Sounds like depression. It maybe a good idea to go and see your gp
He may just want a break or may be something serious is happening maybe he should talk to his dr if that really is the case no guy is to tired all time to not want sex so either there an actual important reason that should be seen by dr or he cheating and lying to u
Could be cheating or just lazy
You’re asking the wrong people. The only one who has your answer is your man. Be prepared for a bad answer but hope for a simple one. My ex would accuse me of this and that and cheating and blah blah blah but honestly I was just fucking tired. I had two damn jobs and I’m supposed to perform at home as well . I won’t lie there were strainers on our relationship. He could be pissed off at you and not interested due to anger.
You have to sit him down and talk to him . If he don’t wanna y’all I’m sorry but you can most likely assume the worst
If he has a physical Labor job,He’s probably just tired,I know it’s a lot easier just to lay in the bed , playing games,then trying to Perform!!
Or He may just like taking care of his self!
Now if he has an office job or just rides around all day,He might be cheating!!
Try And talk to him. If,that don’t work. Try and plan,a,suprise adult get away weekend. And say phones go in,the bag and are out only for an hour…
Not gonna lie, my ex husband did this to me… turns out he was cheating. Not saying your dude is… but it just reminded me instantly of my situation.
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Don’t feel my boyfriend is the same way we’ll he don’t stay up all night he gets up and works in the early morning so he tired and i am too
He could have low testosterone
Me and my partner have been together for 11 and a half years and are only intimate once or twice a fortnight, he games as well and I just fall asleep on the couch.
Try buying toys and start some me time in front or near him, pretty sure he would lose focus on his game straight away.
If not, turn his game off, or take one of his cords.
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Maybe a porn addiction.
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I went through this with my ex but he didn’t listen to how much it was upsetting me even when I told him how unwanted I felt. I tried to come to a fair compromise and offered alternatives and asked him to go to a doctor to make sure everything was ok but he refused to do anything or change anything. I stayed for a while but the resentment grew too strong. I didn’t sign up for a relationship like this and felt like I was only there to be a cook and a maid and we ended up separating. I’m still hopeful I’ll find someone who has a similar libido to me one day.
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Talk to him befor he pushes you so far away that you final say piss on this and move on and than he sits back and guilt trips you he could have a medical problem and is embarrassed to talk about it
Sorry but he has a side chick.
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Yeah he’s got someone else taking care of those needs
Check his phone babe
Sounds like someone I know 
… is he severely depressed? Does he take any medications? Is he addicted to porn? Is he addicted to masturbation?..
I’m pretty sure the answer to one of those questions… will be the answer to the issue going on…
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Of course you should say something!
Get him to sit with you & talk.
He might have depression.
Shutting himself away.
He might need treatment for depression or anxiety.
Sometimes it depends . Men usually who have desk jobs or drive trucks can have issues from sitting all the time . I went through this with my baby daddy
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Reddit Dead bedrooms… Check it out
Sex is not everything yeah it’s nice but I would just cuddling to
Men, just like women, can lose sex drive from a host of reasons, including stress and emotional distance. When I work 60+ hours a week, I can’t say I have the urge to get it on with my wife, even if I have free time/ a day off (which I would spend playing games and doing nothing).
Sitting down and trying to find out what’s going on in his life that may have changed will help significantly. I’d recommend also enhancing the relationship by trying to spend other quality time with him. If he wants to go out, then go out. If he wants to do something else at home, do it. I agree with you that sex is important, but a relationship without sex for a month will likely remain healthier than a relationship where sex was the only time together for a month.
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Maybe he likes men…
Ive been through the same thing. If you look it up men have a very big dip in their sex drive in their mid 20s. I used to let it bother me too, but once he explained to me he just doesn’t have the sex drive he used to have and I decided to be respectful to him and his feelings rather than being upset about it, it picked back up in about a year.
To everyone saying he’s automatically cheating, you’ve obviously had some issues in your past. It doesn’t mean he’s cheating.
We came up with a plan that worked for us(weird planning sex, I know) but it worked and now we do it at least once a week. The more you get upset about it, the more you will push him away. Instead of sex we would just cuddle and watch a movie or something. Sex isn’t everything, but i do agree it’s important. Talk with him, try your best to understand where he is coming from otherwise you will drive him away.
He maybe depressed. That lowers your sex drive a lot.
Honey take him to the doctor, he may have an underlying health issue like like testicular cancer, a thyroid problem, impotence can be an embarrassing issue, there are many things it does not necessarily mean he’s cheating. You need to talk to your guy!!
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No phones in bedroom charge in other area of house. So no phones in bed. Give that a shot. May just have internet addiction atm break the cycle.
A relationship is communication, honesty and trust. You should know your man by now. Talk to him, open up to him about it and make sure that he hears you. Tell him that you not happy and feel ignored at some point. As long as you don’t emphasize it then we won’t see that he’s pushing you aside
You didn’t mention his age, but his testosterone may be low.
