I’d also like to add that I had severe PPD when I had my daughter, and while I didn’t yell at her, I definitely screamed and cried and yelled through the house at times. PPD can last years, so having that happen, even to the father, within the first 6 months is not that uncommon. He could be a good guy going through some shit too. We just don’t know. We have to look at it objectively in order to help her out.
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Maybe you should have used protection. Because you don’t sound like you are ready to raise a child either. You both didn’t even take time to get to know each other, let alone raise a child together.
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Your mom is absolutely right! And it sounds like your boyfriend needs a mom and not a girlfriend
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Have him talk to a doc or therapist… But if it continues the gtfo. You do not deserve to be treated like that. It’s ok to love someone but let them go because they aren’t good for you.
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Men get post partum depression too. Maybe he needs to see a doctor or therapist
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Nope! I wouldn’t give a fuck if he worked 24hr shifts! There’s no excuse to yell at an infant! You let it happen now & it will happen again. I suggest you leave. Then figure out how he’ll be able to see the baby bc if he’s yelling at the baby while you’re present, imagine what he’ll do when you aren’t around.
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Sounds very toxic. You cant change him so you have to make a decision to either leave or stay but sounds like he’s not going to change. You & that baby deserve better than that, I’d leave that kind of toxic situation but I support whatever you decide and hope things get better for you❤
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Let the housework pile up. Its not that important for a while. Your rest is much more important. He does sound depressed. I hope you speak to him and he seeks help. He isnt supposed to help, he is supposed to parent. Working does not replace his responsibility to be a part of his childs daily activities besides sitting in the room with him. You have to have a bit of time to yourself just like he wants for himself. Many men have no idea what it takes out of someone to be the constant caregiver and homemaker. You could always go on strike to get his attention if he wont listen. Lol. You are still recovering at two months as well. He should definitely be helping as well. It takes two to make a baby and two must raise it. Sitting back and doing nothing isnt right. If he isn’t wanting anything to do with the child then there is a definite problem. Talk to your doctor about it. They can make recommendations as well. Discuss it in well baby visit with or without him there. If he gets mad or embarrassed that is okay. But he obviously needs someone to speak up for him as well.
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Red flag #1- a grown man yelling at a baby. Where does your heart and brain tell you this will lead? Babies are one of the easiest stages. What do you think his response will be when your two year old tells him “No.”? Aggression towards an infant should ALWAYS be seen as a sign for potential future abuse. Please be careful to protect your defenseless baby. One hard grab can break things, one good shake can cause irreversible brain damage.
Red flag #2- Demoralizing you and controlling you through monetary means. This is allllll about power and control. There is no love. You deserve love and respect. Your child deserves love and respect. When you manage to put yourself into a position making money, his power and control will begin to slide into more aggressive forms of control and there will be punishment. Use your head and heart to figure out if this is worth it.
Your child deserves to grow up loved and in a healthy environment. You deserve to grow up loved and in a healthy environment. You have a choice to make, I Hope you believe in yourself enough to make it. Wishing you the best. Your child is lucky to have you.
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You should leave and you’ll find someone who will love you and your son the way you both deserve
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You got 2 babies…some people cannot be a parent…
When they NEED to be…and you HAVE to accept that…then it gets easier.
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You don’t want to leave your baby in that situation (without a dad). Are you for real? What kind of dad is he now? He hollers at the baby when he’s fussy, refuses to pay attention to him, and obviously doesn’t have any desire to be in his life! So you’re responsible for the baby, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. You’re doing yourself, and your child a huge injustice if you stay. If you choose to stay, then you get what you deserve, but does your child!
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So tired of people making excuses for these sorry men!!! It is not normal to yell at a newborn baby or to ignore a baby when it is crying . Parents work long shifts & still have to take care of their kids & do it with love. My husband after working a 12 hour shift, the first thing he would say , when he walked in the door, was " how can I help"? I never ever had to ask for help with our 3 children. My husband lovingly help raise our children. Some men are weak & never grow up, they never take care of their wife & children. If a man can’t take care of his wife & children, he doesn’t deserve them. We all get tired, but when you have a baby, guess what? You have to still take care of the baby & do it with love. Only a loser would yell at a newborn baby. All men are not this way, their plenty of good men. All men are not raised this way! Don’t let anyone give you lame excuses for your baby daddy. Listen to your mother, don’t waste your life on this loser.
