure he knows when and where to smoke who to smoke with cause stuff is being laced everyday
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I’m pro weed. But I believe it is a medicine. Those are my personal feelings, now for some science, weed has many effects on the brain and body both positive and negative, the negative sides of this are worse for young developing brains. Now for my opinion, don’t “let” your kid smoke pot it’s bad for him and not his decision to make until he’s an adult. With that said every situation is different and yours may not be that simple, so while I advise you not to “let” your kid smoke, don’t push him away trying to stop him either if it comes to that. Better he has you around for advice than his “friends”.
It all depends if you want him to start lying to you about smoking so you can pretend he doesn’t do it, or if you would rather know about and keep him from doing stupid stuff while doing so, even though it isn’t ideal.
You probably know what your options are, it depends on what outcome you want.
Keep in mind… He was high and chose to tell the truth.
That says something about him and your relationship with him as well.
The legal age to smoke is not 13. Until he is of age to do so it is on you legally for allowing him to do it
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That’s a tough place to be in! I have already been there my 13 year old who smoked weed is now 22! when I found out her younger brother was smoking I handled it much differently than I did with her. with her I just kind of looked the other way and acted like I didn’t know anything thinking well this way she won’t think I’m OK with it and she won’t be afraid to do it where she’s safe instead of other not so safe places .
When I found out my youngest was smoking at 15 I decided to do research and find out what kind it would have on him and found out that teenagers who smoke marijuana are much much more likely to develop schizophrenia. It it does some thing so that their mind never completely matures. I explained to him that although I don’t have a problem with marijuana or people who smoke it that there was a reason that minors are not allowed to do those kind of things even in states where it’s legal because it is not good for their developing minds and bodies. I backed up everything I told him with my sources so that he could research the information himself and he chose not to smoke again until he was over 18 years old.
Good luck!!