You definitely need to talk to him on a non accusatory level. Maybe he’s stressed. Maybe he’s depressed.
I’ve been with my man for 32 yrs. We’ve had dry spells, but we talked.
Don’t jump right to him cheating unless you have other reasons to think he is.
The saying sex isn’t everything is annoying. No it’s not everything but it is important very important! You deserve the affection you want but you do need to understand his side of things. Tell him how you feel gain his perspective. Don’t yell don’t argue . Just find out why. Maybe you’ll get what you want
Get it from someone else then! Problem solved. 
Communication is the ticket. Have a one on one talk with no phones just y’all and tell him exactly how you feel
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You should NEVER be afraid/ashamed/nervous to say anything to your partner. Especially if it’s bothering you.
He might not know, probably doesn’t, how you feel.
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Focus on other ways he might be showing you affection. There could be many factors that can affect this
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So you’re not over reacting and I advise you to get professional help. Without it, you’re intimacy with him will only get worse. Hes probably obsessing with porn and is depressed. Check his phone history, make sure hes not giving all his attention to porn. But if he loves you. He will listen and try to change
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Its opposite with my husband and i. First hysterectomy, then blood pressure and raisi g to grandkids now fibro, osterarthritis and diabetes along with weight gain and now depression because of all this, past 4 years my drive has disappeared… Talk to drs etc… Said it could be all the above nothing they can do its all on me to get my health u der control. Maybe he is depressed or has some medical issues you all dont know about? Shouldnt automatically say cheating…
Its been more than 10 years scence me and my hubby had sex… He has low testron. Sorry cant spell it but its ok we have been together 19 years I’m not gonna leave him cause he cant
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So, it’s not just the sex that is different, but also affection in general? I’m gonna be real straight cause I’ve seen this (and experienced it) too many times. He’s (99.9%) up to something and he’s not being honest with you. Does that mean he’s cheating? No, but there’s a good chance, honestly. I doubt he’s invested in this relationship as much as you are and you are hurting. You can keep trying to talk to him, but if he’s not willing to engage - what do you do? Intimacy is important and he obviously likes sex because you used to do it every day. Is this relationship worth sacrificing intimacy? What are you getting out of the relationship without the intimacy?
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Gettin it way more than I am…the rest is how I feel too…wish I had a better answer for you…but I know how lack of intimacy takes a toll…and to be told it’s all about sex is insulting…yet here we are
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I have been in my relationship for 22 years. Married to him for over a year now. We have had the same problem. Went 4 years without, but turns out it was some of his medicine that was the problem. I would say something and I was always told it’s not me but him. I stood by him and now our sex life has gotten better. Depression and anxiety can cause problems also.
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I would try to talk to him tell him how it makes you feel. My husband and I have gone through a similar point on our relationship too. He wasnt cheating, or didn’t love me it turned out to be some pretty bad depression.
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My bf at one point was taking zoloft it lowered his sex drive plus didnt help much with well his little guy does he take any kind of medication or depression meds?
Me and my husband went through that. He wasn’t cheating but every relationship is different so could have been a different reason for you but my husband case he was stressed we talked about it and it started getting better when our situation changed.
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We’ve been married for 30 years, realistically, sex drive waxes and wanes in both men & women. Granted, it’s more common in women that men.
Various reasons for this include stress, medical issues, anxiety, depression, ect. Then of course there’s the lack of attraction or cheating.
If you’ve been together for as long as you have, you should be comfortable asking what’s going on, you should also anticipate an honest answer.
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Check his phone first. If he refused to let you, then sneak a look. If there is nothing there, seek medical help.
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You know him best , confront him , ask to look at his phone , been their done this ‘ he was cheating ‘ sorry xxx
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You don’t mention how old you both are but I would really find out just what the hell he is doing. Not showing signs of affection is a big red flag. I would pay attention to his time on the phone or leaving the room when it rings or putting a lock on it or having it glued to him. I’m not saying he has a side piece but don’t be to trusting or think he would never cheats on you think again. Been there done that. Don’t take to long wasting time on waiting for him to change. I would seriously ask him to see a doctor. If he doesn’t think there is no problem and refuses to see a doctor I would run and not look back. Don’t waste you years staying in an unhappy relationship.
Talk to him. If you can take a shit in front of him you can talk to him about your happiness. If you really REALLY think he is cheating think more deeply about ending it. I know it’s hard to not think he is but if you truly think he could what’s the point in staying? There are alot of other things that could be going on.
What does your intuition tell you? Trust your gut
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Check his phone,messenger,instgram you’ll have your answers. Sorry !
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I am in this boat. I know exactly how ya feel. I have spoke up and sometimes it helps sometimes not.
