This is absurd. His behavior is unacceptable. I don’t care how many hours hes working If he can’t handle it keep him home to do your job and you can go off to work- my Husband does hardcore manual labor for 13-15 hours a day 5-6 days a week- he woke up in the middle of the night to get our son from his room bring him to me to nurse him then he would snuggle him and put him back in his bed 2-3 times a night!!! He knew I needed rest and how hard being alone with the baby all day was. He would also make dinner when he got home. There is no excuse you just had an emergency c section I had a c-section with my twins and I know first hand how sore you and exhausted you are. Don’t let him get away with this but also have your mom watch the baby for a few hours on an evening he’s not working - go out to dinner and talk to him you two need to figure it out alone and make a plan. If he’s not willing to go to counseling or change or help then you need to leave he’s literally neglecting the baby and emotionally abusing you and being demanding. So un fair I’m so sorry you’re going through this makes me so sad
Wow, my hubby was a gold miner on 12 hr shifts , and he had issues, but he still came through for me. Not every day, as he would be tired when I was at times, but he consistently got up with our girls, did diaper changes, etc… Heres the thing, at least attempting to help is good enough, but if he does more than that, love him like crazy. You are both navigating new waters, but he needs to support you, no matter what.
Honestly it sounds like something is going on with him, maybe depression, burnt out or something. Not sure if guys can get baby blues but can’t see why not. I would have a chat with him and try to find out what his problem is. Or it can be his true colours coming out, either way you won’t know till you mention it to him
You were both thrown into a long-term relationship before you had worked out you were ready to stay together. He may have postnatal depression (guy’s get it too) talk to your gp then go from there they should be able to help with a plan to help him.
Sounds like you are with a 12 year old, not an adult! Go to marriage /family counseling. If that doesn’t work, get video proof of his neglect and whining. Then get full custody!
Hand to God, I’d be needing bail if he yelled at my INFANT. He doesnt sound depressed, he sounds like someone that doesnt want a baby.
Listen to your mom. Dont make your baby pay for your mistake.
Men go through post partum too; theirs just isn’t caused (usually when compared to most women) by a huge influx of hormones.
Either way, postpartum or not, either he sees a doctor and works on it or you leave. Or pause it while he works on it.
Sounds mean and uncaring. But a baby is more important. And if he’s yelling at a baby, then he doesn’t need to be around the baby.
do what is best for your child, no matter how much it hurts you
My hunny works longer then your boyfriend and still spends time with our kids. He works from 5am to 6-8pm and when he gets home he tells me to have an break, have an shower or whatever I want!! Plays with them, feed them, gives them a bath and puts them to bed. Pays bills and helps out with house work!! It’s an partnership!! 50/50
Is day care an option if so do day care and go back to work.
Your his partner not his mother if he wants someone to clean up after hin send him home to his mum but not sorting the baby sorry but hes a parent to he should be tbh im with your mum leave him its easier being single and not having a guy bringing you down. Its better to bring a child up on your own then let them witness i unhappy relationship
No excuse, my husband works 12 hour shifts and still stays up a little longer to change, feed, and play with our baby girl. 
U need to tell him not to ever yell at a tiny baby… thts not ok… ever… & if he won’t help & be patient so u can cook for him… tell him he can always eat cereal 
You don’t want to put your son it that kind of situation. 🤦 Like you are now putting your son in a bad toxic place. Both of you grow up and learn how to co parent bringing a child into this world is not all fun and games there is something called responsibility where you get rid of your selfish needs and start thinking about your child’s needs.
Life is hard…how old was he? Give him time to adjust not all not can be men and not all men can be father straight away
I think it is somewhat normal for a new dad to get burnt out quick, especially if he is working 12 hr night shifts. What isn’t normal is him yelling at the baby. I think him seeing some sort of mental health doctor could benefit him. Because he works, he shouldn’t be expected to do everything for the baby once he gets home but he should definitely help out and at the very least he could pick up after himself and not leave you with even more chores to do. You’ve just took on alot more responsibility too so anything that he can do himself, he definitely should handle.