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My advice is to just do for you and the baby then
Why make his breakfast?
Why get him a drink?
If he wont help with baby…why should u help a grown man with stuff he could do for himself.
Ok he works…but u have the baby all the time…which means housework should be split.
If he doesnt wanna handle the baby…he needs to do shit around the.house. if he doesnt wanna do for himself…he should help with baby.
Personally if it were me id give him that ultimatum.
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I would like to tell you to give him some time, but from my personal experience, I can’t. You need to do what’s best for you and your baby and it sounds like you’re in a very toxic relationship. My ex-husband was pretty much the same way, except I also worked full time and did the majority of the household chores. He didn’t get any better, which is one of the many reasons why he’s an ex. He also hasn’t been involved in our daughters life for 10 years (she’s 16), so always be prepared for the worst.
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Stop having babies with someone you know for 4 months
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Ppd or not…i still had to do for my children.
Housework may have lacked in depression…but my children didnt.
He needs to grow up.
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This is very toxic, sit down and talk to him and if he doesn’t want to change it may be time to leave! Sorry your going through that
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Should have left the first time he yelled at the baby. Who yells at a 2mo baby. Leave or don’t complain.
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Leave. Your son is already in that kind of situation anyway
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You gotta put the whole man in the bin,
You’re not his mother, you are his childs mother hes also a parent and needs to act like a parent, I would have gone if I was being treated like a maid.
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Don’t do wifey shit for a dude who clearly deserves raviolis out of a can.
Don’t do anything for him.
You need to leave his sorry ass for yelling at the baby!
What you allow will continue.
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LET HIM KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS ON YOUR OWN YOURE NO ONES BITCH
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STICK UP FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY…!!
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IF HES YELLING AT THE BABY TELL HIM TO LEAVE OR YOU LEAVE HE CAN DAMAGE HIS/HER HEARING
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IF HE DOESN’T WANT TO GET HELP OR TALK ABOUT SHIT…
LEAVE!!!
You have a another life to think about now and you cant do that if your being torn down all the time. You have to take care of you so you can take care of that baby. No that shithead
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I’m sorry. Did you say ‘hollering at the baby’? That is a baby. I would’ve slapped the fuck out of him and then left. Guess what? My boyfriend works 7 to 8 and still comes home to help me take care of a toddler that’s not even his. So fuck your dude 
Just a lazy jackass.
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I would tell him he has these options
A. Quit his job and stay home doing all the work himself while you go to work and do nothing… see how much he likes that one.
B. Pay the $1800 a month for infant care so you can go to work - which is a break from dealing with a baby if you ask me
Or my personal favorite
C. Not optional - he’s helping with the baby when he’s home and he’s not going to be mean to you or the baby or be a little bitch about it. Also if it’s ppd get help and DO help regardless because it is what it is. A shitshow nightmare. But I mean like a worth it one.
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I’d have a long talk with him and find out what’s going on. If he’s in fact depressed then he needs to go get some help, counseling and probably meds. If he refuses to get help then I’d bounce because that isn’t going to end well. You don’t just all of a sudden come out of a depressive spell. I know not everyone is the same but my husband works 12 hr shifts at a hospital and still comes home and helps with our son. He’s tired, his back and feet hurt, but he still takes a little bit of time to play with bubba while I shower, eat, and get milk defrosted. Just because he goes to work and pays the bills doesn’t mean that he shouldn’t have parental responsibilities as well
I’d have a long talk with him and find out what’s going on. If he’s in fact depressed then he needs to go get some help, counseling and probably meds. If he refuses to get help then I’d bounce because that isn’t going to end well. You don’t just all of a sudden come out of a depressive spell. I know not everyone is the same but my husband works 12 hr shifts at a hospital and still comes home and helps with our son. He’s tired, his back and feet hurt, but he still takes a little bit of time to play with bubba while I shower, eat, and get milk defrosted. Just because he goes to work and pays the bills doesn’t mean that he shouldn’t have parental responsibilities as well
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Girl get out now while you can, you don’t want to end up like me almost 2 years in dealing with all of that while working a part time job plus on top of being pregnant again, trying to take care of a toddler and household. I get so much advice from others but never take it because he has completely cornered me into believing he will take my son away from me if I decide to move back home with parents. We’ve been together 5 years and I still kept and keep thinking he’ll change but he only gets more annoying and mouthy.
