So, my two years old has to hold my hand all the time, going to bed, in the car and pretty much all the time. It’s kinda always been just us and her little brother. I love that we are so close, and she always wants mommy, but it’s kinda getting hard holding her hand all the time, especially with her brother bring mobile now and wanting to get into everything. Does anyone have suggestions on what to do? I know it might help me kinda like her security blanket cause we’ve been through a lot in the last two years, and I’ve tried giving her, her favorite blanket, her favorite toy(her Minnie mouse stuffed animal) I don’t know what else to do.
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Try and enjoy this sweet stage mommas… It’ll pass and soon be a memory. Sweetest thing I’ve read all day 
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She’s 2. Hold her hand and figure out a way to hold your son too.
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Those times you cant do it till one of your gloves with beans or rice and have her hold it. Or a stuffed animal… Idk… You’ll figure it out!
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Try to get her to just sit beside you or tell her mommy needs a little space for a moment if your doing cooking cleaning or taking care of her little brother.
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Cherish it. Someday she will not want to
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Hold her hand. It doesn’t last forever. Sincerely a mom of teenagers.
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Enjoy it. Because that ends sooner than u think
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Get a mommy substitute a sweat toy with hands or paws and you hold its hand and she hold its other hand so she can get used to it with you connected then start having her hold its hand with out you or for you like a helper and see if you can replace your hand sometimes with it .
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She is only little for just a little while
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Just hold it… soon it won’t be happening…
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My 27 year old now holds his girlfriends hand, enjoy it while you can 
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Shes telling you she has a specific need and only you can give her security. Hold it, try to understand why. Lots of affirmations and cuddles. Sweet girl 
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What a wonderful problem to have! 
(No seriously, it’s totally okay to feel overwhelmed. Maybe get her a stuffed animal that she can hold while you’re taking care of her brother?)
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Show her that sitting beside you while you use both your hans tending to her brother. Is ok. And that you love her just as much. And let her know your not going anywhere. That you’ll always be there for her. 2 year olds understand more than people realize.
Enjoy it ,when it’s gone you will wish it was still happening
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When she is busy go hold her hand let her see how it interrupts her play may make her understand 
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Just hold her hand. It won’t last forever!
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Forget making her independent. She’s 2. You’ll be wishing for this again one day. I still do. Every day.
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Enjoy every moment of holding hands with your daughter. When she’s a teenager it will not be like that
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Don’t worry she will outgrow it .believe it or not,you will long for it someday…
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Cherish every single moment of it
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I know people wish their child would still hold their hand but I get it when you have another little one to take care of it’s challenging, when you have to do tasks where you need your hand give her tasks she needs her hands for like bringing you brothers diapers, dusting while you do dishes, then she won’t know your making her let go when she doesn’t want to
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There are moments where I cannot tolerate the thought of holding my childrens’ hands. These are moments when I am drained and my love tank is empty. At that point, I need a break. So I MAKE sure I take so I am able to hold their hands as much as they want. They need us. If you need a break, I understand. But try not to force your two year to grow up too soon or gain independence. That will come in time. Hang on to this dependence. Hold her hand, cherish that moment!
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It changes so fast😭 you’re going to miss this so much! Hold her hand
Hold her damn hand. She’s 2
Don’t discourage that holding her hand is great as one day she won’t and I promise you …you will be the one to miss holding her. My lot are all grown up and I miss those moments very much love my grandkids very much but it’s not the same as holding your own …
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Try giving her a jacket that you wear. Something that has you smell on it. Tell her she can hang onto it or wear it while you are busy and can’t hold her hand.
It isnt about the confidence she will get there. It is a comfort thing like with some with pacifiers. My daughter use to love to hold my hand in the car, to help calm her, when she was tired etc. It was a comfort thing. She still does it and at times it can be overwhelming as I never have personal space. But she will outgrow it and it will be fine. She just wants you close.
2 years old is still normal to want to constantly hold hands… I wouldn’t be too worried about pushing her towards “independence”
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This is not the problem…the day she doesn’t want to hold your hand is the problem. I played many sports throughout my years and into a collage… The most meaningful thing I was ever told " don’t be worried when I yell the day you need to worry is when I don’t"… Hold that hand like it’s the last time you’ll ever hold it. Tomorrow is never promised… You’ll wish you had never let go!
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I hope my little girl is this clingy once she’s older 
Hold her hand, but explain to her when you need to do something. She’s 2 but she is capable of understanding
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Get the book The Kissing Hand for her! https://www.gagasisterhood.com/2010/the-kissing-hand-eases-separation-anxiety/
I have four year old twins, i get you! I couldn’t go around holding both of their hands all the time. Yes it’s precious, but you need a little break from time to time. Give her chores to “help” you. Tell her to take the brothers diaper to the trash, or accidentally drop a few things for her to pick up for you. Tell her how important her help is… eventually she will look for little ways to help mommy! My daughter is 4 and such a good little “helper.” 
Hold it as long as you can momma … you’ll ache for that kind of closeness before you know it
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Ask her to hold his hand
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Enjoy it…only 2, not 18.
Awe just let her hold your hand mama. She’ll let go when she’s ready.