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Go to the adult toy store and get a big dildo and set it on the dresser.he will wake. Up and get to work.
Ha wait till he gets older you think it’s bad now 
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Is he cheating? My ex-husband was cheating when it got to that point.
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Looks like he’s snooping elsewhere and needs to get a reality check. What a lame excuse of a partner.
Could be depression or he could have Low Testosterone
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Say something or you will regret it
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That happened to me I found out he was having a affair
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I would say he has someone on the side.
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Find out if he’s cheating.
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It happens just move on
It could be something medical
You need to talk to him and express your feelings and talk it through but yes there’s times in a relationship where sex takes a backseat. If your having sex once a week that’s still a healthy sex life. If having a orgasm is that important masturbate. No harm in doing your own service. 
but definitely talk to him about your feelings of the affection part. And btw just because he isn’t always in the mood doesn’t mean he’s messing around.
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Sex is an important part of a relationship. I don’t think he’s cheating, but you never know. Don’t go through his phone. Because that will cause a loss of trust.
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I am the one who doesn’t feel like doing it. My Husband and I have been together for over 10 years now. I just had a hysterectomy 2 months ago and we’ve had sex 3 times since. My Husband is constantly bugging me and I know he feels like it’s his fault or that I’m not attracted to him anymore, which isn’t the case at all. I work full time, have a child, and am on multiple medications that make me sleepy. I don’t know what to do about it.
Are you sure he is not cheating
He’s glued to his phone, not having sex with you, no affection… He’s cheating!
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Baby he getting it elsewhere. Sex is like night night medicine. Get it and go to sleep. If he has time for a phone trust me it’s the other woman/ women. Wishing you the best sweetie.
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I been married 22 years and I can say couples do go through dry spells if life is getting tough at the moment. My husband is a trucker and I only see him 4 days every 2 and a half weeks. So we do it more in those 4 days then most married people in relationships that have been this long do . But that’s because we go that long not seeing each other…there have been times where we gone months without sex and we seen each other everyday. It does help all our kids are out of the house beside youngest which is 18 and still gone alot. I learned sex is like life it has it ups and down in a relationship. First key to a great sex life is you can talk to each other about it no matter what.
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It’s one thing to have a low sex drive and being tired! It’s a whole other thing if he’s on his phone all night/ playing video games or whatever! There’s a huge red flag waiving and you are ignoring it!!
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He would’ve said NO one time ijs
I think most relationships go through a dry spell or two at some point in time. Idk how old you are and him but a relationship is more than just sex. You have a child together that great focus on that. He likes games fine ask him teach you. Get involved and he will see how beautiful you are. If he shuts you down do what I did turned the internet off by unplugging it made him talk to me and we did talk when done we prayed and I plugged the internet back in… relationships are hard work now days because there technology that use not be there. So because it we have fight to get attention seems like at times. Get involved in a womans group church or in the community. Go park meet women and talk. Not your cup tea then go park for kids sake and let the child b happy and playing. Relationship is a 3 person job. 1st is GOD 2nd is head house and 3rd the woman. When all 3 come together as 1 everything clicks. The more you pray ask him to show you the path he will. Idk how old child is but sometimes men go through postpartum just like some will have cravings or some even start to lactate. Every man diffrent. But he has go bed sometime ask him flat out why. Each nite ask him why til answers and dont take a lame answer get a real from heart answer. And if you are religious and go church then go and talk to someone to help you put your good heart to work. If he wants act like a child then let him soon he will realise you not there and you have someone else alot someone’s you can lean on. But be strong. And remeber relationships r not abt intimacy its abt trust and love. You can be close without sex cuddle loving on each other holding hands while sleeping those r just as good when the sex is off table. Pray for him and ask god show u if it is ment for you be with him god will make it so if u need move on he will show you. It’s all in his timing. I know some people dont belive but I do and in my 26+ years marriage I always look to him for guidance. In our marriage sex isnt on table anymore because health and surgeries I have had. It’s not because we dont want it just mind does but body dont lol so we cuddle and we good with that. 100%
If you feel something is up look at his cell he should have 0 to hide. But pray and ask for guidance and will happen.
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You should talk to him. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years… We still have sex all of the time. We don’t get upset if one of us is too tired or just not feeling it. We also communicate about everything…
I’ve been with my husband almost 13 years. The last year and a half, I have had some medical issues and we have gone a month or two with having sex maybe once. My husband is a big gamer and there are definitely times I feel he uses it to avoid me. I’ve mentioned it to him and hes making a conscious effort to spend more time with me. Whether hes cooking supper with me or we cuddle on the couch and watch tv we are focusing on each other. Would your boyfriend be willing to try counseling.
I heard if man sees his wife giving birth, it scare him and gross him out and he stop having sex and can’t get weenie hard no more I guess maybe hypnosis him to find out but could be