Babes… You could find so much better. There are Great Men Out Here. He’s a horrible father & partner. He is a big ass toddler that should Know Better. Stop Taking Care of Him. You Don’t Owe him Anything. Please Move On. Think of your Daughter. Would you like it if a guy like him treated her as a maid? She will grow up to think that it’s okay for a man child to disrespect her and gaslight her.
I wasted 10 yrs of my life to this kind of treatment and worse… Best thing I did was Moving out & starting over. My babies are happier and so am I. I found a loving man. I found my best friend. 
I would have found him sooner if I had left the toxic relationship sooner.
Your boyfriend sounds like a child. You’ll be much happier without
Gaming is fun. I love playing video games. But my responsibilities take priority. I haven’t played anything in months.
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You need to have an honest conversation with him not only about what you need but what your child needs. Is he working? Don’t get on that car loan with him.
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Take every single cord of his console. Every single one.
Wake up at 5 a.m. , make breakfast with the music and every light in the house on. When you do laundry, do everyone’s but his. When you make dinner, make everyone’s but his. And put a pillow on the couch. Then file for divorce.
So many red flags. It’s the wallpaper, decor, and overall theme here.
There’s also a lot of missing context. Such as, do either of you work? Because it comes across as neither of you work and only have self/baby time and he is doing self only if he’s sleeping…
How old are you and he?
Do you have other support ex: involved grandparents
Altho, the description you give of this guy is appalling. Unfortunately he’s an absent parent that is doing more harm than good. If he’s living with his daughter and he gets frustrated about her presence that’s unhealthy for her to experience. It’s rejection.
I would cut my losses and leave if I could. I would not force my children to live with anyone that didn’t like and/or want to be around my child if I could avoid it.
Get a gov apartment if you have nowhere to go and make him pay child support
It’s time to get out of that relationship quick, before you really start resenting him. I’m here if you ever need to talk, vent, scream, or cry. I’ve been there before
When does he work? I feel like this type of man can’t be changed so you might as well just leave. What’s he bringing to the relationship anyway?
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Try to be more forward with him. He’s missing out because he stays awake all night. He needs to re-evaluate his routine. Discuss dividing the household so you both feel you’re contributing and resentment doesn’t build. Set yourself some boundaries. Sit him down and let him know what your boundaries are. Either you’ll both put in the work and make it work or you’ll re-evaluate at some point. We’ve has some ups and downs in our relationship and we’ve worked through it. Really we grew up together and that’s okay, you just got to find your way.
Run………don’t look back….the past is gone, the future is ahead……he needs a life and so do you and your daughter.
Someone once told me, “you can live alone and not be lonely or you can live with someone and be lonely”……and please do not sign on a car with him, just run.
This is who he is. With that schedule I’m guessing he does not work. So like my mama used to say you can do bad by yourself. Definitely don’t buy a car with him!!!
Ur single with an extra child by the sounds of it…give him a choice to wise up and sort his priorities out or drop him and do it on ur own lile u are anyway…some dads are brilliant and some are just big fluffing kids them selves… my ex loved video games, he wouldn’t stay up all nite, but he would go to work then come home and play games while I took care of baby all day, he would make short little moments with baby but we hardly had time together, or him and baby unless we planned a day out… he wouldn’t be on his games as much as ur fella but enough to get annoyed when we were under his feet while he played… if he had all the time he would be on it more… we were 19 when we had our son…he’s an ex for many reasons…I’ve been happy with someone else for almost 10 years now and he never gets obsessed with gaming, and when he does have the odd game time I watch, read a book or draw… we still talk to eachother aswell (I don’t feel invisible around him when hes in the game zone, even i like to play games)… if he can’t change after u have words, leave, he will soon be moaning he misses u and don’t take it back either misses,… u and ur child can’t be second best to a game console…if u let him treat u like this he will always think it’s ok…and ur child will learn from this behaviour and be the same way when they are grown…u and little one deserve better
Sounds like he is addicted to video games. You need to set your boundaries. Let him know that you’re not gonna tolerate it or you’re out the door. I honestly didn’t learn how to set boundaries for myself until I was in my early 30s and once I did that my life completely changed I have a amazing husband that does not play video games lol
This requires a very hard conversion between you both about how you take care of eachother and what you need, want, and like to have.
I’m assuming he makes money playing video games? How else does he have time for a job.