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Enjoy it. My 7 year old recently refuses to hold my hand and it breaks my heart
Enjoy the time, it won’t last forever.
I never respond to any of these, but this time I had to!
Hold that beautiful baby’s hand! Cause trust me, when she grows up you’ll wish you could hold it again!
Take it from a mom of an 11yo & 13½yo!
hold her hand!
–this is said with love btw 
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When you can’t hold it let her hold something of yours for a few moments. She will probably grow out of this eventually.
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Hold her hand while you can there’s gonna be a day she won’t wanna hold your hand😊
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Hold her damn hand. One day youll wake up and miss that tiny person wanting you. It goes by so fast. By the time shes 3 to 3.5yrs she will show quite a bit of independence so hold her damn hand.
Dont worry, they grow out of it as soon as they find friend.
One day he won’t even want to talk to u. Cherish these moments in stead of seeing them as a problem
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Enjoy it while it lasts 
it’s not going to last forever x
You say that you and her have been through a lot in past 2 years that her life time and I would say you have been the one thing that was constant in her life and she afraid you may leave without her ask her to draw you a picture give her some paper and a pencil when she is done make a big fuss put on the fridge DONT THOW THEM OUT
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Enjoy it mama. One day she wont
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I realize this seems inconvenient for you, but the opposite sort of child, like mine, is a mother’s worst fear. My wildly independent children wander off in stores, attempt to run across parking lots and streets and talk to anyone and everyone. It’s scary because I’m constantly on high alert because my kids will simply walk off with anyone because they know no strangers. I wish I didn’t have to beg plead or bribe them to even walk next to me much less hold my hand in general.
On the flip side I know you want to get things done at home, so put her to work. Give her her own scrub brush to wash dishes, have her hold the cord while you vacuum, make sweeping a game. Keep her mentally and physically active and she won’t have time to ponder on where your hand is
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Let her hold it as long as you can. But if you need it have her hold the bottom of your shirt instead
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Off her something of yours to hold. Maybe a hair scrunchie but make it seem like she is helping you. Ask her to hold it so you can grab brother and ask if she can hold his little hand too sometimes. Great advice to let her hold you forever, just not realistic. Kids are easier to work with distractions than just saying no so just try to occupy her with something else when on the go.
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Hold that baby’s hand as long as she wants you to hold it. Their only little once. Enjoy every minute of it. My kids are grown now and I miss rocking them to sleep them fighting who was going to sit on mama’s lap ( I always put one each side of me) (their 5 years apart too) so miss my youngest always having to play with my hair when he got sleepy or curled up to me. Enjoy it as long as you can. There will be a day she is all grown.
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Enjoy it while it lasts!
She’s 2. Let her be.
Past 2 years have been rough you said and not knowing ‘what’ guessing she needs your comfort. I wanted my son to hold my hand, but at home he didn’t. Have her hold brothers hand as she is ‘big sister’. Get t-shirts that say ‘I am the big sister’ and one for your son that says ‘I have a big sister’ I have seen allot of t-shirts for siblings. Make her feel important helping with little brother, getting a diaper, picking out what he will wear and so on. Also drawing pictures of how she feels that day. Crayons and a pad of white paper. Kids can show you allot with their pictures. Coloring books too are fun. Finger painting is cool too but messier. She will be fine, just not time to cut the cord yet for her. She will, not to worry.
My 2 yr old slipped away A few yrs ago , God I wish I could hold her hand again , I will hold it one day !
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Hold her hand for as long as she lets you. Someday soon you will long for her little hand in yours.
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Just hold her hand, she will stop soon enough. BTW have her eyes checked.
Cherish these moments. They are fleeting. Be her security blanket while you can.
She’s 2!!! Hold her hand for Pete’s sake! 
Baby loves her mother whats the big deal smh what a horrible problem not.
Take advantage of it while she is still little. There may come a day when she doesn’t want to be around you. They grow too fast.
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Hold her hand as long as she needs it. You are her security and she won’t be two forever. Right now the world is huge to her and you are what grounds her. When she’s older, you will miss those moments!
Keep being her constant. Be there every time she needs you. Independence in children comes from security. She will get there mama💗
Hold her hand as long as she wants because one day she will ask for the last time and itll will break your heart.
You better cherish that, my 2 year old is far to independent.
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Enjoy it while it lasts, one day will will wish they would hold your hand again… treasure this and every moment
I know everyone is saying keep holding her hand. And I totally get it. But shes asking how to gently ease her into a little more independence. It’s hard raising 2 kids when 1 is always attached to you. I’m not sure how mature she is for a 2 year old but they understand more than you think. Maybe just explain that you will hold hands after you complete what you need to? Or that her sibling needs attention at the moment. Maybe it’s a bot of jealousy? Have her assist with sibling? I mean, def cherish this. And shower her with love. But I understand the issue
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Dianelys Lopez remember
When she starts school , they want to do everything themselves enjoy them now while there small,time goes by so fast.
You are her security. This won’t last forever. I love holding my little ones hand. Pretty soon you’ll be missing this.
What happened with the dad, maybe anxiety over you leaving also…
Keep holding it!
You will miss it
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Just hold her hand she is only two