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I wouldnt suggest leaving. You guys just had a baby. Babys change things and make relationships harder. Work for your family. However the way he is acting is unacceptable. If he is struggling with PPD he needs to get help, demand his respect. Sit him down and tell him his behaviors youve noticed (explain them and point them out detailed) arent something you will put up with. Explain this is a partnership and when you decided to have this baby together you decided to be partners. That he works but you work the same hours taking care of both your child so once he is home he needs to be equal with you. Then and only after that conversation should you consider leaving. In my opinion.
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My husband didnt help much when my daughter was born with her he always helped me would make us food ect and he still to this day is the only one who works i stay home i take care of her he takes care of us but he is more active with her now that she is older and they can rough house and play toys maybe talk to him dads get depressed too
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He’s an asshole, point blank. He’s not the only one working, you are working too taking care of the child both of you made. If you didnt take care of the baby, you’d need to hire someone to do it and pay them, therefore it is real work
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I left my ex for that except he started that bs after i was even in labor!! I had my mom and his mom helping me the whole time and he embarrassed tf out of me in front of the medical staff after he was rude and mean and it continued. LEAVE HIM HONEY. Fuck that, we are not to be taken for granted after doing allat for a baby just to be disrespected.
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Leave. Move back home. It will NOT get better because he’s bitter.
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It’s time to put your son first an ditch the asshole that’s ridiculous I have a 2 month old an I wish his dad would yell at him I’ll be one crazy ass mom.
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I would give it some time. I lost my first hubby to him working 12 hours days, 7 days a week. Burn out is real. Took us 12 years to reconcile and we couldn’t be happier now.
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You are allowing this to happen. Stop doing stuff for your boyfriend. Tell him to step up and be a parent. Tell him he needs to Grow up.
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Well if you leave him ,you’ll be taking care of the baby and working by yourself.
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You wouldn’t be asking for advice if you didn’t want things to change. Talk to him, see how you feel after and then make a decision. You obviously aren’t happy and raising a child in an unhappy home can be just as bad as a broken home. Everyone needs to be happy. Not just him!
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From someone who is in this same situation (except yelling at the baby he instead says things like it’s okay give it a few minutes or talks to her while I’m getting things ready) I am also a stay at home mom of 3 kids 2 are not his and my youngest is only 10 days old… however he works alot manual labor 12 hour shifts he is always tired and I get it… it does get frustrating like getting up in the middle of the night every night even more frustrating when your other 2 are sick as well… I come to the conclusion some men feel very uncomfortable around tiny kids and we as the mother know what to do and not to do quick… I suck it up I absolutely love my man and wont leave… I also believe as a wife and stay at home mom my home is my priority he puts food on the table I cook it he buys laundry soap I do laundry but I do it at my own speed… it’s okay to have a dirty (lived in home) for a day or 2 while you play catch up… it gets hard yes but I’d still rather be with my kiddos… find ways to make it work if he is who you want to be with
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Honestly he is taking you for granted and you need to do something or this will never change. Break up and see if he is willing to fight for you and the baby. You can even tell him the break up is because he is being a terrible father which he is. You’ve already lost him hun and he wont go back to being the caring dude you knew unless he gets a reality check. If he doesn’t fight for you then you’ll have your answer. He is testing you and seeing what he can get away with. Heck I wouldn’t be surprised if he had the cajones to start cheating on you too because of the recent about face he pulled.
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Talk to him. If he’s not willing to listen and change leave. I personally wouldn’t have hope that he would change. My husband works and still takes care of the baby and gives me time to myself whenever I need it and he also gets time for himself too.
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Leave his ass. Theres multiple red flags. Including the yelling at the BABY!!! he might get abusive. Leave his ass now!!!
