My boyfriend just asked me “what if i dont want to get married? What if we just get engaged?” I love him but my dream is to get married… any thoughts?
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I would buy a car that I loved, I would lease one that I wanted to drive for a year or two… my analogy quota for the day 
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If not married next year forget it
What’s the point of getting engaged if there won’t be a wedding? Personally, I don’t think you have to get married to be committed to a life together. I wouldn’t even want the engagement ring. If getting married is what you want, then he isn’t the one. Maybe ask yourself why getting married is your dream? Maybe having a healthy committed relationship should be the dream. He has his feelings and you have yours. One of you isn’t going to get what you want. So you each have to ask yourselves if you’re ok with the outcome.
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Tell him that isn’t how you see your future and if he doesn’t want that also maybe this isn’t the right relationship.
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Lose that zero get a hero
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Move on he doesn’t want to be with you
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Is your dream to be married or have a wedding ? …. Marriage is supposed to be forever and if you’re just fixated on the wedding then that’s a problem… on the other hand why doesn’t he want to get married ? Is it the cost of the wedding ? The sharing of his surname? Do you have any issues with his family members that he doesn’t want to deal with at the wedding? There is so many more questions that need to be answered befor anything can be said
Find a man who wants to marry you.
And don’t let him say Ok, We’ll get married. He’s gaslighting you into a bs marriage.
Go find what YOU want & stop settling
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Tell him how you feel about it if he doesn’t want to amd you do then he’s nit the one for you
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If you want marriage and he doesn’t, then you might as well not waste your time. Move on.
Many ppl I know have been together for over 20 yrs not married but very happy if u u want the name and he don’t want to give it to u then move on but if u are happy let it be
he wants you just not enough to marry you… ok a couple that’s been engaged 20+ yrs, 3 kids, he says he wants to give her the wedding she deserves… she stopped wearing the ring over a decade ago
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Never ever guilt or talk someone into getting married who says they don’t want to. Your decision is not get married or move on.
If your life goals and dreams don’t line up, why continue to waste your time?
what’s the point of being engaged then??
Prayers for you Both 
Put 3 fingers in his butt. He will for sure marry you then.