You need to do what’s best for you. I’m normally one to say “try calmly talking things out” but I’m sure you’ve talked to him already. with your son being so little, he wont remember. He doesn’t need a perfect momma, he needs a happy one. If you keep putting up with it, you’ll completely drain yourself and that’s not good for you or the baby. Even though you obviously have a child now, you need to take care of YOU too. Do what’s best for YOU.
First off newborn babies don’t need the hollering 2 I’d be gone if he didn’t treat OUR BABY right that’s just mean wrong I’m sorry and I hope u do find someone who cares for u both
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Leave him my husband works 12 hour shifts to and still helps around the house and food shopping and going to the train station to pick up our daughter and takes time to cook dinner for everyone and never ask for anything
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Okay so I’ve been in your shoes before. I stayed because I thought that he would change and we were a family and I’d be a horrible person for taking my daughter away from her father. What actually happened, he ended up cheating on me ALL the time, I had severe depression from feeling so lonely and raising my daughter and working and trying to make him happy for both of us. It’s harder to leave the longer you stay. Tell him to get his shit together. Not temporarily but full on changes, or youre leaving. Your child deserves a healthy (mentally and physically) mother. The child also needs a father but if he doesnt make adjustments you’re baby wont know the difference. Listen to your mom and your heart. Your children come first. Periodt.
Leave for the weekend and not tell him. Make him wonder and want you back. Let him realize how much he needs you as you need him. I’m sure family/friends would love your company with the baby as a bonus!
Sounds like a very immature guy
Leave my dear, itll be hard alone but a hell of a lot easier than taking care of TWO BABIES lol a deadbeat is a deadbeat, move on and be happy before your lil boy grows up to see how you’re being treated.
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Leave him, you and your little one can do soooooo much better.
I think you are fully aware of the decision you need to make, you don’t need someone to tell what you are already thinking is BEST FOR & YOUR CHILD.
He sounds like a selfish arshole!
Sounds typical of a young dad not growing up…yall just had the baby n are just learning each others roles. Remind him that you one day too will be able to get a job and you wont NEED HIM. Parenthood is a learning experience.
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All the red flags. Time to head out.
He yells at the baby for crying. Seriously. Fuck that guy. Go. Go now.
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You do need to break up with him. Christ you’ve known each other a year. No wonder its not working out.
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You shouldn’t feel pressured to go back to work so quickly, go back when you feel ready. Allow yourself time to focus on your baby, that’s your priority at the moment as they change so quickly so you should enjoy the special time!
Hes yelling at a 3 week old baby when the baby gets fussy? Nope. Bye.
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Your son deserves to grow up in a healthy environment. Not one where his daddy treats mommy like trash.
Been there, done that.
Leave him.
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Sounds like he is under a lot of stress and doesn’t know how to cope with it in the right ways.
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He should be helping you … you need help too
You dont want to leave because you dont want to put your son in that position but isnt it a better position to be surrounded by only people who love him vs someone who’s going to yell and get frustrated at the first whine or cry he makes. What if in the future he gets so frustrated that he hurts the baby? If I were in your shoes I would leave and let him make the effort to see the baby. Dont force him to watch the baby or keep the baby because who knows what could happen if hes alone and gets frustrated with the baby. It’s better to be a happy and loving single parent then be around 2 parents where one is toxic and potentially dangerous. To me what you’re saying are huge red flags. My bf wakes up at 3 30 am to get ready for work and isnt home until 4-6 pm depending on which bus he can catch and he still helps me take care of our kids. He might be a little cranky and tired sometimes but he doesnt just get frustrated and start yelling at everyone, he asks for help. It sounds like your boyfriend is either very immature and not ready for a baby yet or he isnt mentally capable of raising kids and shouldnt be forced to. You know him somewhat better than all of us so that is something you can decide but I say either way you leave and mother on your own. It would be so much easier to raise a 3 week old than it is to raise a 3 week old and a man. You make his meals, wash his clothes. Do yourself a favor and leave. Maybe I’m wrong and he will totally realize what hes doing is wrong and hell make a change for you and the baby. I hope that does happen but I dont think he will change the way things are right now, he needs a wake up call and what better one than leaving him.
