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"So my 13-year-old son told me he smokes weed. Well I asked bc one day I went to pick him up from his friend's house and when he came out he was acting funny. He didn’t want to look at me and was just quiet and when he did talk to me he was looking away so right away I was like this kid is high, then we made eye contact, and yup his eyes were glossy. So I said I’m going to ask you a question and you need to be honest. Are you high? And he said yes mom I am. I smoked weed with my friends. The good thing about him is he can’t lie to me. We are super close. But idk how to go about it now that I know. Bc I feel like I can tell him no don’t be doing that but then he’ll just go behind my back. But I’m also not just going to be okay with it. Idk!?!?!? How would you feel? And what would you do?"
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"There are worse things. Let them be so long as they keep good grades."
"I mean he was honest with you & he could be doing so much worst, I would not make it into a big issue unless it starts negatively affecting him."
"Ground him and don’t allow him to hang out with that friend anymore. However, have a frank and open talk with him letting him know you appreciate his honesty. Only ground him for a day, max."
"Sit him down and explain the pros and cons of marijuana. Also if it is legal or illegal in your state and the consequences if there was ever police involvement. Then you can talk to him about when it would be ok for him to use it."
"Me personally, as long as my kid goes to class and does all his work and is an overall good kid. I would be okay with it. But that’s just me."
"I would just be honest with him. If he’s going to do it he’s going to do it and the biggest thing is you don’t want to ruin your relationship because of this nor the open communication you have. I would express concerns and lay everything down on the table, including where it comes from because some sources will lace marijuana with unsafe things that could harm him. Let him know all of your feelings, and depending on where you live the legal consequences that could come with him being caught with it. (I live in MS so it’s not legal here)."
"Just tell him about the legalities in the situation, in some states you could get a child abuse charge. If you’re as close as you think then he might quit until he is at least an adult."
"Kids are gonna do it whether you say not to or not. I would just tell him to know where it’s coming from and not to be experimenting with other things. Pot isn’t as bad as most people think."
"Talk about anxiety, peer pressure, sleep or appetite issues. It’s not like it used to be. Better than losing him to heroin, fentanyl patches, Crack, etc."
"He was honest, as long as he keeps good grades shouldn’t be much of a problem. There are worse things he could be doing, and if you ground him from that friend he may find other people to smoke with instead. As long as he’s safe I don’t see nothing wrong with it."
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