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Why are women today so ready to just toss away their relationships ?? You fell in love and had a baby for a reason Remember that. Otherwise, why are you IN this situation in the first place ?? I see a lot of leave, get out, toxic, etc. - THIS is why marriage fails more then works anymore. “I dont care what he does there is no excuse” - Bull crap. Marriage and relationships are constantly growing and changing, WORK through the issues, quit being so fast to just toss them aside for the “next best thing” because trust me, eventually you will face dissention in THAT new relationship, and the next, and the next after that. Then, you will find yourself in your 40’s, multiple baby daddies, and still looking for that “perfection” that only exists in your mind, while looking for the least damaged man, like an item at the thrift store. Put in the hard work you lazy, self centered females. Stop expecting it always to be easy. If your Man is working solely to provide FOR YOU and your home and child, then that HOME and child are solely YOUR job, until you are otherwise employed. THAT dear ladies IS fair…learn to do your JOB with dignity and grace !!!
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It’s just going to get worse. Leave and don’t go back!
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Leave. You can still co parent and not be in a relationship
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Yelling at a baby? #boybye
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I don’t play about my kids so yea bye. No reason to holler at a child.
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You have 1 child to look after already, you dont need a second.
Leave him.
He won’t change and his excuses for not being a Real Parent are pathetic.
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It could work both ways. Either yall end up fixing it or the relationship is destroyed
Look, my boyfriend and I had the same problem for a little while- you talk with him. It probably wont change over night, and probably take more than one talk- but if you have a CIVIL conversation, theres a good chance things will improve. A new baby is a big adjustment for everyone and even men can get a form of Post Pardum.
Im not saying Im perfect or have the most perfect relationship —but it takes work. It takes patience.
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Men can get postpartum depression too. I would maybe talk to someone and see of there is more going on.
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You don’t wanna leave your son in what situation? A better one?!
Your pos boyfriend is yelling at a fussy infant? The fuck. And hes lazy. Kick his ass to the curb
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I felt like this when I had my first baby
I’m sorry but this is almost everybodys life I always tell people I have 3 kids my 2 boys and my husband. He didn’t want to help with the first kid at all and when the second one came I told him if you can stay up and play call of duty then you can feed the baby during the night time feedings and gave him all his supplies and it all worked out now my boys are 9 and 7 and my husband still acts like one of my boys I still have to clean make dinner help with homework and every other thing you can think of
I’m just glad I stopped at 2.
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1 problem dont be yelling at a damn baby! Leave if that’s how he will act
Staying ‘for your son’ could possibly be the worst thing for him if your relationship isn’t right. You child and you would be better off without him because the last thing you need is another child right now and it sounds like that’s all the baby daddy is at the moment
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Guys get depressed after a new baby sometimes too… Maybe he needs some help.
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“Dad’s get postnatal depression too”… Something I didn’t know until my husband experienced it & my whole world was falling apart in what should have been the happiest time in our relationship.
It’s definitely worth looking into as some of the things you mentioned sounds very much like what I was experiencing (minus the yelling at baby, he yelled at me) but please, before you just throw away your relationship because “he’s toxic” consider his mental health too.
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Dads can have ppd and ppa too!!! Try to talk to him and maybe seek help from a dr or therapist. Good luck!
He should be paying the bills he got you pregnant did he not.he should be proud to help you out with the baby.he got to take care of the rest of his life.you never stop raising yourchildren
Once your mom is supporting you and you’re able to get the job you had before or a better one then girl leave him no child or mother deserves to go through that at the end of the day a baby comes because of two people involvement and if you leave and still can’t afford to mind your kid there’s maintenance you don’t need that toxic life neither does that baby do, you dont know that child might be better of without him.
Depression is nothing but scared of responseability.
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Wish I could spend more time with my baby but the good Lord needed him.i miss him so
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Don’t put up with him set him stright
Stop worrying about your love for him and focus on what he’s not doing for the baby! These men are something else .
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Men do get depressed too but this sounds like a “I pay the bills, serve me” type of thing. He just feels entitled and don’t wanna do anything.