Boy, has time ever changed. My husband and I raised 4 children and I can count on one hand how many times my husband ever changed a diaper, fed a bottle or baby sat any of our children. I never expected him to either. He got up every day and went to work. Sometimes We would barely see him for weeks or monthes at a time. It was my job to have our house clean, laundry washed, folded and put up (including his) and food on the table when he got home. What is it with these women now days? I take up for this womans man. If he is working hard 12 hours a day as stated, She should be thankful. It sounds like she has a good man and had better quit complaining before he gets tired of it. You women who take sides with her are lazy and you all should be ashamed of your selves! By the way, my husband and I will be married 50 years in June. Most marriage’s now days end in divorce. Maybe because the women expect to much of their husbands.
You have two choices, leave and have baby in a long term happy home, or stay, and have baby grow up to be just like him because you stayed and let him think it was normal, a happy mum who is separate from the father, is alot healthier for baby then an upset, frustrated mum, with a boy who thinks yelling/ignoring and treating you like a slave is what a real man is like. It’s not about you anymore, it’s about this baby and raising him with positive and living role models, not abusive fathers.
Maybe she needs a break to see how much she truly loves this man. Though his hours and what all he pays for says allot.
He went from not having a girlfriend to now a year later having to support you and your child. Everyone is so quick to tell you to leave because they are going based on your side of things. I will also go based on what you said and you said you love him to death. Working 12 hour shifts is hard but working nights is a whole different ballgame. He stepped up and is taking responsibility for you and his child. A lot of men take a while to adjust. You jumped in to a relationship and willingly got pregnant so now you both have to deal with the consequences of getting to know each other, you him and the baby. Yes it’s not right to yell at a baby but I’m sure it’s not as bad as your making it sound since you stated you love him to death. You should be helping him by cooking for him and having things done for him since he is working and paying all the bills sounds like. It’s called growing up. You fell into the role of being home and him bringing home the bacon. As much as you love your son, this is clearly not the role you want so Change your role, not your relationship. Had you taken the time to get to know him, maybe you would have known what his views were before you had a baby with him. I don’t say this as a put down but you chose this man to have a baby with so give your baby a shot at a good family. Every time a baby comes into a relationship, especially a very new one, there is a huge adjustment period. Do your part without complaining. Sit down and discuss what your expectations of him are and also take into consideration what his expectations are of you and clearly tell him what you are willing to do, not willing to do at all, and what you need time to compromise on. Good luck to you.
Have you ever worked 12+ hours a day? I have. Its exhausting. Most of the time I wouldnt even eat dinner because I was to tired to cook. You need to understand that. You also need to understand that he doesnt get a lot of sleep. And a crying baby makes that worse. Step up and take care of your house. Just like he stepped up and is taking care of his family.
Dads get baby blues too and also fatigue sit down together and work on it it’s hard work for new changes especially with a newborn
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Every family is different. I agree with all that say yelling at the baby is not ok but in all reality he just spent 12 hours working. Then probably 30min each way driving. So a total of 13 hours then he needs to be able to shower that’s about an hour if he shaves daily ect. A normal human being needs 7- 8 hours of sleep so. Lets see here. 12+1+1+8thats 22 hours of the day already completely gone. Then if he has to do any " chores" even taking out the trash can be a 30 min job. Yes putting his cloths in a laundry basket would be better. But then a laundry basket should be in the areas needed like bedroom and bathroom. Also to prevent shoes from being left out a box for shoes and a chair at the door to remove them might be a good idea. I honestly wouldnt expect a lot of help from him on days he works. Work is stressful that’s a 30 min wind down time. Plus I am not a morning person so it takes me personally 30 min to wake up. Add in bathroom needs ect his days are completely filled. He is exhausted probably both emotionally and physically. Now if he works 5 days or even 6 days a week on his days off its different but do not expect him to change his schedule and be up all day those days. It makes a person even more tired and drained. Maybe on his days off when he is home and awake at night he can let you sleep and he gets up with baby ( if not solely breastfed) maybe he can sleep in in the evenings or make himself breakfast at idk 2 am and go to bed early and sleep in a bit ( idk if he is a sleep right when he gets home person or a till he works person). I am honest I am a sahm and I hate it I feel like I dont " contribute" like I should if I’m not bringing in money. For a sahm which you are till you are able to arrange childcare and a job. Maybe have the baby’s schedule so he isnt getting up till after youve made breakfast? Then at 2 months thats 2-4 1 hour naps a day usially. So when