My youngest child is 17 months old and is EXTREMELY clingy. I only work part-time, so she gets plenty of time with me. I’m not sure where it comes from. The biggest problems that result from this are the lack of attention for my five-year-old and staying in her crib all night. When I set her down, she will cling to my leg and continue to throw herself at me, interfering with any activity I try to do with my son. As far as sleeping, she’ll go to sleep in her room, but halfway through the night, she wakes up and wants to come in the bed with me. In both scenarios, she doesn’t just cry, she goes into full panic mode, and she becomes hysterical. And please don’t say cry it out. Believe me; we’ve tried. It doesn’t work for her. Not even a little bit. After over an hour, she was still going strong.
Clearly trying to tell you something, be patient till you figure it out
Be the mother your child needs. Stop complaining and just be there for your child. That’s so much more than you realize.
Get a referral to a child therapist. My daughters my stalker so i get it. But this sounds like a bigger problem then normal not getting time w you or something. Needs more reassurance or theres a lack of a secure attachment.
Give her what she needs… As hard as it is, That is where she will find her security. Punishing a child by letting them cry it out only makes them insecure and creates anexity. She will grow out of it.
Pray over her. Hold ur child send love.Ask the archangels to help assist your family. Make sure the kids are eatin fresh fruits and vegetables. Get them tired before bed like play outdoors or at a beach. Selenite and orgone pyramids to raise the frequency in case any lower entities are messing around trying to feed off their energy.Drinking water. Play solfeggio9 frequencies in the background daily and during sleep. And grounding.Hope this helps!
She 17 months hun that a what they do trust me she won’t be hanging on to your leg for life !!
It sounds like she has separation anxiety period I will go to your pediatrician and ask her what can be done but it’s going to take time and patience and to get her over it good luck
My 16 year old is clingy!
That’s kinda normal, but if it’s weird for your child, look into it. You are momma, you are safe. See what’s wrong, even if it’s just to go cuddle more.
Try wrapping a small pillow in a Tshirt that you have been wearing & leave that in her bed with her.
May or may not help .
In some cultures it seems it is the norm for children to share their parents bed till school age or more
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Go to the doctors… get her ears checked, make sure shes not teething, has gastro problems. In the meantime get a dim night light and put your shirt you wore that day on a teddy or something that soothes her. Kids that young have no ways of verbalizing anything. Make sure your 5 year old isnt watching anything during the day that can give her night terrors, and during the day make special time for her. Put your 5 year old on quiet time, reading, coloring, whatever and sit with the little one and engage her with one of your every day activities. Cooking (place her in highchair give her plastic ladels to play with) folding laundry (let her play with the pile of socks). This also may be a stretch but make sure the older one isn’t hurting her bc of the lack of attention they’re not getting from you
Have you taken her to the pediatrician?
Be fair to both kids. Your 5 yr old need attention as well. explain to her that there’s enough attention to go around even if she doesn’t quite understand it yet. Such as “we’re going to read a book, and when I’m done it’s your sibling time. And when that’s done we’re both going to do blah blah blah”…
Children get anxiety when they don’t know what comes next. Try that…
‘_____ is what we’re going to do now. _____is what we’re going to do after, ____and then we’re going to do this together’. Spell it out first then do it they need to know A…B…C.
I went back to work when my son was about 20 months. He cried almost the entire time I was gone! Drove my ex-husband and daughter (she was about 9 at the time), crazy. When I was home, regardless if I was in the same room with him or not, he played well, as long as he could HEAR my voice. He would “find” me, see me, he was fine! We all played with him, the park, outside playing, didn’t matter how much or what we did, as long as I was there. This lasted if not a year, it lasted a little over a year! He started CLINGING to my daughter after that, if I wasn’t around. He eventually grew out of it. I personally couldn’t stop working, made the ex and I feel like crap ALL the time. Like we were bad parents or something. Pediatrician couldn’t give us any “good advice”. So we did the best we could. I figured some children just need more of different things from us. My conclusion, some are clingy, some are more independent. Hope this helps 
My daughter’s 2 youngest were extremely clingy and grew out of it.
