My boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 3 years now and we have a daughter together has been playing video games all night long and not going to bed until 7am when me and our daughter wake up for the day and a few weeks ago he told me it’s because he can’t play the game during the day without being interrupted his idea of being interrupted is me taking out the trash, vacuuming the living room rug, mopping the floor or picking up toys anything involving me blocking the tv even bringing our daughter food and he’s still sleeping when we are going to bed and then complains to me that he never sees us because we “go to bed so early” we are up at 7am and in bed at 10pm or sooner on nights without baths. He will wake up and complain our daughters tablet was to loud or I was talking to loud or I had the tv on. His sister said he’s missing out on daughter time and I told him I agree with her and he told me to stop arguing and go to bed. I left that alone and haven’t said anything since. He’s been wanting to go buy a new car they open at 10am he asked me to be ready by 10:30 it’s 10:08 and he went to sleep at 7am.
You’re a single mum with a man child.
Look I’ve dated/even married a gamer, I’m personally a gamer myself. When I didn’t have kids, or other responsibilities I played games all night. But 3 (almost 4) kids later, multiple jobs, becoming a single parent, I realized I didn’t have time for it. As much as I wanted to play, I made sure the house was clean, kids taken care of, adult duties (such as working or paying bills) we’re done. If he chooses games over anything (you, your child, adult activities/responsibilities) LEAVE! That’s the best advice I can give. You’re already doing it on your own.
I had one of these.
Key word had.
Never changed.
Not even 18 years later.
Gaming is an addiction
Unless he is willing to change, he Wont
Hmm my man kind of does the same. But he works and still makes time for our family. He plays and has a few drinks and is usually in bed by 4am, but he gets up every day at 8am and works until 3 or 4pm and spends time with us until bedtime 
your boyfriend should be able to balance both. Does he work?
I’m so confused. All of y’all are home all day long yet he doesn’t help care for the child at all? I’d be wondering who he’s actually playing with/talking to that me and our child is a interruption. If this is something that just recently started I’d have a ton of questions. Ain’t no man of mine gonna be home and not do anything but sleep and play a game.
How often does he do this, when does he work?
He’s got alot of growing up to do. He has his entire life to game, if that’s what he chooses to do with his spare time. His daughter will only be little for such a short amount of time and he’s missing it all, time he will never get back. She will be his age one day and could possibly say, he was never there, it will affect her more in the long run.
My ex did this! I was also the only one working while he watched our son. He would scream at me when I would have to wake him up at 1 pm so I could leave for work. Trust me he won’t change. I tried for yearsss. My husband goes to sleep with me at night no matter what.
I’d be smashing that game like yesterday 
problem solved
Stop putting your energy into this relationship. He clearly has. Time to make changes, for yourself and your kid. 
Yep…time to go. Been there, that’s a little boy narc. They don’t change.
Does this loaf have a job?
Honestly he sounds like my baby daddy. Eventually he put a mattress in the living room to sleep on since he didn’t want to wake us 
Left his ass when she was 3 and I’m so glad I did. He is still doing the same shit to his current girlfriend.
BOYfriend…enough said!
Doubt he will grow up anytime soon…in the mean time, just focus on you and daughter. We mamas are strong and capable of becoming independent woman with our children, it may be hard but in the long run it’s so worth it! She will grow up to know who was there for her and who wasn’t.
Honestly it sounds like depression. Something else is going on here. He’s struggling about something a d doesn’t know how to cope so he ignores it by sleeping and Playing games. This is serious. Tell him you want to talk about it. Let him know your worries. Communication is the key. Don’t yell. Tell him not to yell and just talk. You will listen. You are a team and can deal with it together. God bless. 
Your not with a man your with a boy.
He sleeps everyday from 7am to 10pm?? I get having some time to play games but this is extreme. He is a father and he needs to prioritize things.
He clearly cannot see who is in the wrong. He also needs to get a job and start living a regular life that includes you and your daughter. At the moment he’s living a very single life. You continue whay you are doing as you have your daughter to think of. He need to grow up and start acting like a husband and parent to you both not a moody teenager.
