Stomp her ass now!!! No, i had the same daughter, that was like that so completely cut her off, then granny got her a computer(16) yrs ago. Well dad was looking for a job, an needed to send resumes, even tho i paid the wifi bill she wasnt having me on it. She put a pass word to keep me from getting in it. If i had ti leave to put in resumes, i took the server to her computer. She was a brat from hell, butshe grew up, and now im proud of her, she sells an manufactures drugs. … 
Shes a pharmacist!!! Lol… Is there hope? Yes, praying for ya!
Don’t threaten just do it
Easy. Turn off that Wi-Fi till they’re done. Get one of those router-repeaters that you can control each device in your home separately. When chores are done, they get the password to get back on. Problem solved.
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Leave her with 7 pants 7 shirts 7 pairs of socks 7 pairs of underwear 1 bra no bed no pillow no blanket nothing on the walls nothing in the closet when she wants to act right she earns 1 thing back at a time if that dont work she wants to act grown treat her as such. Get a job buy your own shit pay me rent buy your own food give me gas money to drive you around. You are the parent!! Remember that!!
Stop threatening. Start acting. Take her shit away, including her bedroom door. Take away her freedom. Take away everything and anything.
No phone
No internet
No money
No sport
She will do it
I promise you 
Tough love works I PROMISE 
Stop threatening and do what you said you’re going to do. She knows you’re full of shit n idle threats.
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My momma would spank my ass. 
Follow through with your words or else you will never be taken seriously. You are the parent you are in control, make that clear. Actions always speak louder. I took my daughters phone (she did not get it right back it was weeks) she cried and begged me to just whip her ass (i don’t hit) My husband and i still laugh at that til this day she knew she tried me and well she got dealt with accordingly lol U have to hit em where it hurts show them u mean business. Don’t let her shake you stand your ground mama and good luck!
Try positive rewards. Like “if you do all your chores with no attitude for the week, we can do something fun on Saturdays.” and “if you don’t do them then no electronics/technology or seeing/talking to friends outside of school hours until you are able to do them without the attitude.”
(no matter how long it takes)
Tell her she can either make it easy and just do them or make it a big deal and cause problems. Her choice, but if she ever wants to be treated like a young adult then she better start acting like a young adult and be responsible. Stick to everything you do, don’t give in to anything and make her earn things slowly. It will take some time, but it has to be corrected now.
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My son had an attitude at school and I told him if he acted up again he would go to the tournament, he did and he had to tell his coaches why. Sometimes you don’t want to take the things that are supposed to make them better but if you have taken everything else you have to. But make them take responsibility for having to stop or sit out, have her tell her coach she can’t play cause she is disrespecting you. Sometime coaches make more sense to them. My son’s did
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Sounds like she needs to be in a bedroom with nothing but a bed. No phone, no internet, no tv, no friends over, absolutely nothing. When she makes progress she can slowly get her things back. Don’t put up with that. At 14 she’s 150% capable of doing chores and has been for some time. You can’t be afraid to be “mean”, it’s not being mean, it’s teaching some responsibility and accountability.
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My kids stay with my mom all the time. She lives right beside us and my kids are over there a lot. My kid’s behave a million times better at home than they do at her house because my husband and I don’t threaten, we do. My mom will threaten over and over and over and they listen to nothing she says because they know they can get away with it. Threatening gets you nowhere.
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I had this problem. My daughter was 14. She is now a helpful and respectful 16 year old I enjoy spending time with.
I tried everything the parenting classes and therapists had taught us…I gritted my teeth and dealt with it, and the awful attitude and laziness and outright bullying disrespect. Then one day she yelled at the baby and told me no. I jumped on that girl like a tiger and Whooped. That. Ass.
I’ve only had to spank her twice in the past two years and she is a completely different girl now.
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I’d take TV, phone and internet privileges and stick to it. You have to stand firm on threats or no one will take you seriously. I wouldn’t take away sports because she’s made that commitment, but privileges would be gone for an indefinite amount of time. I’ve never had problems with my big kids doing chores, but I did have a problem with them not picking up their things. After losing privileges, they never did it again. I’m not hateful with our kids, but they know I mean business.
