I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I love him we live together and sleep In same bed every night, but he doesn’t do anything we haven’t had sex in over five months like since June or July 2019 and we hardly ever kiss or touch it’s like he just doesn’t want to he said it’s cause he’s never been that type of person that mushy loving kissing cuddling type but it bothers me a lot since we met I told him I was on birth control and I thought it was maybe he was scared I’d get pregnant, but we got over that, but it is now to the point I don’t know what to do what would any of you lady’s do please help.
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Go get ya some strange!
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Not saying this is the case but the same thing happened to me and the guy ended up being gay.
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Flick your bean right beside him! You have needs and they need to be met. Cause trust me he getting his.
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Is he deep in the closet? It still happens. Good luck 
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Actually terrible myself at intimacy, sometimes felt it was forced in the past, not everyone has a high sex drive, if things are ok with the rest of the relationship maybe just see how else it goes x
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Are you sure he likes women? Might he have erectile dysfunction? Is he happy in your relationship?
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Only thing I can really think of is he’s gay. Even men who are cheating will still end up wanting sex but for him to not want it at all is just odd
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Type A sexual, look it up
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He’s either, gay, cheating, or sexually unattached to you.
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He’s getting it somewhere else and it might be from another man
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Sorry sweetie, he’s gay. You are his cover story.
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Vagina deserves better💚
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Does he work his ass off
To provide for the two of you.
As long as you and him are happy together
Intimacy may be a little different.
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I say follow him, check his phone, pop up at his job. Sounds like he’s cheating to me… or he likes men better 
He’s probably cheating on you
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Were you guys always intimate before he moved in? Because if he wasn’t always looking for sex before he moved in then he’s probably not into sex or gay. Cheating is a possibility but you’d have to snoop to find that out.
Make him your ex-boyfriend, you should never have to wonder about things like this
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If he was getting it from someone else then it’s not a very good cover up completely rejecting you. Definitely seems strange… I’m thinking he’s gay!!
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Some people aren’t sexual. It’s perfectly normal.
You can either accept it, or end the relationship. You can’t force him to have sex with you.
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He’s giving the D to someone else…
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Get a new man because he’s getting somewhere else seems like so sorry girl
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So there could be a million reasons that he doesn’t want to be intimate with you…fear of pregnancy, sex is dirty, tired and all of the other things that’s I’m sure your mind has already evaluated. As for the touch, maybe try just holding hands and build from there. Most importantly y’all need to talk about it, if he cares for you he will make an effort and likewise you will need to be patient and understanding.
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If it bothers you and he won’t do anything about it then make him an ex. Maybe you need to have an in-depth talk with him about it. If he refuses to talk or tell you why maybe you aren’t right for each other.
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So 14 years …7 year itch is a thing.
Male menopause is a thing
He remained on couch for years. Affectionate only when after watching porn or his older son sending him nude picks of Brazilian women
After many more months years zero communication, love etc I started talking to single men like I was a porn OPERATOR to fill n the void of being wanted, listened too, adored etc.
We are now seperate. He takes zero ACCOUNTABILITY
I’m the home wrecker
If you feel voided, you are.
I was terrified…the chaos does settle and you go back to doing and owning you happily
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Bail for real. Hes doing you dirty and just knowing he has it easy living there with you. Hes a fucking fuck boy… live for you and do you because nobody else is going to.
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Maybe he is a porn addict I had a boyfriend who was so addicted to porn he we barley ever had sex because his mind was on that allllll day he’d jerk off and I had to really snoop and figure it out CUZ IT WAS MAKING ME FEEL UNWANTED
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Maybe he’s not happy an wants out or is wanting to keep you while talking /seeing other women .I had a friend who was married to a guy for 15 years and he was lying stating he had no fb account and he had one talking to women every night .saying he wants to marry them and life is so hard and calling them models etc ,Best he’s not married hahaha sick freak he was .Be smart
Have you initiated it? Does he reject your advances of any physical touch or intimacy?
Does he masturbate? Watch porn?
Get him to a dr to check his testosterone level.
He may be honest. Some people aren’t sexual. Tell him its time to be truthful.
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My boyfriend is the same way. Only I found out he’s screwing the workplace wh?!e
Been there…done that…he is cheating & using you to take care of him!! He’s a grown ass man…no kids here!! You need to move on. You deserve better!! Good luck.
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That is way to soon to get to that…you don’t have to settle. Women, stop settling!
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Love language perhaps different for him and you.
Get a new boyfriend… errr… Man
This one is just playing you. If he didn’t want and adult relationship… he should not have entered into a relationship with a woman that expects it.