My bf is a gamer but doesn’t do this, if he did this would be my way of dealing with it
I have so many questions! How is he gonna buy a car if he sleeps all day and plays games all night? Where does a job fit in? And why would you tolerate this ? Who is working in that household to make a paycheck?
You’re dating an immature man child who will never change and never put his family first. Leave while your child is still young. Full stop.
When does he go to work?!
How is he buying a new car if all he does is sleep and play video games? When does he work? My daughters dad works the graveyard shift gets home around 4 or 5 plays his game a little then he goes to bed around 7 am (he has to decompress and relax his body before going to bed he does that by playing his game) he is up by 1pm at the latest. I guess I’m just not understanding how he’s getting the money for a new car when what you described leaves no time for him to be working. And why he is still asleep at 10pm when yall go to bed if he went to bed at 7am that is 16 hours of sleep.
Never gonna change I booted my kids dad out because of this do everything by yourself no reason for him to be there he doesn’t help you out
You have 2 children. One is grown, and should be a part of family life and helping you parent. If he was being an adult and doing family life with you, taking care of the home like you do, then he’d be too exhausted to stay up all night. Dude has his priorities in the wrong place, and I know just how it feels bc I had one of those. Trust me when I say it’s easier just being a single parent. You’re already doing both parental jobs, while he’s putting his time and effort into imaginary screen land.
I was desperately looking for the question…I didn’t find one so I’m going to go ahead and assume that what you want is validation to follow through with what I’m pretty sure is a plan already formed in your mind to sever this relationship (if it can even be called that.) DO IT!!! You have done everything right, and deserve a whole lot more than a lump on the couch! As long as you allow this from him he will continue to do it, trying to make him change will not work and just make what you do have worse. Not to mention you’re setting up the future scene for the exact thing to happen to your daughter when she grows up! Get out now before it gets worse. He sounds like he has already made up his mind that this situation isn’t what he wants and he’s trying to make you mad enough with his snarky comments to cause you to leave. This advice goes double if he is not working outside the home to support you and his child and his obligation to be a partner and parent. What you have is a “selfish, self centered manbaby” which unfortunately seems to be the new norm! Please, please, please believe me and all others who offer the same advice. We offer it because we KNOW, not because we’re guessing the inevitable outcome of your situation. LIFE experiences has taught us this and we are sharing to spare you some heartbreak. Get out as quick as you can, and spare yourself and your child more heartbreak. Anyone who wants to have a real relationship will sacrifice what they want for what their partner needs. Any man worth his salt doesn’t need to be asked, told, forced to do what is required to have a relationship. You’re not his maid, mother, teacher, babysitter, financier, landlord or anything else. Things should be 50/50 across the board and done willingly. Much love to you and your daughter. Listen to your gut instincts…you already know what to do. Be that strong woman your daughter needs to see and she’ll grow up to be a strong woman too. You’ll be so much happier and so will everyone else in this situation. Peace☮
I’m the same way… I’m wired for the night, Hate the day time and only deal with it when absolutely necessary…When my children were born you know what happened?? We didn’t put our kids in bed at 10pm so they could spend time with their daddy…They are home schooled so they don’t worry about waking up early for school or anything… No reason why a child needs to be on one schedule or the other…Half of the world runs at night on 2nd and 3rd shift and we need to stop acting like waking up early and going to bed early are the “right” thing…So take some melatonin and sleep til he gets up and spend time together while he games…Thanks for coming to my ted talk…
How the hell is he buying a new car? Doesn’t sound like he works if all he does is sleep all day and play games all night or, is this happening on his days off?
Either way he sounds selfish and immature. He needs to be put on a limited screen time. He shouldn’t have to give it up altogether but, if he isn’t spending any of his free time with you and your child then something has to change.
Has he got the means to buy a new car??
Don’t put ur name anywhere near it…
Irresponsible. Does he not work?
It’s an addiction.
My ex did this also.