the baby goes down for nap one clean. Nap 2 you time ( shower watch a show ect)( also grab lunch lol). Nap 3 cook dinner ( having a hommade meal before work or to take for lunch makes men happy. They feel appreciated). Nap 4 you and so get a little time together ( shower talk ect whatever floats your boat). Esentually you are the maid, you are the chef and you are the child care as a sahm. It is your duty to provide a happy healthy home for your man while he provides the actual home. Me and my fiance are both 25 he works full time as a truck driver. He is home 34 to 48 hours a week at most. I dont get to see him daily I dont get to rely on him to do things for me all the time. We have a 2 year old and I’m 35 weeks pregnant with number 2. I’m on light duty due to complications so I cant do any heavy lifting or excessive chores. He takes care of trash and other tasks I cant handle and I still do everything else with a 2 year old. You complain about him not helping but why cant you put the baby in a bouncer or swing while you cook? Its not like the lil one is old enough to run around. And even then there are pack and plays for a reason. You can talk to and interact with baby while cooking feed and change baby before you start cooking? There are many simple solutions to this that dont involve leaving him. I think leaving is a cop out. It shows you cant be reasonable. If he comes home exhausted and its too hard for him to watch baby right away for you to cook its normal. Ive done warehouse jobs food job office jobs and all leave you drained and exhausted. Ive done 1st 2nd and 3rd shift jobs and 3rd is the hardest. Most peoples body produces a hormone when it gets dark that makes you tired. So imagine just getting up for work or even getting ready for work and your body thinks its bed time?Then comming home sore tired and annoyed with the stresses of work and the second you get there. Hey I need this do that watch her for me… I’d be a bit annoyed too. Lol. Give the man some time to adjust and get used to having 2 jobs. One as a parent one to provide for you all. Women these days are not very understanding of what men go threw to provide for them. If this was a situation with 2 working parents I could see the issue but as a sahm it is your job to take care of the baby ect. Now dont get me wrong I’m not saying either job is more important or harder they are both exhausting and time consuming. All babys and todlers till age 3-4 need to sleep a minimum of 12 hours. For babys its 12 to 16 hours. When baby goes down for bed at say 8 pm mom has 4 hours of time before she must sleep also. 3 if you wanna get up an hour before baby to make food ect. But still 4 hours total. Then 4 hours of nap with a baby. So 8 hours of time not used for sleep or babycare. Dad has 4 hours with a 12 hr shift? So it is only fair that mom “works” those 4 extra hours to provide a clean house and some cooked meals ect. People saying its not 50/ 50 are correct because the man still works more. He may not be home doing the work for you but he is out doing work elsewhere for you!
As a fellow new father who’s also working 12 hour shifts (6pm to 6am) who was also there throughout the entire labor process with my wife, I can say with confidence that he needs to suck it up. I’ve felt everything that he’s felt. The exhaustion of long hours, the not wanting to do anything when I get home, the immature thinking that “my wife only works 8 hour shifts so she should be putting more work in at home than me.” Difference is, I manned up and have been doing what is necessary for my child and for the woman who bore my child.
It was a huge risk, rushing into the relationship and getting pregnant within a few months, but what happened happened and I’m glad you’re stepping up to the plate and taking care of your child instead of aborting it. But your boyfriend needs to realize that being a man isn’t just about working long hours. He’s suppose to be the cornerstone of the household. Having a job and a penis doesn’t make him a man. That being said, I do empathize with both of you on how hard it is to care for a baby, work, and manage a house. It’s not as easy as it was 50-60 years ago. But it still needs to be done, and the only way to get it done is to act like partners, cause that’s what you two are. He needs to see that and he needs to see that. You’re not his maid. You’re not an obstacle for him. You’re his partner, and he is yours. He needs to wake up to that and go to sleep to that. Sit down with him, let him know you understand how exhausted he is, but also help him understand that babies aren’t a 3 week excitement. Relationships aren’t a “until the flame burns out” fling. This is the life you guys are building together. The only walls should be around you two, but between you.
Father’s can get ppd just like mothers can, talk to him and ask him how his feeling. It could do the relationship a world of good
Hunny it sounds like you and your baby need to go this sounds like my last relationship I waited thinking it would change for it to only get worse eventually he was calling me a cunt screaming at me while I’m holding our baby dont let it get to that you and your baby deserve better
Cut it out with his post partum depression he is being a baby! It’s okay if he came to her and said I’m struggling to but I’m sorry and will help you more… but nope…Is he not a man? A real man will do anything on his power to assist the mother of his child. she works around the clock too with the baby so that’s bs! You need to say something to him bc he is taking advantage you’ll never be able to have the mindset needed to care for your child as a good mom with him draining and dragging you down!!!
