I got a call from my 8 year old daughters school about how she doesn’t listen and is constantly flirting with other boys is this normal behavior
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If you got a call from the school it’s probably not “normal” behavior. You definitely need more context (hopefully you have it). Would be hard for anyone else to assess the situation I’m anyway without that context. Good luck Mama 
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Lol YES it is depending on what you mean.
My youngest is 8 and she says she has 2 boyfriends in class. 
At the last conference we had I casually mentioned it and the teacher laughed and said all the kids in his class say it all the time. He said it is innocent and if one of the kids asked her to stop she does.
What was she doing that a call had to be placed? Did the teacher move her to a different spot to see if that helped?
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Some girls start early. I’m more concerned about the teacher calling about it. Definitely get more info
I would have a sit down with the teacher
I was in love with boys from the day I was born LOL I had a boyfriend in daycare and definitely had crushes at age 8… seems weird the teacher would call her out on it though unless she is doing or saying things inappropriate…
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I would ask them to define “flirting”
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The not listening isn’t normal but I’d need them to define flirting.
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It depends on what exactly they call flirting, I will go to school and address the issue personally
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My daughter is 7 … and she always running after the boys in school , saying she’s married and kisses them (she doesn’t kiss them) , " I say she a flirt like her mum " 
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I think the game is called KISS AND CHASE
I suppose that depends on what’s being labelled as flirting. Yes it’s normal at that age for kids to have little innocent crushes or to be engaged by their peers. It would be crossing lines though if her behaviour is becoming inappropriate. If its as simple as not listening because she’s talking to boys or other kids that’s pretty typical of any kid. Talk to her about focusing in class. But also talk to the teacher to find out exactly what’s happening… is this a kid being a kid, a teacher being a weirdo, or something else that needs your immediate attention.
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It depends on what they mean by “flirting”
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Awww… im sure it’s all innocent! They’re literally kids!
You should be more worried about her not listening then her innocent flirting. So much is blown out of proportion these days.
My 8 year old daughter had her butt grabbed on multiple occasions by the same kids ?..Her teacher took action quickly and I am thankful
Depends on the flirting. Our youngest is 9. He has had a few girls in his class that are “boy crazy” (their words), and we have had some issues. It was incredibly uncomfortable and awkward, and a lot of it came from their home life so I felt incredibly bad for these girls. 1 little girl was exposed to a lot, and would heavily flirt with all the boys in class and be extremely inappropriate. Another girl would overly flirt in a very inappropriate way, including trying to wear dresses/skirts with NO underwear and show the boys. I feel like at this age some of it can be normal, and some of it can be red flags. I would ask the teacher to explain more and to give explains.
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Wait… That’s the email you got and what you took away from it was the flirting? I’d be willing to bet the “not listening” part was the actual point of the email. The flirting was probably just what she’s doing INSTEAD of listening. 
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It’s normal for her to flirt at 8 but not normal for them to call her on it. So what? She’s a kid. I feel like I had like 4 boyfriends at 8. Lol.
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Depends on what they called flirting I am a Tom boys and even from a young age till today I have had more male friends then female friends and I see the same with my daughter in preschool. Girls are drama and I would rather work on cars or go fishing play sports then chatty Cathy over coffee and talk about clothes
As long as they aren’t kissing or doing anything inappropriate who cares
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Please more context…this is definitely a situation that could be seen in two ways. Inappropriate or just your typical 8/9 year old flirting ypu know.
flirting at 8 ? she probably just wants to be noticed !
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depends on the actual "flirting " what exactly is she doing? she shouldn’t be doing flirting at that age , if she has been told multiple times by the teacher to stop, and if the boys are not wanting her flirting but she continues then yeah you are probably going to have a conference set up soon with your daughter’s teacher and principal and they’ll tell you to bring her too
Well at that age I use to beat up the boys at lunch time for looking up the girls skirts when going up the stairs…I always wore shorts under mine. By 7th grade we all got along…
Yea like she is 8 what do they mean flirting??? Like is she trying to hug and kiss these boys … Or is she just overly talking to them in which then I would be pissed that they are classify that as flirting
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No this is not normal behavior! My daughter is 11 and boys still have cooties 
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I kissed my crush in kindergarten. Lol It was innocent.
She’s 8…She’s not looking to get married 
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Hahaha yes she’s getting boys crazy. Sounds ridiculous. Ask them to define flirting. Also my 11 year old son is coming home telling me how many girl friends he’s got and I’m not getting called about it so there’s that lol
Ask them what behaviors they’re deeming ‘flirty’ and to describe the situation further to you. She’s nearing puberty, so she’s going to have more interest in boys.
Perhaps she sees others doing it.
Overall, it could just be super friendly behavior she’s giving and the teachers take it as flirty, I’ve seen grown adults be accused as ‘flirty’ by others when just being friendly or kind. In my kiddos school they have 8/9 year olds claiming they’re ‘dating’ and I remember stories of my first kiss being in kindergarten. It can be normal lol.
Ask your kiddo, in a nice way, how she talks to others and see what’s going on.
As for the not listening, get after her for that. Nip it before it gets bad.
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Why would any adult think they can embarrass a child like that if they are flirting. being nice isn’t flirting I would talk shit fuck that
I was on my second engagement at 8. Schools these days are trying to crush true love 
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My 10yr wants nothing to do with boyfriends I’d have her talk to a school counselor or therapist
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Unless she is being inappropriate, it’s normal. But if she is being inappropriate towards them it definitely needs to be called out and stopped.
Context and Details are important.
My son is 9. Almost all of his friends are girls (been that way since kindergarten) with a few exceptions.
So while some would look at him as though he’s “flirting” he doesn’t really even know what that means. In his mind he’s just interacting with his friends.
At 7 him and his best friend (a girl) got separated because they spent more time talking to each other than paying attention in class.
This is the same best friend he’d planned on marrying because in his mind being married simply means living with your best friend. 
Thankfully his teachers didn’t call it flirting to me or the girls mom.
They just said our kids were inseparable to the point of distracting each other.
I would say talk to the school and ask for details and then talk to your daughter.
Go from there when you’ve got more knowledge about what’s really going on.
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Definitely normal. And, I’d talk to her and teacher to find out exactly what not listening entails. Is she bored because she’s not challenged? Is she having a hard time sitting still? Does she just butt heads with this particular teacher for some reason?
I would be asking what they think is the root of inappropriate social behaviour. Is it merely that she gets in with boys? In what way is she being inappropriate? A lack of social awareness and “not listening” could be symptoms of ASD or ADHD in girls so worth getting checked out.
It depends on what “flirting” is. Now a days people confuse common courtesy and niceties for flirting. Sometimes something can be flirting when you do it with one person, and not with another. Like if your date holds the door open for you vs a random person holding the door for a random person. Are we sure the kids aren’t just playing and it’s super innocent? Like if adults or teens did it we’d call it flirting but for kids it’s just play?
My son is 8 and listens in school. Wayyy better than at home lol. If she’s feeling left out at school or maybe being made fun or for something that could encourage her not listening.
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