Wow! Why have a little boy around that only wants his toys to play. Sorry but you need to get a real man that will take the trash out and keeps himself busy doing a real man’s job.
Boy…bye. my man works opposite shifts, goes to bed at 3 or 4 and still wakes up at 8 to take our kid to school and naps through the day, an still has time to get things cleaned and be up when I get home from work. Team work makes the dream work. I’d leave if that was our situation, I get people plat video games don’t get me wrong we do sometimes too, but most of the time were too busy making memories with our family the way it should be. Make him regret the shit he’s doing and the stuff he’s missing. Do better!!!
Does he work? Have any responsibilities… eww what a bum… atleast sweep the fucken floor and do the fucken dishes 
I divorced my ex husband because all he wanted to do was play video games as well.
He’s not a husband or a father, he’s a gaming addict. It’s like any addiction they put it as a priority.
Does he work if he’s staying up all night?
Time to give him an ultimatum: gaming or family.
He can still game just not so much that he’s not being present for his family.
My husband used to stay up really late to play video games. I put a stop to that shit as soon as he started sleeping all day long and not spending time with our family. I just straight up told him it’s the games or your family. It’s not fair to me or your kid that you are up all night, sleeping all day, and then expecting us to tip toe around the house because he was sleeping.
He does still game a lot but he does it during the day, after work, and he still makes dinner almost every night and helps with the kids. He realizes now that he was being very selfish. But if he hadn’t pulled his head out of his ass I would have packed my shit and left with our kid. I’m not here to raise our kids alone and baby him.
Well, you’re part of the problem. You have allowed him to act like a spoiled teenager instead of a boyfriend and a parent. Kick his ass out. He’s useless and the longer you stay the higher the chance your daughter ends up in the same type of relationship. That’s such a disgusting way for an adult father to behave.
Leave him. He is not a partner or acting like a father.
My husband is a gamer and works week nights 5pm to 2am. He still takes the trash out every day and does a load or two of dishes. We have four children. He tucks them in. He helps brush teeth. He does a lot.
I am mother and a gamer and a crafter. We homeschool. We both still find time.
If he wanted too he would. Everyone gets tired something and need a little “picking up” from the spouse but it goes back and forth. If he isn’t doing any of the things that’s on him and childish
He is selfish and you are pretty much lonely and a single mom, get rid of his ass and see how he enjoys his lonely life!!
Sorry to say this will never change its time to say goodbye to your relationship
Yeah absolutely not. Does he work? If so how does he even make time for video games every single day. As far as I’m concerned a grown ass man does NOT need to play video games every single day. If they do then maybe an hour or so before bed. But why waste your daughters entire childhood on sleeping and gaming.
You are basically raising another child.
I would be more upset if I were you that you are carrying the burden of doing everything in the house AND taking care of yourself and your daughter while he does NOTHING to contribute.
But to be honest I would also not put up with it and would tell him he either starts acting like a PARTNER and helping out, playing video games WHEN HE HAS TIME, and start helping with household chores also or he can find another place to go and waste everyone’s time!
He must grow up he’s a father now.
Boy bye. Why isn’t he working??? Buy a car
I think you know what to do. Also, when do y’all work?
He’s telling you what his real priority is, and it’s not you or your child.
Someone it seems that you have married a selfish perpetual child . I strongly believe in marriage and admire people who adhere to the single one and saying and sticking to the vows. If you are serious which is hard to believe. First I would MAKE him get a JOB and second use that for therapy.
What an irresponsible dad. He has no consideration for others. You and your child deserve better.
He sounds like a 12 year old boy. I myself wouldn’t allow that in my home. You allow him to act like that. All he is a “SPERM DONOR” he’s not a father. A “REAL MAN” wouldn’t be acting like this. He would be by your side.
Yup, you married a man child but you knew that before you married him! He is not going to change. Good luck.
He needs to get a job first and foremost. He needs to adult like the rest of us.
Leave. You and your daughter are not a priority to him.
