My nerves are shot. My 4-year old is acting out at school and being aggressive with his classmates. We’re working on figuring out what to do. Meanwhile, we’re scrambling to figure out where he learned it, or what’s causing it. So, if anyone has any input on discipline and punishment for a strong willed 4-year old, I’m all ears.
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I would talk to the pediatrician. My son did that when he started school and I spoke to the pediatrician about it. She went over some dietary things to try and also referred my son out for evaluation. Behavioral health has helped and it’s best to start early if needed
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My grandbaby is going through this. We are taking him to a children’s behavioral therapist and it’s like a totally different child. She’s showing him how to deal with his emotions in a positive way and she didn’t immediately suggest that he be medicated. He really likes her and is making awesome progress. Praying for y’all and the struggle. God bless
Following. My grandson (5) has been having problems at school, too. Being verbally mean to teacher, throwing chairs and papers, etc.
My son & bonus daughter has issues as well! Both of them are in counseling, med for PTSD & yes they get spankings when needed.
Questions to ask yourself & them:
~Has anything traumatic happened or going on in his life? Parent in or out? My son watch my mom die of a heart attack & 4mn later we lost our house to a fire we where all in it. Daughter, we have been fighting for 4.5 years to keep her safe. She is just now starting to come out of survival mode and she still dips back into it occasionally.
~ Is he hyperactive, ups and downs? Possibly ADHD or autistic? I know none of us want to give our kids those label. Look into what foods he’s eating. Is there a lot of processed foods, red or yellow food dyes? You may want to start cutting some of them out, not all at once he’ll go through withdrawals.
~ Is he into an activity he enjoys? Sports, computers, art, Scouts, 4-H? Getting him into something he enjoys, gives him structure, a schedule can help change his attitude. When he’s acting up you have something that he will be upset if he misses if it has to come to that.
~ How much quality time does he get with you or another parent? I work two jobs and I noticed when they don’t have quality time they acts out. I have four kids I take each of them out separately for a mommy/ kid time. Via shopping ( grocery, Farm, fun) dinner, special outing once every two weeks.
Don’t give up! You’ve got this! Remember even you need a time out sometimes and it’s okay to take it.
He’s 4 he’s learning still it’s hard for a 4 year old to control their emotions covid took away a lot of the social development for these younger children where they couldn’t be exposed to social situations to learn those skills. Be firm, reward the good behavior.
Evaluate sleep… My baby was going thru this (he’ll be 4 in 2 weeks) got his sleep back on track and problem solved for the most part. It can be hunger or overstimulation too. Severe vitamin B1 (thiamine) and B6 deficiencies too. Try searching foods, veggies high in these are great for decreasing aggression (eggplant can actually increase aggression tho).
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4 year olds have little self control or understanding and they don’t belong in school. Maybe be a parent and keep your child home until they’re ready for school.
Simple solution that has worked for many decades. Spankings
Is he vaccinated? Heal his gut and brain. Being inside of a school is toxic.