Leave him. It’s really that simple. Being a single mom is easier than dealing with the emotional/physical and mental neglect he is providing. Love yourself more and still settling for this man child.
Unfortunately gaming is an addiction.
Some people it’s just for fun, others helps clear their minds after a long day at work and in depression/anxiety it helps take the edge of things for them to feel a bit normal without the negativity playing in their heads 24/7.
My son is 13 and is addicted to gaming and it plays a huge role on his mood as well and he suffered from depression and anxiety which he is being treated for. He has told me and his therapists when he plays he feels like a normal person who only has to worry about the character in the game and not every day life things.
My honest opinion is you need to sit down with him and explain to him how it makes you feel, how it’s impacting not only your relationship but the relationship with your child in a negative way and also give him the opportunity to give his side of how playing games makes him feel.
Unfortunately we as humans always see the negative side of things when we don’t get our way or see it as an inconvenience in life but we never actually stop to try understand why a person does the things they do and I learnt that the hard way with my son before he told us why he plays games all the time.
The upside is my son and I learnt to compromise with the gaming and he is doing a lot better.
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My husband was once like that. When we were dating 2 years in. He lost his job and he did exactly this for maybe a few weeks. One day I came home after 12 hour shift & 2 night classes and he didnt even move since I left. I said be the man I need or get out of my life. He is my husband for a reason now. He went got a job and then a better one and then propsed and has been doing everything he can to give me everything I’ve ever wanted since. You need to tell him what you need and it’s okay. If he can’t give it leave him. He will know why he lost you if he can’t give you what you and your daughter need. You letting him treat you like this, it won’t change. My husband is so great to me now and I’m so glad I voiced what I needed in our relationship to move forward. My boyfriend then stumbled and I loved him to know this isn’t him. But only you know your daughters father. I can’t imagine if we had children in the mix back then. He has never been like that with our kids, so I can’t relate on that matter. Hope you stand up for what you and your daughter deserve from whoever gets the honor to be apart of your family unit.
Jay Rodarte my fiance is kinda th same but int the middle of both, he plays game late as hell into the night or more, when he has work he does better and sleeps more. When he doesn’t he sleeps a lot during the day. Wish he’d spend more time with me and his kids tho. Have 2 kids and been together almost 10 years now. Working definitely helps change his schedule
My ex husband. EX. I was so much happier after I got rid of him. Cant stand a manchild. Talking to him did nothing but leave empty promises that wasted more precious time.
Sounds like he needs to man up or you need to say byeeee…he can come visit when he decides to stop being a manchild…good grief…he has a child it’s time to wake up and step up its not about us anymore once we have kids it’s all about their needs!
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Sounds like he needs to grow up. Obviously not worried about any type of relationship or responsibility with you or the child. Seems like you would be better on your own
If he cant put down the game to spend time with his family or be a man of the house he is a crappy room mate and a sperm donor. These men do not change if you stay with them because he’s comfortable being a bum and lacks accountability.
My husband used to play his games all the time before we got married. He adjusted his game play based on his home responsibilities after we got married. Now he only plays on the weekends or on vacation days if we are at home. We married in our 30s. I’m guessing if we had got together when he was younger, it would have been harder for him to be so mature and make time for adult responsibilities. He had relationships and a marriage before me. He never did it for them. I hope that your guy matures and accepts that his family should come first. But he will only do what you allow him to do. A lot of people say that ultimatums are bad in a relationship. I disagree. I think that ultimatums should be reserved for the extremely important issues, and used only when you absolutely mean them and will follow through. He will never change if he doesn’t have to. Put your foot down & give him game restrictions like a child. Ideally he could help you figure out what times are appropriate and then you have to make him stick to that schedule. And never allow him to be abusive or dismissive over a game. Unfortunately, it might take losing his family for him to realize that games might not be that important to him.
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Listen to me : PLEASE!!!
I WAS IN THE EXACT same situation…
I kept thinking he’d change and mature…
It doesn’t happen.
I waited way to long but still got out of it.
So horrible, it’s the worst feeling ever. Very unfair.
My question is …does he work?
Ask yourself this, would you be okay with your daughter being with a man like that? Having her feel the way you do always? Kids are like sponges. They are watching more than you know! You’re showing her what to accept.
Gaming is a addiction, and unless he sees an issue. I don’t think things will change… you sound like you’re a single momma already. If he’s not bringing anything to the table, what’s the point of being together? Would you even trust him to ever watch her alone? In the sense that he may not pay attention or meet her needs when he’s on his game?
