My daughter, who turns 4 in January, keeps having “accidents” daily. I say “accidents” because we think she just doesn’t want to get up and go. I get this is common in kids when they’re too busy playing, but it’s only at home, not when she’s at her preschool. Could this also maybe be from her newish baby sister? She just turned one, so it’s not like she’s a newborn needing attention 24/7, and they get along. I do remind her during the day to go to the bathroom if she needs to go. She has now developed a rash all around her where her underwear line is because she doesn’t tell me when she pees herself. I have diaper cream on her 24/7 and have been doing the wiping for her. She wears a pull-up at night, but we can’t do it during the day because then she will purposely pee herself. She doesn’t complain of pain when she goes, so I don’t believe it would be an infection. I do have an appointment for her, but I’d like to hear from other moms what worked for them.
same with my 4 year old before we are in and out emergencies due to heas bumps
Set an alarm or a reminder to get her in the habit of going throughout the day at home.
They forget …just be patient and reward her for going on the potty frequently.
My 3 1/2 year old is like this. At daycare she’s great and goes potty but when she gets home I have to be on her to use the potty. She’s getting better! Now just have to work on night time ugh! Good luck
when i was little i couldnt tell i had to go till i was at that ohh noo i cant make it point… maybe that? but id still her her checked for infection
My kiddo is almost 5 and I just have have to make her go and go with her. She has done this for at least a year now and I just get tired of argument.
So we just both go together.
Try a staying dry reward program… no punishments for accidents… pick something she really wants as a big prize for staying dry all week but do little daily prizes…
Pick her up and take her to the bathroom every 30 minutes. She will learn real quick to stop when you keep taking her to the bathroom cause she isn’t going to want to go to the bathroom every 30 minutes
I know for a fact that I used to when i was her age, only at home, until i was like 6. I was always playing too hard to stop.
When they are ready they are ready. Is she waking up in a dry pull-up?
My daughter was the same way we had her set up with a urinalysis and had ultrasounds done. Found out she was backed bad and it was causing pressure on her bladder.
I’d get her checked for irritated bladder or maybe a UTI.
Also, if you get mad at them they can revert there potty training.
I would make her go in every hour to 2hrs my son was same until he realized peeing his pants takes up more time than going in toilet
It could be many things. She could be busy, it could be because you have another child, she could have an infection, she could have been sexually assaulted.
There’s a Daniel Tiger potty training episode on PBS that reminds kids to stop what they’re doing to go potty. It was wonderful with my four year old.
Following, having the same issue
My 5 year old girl has been doing this since her sister was born. Driving me nuts. Her sisters like 16month and we’re still having issues
Retrain her take her every 30 min . My daughter had this happen and from reading up it’s a common thing I guess .
It could possibly be the new baby sitter. I only say that, because our daughter is the same age and when family came into town that she hadn’t been around before, all of a sudden she started having accidents. I think she was just nervous or didn’t want to be around them to get up and go potty (she’s a very shy kid) but once she realized they were family and got used to everyone it stopped happening. Like I said I think she was just shy/nervous and was really just doing it on “accident”. Try to get her used to the baby sitter and have the sitter help you with potty training so your kid knows she’s going be around her and to not be afraid.
It’s not uncommon for a child to regress a bit when a new baby joins the family. Don’t shame her for it, whatever you do, it only damages self esteem. You need to approach this with some positive encouragement, and can always look into bringing her to a child psychologist if she can’t/won’t open up to you about her feelings. They can also help you to understand why she seems to be going backwards. I’ve been there with two of my kids.
I think she is doing it purposely to get your attention away from little sister. Not intentionally to be bad but psychological for recognition. She doesn’t know it’s wrong.
There are toilet or potty watches that go off to remind children to take a bathroom break. About $10-$15 so not horribly expensive. Also very “cool” for the older child 
Set a timer and have her try to go potty every 30 minutes until she has done so in the potty. Then wait an hour and start it again. Scheduling the time will help her to retrain herself at home and it is disruptive to her play schedule which should make her want to go so you won’t interrupt her play so often. Reward successes with stars on a chart and so many stars should equal a prize
My daughter had accidents when she was about to turn 5. There was no UTI, i tooked her to the doc. I knew she had accidents when she was entertained playing or watching her favorite show 🤷🏻 later she stopped when i told her that she’d always have more to play and watch tv.
My niece just had this same issue and she was having uti and uti and then come to find out she was constipated which was causing her to wet herself. Then she developed a staff infection and it bad before they finally were able to get all under control. I would take her to the doctor ASAP. And keep pull ups on her for now. Just let her get over this hump.