Its rough when kids do this. I had the same issue with a couple of mine and the same thing didnt work for both of them. I talked to their dr and they were thoroughly checked for hearing issues and stuff and thank god they were healthy. With one i took “us time” for a bit every day. It was a time where the child had 100% of my time and attention. With the other one they slept with one of my tshirts and that worked for sleep but still needed 1 on 1 time during the day. My advice is talk to the childs dr and see what they recommend
My daughter did this. She grew out of after she turned 2yrs. Also she was around a lot more kids. I think that helped the most.
Please love this little one, the way they need it, and embrace it. Dependent littles, become independent adults. I carried my first on my hip til she was 2, and my last til she was 3. I rocked each to sleep til almost 4 yrs old. All are INDEPENDENT, college graduates, successfully living life.
Hold them both in one bed until they fall asleep and then move them to their beds. Then you go to your bed. They will develop a trust. They will grow out of that stage and soon sleep in their own beds. Something is making them anxious. You holding them before they fall asleep will get rid of that anxiety.
It might be separation anxiety, my 14 month old has the same problem. Maybe try doing things that you can include both kids in? That way neither feels left out.
My son being in daycare helped this significantly… Being with other kids… I have another on the way and I’m really nervous about how hell act with a new baby around. hes already saying ‘babies are yucky’ 
jealous before she gets here lol idk cause I don’t have two
… Yet… But make sure to give eahc of them time alone with u if at all possible and make sure they know youre taking that time for just them by announcing just mommy and you will do this or that. It is definitely a phase most likely because my son went through this clinginess at the same exact age and it only lasted a couple months. I hope it’s the same for you!
She’ll get pass this stage, in the meantime sleep with her.
Sounds like separation anxiety.
Separation anxiety/Anxiety. My 2.5yr old is like that…since birth…only wants me…now he hangs onto dad’s leg lol…but it used to be me O.N.L.Y. M.E! Not fun lol. But hes my 6th kid & I do baby him extra…He would legit freak if I even went a couple steps away from him…now I can pee alone…most times lol.
He comes & sleeps in my bed when he wants.
I just hold him…even tho hes a big baby lol I rock him & I let him know even if I have to repeat over n over that ITS OK… I just tell him in his ear over n over till he calms down…
This stage will pass but love it and enjoy it she loves her mommy you will miss it they grow up to fast
I had this exact problem with my daughter, who is now 8. It’s a form of anxiety, most likely separation anxiety. It will pass. But there are ways to help. When she wakes up at night and wants you, rock her and put her back in her own bed. If you can get her almost asleep or all the way asleep first, that will help. Waking up in the morning in her own bed will eventually become the norm for her, and she will slowly stop wanting to sleep with you. Also, try to find someone to give her attention while you spend time with your older son. If you have any close family or friends, have someone come over and play with her. Other kids her age would also be wonderful for that. Having friends for my daughter to play with really helped her issues, and by 2 or so she had passed it all.
I dont mean this in a bad way at all so please dont take it that way, but why are so many people so quick to want their babies to grow up? Enjoy this time with her because it wont last forever, before you know it she wont want to cuddle alot or be near you 24/7…and when that does eventually happen you will wonder why you didn’t cherish those moments more when they were around. My eldest is 10 now and second is 9, the only time I get a hug from them now is when they are going somewhere or at bedtime to say goodnight and I’ve often wished I could go back go when they were babies so I could have all those cuddles again 
Most children regress a little before they move onto the next milestone. I agree with sleeping with her–as long as you are able to sleep okay with her in your bed. Give her all the attention you can afford. Some kids just need Mama more than others. Maybe try taking the 5 year old on outings, just the two of you. Going for groceries, letting him pick out his cereal or the ice cream flavor, can be a great day for a kid his age. Also, planning projects that the two of them can do together might help–playdough cookies, blocks, etc. Just know, this stage will pass, and you can either see it as an opportunity to build relationship, or as a pain in the a$$, but she, for whatever reason, needs extra love and attention right now.