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Maybe hes having a hard time transitioning to fatherhood as some men do and the daunting need to be the breadwinner is weighing on him… he might come around. Some men also dont know how to handle young babies and get frustrated easily… bare with him hes new too…
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Men can have PPD too…
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I felt like this at first… but I realized we weren’t communicating tell him that’s how you feel tell him how you think it makes the baby feel. It’s not help. It’s being parent. He wants a bond with his son right?? Well hows he gonna do that if he dont spend as much time as possible with him so little. He should be reminded it doesn’t last awhile. hunny he’s getting used to it just like you yeah some guys are just lazy or just don’t know what to do so they don’t deal with it cuz they have you. I know how it feels I’m unable to work. But he does as much as he can… like girl do you love this man or you just with him because of the kid? If you love him you’d real voice your concerns and tell him you just want him to the the father and man you know he can . Sometimes it just takes encouragement and we’ll if it goes south and he’s still like well i do this I do that. You got your answer and should leave. Your the mother of his children he should respect you after all your taking care of the house work and rasing a child! hell a baby is a lot of hard work most men don’t understand. Communication is key darlin
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Well you need to stop taking care of him too first of all he can do all that stuff for his self if he’s not willing to help you since he wanna be a deadbeat idc how many hours he worked he don’t get special privliges everybody works and still takes care of their kids the baby is his responsibility now just as much as it is yours you need to put your foot down and let that be known
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I would never allow my boyfriend to mistreat my child. I agree with your mother you shouldn’t put up with it. Leave him.
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Leave, take a break. Stay with your family. It doesnt matter if he is the only one working. Right now, you’re resting and on active maternity leave and you need to practice self care and love and practice getting to know your baby’s schedule. He needs to be a helping hand when it comes to taking care of baby. Just because he is the only one actively bringing in money doesnt mean that he cant lend a hand when he gets home. You need this time to be happy and readjust to a knew life in your lives. I would suggest you either talking to him or taking a break and stay with family until he can understand that being a father is more than just bringing home the money. Running away from problems is never good, work through it with your other half or take a break for you mental well being. Wish you the best.
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Wish he would grow up, he might have ppd but still making you clean up after him… is he a baby ? Men should clean up after them selves and do shit for themselves. Honestly fuck that dude for making you feel like you have to do shit for him- and he clearly ain’t doing shit for you so maybe it would be best to leave if talking about it doesn’t fix anything. You’re a new mom and i do know 12 hour shifts can be hard but I know plenty of MEN who are in the same position as him and treat their women with respect and help out when they can… he’s being a little boy. You ain’t his momma too.
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Um. I’m sorry to tell you this but it is obvious he is tired of the situation. Do yourself a favor and move away.
If you can’t do that then AT Least DO NOT pick his stuff up. He is quite capable of picking his clothes and washing them etc etc. the situation that your baby is in now doesn’t even sound safe and it’s only gonna get worse. You can survive this! You’ll be better off. It MIGHT take a while but you’ll feel MUCH better later on. Go to your moms where it’s safe for both of you.
That baby is better of with one parent than watching his parents fight or getting treated like trash by his father. Leave girl.
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dudes that get mad at a baby for crying are the same ones that hurt a child.
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This sounds like a feminist type rant. Put your baby in a front carrier and make your man dinner.
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You might both need therapy. He has become disenchanted now that he sees his baby as burdensome and not fun. He might also have had unrealistic expectations on your recovery and ability to care for both him and his baby. He may also need professional help for post delivery depression. You are doing everything and more and you need to have your needs tended to as well or you will burn out. Do what you need to do for you and your baby.
He’s a grown adult and if he’s not helping he should be able to take care of himself.
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Look…despite all the calls to leave him I wouldn’t…not yet. Before the baby he was helpful and you were both working. By your own account he was an attentive and responsible partner. Your new baby is only two months old, and this is a major life change. Yes, dad’s can also get post-partum depression…if you want to call it that. It’s really “major life change” depression. The reality of the responsibility can be overwhelming, even when the baby is wanted. While your adjusting to the new baby, so is he. With you not working she is most likely worried about finances. Please also consider how depression causes fatigue…the overwhelming feelings cause him to withdraw. Set some boundaries regarding your responsibilities and what you are willing to do while you are a stay at home mom. My grandmother told me if I expected my marriage to be 50/50 it was doomed to fail. The truth is that sometimes it’s even, sometimes one person gives more when another one is having a hard time. Be clear about what you expect…watching the baby properly while you cook dinner, picking up his own crap, how proper care of his child is non- negotiable. And give him a little time to come to terms with his new life.
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Everything changes when you add a baby !
Your thoughts change , his thoughts change , at the end of the day you have to think what is best for you , odd to say think of you but if you don’t take care of you who will take care of baby !?! Your not happy baby isn’t happy ! They feel it,
Do you and baby !