Wish you the best:innocent:
I don’t understand this Facebook page. It is literally called “My Husband is a Blessing” and yet this post is about a 4 year old with accidents…No offense to the poster, but maybe you should ask the question on a parenting page??
My almost 11 yr old son was having issues yes I said 11 and we finally cut drinks no drinking after 8pm unless montiored and boom he was fine
At daycare or preschool they probably have routine times that they just go to the bathroom. They don’t get a choice. They go because it’s time to go and everybody else is going. So maybe for a little while you could do a routine potty time at home. For example, go every hour. And maybe try some sort of small attagirl such as a stamp on her hand for staying dry for so many hours. Good luck
This speaks red flags to me… on so many levels. She doesn’t want to use the potty clearly for someone. I don’t feel it has to do with a new baby sister. I just hope I am wrong. 
Have her checked for a UTI. Happened to my daughter as well. She was fully potty trained then having accidents. While it maybe that she’s regressing cause of the new baby, better to be safe and make sure it’s nothing more.
If she has a rash her urine is burning her skin . try introducing more water. It could be concentrated . might be a uti . the worst thing you can do is scold her .she might be needing some more mommy time that is especially devoted to her . leave no stone unturned.watch out for odd behaviorshe might be being abused in other ways in other places . kids dont always tell you . have the talk about appropriate verses inappropriate . good luck
Following bc I am having issues with my 4 almost, 5 years in two weeks, daughter also having accidents. She does have urinary reflux and a kidney issue so I am not 
sold that it is her being lazy or anatomy issue. She goes to pre-k for only 2.5 hours and comes out wet each day. She will go through three outfits or more on the weekends. We remind her constantly. I feel I have tried every method possible. So will follow and see if I missed other options.
My grandson use to have accidents until he was 6. Don’t be concerned. It will stop eventually
4yr old don’t just have accidents. Seek medical attention and if it’s medical it’s something deeper
We have a three yr old that shows no interest no matter what we do ,so probably not going to be any help!
I’m wondering do you ever leave the kids with a sitter? Does anyone look after them? Just asking because sometimes when children use the bathroom on their self it can be a bad sign. It could be a uti but it could be a result of sexual abuse. I knew a child who’d use the bathroom on theirselves. They were abused. Not saying this is the case but just to watch.
I don’t get why she would have a rash. Take her to the potty and actually put her on it every 30min to an hour when she’s at the house.
Yes,they revert at timed
This sounds so familiar. I’m curious what everyone says.
It is common for children to regress some with a new siblings but I think this goes way beyond regression could the underwear be causing the rash does she say it’s painful to.urinate could be a bladder infection
When our son would not go to bathroom we pro.missed him one his favorite GO Joe toys every ti.e he did not wet his diaper.
Accidents do happen especially if there are just here or there but this seems to be very often .I would limit how much she is drinking and cut her off from having a drink like 3-4 hours before bed as well .I would also start taking her in the bathroom about every 30min to an hour and having her sit on the toilet for like 5 min and try to go ,run water if you need to to help her just some tips until you get her to a dr and make sure that is nothing serious and maybe just the pace of potty training she is working at. I’d also stop with the pull ups all together ,yes it sucks but it also let’s her know that sometimes it’s okay to go to bathroom on yourself ,its opening her up to thinking she can just go and maybe at times she thinks she has one on .those definitely got to go !
At that age my daughter would have accidents because she would get irritated privates from wiping too hard or using not-so-soft toilet paper. She wouldn’t complain but it was obviously irritated. Still at 8 she has issues so she pays dry/clean instead of wiping.
Also constipation can make them not wanna go potty, have accidents, and have irritated lady bits.
I would get a professional opinion. Not every child is the same. Could be many reasons why this is happening. Constipation can be a culprit but so many other things as well. How is her sleep patterns etc. She could have a UTI and with not being treated will cause her to wet herself. First signs of UTI and rash. Constipation from not drinking enough can cause little ones at that age to have them.
I have found that rash cream.doesnt work as well as “pure corn starch powder” at least with all my kids & grandkids it works much faster to get rid of it. Yes,definitely have her checked for infections etc but also not just remind her but actually get up & go with her to the potty every hour to make sure she is going. And just check her also in between. I would think if you’re checking her often,she wouldn’t develop a rash. (Not meant to sound bad sorry)
My daughter done this around the same age. She grew out of it. It’s annoying though
When she pees in her panties, she must wash, rinse & ring them out by hand. It’s not punishment it’s responsibility for your actions.
You should take her ti the dr. Kids will do that if they have a uti