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Maybe he’s just not that into you…time to say bye bye and find someone who wants to be with you
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I had this problem too with my ex. It bothered me so much. I don’t need sex all the time. Its not the most important thing at all but after a while it started making me feel like i was undesirable and unattractive. He said no that wasn’t it. We cuddled and were affectionate to a point but sex? No. Other red flags started appearing and we ended up breaking up. I do understand how it makes you feel and it sucks. You have to decide if you’re okay with it and can accept it or if it’s a deal breaker. I wish you luck hun. Positive thoughts
If you guys don’t mesh together sexually and it’s something you can’t go through then find someone you do mesh with. Love is when you are willing to sacrifice and accept differences for. I don’t think you love him, but definitely care about him. Doesn’t mean you have to stay in a relationship with him.
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I quit sleeping with my Husband simply because I hated him.
So do you come on to him? I mean maybe he likes someone more dominant. I mean my man and I have sex maybe every couple weeks but when we do it is for hours. I know he doesn’t cheat on me so that’s not the case with me. It’s the thrill of it makes it even better when we wait. So maybe you should get dressed up sexy and try it that way.
Dont waste your time!! Dump him if he isnt into you, someone will come along that treats you better soon.
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My husband isn’t a very sexual person, but this is too extreme. And we kiss multiple times and show affection in little ways throughout the day. I can understand a month without doing the nasty tango (and that’s pushing it) but not five. I think something is going on.
Maybe he is a sexual look it up if your unhappy it’s up to you to choose what to do
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Get rid of him quickly… He’s using you…
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I deal with the same shit a d i am ready to go
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Start “charging him” and take the shackin up out of the equation. It is not NORMAL to sleep in the same bed and the thought of sex wouldn’t go through his mind. He is getting it some where; you should be glad you don’t have sex with him; you don’t want to catch a TRAMP disease. Don’t feed him or wash his dirty drawers.
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Maybe hes shy or feels he cant meet your needs.
Leave, infact run !
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I’d look into him cheating. Maybe it’s hormonal on his part. Buuuuuut I think he’s cheating.
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Im not going to be like every one else and say run and be negative. I’m simply going to say. If a man cannot meet ur needs physically emotionally and mentally you do not need to be in that relationship. Same goes for a woman meeting a man’s needs. If you decide to stay, that will be you settling for less then what you deserve if you two cannot work it out. And you’ll only end up miserable and hating each other for it.
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Do you try to Initiated and he turns you down? Or are you waiting for him to come on to you? Make a romantic gesture. And see what happens. Maybe he dont know how to approach you.
That’s my ideal relationship. No joke.
He’s getting it from someone else
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He is hiding from life and using you. 
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It can be a whole host of things. Like he could be suffering from erectile dysfunction and is too embarrassed to talk to you about it. It happens to 1 in every 4 men, and the probabilities increase with age, if they suffer from a disease, or if they abused drugs in the past. He could also be asexual. He could be addicted to porn and doesn’t get “on” from the things he used to. Or he speaks a different love language than you. In other words, he doesn’t need physical touch to express love or to receive love. He could also just be an emotional person and if you all are going through a life adjustment he may just not be in the mood. You live together, sometimes it takes time to find your groove as a cohabitating couple. He could also be stressed at work. He could simply just not need it as he said. Yes, he could also be unfaithful or just not into you like a few have suggested, but I feel like if that were the case there would be a lot of other signs. At the end of the day, it can be so many things and the only way you’re going to find out is to talk to him directly. Calmly and without accusing, tell him that you are feeling a sexually neglected and see where it goes from there. If he can fix it and puts forth the effort, great! If he can’t, then you have a decision to make. What do you value more: having HIM as a
partner or having a fulfilling sex life with a different partner? If it’s the latter, you know what time it is.
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Same exact situation I tried everything and he continued to reinsure me that it wasnt me he was just like that unfortunately found out he was talking to other girls and exs he ended up in jail and I ended up with his phone sadly to say he needed me to get in his phone for info I knew what i was going to find if i chose to continue to go through it and i did it’s not worth the heartache
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All of you saying gay or cheating probably can’t keep a solid connection for a month.
Type A is a thing, y’all.
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He’s cheating get checked he probably caught an std and got treated for it but doesn’t want to tell you because you’ll kick him out and he will be homeless
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He turned into gay…
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I had been in a 3 year relationship before I met my husband. We only had sex for the first 3 months of that 3 years and after that he doesn’t want to do it again. His alibis are he’s tired, he’s stressed out and that he’s not into it. Every time we try to do it his penis don’t cooperate. He’s also a type of man who is too feminine and emotional for a straight man. So I left him for good. But before me there was 3 women who left him for other men and lesbian. I was the only one who has the guts to tell him that he suck in bed and that he’s a closet gay waiting for his Father to die so he can come out. He cried. So I guess in a year or so that long haired man will start his transition.
Your BF is GAY as FUCK!
