I need advice, my 4 yr old won’t do poop in the potty, she has and of course we praised her but it’s more common that she’ll go in her underwear. She will tell us when she has to go number 1 and can’t remember the last time she had an accident. She struggles with number 2. I feel defeated, she starts pre-k 4 in 2 days and know it’s a big hassle if she has an accident at school. Any advice will help, please no rude comments, I’m already down as it. Thanks!
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My 4 yr old randomly poops in her panties…no idea why. Usually she tells me I didn’t feel like going to the potty. 
Try letting her watch videos about potty train. My 2 years old and and a half knows how to potty already. She just watch Miss rachel and other videos that teaches toddlers what if feels when they want to poop and how to tell someone they need to go.
Have her help you clean her undies when she does go.
One thing if she’s having tummy issues. Another if she just doesn’t try to make it to the toilet.
Try to note when she usually goes.
My kids are big on not going #2 at school. So that’s the first thing they do when they get home.
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With any luck, peer pressure will have an effect. Crapping your pants in front of a whole class should teach her this is undesirable pretty quickly.
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So I had three issues with my son. He has autism and sensory (1 problem). He was potty trained at 3 with both but he didn’t like #2 on the potty. He has a routine when he was going to go #2 in his pants I would grab him and run him there, and we would sit. Sometimes for HOURS until he finally gave in. So one day I had him sit and we talked about ALL THE THINGS WE LIKED/DIDNT LIKE. from storms, to food and eventually why he doesn’t like to #2 on the potty. Turned out he didnt like the echo sound and the wet sploosh (problem 2). And then then with his sensory he liked being full. Whether that was his mouth jammed full like a chipmunk or a full belly to where he would want to puke. He liked the pressure of being full (problem 3). So when he would be “full” he was at peace which was a mess to work on but we got through it. It took about a wk to find the right solution for the sound/wet part of #2 and then he was good that way. Then we worked on the feeling full…but that too time because we were working on 3 full feelings. And when I did daycare as a teen a lot of kids hated the sound of the big kid toilets. We never did potty chair toilet because then they didn’t want to transition to the real toilet.
Bribe her with something she really wants.
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My son was slow to poop. I would let him wear his favorite underwear, usually Buzz Lightyear and when he’d have an “accident” he’d have to throw them away. He didn’t like that at all and caught on quick. I never really threw them away. They were crazy expensive!! Good Luck!!
My granddaughter has issues pooping on the potty too. I believe it’s the way she squats to poop. She’s having to learn to sit instead of squat and it’s been a challenge. I’ve suggested getting her something to put her feet on like a little squatty potty.
What about saying your a big girl now, and take her to the toilet, praise her, take her every time you want to go. As she’s a big girl. My grand daughter was the same made her bottom very sore as she wouldn’t go on the potty to poop. Do a reward chart if that helps. Never, chastise her ever, you will work it out together, with understanding and kindness. Keep wipes and spare nickers with you. And go out shopping for some nice nickers. If she feels grown up she might not want to soil them. Cross fingers for you
Yes my kids were the same took awhile
My granddaughter would pee but not poo. I tried praise, sticker charts, but it wasn’t until I tried candy that it got her attention. I didn’t let her have candy any other time, but if she peed on the potty she got a few M&Ms, if she pood she got mini Reece cups. Two days later she was trained! I spoke to few other parents and it worked for them as well.
my son was like this. he was pee trained from 2 and up but i couldnt get him poop trained til he was 4 ish. i HAD to catch him mid poop for a few weeks and throw him on the toilet and after doing that a few times it was like a light switch and he started going on it regularly 
Cut a hole in a pull up. Put it on her and sit on potty chair when she has to go…worked with two of mine
Try getting something like this for her
And praise her for using a big girl toilet
It’s normal, honestly. Both of my older boys (14 and 4) didn’t want to poop on the potty, my 14 year old I bribed with a $2 bill taped to the wall above the toilet 
it took some time but he got that $2 after a couple weeks. My 4 year old I just got tired of cleaning poopy underwear so I had him sit on the potty one day and we worked on belly pushing, once he got the idea down and realized he was able to control pooping, he’s been fine since and he just got potty trained around his birthday. We tried praising, bribing, etc with my 4 year old, none of it took until I made him sit there and worked with him on the pushing thing.
Regular sitting schedule is what I did. I also had problems with constipation due to this. We had him sit 3 times a day regardless if they want to or not, morning, after school or noon and at night. They will eventually get into that habit even her bowels will know, those times are when to go. Hopefully that helps!
Increase fibre in diet. Sometimes they are a wee bit constipated and if the stool is softer it won’t hurt when she goes. Much easier.