Change the wifi password it will log him out of the internet on all devices n act like u don’t know what’s up. Did this to a ex before
So, he doesn’t have a job? Who works in the household if you’re caring for your daughter the whole time while all he does is sleep and play? Girl, you don’t need that kind of man, I bet he doesn’t even share with chores because you take the trash while he plays & even blame you for putting your daughter to bed early like wtf? Really? Again, YOU DON’T NEED HIM in your life because he will continue being such a jerk if you keep on allowing it.
Absolutely no reason he should be playing video games for 7 hours…
Oh dear shape up buddy
Or ship out
He needs to get a grip
That’s not living
Are you sure he’s playing. Video games. I’d get up in middle of night and see what he’s really doing.
I would move out and leave him the tv and his games
What a drop kick. He needs to get a job.
He’s not even a boyfriend at this point, he’s an extra child. Fuck that.
Why are you with a manchild?
Set him up his own gaming area where he can’t be interrupted and set times.
Had a boyfriend just like this… Keyword “had”. Let this man-child go. You’re already a single parent! What is he contributing to your relationship?
Sounds like he’s depressed
Not gonna lie I prefer to play at night do to those same reasons but I sill work full-time and take care of my family (best thing about insomnia )
If you’re home all day with your daughter, and he’s sleeping all day and playing all night, who works?
Send him back to his mother 
Who works to make a living?
Sounds like you have 2 kids. Who works ?
Pack his bags. He is not a decent role model for your daughter.
Does he work is this his day off? Sounds like you have a boy not a man. He should want to spend time with you and his daughter
Simply put, your boyfriend’s an idiot!
A manchild who refuses to grow up and take responsibility, you may love him , I’m certainly not going to advise leaving him as that’s your call, but personally I couldn’t cope with that kind of behaviour, doesn’t look like it’s going to change any time soon either, only you can make the decision for the future and sometimes those kind of decisions that hurt greatly will be your salvation in the long run.
You wasted three years of your life so far, don’t waste four.
Time to have a chat a more serious one intervention perhaps?
I don’t mean to laugh but there’s no way this would fly with me. My husband of 12 years we have 3 children…He asks me if I mind if he plays and if I say no I rather him not right now he doesn’t.
Get you a man, not a boy. Good luck
So your a single mom with two kids. Get out while you can I wa sin a relationship lationship similar excuse pt he was worked but when he came a said off spent all his time yelling at me about everything he was a narcissists
Do not buy a car with him. Do not stay with him. Leave. I’d rather be a single mom than feel like a single mom while in a relationship.
Your boyfriend has the same schedule as my 13 year old. Sounds like he never grew up
Throw the whole man away. You have our blessing!
I suggest sitting down and having an honest conversation about expectations… This won’t end well if things don’t change. You can’t be a couple and not spend time together. 
It’s worse that it’s by choice and he’s not even working a night shift. Also, does he work? If not, I wouldn’t even consider getting a car, especially being on a loan with him. Because if he decides not to pay that, it falls on you and hurts your credit as well.
Does he even work? How is money made with a schedule like that? Are you the provider? How can he get a car without an income? Who is supporting his easy gaming life? He sounds like a carefree teen. 3 years. My gosh he has gotten comfortable to just take advantage. Only you can break this cycle by having enough and leaving him. Don’t buy that car with him. That sounds like a mess. Especially since I have no idea where your income comes from. It isn’t about not loving him when it comes to leaving, it’s about taking care of your actual child.
My EX husband was like this. Key word - ex.
He would sleep all day and then stay up all night smoking and playing video games. He wouldn’t work, wouldn’t help around the house and wouldn’t help with the kids.
It took me 5 years to say enough is enough because they don’t change.
This is your life and this will be your life as long as he is in it.
Leaving a relationship/marriage takes a lot of courage and bravery so those of you on here laughing, making light/fun of her situation or saying she should’ve left already, you are NOT in her shoes. INSTEAD let’s support each other and show kindness and compassion for her situation that so many other people are dealing with as well. We all need to have a little more sympathy and empathy for each other.
You’re having to do so much extra work because he’s in the house. Does he bring literally anything to the table???