So as a man this is a view from the other side. I recent started playing a game I liked again and my gf needed a hand with something. I paused it and proceeded to help her. Then teased her about why the heck she didn’t just ask for my help in the first place. She goes “you were busy” I replied baby I was playing a video game lmao I wasn’t “busy” he needs a wake up call.
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That’s childish trash in my opinion. Shape up grow up. And act like a man or ship out buddy 
that’s not a good example of what a man should be to your daughter and u also deserve a present partner
You’re raising 2 kids. Congratulations.
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Throw the games away. Does he work??
You have a daughter and a son.
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You have an extra kid to care for, and that’s not fair.
The only proper reason to be up all night and sleep all day, is working midnights. And since I highly doubt that these games are bringing an income into your house… I’d tell him he needs to get out. See ya. It’s been going on too long already and he’s already shut down the conversations you’ve tried to have with him about it.
Make the best decision for you and your daughter. Remember you’re setting an example for her on the type of man she should choose. Choose wisely. Your decisions now will affect her later.
Throw the whole man child out because it sounds like he still needs his mama, drop him and his games on her doorstep.
I’d leave now. You’re literally dating a child. He was man enough to create a child, video games come last now…
Sounds like he ain’t working,how is he providing for you? Sounds like you have 2 children…ultimatum time…shape up or ship out
I think I would leave him. His gaming sounds like his World where you and your daughter should be his World😢it’s ok to have hobbies but this sounds way over the top.
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Sorry he is doing it because you do everything else. Talk to him and tell him you can’t live this way. Sets a example for your daughter. He needs to grow up and get a job. He is taking advantage of you. He won’t change until you set limits even leave him
It seems like he might have some things going on inside his own head that he’s not sure how to navigate through. Unfortunately, a lot of males won’t open up and talk about it because they feel it makes them appear weak and vulnerable.
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You would look fabulous with 180-200 pounds lighter. Let me know how it feels when you drop him
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If he did it at the beginning of the relationship, he will continue throughout the relationship. I had one, he switched from video games to hard drugs, I made him choose and he chose to leave. I’m better off
Time for him to grow up. He doesn’t NEED to play video games all night. But, he does NEED to be a father.
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Sounds like he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship or have a child. I would start preparing yourself to raise this child alone without his support. Hopefully you have a better support system from your family.
Leave now it’s easier to be a single mom than it is to put up with that. It won’t get better.
I’m guessing he doesn’t work? Sounds more like you have an older child than a partner
Time to give him an ultimatum. He should beable to limit his video gaming to only a couple of days a week so he can be in your lives. I’m guessing he doesn’t even have a job. When an ultimatum doesn’t change his behavior then nothing will.
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Wow. I’d be kicking him out tbh. Gaming is fine but it shouldn’t be taking over his life so hes choosing to be awake at night to game instead of in the day for family time? That’s disgusting. My partner helps with the kids on his days off but at every moment we get time to sit down he’s on his game and that can annoy me at times but he does help when I ask him too and he works 12 hr shifts so I don’t mind him having that time to game but if it affected family time we’d be having a serious talk
I would start off by having an open heart to heart discussion.
If after I told him how I was feeling and nothing changed, I’d probably smash the video game console into a million pieces.
If after that he flies off the handle and doesn’t change, bye bye.
Get u a man tht doesnt need mothering u already have one child. X
That’s a grown child. Just leave because it’s a waist of time trying to turn a man into a responsible man. They choose video games everytime
Wants to buy a new car? First off do either of you work? Your home 247, he is home 24/7. Nvm this dumb question who works in the family is what I want to know?? How is this family supported? Doesn’t sound like either of you work… I want to know so I can not work & afford a new car & a place to live!!
Whatever you do…do not sign any contracts on his car purchase. He is not your husband. You do not want to be financially bound to this man. How does he make a living if he sleeps all day and plays games all night?
If you and his kid is important to you he will change.
If he wanted to he would.
If he’s not changing his ways obviously that is telling you just how much the games are his #1 priority and not you guys.
My husband used to stay awake until 3 or 4 and then sleep in.
I laid out the options he picked one.
Now he goes to bed with us and 6/7 wakes up with us.
Any person will take advantage until you refuse to allow it!