Honestly, sounds like depression. If this were a woman doing all of this everyone would say PPD. well studies show men can get post partum depression too. Lack if sleep, stress of having a new baby, guilt they cant do what a mother can, all builds uo and when depression like that hits some people just shut down. My husband has gotten it and has gotten help for it just like I’ve had PDD and gotten help for it.
I say give it time. You are both adjusting to your new roles, you as a stay at home mom and him as the bread winner. I used to work night shift 12+ hours, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done mentally and physically. I’m now a stay at home mom and our roles became what yours did. He is likely just having a harder time adjusting than you are. I had two kids when I got with my boyfriend and we’ve now been together 2 years almost and due next month with our first. It took him a while to adjust to having my two in the house but he did eventually get used to it. I know the baby is between the two of you, but it’s still a new little life that wasn’t there a few months or a year ago. It’s a big change adding a baby. He probably just doesn’t know how to communicate his feelings well, which doesn’t make him a bad guy, he just was probably never taught to correctly. That, or he was taught to “be a man” and not have any at all 
men have feelings too. And I can tell you it’s rough going down to one income and being the breadwinner. Sit him down and tell him everything you just typed out and ask him his side. A real conversation about it.
I’m going to give you my best advice. Yes he works 12 hours. But you work 24/7 that what happens when you have a baby it’s never easy. I gave my husband two jobs inside of our home. One he takes the trash out (I can’t take it out because sometimes it’s to heavy since I’m 31 weeks pregnant n supposed to be on bed rest) and putting all his dirty clothes in his laundry basket n putting it in the laundry room. Which he does every other night. I wash dry n fold n put them away. But he also spends time with our 3 boys which are 4,2&1 while I cook supper. But I put them to bed change the diapers and all. Having children is team work. You can’t get upset or mad at him especially if it’s new to him. It took a while for me n my husband to get to where we are. Screaming n yelling at the baby is not right. Maybe teach him what to do when he does it. Because being that young he wants mommy trust me. Maybe putting one of your shirts so he thinks you still there by him. But don’t leave your boyfriend talk to him. Don’t yell. Coummcation is the key in any relationship. Don’t take each other for granted. Every time he does something say thank you or I appreciate it. But he did step up to the plate supporting you n his child. Give him some respect for that fact.
Let’s take a moment here everyone. Not only is dad adjusting to a new baby but mama is also and she is still recovering hormonally in only 2 months. She may be feeling a little blue and helpless. Small things turn into big things when that happens.
Honey, you both are adjusting. Give it time to settle down and settle in.
For now, let him work and you take care of baby. Housework? If you just cant right now…its ok to focus on one thing at a time and catch up later. Good luck.
Narcissists don’t make good partners or parents. Kick the guy to the curb before it’s too late.
If you’ve expressed your issues to him & It’s still not working. It’s not going to.
My husband works 12 hours shifts 5-6 days a week overnights & I work mornings so he works then gets barely any sleep but still takes care of our son.
It’s all about mentality & maturity.
Time you let him know u already have one baby to take care of and if he doesn’t want to help out with that then he can do those things for himself.
Tell him to make his own breakfast what are you his bilt in made
I just know that after a 12 hour shift, I’m destroyed. A crying baby would send me over the edge. My boyfriend also works 12 hour shifts. I don’t think you should put up with abusive behaviour, but maybe your boyfriend needs a little support and love after his long shifts. That’s a lot of responsibility on his shoulders, going to work, paying for all the bills, having a new baby at home. I would say try to take care of the home and the baby, don’t stress him too much and if needed maybe hubby can switch jobs or go see a counsellor to try to manage stress.
You dont wanna do that to your baby? But you’re gonna let a self entitled asshole tell you what you need to do and tell you that he doesn’t need to help with the child he helped create because he works 12 hours? Bullshit. Dont let your son grow up around a guy like that to look up to. He will turn out just like him. There is no time off of parenting no matter how many hours you work… dont do his laundry, don’t cook him food, don’t do anything to help him because he doesn’t help you. Fair is fair right? You work taking care of the child. He works 12 hours a day. He can do his own shit for himself while you take care of your baby. Screw him.
Most of the women on here leaving their 2 cents worth need to grow up! Your not focusing on creating a family atmosphere, it’s all about me me me! What he can do for me!