You’re going to miss this! Let her be clingy. It won’t last forever! Like everyone else said, find ways to comfort her, and find activities where you can be with both of your children at the same time. Sleep with her and your son if you need to. I know you may not be able to sleep much, but soon enough they will both sleep through the night, and no longer need you at night! Please make the best of this time while they are so dependent on you!
Just hold her until she goes back to sleep. Sometimes I feel like they need to vent like we do .
My daughter is two and is the same way sometimes she has been since about 15 months. She goes through phases where sometimes it’s not as bad as others. I’m expecting her baby sister next month so here lately the clingyness has gotten much worse I think just because she knows she won’t be the baby much longer. Just hold her and rock her let her know your always there. Do deep breathing with her as you relax she Will relax they very much feed of your emotions. She is still very young toddlers don’t know how to express or regulate their emotions and feelings it’s why they have so many temper tantrums. Play hide and seek with her in the house to help establish object permanence go in another room and count to ten your not really hiding from her but she can’t see you but can still hear you. It helps them learn that you are still there and you will come back
And all the mamas with older kids say enjoy it! And I know it’s hard to hear when you can’t take another minute of a baby hanging on you. But, one day she won’t hang on you. You will grab her for a hug or kiss and she’s gonna squirm out of your arms.
Love on her and cuddle her as much as she needs. Once she moves on, it’s on to another thing.
Hang in there, mama.
One day, it will be the last day your child wants you to pick them up! My 2 year old is super clingy to me. I know it’s hard but bear this in mind. You are doing a great job of they want to hang off you!
Try a weighted blanket maybe?
Cherish those moments! Oldest of 6 is 16. Youngest is 1. You never get those clingy moments back.
I honestly think it’s a leap. My boy is doing it too, same age. It’s been driving me up a wall. My SO had to take him away from me a few nights because I was getting so touched out and cranky myself.
We give my 18m old a cup of warm milk with infant cereal in it. And she has a nice comfy blanket to cling to.
Sounds more like separation anxiety then anything…
Comforter teddy/blanket?
Otherwise it’s just a baby thing… nothing wrong with yours.
They just love mummy and want your undivided attention 24/7.
My boy is 3 now and still like that.
His toddler bed is right up beside my bed and i have to have a hand touching him until he is asleep.
I quit fighting it and just went along with it, much easier.
My 18 month old is doing the same thing right now and both of my oldest did it . Find a blanket that she absolutely loves. He has a sherpa and once he had that he slept through the night again cuz he could snuggle up with it. But we both snuggle with it at sum point during the day so it has the mommy scent. As for the doing things with the oldest find something that both kids can partake in and then slowly encourage her to play separately with her toys while you play a game with ur oldest. don’t force it though and eventually it will pass.
Questions to ask is when did this start to get worse? Does she attend day care while you are at work? Who is watching over her while you are at work? Aside from separation anxiety which is normal. There may be something going on when your not there.
Some nights I have to put 1 of my tshirts in the bed with my daughter to get her to go back to sleep. I usually give her the 1 I wore that day; I guess she smells my perfume on it and feels like I’m close to her. It was an old trick my grandma taught me
This is absolutely the biological norm. Most kids were still being breastfed until age 6 throughout centuries. This idea of being away from mom for extended periods of time is only a couple hundred years old.
You are her world! As mom you provide security and love she doesn’t get from anywhere else. So for every emotion from scared, happy, mad,…she wants you right there with her. Have you tried play dates with other kids her age? Small steps showing her she can do things on her own may help too.
Don’t fight it, go with the flow for the time being to make it easier on everyone. My daughter was like this and we let her sleep in our room if she wanted to. We wanted her to feel secure and we could worry about getting her back into her room later. After a week or so, she’s back to staying in her room. We go through cycles like that it seems, but I know one day she’ll be grown and hopefully this will help her feel secure with coming to us for anything troubling her.
Needs a good lil spanking
Idk my youngest grandygirl doesnt sleep…like ever. Up till midnight awake at 5 am… no naps. Lile this kid does
Not
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My 18 month is like that, but I stop what I’m doing and give her attention. She is also cutting 4 teeth and growing. I have another on the way so soon it’ll be two. 
haha but I love it. At first I didn’t understand and tried to occupy her, but then I just realize she wants mom and we play and dance and sing and then she wants to go play. Soon they’ll be embarrassed of us and want nothing to do with us. I agree- cherish it!