Hubby wants something he can get it
You do know how you got pregnant don’t you?! Twelve hours of night shift is hard! If he is paying your bills, that’s a commitment! If you want to work, you could, an it helps if you have money to pay for it. As the child’s Mother, an he is legally not the parent, you should get it that you will always be the one with 100% responsibility to the care an welfare of YOUR child. If your grown up enough to get pregnant then your old enough to handle this situation. Remember a year together is only 365 days!
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You are leaving your son in a bad situation. Fatherhood is difficult, but so is being a mother. Yelling at an infant should never be allowed. I would be terrified he would lose his temper and hurt the baby. I think your mother is right.
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Leaveeeeeeee. He won’t change. The baby in the current situation is way worse than having parents who aren’t together!!! Leave before it gets worse. I know from experience!!!
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Listen to your mother
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Leave girl! You can do it on your own, get him to sign off and move on❤️
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youre looking after a baby yes… but if you was a single parent you’d still be doing the housework! Hes still keeping his work to pay for you & the baby until you can go back to work… he needs to stop getting angry at the baby, men dont realise how frustrating babies are can your mum not watch baby whilst you both go for some food or something break out of routine?
Why would you ask advice about your relationship on Facebook… These are random strangers… They won’t be there for you when you’re up at 3am feeding your child… help you make dinner or do the laundry.
They are giving you advice with their own background in mind and looking at the comments some are dumb asf… You’re in a relationship with your partner not with Facebook… Talk to that man of yours… Get counseling if you need support and/or clarity… Social media isn’t the answer for private issues… Its not just a post it’s your family’s life.
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Man these posts make me wanna go hug my actual man of a husband who acts like a father and still manages to work, loves to help me cook and will clean when he sees something that needs cleaning. Y’all don’t settle for less… step daddies are out there waiting to love a good momma and a baby who didn’t ask for a shitty dad
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Why would you leave your son in that situation? The baby stays with you. Leave while he is at work until he changes his attitude.
My husband bitches from time to time and the immediate postpartum period was rough, especially since I had a Cesarean and a spinal headache that kept me down for an additional week. I couldn’t even sit up and didnt change our son’s diaper for the first time until he was a week old. But at the end of the day, my husband still gets up on his day off with our son and let’s me sleep in. He will do the dishes, even cook, and prefers to do his own laundry. He isn’t the romantic type and doesn’t buy me lavish jewelry but he is an equal partner and that even if I don’t get anything done while home all day, that I wasn’t just sitting my ass on the couch all day either.
Been there.
I left him…
2 years all up split up… did it all on my own, had my boy full time plus worked, lived alone…
Similar story…
We were only 5-6 months into our relationship and found out i was pregnant…
He is 16 yrs my senior but i never felt he was grown up enough… felt like i was doing it all solo…
2 yrs apart and recently back together with our now 3 yr old.
I think its the best thing that couldve happend.
Show him all these comments and tell him to get help or you LEAVE…now, before the baby falls in love with this dead beat.
My partner work 12-14 hour days and still helps me… why? Because I’m his partner and that’s his baby and he loves us. He knows if I could be working I would be and I worked right up till 2weeks before she arrived. We are a team, we are a family. A thought He may be struggling mentally with baby maybe have a talk with him and go from there but, no one tells at a baby that’s not on at all. So if your feeling uneasy then best thing to do is remove your baby and yourself.
Leave with the baby. He basically shirked his responsibilities. So fuck hin. Tell him he can clean his own shit and pack up baby and leave. Ask your mom if you can stay with her until you get on your feet again.
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He could very well be dealing with postpartum too. Men go thru it just like women. HOWEVER you have a child… A manchild is optional… Just sayin
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Red flag…LEAVE. your mom is right…and eventually with time it’ll be harder to leave. You deserve better, your baby deserve s better
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Welcome to being a woman unfortunately
My Husband works 12 hrs days and races home to see his kids! By the sounds of things he wasn’t ready to be a Dad nor does he want to grow up to be one. If he don’t change after a good talking to then leave!!!
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Your son won’t care. He’s a baby. You need to leave. He sounds like an asshole.
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Never leave your baby alone with this guy. Ever.
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What a jerk! Get out of there. You are your child’s protector. Always ALWAYS choose your child over anyone or anything. Good luck.
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