He’s sounds very controlling and I honestly think you would be better off without him. He is being very coercive and frankly out of order! He is so wrong! Leave him! It won’t get better, only worse! Been there. It only escalates and leaves you forever feeling worthless and down and it’s not fair. He’s treating you like a slave! Get rid!
Kick him in his ass it’s his kid
These posts are stupid…your a whiner!!
It is easy to say get rid of him but is that way you really want. He’s the father fight for him. It’s so important to have a father in the child’s life. Talk to him and keep doing it til he understands this is a couple thing
Damn if this EXACT situation wasnt me a few years ago.
It got worse and worse AND EVEN WORSE with time. He became mentally and emotionally abusive towards me and it eventually got physical in front of our son. I wish i would have left a hell of a lot sooner than I did. Your baby may not understand words but he can understand energy and the fact that your man is YELLING at a baby should have been the only sign you needed to leave. Follow moms advice and get the fuck outta there tonight.
It’s not healthy for a baby to be yelled at either or to watch his mom get yelled at. Kids are resilient and will adapt to pretty much any environment. It’s your job to decide what that will be. Trust me, my kids watched that crap from when they were born till age 3 and 7. I finally got the guts to move us. They are so much happier. They don’t even miss their dad or ask about him. He doesn’t call them or anything. He’s missing out but they’re not. Just make the decision that’s best for them and they’ll be just fine. Don’t make them grow up seeing that!!!
Huh, what do you love…I never seem to get that!
Is it the anger towards your child? The verbal abuse? The DICK???
Please run… if hes yelling at the baby hes got some anger issues that can come out worse later. Especially if the yelling is a often thing
He is abusive to u both, leave him. Kick him to the curb
Selfish is what this guy sounds like! Do you want to raise an extra child?
He’s just a boy friend? he could walk out on you anytime. Now start preparing yourself for A and B plan if and when that could possibly happen. So, stop whining at him, start preparing for yours and baby’s future.
Dads can get postpartum depression(likeish) too. Ever thought about that??
No offense but if ur a stay at home mom its what u do everyday
He should definitely be helping you. You both made that baby and you both need to take care of it. Either get him on the same page or leave him. Your kid deserves better and so do you
My ex was like that with my son turned out he actually started hating my son due to post partum Blues its rare but guys can get it from what your saying this is exactly how my ex was after a few weeks
You and your son deserve better. If he can’t step up, leave him.
No matter if he works or not. You both made that baby, he should def be helping and also be picking up after himself.
I’m sorry but get away from any man who thinks it’s appropriate to yell at an infant. I could almost excuse the other behavior but that is such a red flag! If he can’t handle a baby crying I would be seriously concerned that he might snap and hurt your son.
Men also get post partum depression remember that. My boyfriend was the same way for a while after i had our daughter because he had it. It took a while for him to admit it he had the same “im tired” excuse but once i forced him to sit down and actually talk to me we were able to get it helped and he became amazingly helpful. Hell he kisses her on the heaf before he even greets me sometimes 
It sounds like post partum depression. Men can get it too and it shows itself in different forms. The best thing to do would be to sit and talk things through. It will get better. He was excited and was helping in the beginning and the process becomes overwhelming and people forget that men struggle too
So this is a double edged sword.
If you choose to stay you both need to have a talk about how the family dynamic should work. It’s something that should have happened before the child was born. It needs to be something you agree on too. If you’re staying home, generally household management is your responsibility. But he’s a grown ass man who can get his own drink and snacks.
Try to have a set dinner time and have a plate ready for the microwave. It will help the child having set dinner time as well. My husband gets off work at varying times every day depending on how much work they had when they went in. You want to try to structure as much as you can with kids.
But if that doesn’t work, I would leave. And be sure to get recordings of his behavior towards the child before you go. It will help you work out a proper parenting plan with your case worker, and give them a heads up to keep tabs if possible. I know you probably wouldn’t want to leave your child with him but until proven or agreed otherwise he has a right to his fair share of time with the child
Ughh men are lazy lol. I’m the only one who cleans/cooks. My children’s father has never tried to use any excuse to not help with the kids though. We have a 3 yr old and a 3 month old. Hes gone 13 hrs a day 5-6 days a week. Hes tired as hell but still does any and everything when it comes to the kids. I work full time too some days 16 hr. And I can honestly tell you being a stay at home mom is fucking hard. I did it for a yr. I love my kids but staying at home is way harder than working. Regardless though he needs to man up and help, you didnt make that baby by yourself
I was in the same type of relationship for 10 years it only get worse it’s better to leave now than to wait until your son is older… if you wait till hes older or comes with a hole lot more problems trust me get out while you can
Leave now before you regret it later
I’d leave immediately.