My boy is four and is constantly glued to me and the only thing I can think of is because I’m currently 6 months pregnant and it’s only getting worse like I can’t even drop him off at day care with out a battle. He used to run off with out so much a good bye before lol. It’s a phase I’m sure if you ride it out and enjoy it as good as u can it’ll be over before u know it!!
My son has been that way since birth an he still does it an hes 4. I love it though
Some kids are more needy than others. The hard part is that they don’t talk so you don’t know why she’s doing it. Try to “read” your baby. When does she do it mostly? Try to observe the when and maybe she’ll give you a hint to why. But honestly, just enjoy your baby and be there as much as you can.
Are her two year molars coming in? Sometimes that can happen early and cause excessive fussiness, especially at night.
I get the clingy thing my kids did it just turns out that they are spoiled little shits and I did that so lol
Who is taking care of her when your not there ? Just curious …
My 3 year old is like this. My 10 month old sleeps fine on his own but my 3 year old always slept with me and still tries to. He goes to bed in his own and comes to find me in the night. I bought a air mattress to put beside my bed so if he needs to come in, he has that and his bottle waiting to come to. May be babying him as some people have told me but idgaf, a time will come where he wants nothing to do with me and I’ll miss this so I’m going to enjoy it while it lasts. I wish I could post a picture because hes literally on the mattress beside me right now
Sounds like separation anxiety. 
Maybe let her sleep in your room for awhile. Worry about getting her back to her own bed later on
I say its pretty normal. My daughter does the same thing. Though I’m a stay at home mom she goes to her fathers twice a week during the day (never over night.) She gets real clingy to me and my boyfriend when she comes back. Its become very useful having one song she will go to bed to every night. Ive sung her twinkle twinkle little star every night to her since she was about 6 months old. Its become a comfort thing. So now at 20 months she will sing (not really words but she gets the tune spot on) whenever she gets nervous or to put herself to sleep. Sometimes when its a rough night I’ll lay with her and sing her to sleep, shes in a toddler bed so that is pretty easy for me. Or i can put on the song on repeat until she falls asleep and she’ll lay there calmly until she falls asleep or until the music accidently gets turned off because i think shes sleeping when she really isnt. I have a Bluetooth speaker I bought for her room for those instances so theres no phone or anything in there for her to try to play with. The bonus is if you pay the extra money to buy a stuffed animal Bluetooth speaker, I really wanted one of those but they can be pricey and i was too afraid to pay for it just for her to not like it.
Definitely normal,my son is 2 and a half and just stopped being so clingy! But he still has his days!
That’s normal. Get used to it. Lol
Possibly teething. Try Tylenol.
Sorry to say, it’s going to be like that for awhile! My son is like that and I practically can’t do anything. My solution is to do as many fun things as possible together. When I need to clean, I put on a show or let him play near me. I cleaned his room and he was simultaneously destroying it but he was destroying a decoy pile while I worked on the real pile. Be creative but mostly I recommend putting on Mickey Mouse to distract her so you can breathe. You need a break too!
My granddaughter is 11 years old and lives with me due to personal circumstances
We have had the same issues over the last 10 years
My suggestion is to ride it out and let her sleep in your bed on the nights she needs the security of having her mum close
It won’t be forever and very soon you will wish they would want you that close 
That’s tough! My daughter was similar. She sleeps though the night now but is still very attached to me, clings tomorrow my leg if we’re out, always wants just me. She’s five and a half 
This is mine right now im really hoping its a phase
In this EXACT predicament myself 
. And you’re right “crying it out” is b.s. (for any child)
The reason she’s doing that is because she needs her mother. It’s natural for an infant to want her mother. Hold her, don’t let her cry. That’s so sad.