He don’t want you or he’s gay
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A Year and already having this issues? What future us there?. Leave him a go live a little, life is short
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Red flags!!! Though I’d have to ask, have you both been intimate previously?
erictile dysfunction? closet gay?
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Leave him he sounds like he has lost interest or depressed or Getting pleasures from something else or someone else just ask him
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Red flag ,if things don’t improve, end it .Too many ifs and buts but no honest communication from him .Its a need you aren’t getting in a relationship. My ex husband was shooting his load over porn and live sex shows online , it carried on for 4 years ,everytime I asked he denied their being a problem .
No man in this world goes 5 months without getting it in. Sounds like he’s using you for a place to stay. Move on.
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It’s because He’s CHEATING On you🤷🏽♀️. Dump Him ASAP!!
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I’m not saying he’s cheating but it would be worth checking into. Same thing happened to me with my ex husband and I was so confused. I later found out he was cheating. I mean, I hope he isn’t because that’s a terrible thing to go through. Just keep your eyes open. Good luck.
He probably likes men
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I’m so sorry you are going through this. You must feel rejected.
Let him know whilst you love him. You are not happy to live in this way.
Ask him if there is any thing you could help to change things. Or if he is happy living this way.
How ever hard you may have to accept you both require different things. Good luck
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Leave it won’t get better. You shouldn’t have to live like that. Been there very painful.
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Unless he has E.D. he is cheating sorry.
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One of two things! He’s gay and using you for a place to stay, or cheating!!! There is no other way around it. Keep us posted! Lol
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I am sorry you going through this! Must be hard! You should talk to him! There is always a solution! Is not fair to you honey not knowing what exactly going in throughout his mind!
Yes I agree it’s not going to get better…you need to move on …you will meet someone that wants to be with you and you deserve to be happy
time to leave. He is prob found someone else. Men do not go months with no sex so he is getting it elsewhere. You deserve better.
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I know some males that are this way. They aint cheating! They can go with no sex and be happy! 
It is frustrating for the other one in the relationship. Best of luck to you!
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Unlike a lot of other ppl here i dont assume he is cheating. Being a person who has battled this and also knowing others who have as well…mental illnesses like depression can cause this. If its depression that also doesnt mean u r doing something wrong. It could b work, something from his past, or no real reason at all. Y’all need to really talk about whats going on, not just about the intimacy but everything
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Everybody is so eager to say hes cheating is he on any meds.to stop him from having sexual desires depression is a key factor too. Forget getting on facebook asking for advice from people who do not know u u r the best judge. Sit him dow yourself and tell him your concerns. Suggest a sex counselor if it doesnt improve u may have to move on. Life is too short u deserve to feel loved if hes not going to then go.good luck
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He’s cheating , or he has a problem with the sex that y’all have …
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Maybe he has Hiv.
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There is a lot more going on
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Talk to him about it? Maybe he is depressed or upset cause he wants a baby? This is kinda hard to judge on just your side. I hate to say it but he’s probably messing around on you if he’s not being sexual with you anymore. My man can’t go more than two days without sex and definitely not a few hours without kiss or cuddle.
There are plenty of men out there that will jump your bones and let you know they want you. Don’t waste your time on this loser
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How can we post on here ?
Could possibly Asexual… don’t freak her out with shit like hes cheating. Only way yo know if to sit down and be completely honest with how you feel about it and ask if he could please explain himself better and decide what to do from there.
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Maybe he struggles with impotence. Just a thought.
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Some are just like that. Be best friends first
Hello‼️ He’s fucking someone else…
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You don’t mention how old you both are. Sounds fishy to me, A man who never wants to have sex. There is either some serious dishonesty going on, like what or who is he attracted to, or he is unable to perform. If he absolutely will not talk about it and you still wanta try, insist on counseling’s.
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If you can live in a sexless relationship, then stay. If you cant, then you really need to ask yourself how long before you get overly frustrated. You cant make him have sex with you if hes not into it. And likewise, he cant expect you to remain “without”. Really think about it. Sounds like you are miserable.
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No offense he needs to go.
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It’s a difficult journey in my experience. Now I am kinda gun shy about touch all together.
It may be just how it will always be and he may figure out how to allow touch.
He is being clear, he doesn’t like touch so much.
I am sorry it’s uncomfortable for you.
Books on intimacy left near his bedside may be considered passive aggressive, I see it as
suggestions.
Good luck
he has no int in you
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I dont think hes cheating. I just think it’s his sex drive. I mean only together a little over a year? So almost half of the year you havent been intimate? Maybe you are just not right for each other. Maybe hes not attracted to you anymore. That doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you, it just means it’s not meant to be
Maybe he is asexual?
Speak to him wat ur asking us here. If ur thinking or suspicious abt somethn, he! is the person whom can tell u. If after that it still remains the same then do ur own research instead of thinking and worrying.
And if a woman isnt intimate or wont kiss or snuggle?