My ex husband was the right way and they don’t change, they might get a little better when your child is close to 3 and they are more independent. Might be better off on your own so then you only have to take care of you and the baby and not him too. I remember those days I’m sorry you have to go through this
You need to leave him if hes gonna treat you like you are his slave and treating your son like crap you can find a better man for yourself
If he’s not helping you out with his child, why would you even want to be with him? Yikes. My daughters dad & sons dad both helped with the babies. In fact my sons dad does soooo much for our son.
This is 100% emotional and financial abuse. RUN.
If you stay just make sure you’re both safe and when that is no longer an option, just go fast and don’t even think about it
Yea men do not get ppd that’s bullshit. They aren’t pp and don get depressed considered it’s from all the hormones we have after having a baby. He sounds so lazy and yelling at the baby makes him so shitty. Also it doesn’t matter how much you work Cause my man has worked longer days and still helped with the babies. He doesn’t respect you to treat you like his maid and I bet anything your baby wants a happy momma vs two miserable parents who resent each other.
Depression. Men get post partum depression just as women do. He needs to see a doctor.
Almost sounds like post partum depression…
I’d ask if he’d be willing to see a doctor?
Leave. Better for you and the baby.
Sounds like someone opened her legs before she knew she was involved with a piece of shit.
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel? Communication is one of the foundations of healthy relationships. If you feel you can’t talk to him, then there’s your answer b
Go back to school online and take out the max students loans. You will get back about $4,000 every semester excess funds. It’s a way to make it. Apply for food stamps and find someone to stay with until you can find a job and get a place. I did it. I made it. Almost to my Bachelors now and I got total independence.
He sounds stressed, and possibly depressed. He isnt use to how things have to work now that you have an infant.
On top of your own hormones trying to regulate.
I would suggest a having a good long conversation with him. Ask him if he is willing to seek help.
Also the only situation you would be leaving your kid in is to become like your bf if things don’t change. Take the baby and leave.
If you dont address the issue with him and both of you make a decision to try and make it better then it is never going to change. He lives there, he needs to be contributing more than just a paycheck. You need a partner, not another child to care for. Talk to each other and figure out what you both want/need from one another and if you’re not both willing to do the work, then get you and your son out of the situation.
What caused the change? Is he jealous of baby?
Men are afraid of babies. Also, men are babies. It’s not a clean answer. But, if this is your family and your future. Don’t lose hope. Men need a significant amount of encouragement. I’m not making excuses for his actions. He should help everyday. But, you can take a soft approach and help him understand what the baby likes. Provide him the knowledge that cures the fear. Once he hears the baby laugh, he will change his approach unless he’s been beaten down by his fear - which is something we rarely recover from.
Run get away from him it could get worse
You need to make him aware he is doing this and how it is taking a toll on you and making you miserable. If he loves you he will try to change and be a better partner. Men are not always the best at a new baby adjustment but he needs to try. Maybe tell him you are grateful he can be a good provider but you are also being a mother and a partner and that is just as much work and even takes more energy. Do what you feel is right but don’t stick with being treated poorly forever… You deserve happiness and your baby deserves a happy mom 
Maybe try sitting down with him and talking about expectations? Walking away is easy and unfair to your tiny one. My husband struggled when we brought our first home 11 years ago the instincts of it came much easier to me than him but after lots of communication we are now at 12 years and just had our last. We are also a little old fashioned. With our last I was able to stay home with our daughter almost a year but as far as I was concerned he was the one working so the house and cooking was my responsibility. We all get to the point that we are rock bottom exhausted and it makes us irritable talk to him about it ask what he needs from you to be less exhausted and more helpful with the baby. No relationship is easy especially when you add a new baby. It will only be as good as you work for it to be!! Communication is absolutely everything!!
You should leave him and take your baby and go stay with your mom if you can… If he’s yelling at your two month old and lets him cry he shouldn’t be around him.