Just love her, that’s what you do
Shes still a baby. Of course she needs you. My daughter is the same age and she plays by herself. But when she crys I hold her comfort her all the time. Shes still little. That’s how their supposed to be. Let them be little. They’re only that way for such a short time. This is the best. My son is 9 and I miss him being this little. One day you will miss the snuggles and one day you will put her down and she won’t want to be held anymore. Enjoy it. Take it all in. Its exhausting sometimes. But it’s not forever.
We co-sleep or no sleep. 
Just make sure you invite your 5yr old to play along. Spend special time with him while the baby is napping.
Been through this, have her sleep with you, then when she falls asleep, gently pick her up and sneak her back into her room. She will wake up in the morning to see shes back in her room, she will grasp the concept in time that, that is where she belongs. Let her know you love her. And I know you want to spend time with your son, but having a younger child requires more attention so you might want to sit on the floor with both of your kids and do some activities like coloring together, and just hold conversations that way they both see they are getting the attention they want and need. Watch somes shows with them and cuddle on the couch with both of them, they will see how much love you have for them and they will feel secured and comfortable. Take naps with them both that way they both can lay with you. But eventually maybe a few months ahead you will have to teach your daughter that she needs to sleep in her room and tell her you will reward her if she does. Or you can lay in her room with her til she falls asleep. Many children at that age have seperation anxiety and the last person they want to see when they close their eyes is the mother or father for comfort and security. It will pass. Keep loving on her, enjoy it while it lasts. They grow up so fast.
My first 2 kids were super clingy up until around 2 and a half/3. My youngest will be 2 soon, and we have been through some rough times. I also work part time but things are starting to get better slowly. My 2nd, which will be 5 next month, is still a bit that way sometimes. It was hard but we got through it. Good luck mama. It wont always be so hard. 
Is she sick, teething, or has there been any changes to her routine in any way?
My youngest 14 month old does this same thing when he’s teething or sick. He’s already clingy but when he’s going through a change he doesn’t like to be put down.
I usually hold him and reassure him that he’s okay and momma is here. Sometimes I have to hold him for an hour just to get him calm.
I cannot co sleep because that messes up his routine so I keep his night routine simple and consistent. I give him extra cuddles before and get him extra sleepy say prayers then lay him down. Lately he’s been sleeping 9-12 hours a night and sleeps longer at naps. But I’ve noticed his fingers are in his mouth. In your case 17 months is around the time toddlers get the back molars.
Its normal and some day you will miss it. I use to put 1 kid in the car seat or high chair have them do a activity they can do by themselves and then spend time with the other kid. My kids were closer in age though
Accept the fact that she needs you to love on her and she feels safe with her momma and she loves you. I know co sleeping may be hard however they’re not little forever. I am a single mom of 5 and I never let any of them really sleep in bed with me until my last child. And some nights I have some of my older kids bc they just need some extra comfort and peace and love to sleep well.
She’s only little once. I’d enjoy every minute.
shes a toddler who loves her mama… it’s all part of toddlerhood. you’re her safe place. 
Look into attachment theories.
She needs her mommy ,they really dont stay little long .love her and enjoy it ,you can still do things with your 5 year old it may not always be when you want but threres time there find it good luck hun
Cry it out doesn’t work for everyone. She wants lovens but she needs to learn boundaries too, like when you’re busy doing things. Keep her busy with toys but where she can see you. Can’t help with the sleep thing. I’ve always had great sleepers, even my 3 month old 🤷
Just hug her when she gets older you probably won’t see her much and you wish you had those hugs
Life size cardboard cut out of you ? move it further away every few days this for bed time not sure how it will go during the day you could also record your voice a lullaby or just a conversation on the phone
I found it helped with my daughter to decorate her room in what she loved the most, I even copied her fav coloring pages of characters colored them and put em up all over her room and at her height, she loved it!! She found her room more appealing to her, she still was clingy but it cut it down some and I could get the house work down a little faster…
Welcome to parenthood mama, it does get easier as they get a bit older. Every child is different and we struggle to find what works and doesn’t. You need to schedule a evening time for the 5yr old when baby #2 is asleep. You just gotta balance it all out, good luck from a mama of 4 kiddos!
Sounds like a typical toddler to me