What would you do if you knew your best friend was pregnant but you also knew it was NOT her boyfriends and she cheated? I feel bad bc I’m also friends with the other guy she is with and feel he has a right to know she cheated and baby is not his but it’s not my place to say… right?
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I would let her and the 2 guys sort that out themselves. I mean if you knew she was cheating before she got pregnant, why didn’t you speak up then. Maybe encourage your friend to speak up and you try to stay out of the drama as much as possible unless you want to involve yourself in the drama.
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I am on babies side. Deserves to know who daddy is.
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Mind your dang BUSINESS. Some people.
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How do you know who the baby belongs too? If she was sleeping with both then you couldn’t know.
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Was you in the bed? How do you “know” I’d let sleeping dogs lay. The truth always comes out in the end.
My ex best friend was with this dude for 3-4 years now, took a break started screwing this guy for a few weeks got pregnant and decided she wanted to get back with her ex. Pretending she miscarried the baby and said she was gonna play it off like she got pregnant again but with her boyfriend… I didn’t condone it. Was friends with the guy she was screwing too and told him her plan. I don’t regret it. If that baby grows up without knowing its actual dad what if it needed blood or a body part. Yakno that’s why I think a child should ALWAYS get a chance to know it’s biological parents!
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How do u know for sure it’s not her boyfriend’s baby
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Approach your friend about it and encourage her to do the right thing. I know a guy who went through hell for 9 months thinking his gfs baby was his, when it was born he was so excited he went and got the kids name tattooed… not even a month later a DNA test verifies it isn’t his and his whole world is crushed. Your friend is a shitty human if she doesn’t speak up, but it’s not your job to. If she doesn’t come clean, I’d be cutting ties. That big of a lie and secret is disgusting when it involves a child.
Not only should the child know and have health history but bio dad should have the opportunity to see his baby be born.
Maybe just suggest a paternity test to the ex.
It could be either kid right? They should probably DNA test it…
A) there’s no way for YOU to know who the dad is
B) you didn’t care about your friendship with the boyfriend while she was cheating
C) you minded your business then so lather rinse repeat
D) you need to pick better friends
How would you feel if you were having affair with someone else and someone told your boyfriend if you were pregnant. She’s a Bitch but what can you do
I’d love to know how the “friend” knows the paternity of a baby who hasn’t even been born yet?
If she’s been having srx with two men she wouldn’t know 100% who the dad is.
If you tell him and he snaps and like kills her you’ll be sorry so probs stay out of it
If you can’t deal just don’t be her friend anymore
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This child deserves to grow up knowing both his biological parents. If the bio dad doesn’t want to know his kid, that’s one thing but the mother doesn’t have a right to choose for him.
If my best friend did that, I would end that friendship because I could not support that big and disgusting of a lie.
If she makes the right decision and come clean to both guys, I would be there holding her hand and supporting her through everything.
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It is none of you dang business. Let the three adults work it out themselves.
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Have you dicussed this with your friend? I would approach my friend first and encourage her to do the right thing. Let her know how you feel about the situation.
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I would message her boyfriend anonymous and tell him .
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I personally would accept that her and I would no longer be friends because I’d be telling her boyfriend. He deserves to know it’s not his baby, what he does with that information is his choice
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I grew up without my father. I would talk her into doing the right thing bc growing up not knowing my father was hard. The baby who will grow, should know the rightful father bc who knows what health issues the child might inherit from him.
Mind your business. She may have cheated but unless she told you, you don’t know for a fact. She may have used a condom or she may have had sex with both men in the same timeframe. Either way its up to her to decide when to share this information, not yours.
How would you feel if you were the boyfriend? And your “friend” knew and didn’t tell you? He has a right to know
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Only you can answer your own moral compass …
Every child deserves to know their father /where they come from and all men deserve to know if they are a parent or raising another man’s child…
Id probably try to get your friend to own it and speak up first and foremost then go from there
I’m a terrible friend because I would out her. I’m not on board with lying to a man about paternity
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There might be stuff you don’t know about the situation. So don’t speak on a situation that is not yours.
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This is called mind your business. That’s what.
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You can’t actually know that…. She doesn’t know for sure. Let her figure it out herself
What’s more important to you. Your friendship with her or with him?
Nothing! This could come back to bite you. Girlfriend has to figure it out.
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Can’t be your bestfriend if you discussing her here. Some people are good pretenders that’s all I’m saying.
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I would mind my own business.
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Not your place but you do know now how much of a dirt bag your other friend is.
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Stay well out of it believe me truth always comes out in the end! You don’t want to loose her as a friend , just let him figure it out sure if the babys not his then it won’t look like him
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You should have a serious conversation with your friend. Ask what she plans to do. See if you can guide her to be honest. But if not… then drop it.
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How do you know it’s not 100% his? It depends on who you are as a person. I
Personally wouldn’t care if I lost a friendship over it. Babies come above all. But I would be prepared for it to go either way.
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You mind your business. That’s gonna have to play out the way it’s gonna play out. He’ll figure it out. Not your place at all
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Do nothing don’t even get envolved in it
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What do you do? You mind your own business 
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How do you know the baby isn’t his?
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Best friends take each others secrets to the grave. If that’s your best friend you keep your mouth shut and be a best friend to her and let it all unravel on its own. Truth always comes out
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So its gross the amount of ppl who would let someone not know. Idc if your my friend or family, you cheat im telling your partner cuz that shit is disgusting!
Mind your business but be there for her.
Do nothing not your mess it’s hers🤷♀️
No, it’s not your place to say anything.
If she was intimate with them both in the same time frame you literally can’t KNOW he’s not the father because that would still make it a possibility.
I say mind your business.
This what u do mind ur own f-ing business
If she was sleeping with both guys at the same time there is no way of knowing who the baby daddy is
And if she wasn’t sleeping with her bf at the time I’m pretty sure he will put 2 and 2 together and work out he can’t be the father
Honestly, I expect my best friends to hold me to higher standards. And they do. Doesn’t mean we always see eye to eye, and doesn’t mean we don’t have each others backs, but we push each other to be better. FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILD I would tell your bestie she needs to fess up or you will. If you’ve already tried that route, write an anonymous letter to bio dad. Just know eventually, the truth always comes out.
I would forget I know that info and act shocked if it ever comes out. Not you clowns, not your circus.
Might be ur friend but not ur business. Let her handle this situation. She will need to face it sooner or later. Don’t judge be supportive if you are going to remain friends. If you are not then still don’t judge just quietly exit the friendship
Actually had this happen w a family member . She knew she was lying. So anonymously he got a message saying get a paternity test. He got the hint and yep he was not the father .
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Don’t get involved at all. If you do it will bite you in the butt
Do not say anything. Not your place. Mind your business.