It takes both parents to raise a family. It doesn’t matter the number of children. It doesn’t matter if you are a stay at home mom, you need a break as well. If we don’t take care of ourselves, how can we properly take care of our children? It’s a cliche, but the truth… it takes a village. You will run yourself ragged and make yourself sick if this keeps up. My child’s father went to school and worked part time when I got pregnant, when we came home, he stepped up. While I recovered from a difficult pregnancy. You shouldn’t have to do everything. A relationship is supposed to be a partnership. He is being selfish in some ways. He’s more than capable of getting his own snacks and drinks.
Someone needs to put on his man pants and act like an adult. You are his partner, not his maid or his mother. Babies are work and he’s not interested in doing that. That’s his child too. He can help. Talk to him, open communication.
Me and my husband at that time boyfriend took turns yea I still got up bc I breast fed but we took turns if it was a dipar we took turns on laundry and everything … sometimes even now that I’m back to working we take turns with our three yr old just not quite the same hahaha bc hes like me and can’t seem to sleep at night
I agree with your mom.
Leaving him would be the best thing for both you and the baby.
It sounds pretty manipulative of him to “remind” you he’s the one making payments.
Yelling at an infant is a huge red flag to me personally.
If you are feeling drained, concerned and unhappy your brain and heart are trying to tell you something.
I’ll say we basically went threw the same thing. And I’ll agree men can get ppd too. I also really struggled with just doing EVERYTHING for EVERYONE all the time. But now my daughter is 4 mo, and my SO does help out a lot more. He doesn’t feed her or change her diapers but I do not ask him to. But now I realize me doing everything is me being the glue to our little family. And now I am honestly happier than I have been in years taking care of everyone & everything. Like I get up in the morning, put his work clothes in the dryer & warm them up. Turn off his fan. Proceed to cooking his breakfast, packing his snacks & drinks in his cooler. Then I go turn on the car and put his stuff in the car for him. By the time I get inside baby is awake so I get her & change her and bring her in the living room. And we live in a marijuana friendly state, so I prep his buds for the day & get him a bowl to smoke while he is sitting on the toilet shitting. Every morning at 5:30 am 
First off I’m so sorry you’re going through that my
Boyfriend works 7-5 Monday-Saturday and still
Helps out with my son I don’t think that’s healthy for you or the baby I think you need to talk to him about how you feel and if he doesn’t change well that’s his warning
My boyfriend did the same thing. The way I see it, if you’re going to do it alone, you might as well be alone
Try sitting down and talking about all of this. Remind him you are team in your relationship and parenthood. Dont let it turn in to a fight though if you can. If things dont improve after talking it out and giving it a little time or if things get worse take the baby and leave him.
I’m sure there’s an equivalent of PPD for men… maybe he’s going through something or trying to work through fears that come with being a new father.
He needs to suck it up.you didn’t make that precious baby by yourself so he should help out or get out. Stop doing stuff for him until he starts helping with the baby.tell him if he wants someone to do his laundry fix him snacks and cook for him tell him to go stay with his mother.
My husband helped out waaaay more with my daughter then our son but he still is very affectionate with our son… no matter how long he’s work or how tired he is … themat is horrible emotional abuse on you and your son… and both of you don’t deserve that
The issue i have isn’t with all the rest of the stuff (that’s not good either) but if he starts hollering at the baby for being… well being a baby than that’s where I’d draw the line. So much can happen so fast if he were to lose his temper and hurt his and your son. Nope. Just leave. Sometimes that’s all it takes. Now the other stuff… You created that child 50/50. You take care of him. I do most everything for our son but I was also breastfeeding and we didn’t do bottles or pacis so it was always momma he wanted. Now that he’s older my husband enjoys time with him and he’s not so dependant on me for everything. Also he was my husband’s first child and in the beginning he honestly told me he was scared of hurting him because he was so tiny and new. Sit down and talk with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel. You have as much right to some rest as he does.
Yeah no. He needs to realize you’re his partner and mother of his CHILD. Not his mother or his maid. Working X amount of hours is such a typical excuse anyone uses to not help around the house that they also live in and make a mess in. You need to have a talk with him.
My last bf was lazy as hell and used him working as an excuse to not do shit around the house. But we both worked so wtf. Thank God, we didn’t have a child involved but we did have 2 large dogs. He always neglected and ignored them then would get mad at THEM because he failed to see the obvious signs that they needed to go outside. I put up with his crap for 4 years, he would “help” for like a week then go back his usual lazy ass ways. I was done. Bye bye lazy ass. 🤷