The “man” you speak of, is selfish and manipulative. You aren’t even married yet.
to think I give my husband a hard time about gaming. you should have a talk because clearly the relationship isn’t living up to its expectations.
I divorced because of this exact reason.
Boyfriend?? Okay make a point games or you and your kid. If it’s interrupting him being a father or being part of a team then it’s goodbye. Sounds like he doesn’t even work.
Sounds like the video games are more important. Sounds like he doesn’t want any responsibility etc. I play video games too, but I do it from usually 8pm, to about midnight.
My ex husband was like that. It doesn’t change
Depends on what game it is. Most games have an end and when he gets to it he’ll get back on schedule. If it’s like Call of Duty then who needs to hear to play that game it’s not that serious
Tell him to stop being a little b*tch and grow up!
You got a “Real Winner” !
You’re already single, make him move out. Whose making the money? With kids come huge responsibilities. Somebody needs to take charge here.
Leave with your baby before it gets worse
Cut Baby Boy loose and find an adult male to share your time with. Someone who realizes the responsibility of being an adult.
Does he work? How is he up all night playing video games? So basically you have a manchild. Seriously I’d tell him to shape up or ship out. That would not fly with me
You seem to have two children, not one! If gaming is more important than his child and you, he’s got to go! There’s nothing wrong with gaming, if a person can be responsible with it. However, it doesn’t say anything about you or him working. Does he make money from gaming? If so, I’d be a bit more understanding. But I still wouldn’t allow the disrespect. There would still be boundaries in place. For instance, my husband is a gamer. Between our business, and his gaming, that’s how he provides for our home. But he won’t game while our children are up, 1 bc they are loud (there’s 4 what do you expect?) 2, it’s not fair for me to be caring for them alone, and 3, he loves spending time with me and them. Once they are in bed, which is about 9, he jumps on gaming for 3-4hrs. I get alone time to read or what my shows etc. He does not do this every night, as he makes sure to spend alone time with me as well. We both lay down at 1am (I’m a night owl so sometimes later). And kids are up between 9-10am. My older 2 get themselves up and ready for school. They come in if they need me or to say bye. Then my husband works 11am-5pm doing our business. It’s all about balance, maturity, responsibility, and being apart of everything. Sit down and have a conversation with him. Tell him how you feel, and see what he says/does in return. Go from there!
Time to grow up little boy.
He is prioritizing his video game over being part of his family. He’s a child and needs to grow up
You have an issue. Doesn’t he work. Sounds like your the only worker I the house
Cut the cord.
To the video game… or the relationship. Something needs to be done.
Leave this isn’t fair to your daughter. She’s going to end up walking on eggshells cause your boyfriend has issues
I’d give the gaming equipment a bath in the kitchen sink.
Leave he so unappreciative or better still replace the TV with a broken one and say well now you have no choice to help but I would tell him how you feel and leave
Cant imagine what marriage would be like…if this is just a boyfriend.
I would throw out the whole boyfriend.
Are you ready to leave n yet? If not you need to run…
Leave leave leave, does that man work? That’s a child not a father or provider.
Boy needs to man up or you need to move on! Unacceptable don’t settle for it
He’s a fart in the wind. Poof good bye
He sleeps for 15 hours every day to avoid any responsibility?!
I had one of these, throw him in the bin.
Well it sounds like you’re writing about my son, but he’s 16.
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No one the car ,does he work ? And find a new man and dad for u and ur daughter
What you allow will continue…
It sounds like sit down time to talk. You need a partner, not another child. Counseling is a good idea. Hiding his video game is another.
I would be gone. Not worth it
SOOOOO he’s also unemployed??? Or
My question is, why are you allowing this
Thats totally unacceptable
Leave. He’s not going to change.
That’s not a relationship! That’s a user! Is he not working?
My sister’s ex was this way when with their daughter born. She’s 12 and he takes for a weekend once every few months. He hasn’t changed at all. He junked an entire car because rather then fix the ONE problem he wanted the money for junking it to upgrade his system. It doesn’t sound like either of you are working, and he’s overall an absent parent. Save everyone the trouble and call it quits now so he can game uninterrupted and you can have time to find someone who appreciates the noice and company of you and your daughter.
If the question is should you leave him, the answer is yes.
Leave him. He’s a d3ad b3at dad
So when do either of u work 
Take cords or batteries out of controller and hide them 
I think you know what you need to do
And you are waiting for us to
Give you a push in the right direction
Time for him to grow up!!