Just out of curiosity nice comments please. Me and my boyfriend talked about how we do not get along when we are both drinking. He decided to me he didn’t want that life anymore. He wanted a better life without drinking. He went to one aa meeting then started back up drinking. I get upset whenever he wants to drink cause he doesn’t know when to stop now he is making it out like I’m trying to control his life. I don’t know what to do
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AA honestly doesn’t help, it makes you want to drink in my opinion. Give an ultimatum I guess if you already talked about it and he hasn’t changed. Cause he obviously doesn’t really want to stop or care about how you feel when he does. My gf and I went through the same thing, we didn’t fully stop drinking but we literally drink only every blue moon and we both try to watch how much we drink when we do or limit what’s in the house when we don’t can’t get crazy
It is hard for an alcoholic to quit drinking. He is the one that really wants to quit. All you can do is be there for him and see if he will go with you to AA meeting.
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You’re hardly the first one to think you can hold back the tide when it comes to addiction, make the decision - do you love him enough to accept him as he is and be good with it the rest of your life or do you want a different “him” ? what he is now is statistically what you’ll have forever if you stay with him
Try attending an AA meeting with him. Or help support him in other ways. If he has a drinking problem, you’ll have to change your lifestyle as well if you want this relationship to work. No alcohol in the house and no attending bars/parties together. Do what you can to encourage him to quit. I know from first hand experience that alcoholism does not only effect the person with the addiction, but those who love and/or live with the person as well. Hang in there, it takes time.
I recently ended a 3yr relationship because drinking was a problem. We kept saying we needed to stop and neither of us would do it. Eventually I just left and it was the best choice. He’s currently blaming me now for his problem but I’m doing so much better. You can’t make him stop but you can choose how much of it you’re going to tolerate.
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Alcoholics, like any addiction can’t necessarily quit cold turkey. Alcoholics can have severe withdrawals/can cause hospitalization. If he’s serious about help he will look into it further, into the root of what causes the drinking, counseling, detox center (depending on the amount being consumed). If your serious about this relationship you will do the same- you’ve gotta be supportive but at the same time make the drastic changes as well
Realy isn’t as easy as going to an a.a. meeting your boyfriend is in addiction he is going to have to make an effort to change alot of things he may not know how.he has admitted he has problem that is bigger than you think.encourage meetings activities he must do sober
My friend is currently looking for a New liver. She didnt quit drinking either. With no new liver she has 60ish more days on this earth! She now spends more time in New Orleans ER than at home…
The choice is YOURS! ONLY YOURS!
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You can only change yourself…
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Start attending Al-Anon meetings while you try to decide what to do about the relationship. It will help you better understand your relationship as it currently stands, and different coping mechanisms. Also, if the problems arise when you’re both drinking maybe you need to take a hard, honest look at yourself as well. No judgement, just coming from my past experiences 
Sounds like there are drinking issues, does not sound like a healthy relationship
Maybe its time for you to go. Some people cant drink responsibly and need to sink before they can rise.
Get a new bf… you can’t make people grow up
He will not change for you or anyone else.
So you are the one who has to decide what kind of life and relationship you want
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If you want him forever be patient.
He’s a alcoholic get away from him
He’s a drunk … Save yourself the pain and move on