I’m sorry but playing video games like that is kid shit. Does he not have a job to support his family? Does he do anything? U aren’t embarrassed by this? I would absolutely never. You need to give him a choice, video games or his family.
You’re not married or obligated to keep sharing your life with a man child. This is obviously an addiction which you are not required to accept or enable. I’d rather be SINGLE and raising my daughter in peace than have to be critiqued by an adult child who doesn’t seem to see the error of his ways. Move along. He’ll either figure it out on his own because he genuinely wants his family or you will simply move on without him.
So I guess he doesn’t have a job or cntribute to the home he lives in. Why are you supporting this man child? How does he think he can get a new car without a job? Toss his butt to the curb, these are HUGE red flags.
Sounds like you need to leave. A real man will not do you or your child like that. He needs to change/ grow up. It took me ten years to finally say I’m done with my ex, don’t be like me and wait that long.
This was my life. Exactly the same reason. He wanted to play without being interrupted by , well just life. than would sleep all day til it was time for him to go to work. I got extremely sick with pneumonia right before giving birth to our 3rd. Drs told him they weren’t sure if i would make it. I was in a medical induced coma for about 3 days cuz my body needed every ounce of energy to help fight it, so i couldn’t waste energy even being awake and i was intubated. Anyway. That week I was in the hospital, he had the two kids all to himself. Had to do everything for them. Something he never had to do before that. His entire outlook changed when i got out. He understood all i did. The gaming didnt stop right away, but it cut down to every other night. Than after couple months he cut it down to twice a week. And not all night. 1am is the time he would stop. Ur bf is taking u for granted. U will resent him so much (if u don’t already) to the point the relationship will be ruined. He needs to get thst thru his head. Id show him all these comments so he sees it’s not just u nagging
This was me with my older sons dad. I eventually ended things since i was basically a single mom anyway. You deserve better.
Nah he chose when to go to bed. I’m not putting my life on hold just cause he has different priorities. My husband plays games and I was straight from the beginning - video games are a privilege. Not a 24/7 thing. There’s priorities and play time.
I had one.
Never changed.
Never cared if I fell asleep crying just to lay on his arm to cuddle until 3 AM everytime I drove an hour over to see him, still the game was more important.
Left him, didn’t try. Now I’m with the love of my kids and I’s lives who doesn’t even look at a video game if any of us are upset. He does play sometimes. We spend so much time outside being taught things. Never again… hobbies are totally okay! But it comes to priorities.
I’m really curious here. There’s no mention of employment on either side. If he’s up all night and asleep all day when does he work?
I’m a gamer too and used to stay up all night playing and once I had my first son I realized I needed to stop. I still get sucked in sometimes and my husband had called me out on it a few times and I realized he was right so i had to make it less of a priority. Now when I play I have to force myself to go to bed at a reasonable time. I’ll probably always be a gamer but gotta prioritize important things over it.
Can we have an update on if he woke up to buy the car?
I would definitely have a sit down talk with him. Communicating is key in a relationship. If you express that this is bothering you and you feel he’s still not going to try to change than it’s time to move on. 
He has no respect for you or your child. I’d end that relationship and find someone else who will prioritize you and your child.
Dont you wake him up. You aren’t his mother. I’d get it if he was pulling any of the weight sounds like he isn’t though. He can learn some responsibility.
Why stay with a man like that? He’s supposed to be a partner not an extra child. When does he work? I could never live like that. Your already a single mom. So get out now. He will never change.
Ur literally gonna be broken hearted everyday, is he checking out, is he depressed, has he always been this way? U can either continue to be roommates or choose to walk away. Let me just say either way u need to live the way u want to in your home without a care of if it bothers him, ignore his rants and raves about ur schedule and ur noise, he obviously is ignoring you. Don’t let him hold u back. If he cares enough he will start to insert himself within your schedule. U will have to essentially disconnect emotionally to a point or like I said ur gonna be let down every single day.
U have 2 children. Please respect yourself & your child. Single would be so much better