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Sounds typical, sorry but it won’t get better.
Is this the type of man you want your son to grow up to be? Because this will be what he believes if normal if you don’t do something. You need to sit your BF down and explain all this to him and tell him what you expect. Then give him a timeline. If he doesn’t shape up, you pack up that sweet little baby and you leave. Your son does NOT deserve to grow up in a house where that is normal.
L-E-A-V-E H-I-M
He won’t change if he doesn’t want to be a dad then leave his ass.
I was a single mom for almost 3 years and it wasn’t easy but it was easier knowing it was only baby and I that I had to worry about.
You’re not his maid or his mom.
Get out of that situation.
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Communication goes a little ways. Have you talked to him? Don’t tolerate this behavior from him. I’d stand my ground & explain things from you point of view. He either needs to gain some patience for the baby that he helped create or you’re going to need to leave. Your child, & ALL, children, deserves better than that.
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Everyone’s screaming leave leave leave. Now I’m not saying Stay. I totally get being overwhelmed I went through it too, but maybe before you jet you talk to him, have your mom watch the baby and have a one on one. Find out what he wants? No one blinks an eye when a mom has post partum. Plenty of moms reject their babies after birth not because they want too. I agree he is being a butt and yea my first instinct would be too leave too, but maybe you two really just need to talk it out. You’re both new young parents every relationship has bumps. I’m just saying maaaybe not throw in the towel just yet?
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It won’t get any better, I was young when I had my first child and my ex got to a point that he went to jail for abuseing me and my daughter. Put your foot down and tell him his yelling has to go. I made it on my own. Thank God. Your baby and you come first.
Do you really love him or are you just saying that because you had a baby with him? Sometimes it’s better to leave a relationship like that. If you have talked to him about it & he doesn’t change that or it becomes worse, don’t expect it to become better. My man works the same hours Mon-Sat but he’ll still help me when I need it & that’s because I’ve talked to him about it more than a few times. I’ve said that I might as well just get a job and move out with my babies & I’d be doing it ALLL.
Don’t be with a man that yells at a baby for getting fussy. Don’t be with a man who throws a fit for having to participate in raising the child HE helped make. This isn’t good for the baby at all.
TALK TO HIM! Communication is very important. Me and my bf got together and I found out I was pregnant after 4-5 months as well. He was amazing during pregnancy and delivery and even after while I was breastfeeding he made sure I ate healthy and stayed hydrated. But he didnt do much with our son… I would hold him, bathe him, feed him and then I went back to work when our son was 5 months old. I made more money so he stayed home with our son. I would come home and he would still be in his pjs… sure he changed the diapers and tried to feed him but by that point our son was so attached to me and used to me doing everything he refused to eat for his dad… he lost alot of weight and we had to go to the dr to get him checked out… he would have him in his bouncer all day and play xbox all day instead of interacting with his son… when I come home he would continue to play xbox while I took care of the kids, cook dinner and clean the kitchen and wash dishes that he made… eventually I snapped and had to set him straight. Since then it’s like a switch has turned and he does so much more and is an amazing help.
Sure your dude works… but that doesnt mean that he is exempt from having to be there for his son. He needs to bond with his child. You work, you’re tired but your kid needs you so you suck it up and take care of that little person that needs you!
Key words “…I don’t want to leave my son in that kind of situation.” You know what you need to do. You just need to know its OK, that its going to be OK. I can tell you, from being in a similar situation almost 9yrs ago, it won’t always be OK but you will find strength in your son.
He needs pussy if you can’t give him that tell him that he can always have sexual relation with another woman to release the junk in the trunk as long as he comes home to you every day