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Take her phone first and foremost. DO NOT GIVE IT BACK UNTIL THINGS START TO CHANGE. Show her you are standing your ground you have to do more than threaten anymore maybe a day going to check out the juvi wouldnt be so bad
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Actually take the stuff away and have her EARN It Back!
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This is our 11year old. Everything is an argument or answered with an attitude. It’s frustrating! I don’t even know where to start with her.
I know I am about to bring down the rath of people, but, here goes. She’s a teenager, she’s a girl, she’s got all these emotions she didn’t necessarily have before. Maybe, just maybe, you should get her some professional help. Children that age don’t know what to do with everything going on inside of them and as parents we know they don’t like talking to us about personal things, even though we encourage them to come to us about anything. Sometimes, it’s easier to talk with someone outside the family. Trained professionals can help when all else fails a lot of times. Just a suggestion.
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When mine were that age I had a list of chores with points assigned to it example vacume = 50 points, when they got there phone taken away they had to do 500 points in chores to get it back, so it was a punishment that they could control, they could work all day at get it done or the could procrastinate and not have a phone for a week their choice, also my daughter hated to clean but she liked to cook so that was her chore
I have a 12 year old like this. I reward the others for their chores and she misses out. I give the kids allowances or snacks to pick out and she gets nothing. She has lost her phone and I deleted all her social media accounts and apps. The phone went to a younger sibling which I hate but I had to show her that I call the shots here. Unless action follows thru, kids will call you bluff.
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Personally I’d whoop my kids ass for the disrespect but not all parents choose to take that route. Or I’d take the electronics until a change is made (chores done with no attitude for at least 2 weeks since it takes two weeks to form a habit). That could mean months without electronics.
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I have a 13yr old that once thought he didn’t have to do a damn thing you know what I did spanked his ass and told him he’s not eating until his chores are done he doesn’t talk back to me anymore either why because I put my foot down and have consistency he’s good now at home go figure
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Never too old for a good old fashioned spanking. When my sister n I were teenagers if we mouthed off to either of our parents my dad would remind us we were never to old to get the belt to the backside. Straightened us up real quick.
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If standing over her is the only way to make her do chores then do it. And because you have to watch her, take away her stuff as punishment for taking away YOUR time that could be used on positive things for the other kids and her too. I was an awful 14yr old. Thankfully I’m far from it now but my mom stopped fighting me and became indifferent, which allowed for some not so great choices on my part. All I’m saying is while you still can- fighting WITH her, is actually you fighting FOR her. Do it with love. Tell her you want to have a great relationship with her and if this is what its gonna take to earn back her trust (as in she can trust that when you expect the chores be done, you WILL make sure she does them- which will only up her trust in you in all other ways) then that’s what you gotta do. Girls at that age are assholes. Sorry! Had to say it I was one of them. Shes just trying to make it thru and mothers are always the first ones to take a hit.
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Follow through with the threats!!!
Welcome to the teen years… Get a hold on it now…
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Not going to be a popular comment but Pampered Chef makes a wooden spoon that “rests” perfectly on a teens butt cheek. I’m not all for a quick swat on the ass but once or twice a year it may be needed.
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Stop threatening, do it , take the phone the sports, tv . It would be class work and books.
Threats do nothing but make you look less credible
Does she have a phone, tv, laptop? If so take them all away and make her earn time to use them. Kids can’t go long without electronics.
Some good suggestions in these comments.
Yes I bed room with just a bed should do it
You don’t work, you don’t eat.
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Have you tried figuring out if something happened to her to make her start doing this? Perhaps someone she is uncomfortable with? Do you have a boyfriend, or maybe a relative? So many parents so quick to do an easy fix and hit their children. I know a young lady that began doing this, turned out she was being molested by her moms male friend. That may not always be the case but your post was a little not clear of your full situation.
Stop. Threatening.
Time to take action. Do what you say. Stick to the threats.
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Take away allll electronics. Turn off you internet if you have to. And put passwords on tv
You weak !! Whip her ass hard, then whip it again, pick her up slam her against the wall and tell her you gun choke her to death, she will get the picture you showing her