While you’re right- cat litter isn’t good for pregnant woman. the boyfriend is also in the right. they aren’t his cat and he’s already caring for his mother.
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I wear gloves to change our cats litter and always have done, and changed it through pregnancy. And maybe get use to the idea that you’ll be the one changing your baby aswell, but you never know.
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Oh well get used to being with a child and change your own cat litter or teach the cats to shot outside
Not his job, it’s your cat
You shouldn’t be changing it but also… they aren’t his responsibilities. I wouldn’t expect someone who doesn’t live with me and doesn’t like cats to come to my home and clean the litter box. It’s kind of embarrassing that you think he should.
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For those saying it’s not his job, they’ll also probably agree taking care of the baby isn’t his job. Get used to doing everything by yourself.
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Don’t leave the cat litter to fester. Get masks and gloves on. What do you think pregnant women do that don’t have a partner.
And you can’t compare cats to a baby 
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I wouldn’t want to change it either!
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If you wear gloves you’ll be fine
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I changed my cat litter with both of my pregnancies. Like others said wear a mask and gloves then wash your hands real good after. He’s right they aren’t his cats.
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If he CARED, HE’D DO IT. Read that again 
Also it’s unfair to assume that he won’t be able to be trusted with his own child because he won’t clean your cats shit
Did you really just compare a cat to a baby?
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Besides the mask and gloves change the litter each day (it takes from 1 to 5 days for the litter or stoll to get infected. If they are indoor only cats they have less chance of getting the parasites.
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It’s a cat. Calm down.
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Its not his job its your cats!
wear a mask if your that worried jeez
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Is this a serious post? This can’t possibly be a serious post.
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Wait till you ask him to change a nappy…
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Gosh these comments! Totally understand, they’re her cats but it’s THEIR baby. They’re partners, a team, sometimes you do things you don’t want to for the sake of your other half. She’s not asking him to do this forever, just while she’s pregnant with HIS child. If he can’t do such a little thing that is of genuine concern to her, what will he be like when it comes to the big things. Your partner should want to help you…
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I cleaned my cats litter trays through both pregnancies. My concerns for you are, were you ever planning to live with him? If yes what is happening to the cats? Also have a chat as to what you think are his responsibilities as a parent himself. Have some serious conversations hun.
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I’ve 5 kids. Had cats with all.make sure you wash your hands thoroughly after. And wear a mask
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Gloves and a mask. Problem solve, don’t force him. Allow him the courtesy of taking care of the things he feels duty towards. If he messes up that well then you know he’s not really contributing. You can handle that as the problem surfaces but I honestly don’t see the correlation in forcing him to clean cat litter when he comes over and possibly being a bad father.
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When I was preggo my ex wouldn’t change the ferrets box so I can understand. We got rid of the ferrets since I didnt want the poop and litter to effect my pregnancy.
Just wear a mask and was your hands after. That what I did through both of my pregnancies when my husband was out of town for work and couldn’t do it. I scooped them once a day.
My daughter got very sick in my tummy from me picking up poo from cats, when she came out she had a brain infection, so it’s really up to you to decide to keep him
What a selfish twonk!
I’m an old hag. If he’s not worried about your well being with cats litter. You’ll be better off on your own. Babygirl watch the actions don’t listen to the words. You deserve so much better. I know it’s hard. Love you and your babies. I’m getting ready to turn 54 this year. It takes us strong women a long time to learn. We can do this on our own. We can do it better and easier with the right one. Huge hugs. You deserve the best life has to offer. Go for it and get it. 
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Change your own damn cat litty you ain’t cripple
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I think why the hell did u get a cat then if you wasn’t prepared to change it’s litter? No matter the circumstances
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I absolutely hate cats and I wouldnt either lol
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It’s not different to you being in the House with them while they do their business throughout the day in the tray. Just wear a mask and gloves and wash your hands.
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I changed my cats litter when I was pregnant, nothing happened to me or babies🙄
Your cats your responsibility.
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He should 110% change it, if he doesn’t want any harm to come to HIS baby.
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Wow. There’s a thing called toxoplasmosis so it’s commonsense that he should be temporarily doing this and if you’re still together maybe he needs to get off his high horse and continue to help since that’s what adulting and being a partner is about. If you’ve explained the risks and he still doesn’t care then yes, you should be worried. If this is the guy you plan to grow old with you should reconsider. Love is about caring enough to do what needs doing, even when it’s gross. How is he going to feel when he’s old and shits himself? I hope he’s not expecting any help from anyone. 
Obviously as the father of your unborn baby you would think he would give a shit.
Wear a mask and gloves then wash your hands. Maybe you need a new boyfriend too
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Put gloves on amd wash your hands aftwr …simples…3 cars and a baby … all good 
I’m sorry but I’M really confused. So because he won’t change your cat litter … he isn’t going to care for your baby … yet he’s already shown how much of a caring person he is by caring for his sick mum
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I changed car litter just fine through both pregnancies… just put a mask on or face cover and your will be just fine my dear…
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You have 3 cats and he hates cats? Are you planning never to live together at all at some point?
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Cat litter is DANGEROUS during pregnancy especially if the cat goes outdoors to hunt. You can catch what is called TOXOPLASMOSIS which is dangerous for the baby and can cause miscarriage ! It is advised to stay away from cat litter if possible when pregnant. If not you must wear protective gloves and a mask. Wash hands thoroughly afterwards. Thought I would put this out there as alot of people don’t seem to be aware of this after reading some of these comments!
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I have always changed my cats cat litter and that’s through six full pregnancy nothing happened to my babies
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But a cat is not a baby. I’m sure he will love his baby.
There you’re cats maybe he doesn’t like cats
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Get rid of the cats !!!
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It’s only dangerous if you’re not careful! Use gloves! Nothing will happen from you using gloves and a scoop to take it out
Invest in the litter box that cleans its self out
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You chose to get a cat?
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I changed my cat litter my kids are just fine and I’ve had 7 kids
What if u were single how would you expect it to be done lol you will be grand just wash hands which you should know and do already
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wear gloves, a mask if you wanted, and wash your hands after, you’ll be fine
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If your nagging him already and comparing the unborn child to cat litter as far as how he will be a father then that’s not good… he is caring for his sick mom and told you he despises cats so I feel they ya cats u do it…
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It sounds to me like you need to quit being petty, because those are your cats , and your responsibilities, not his.Sounds like you might wanna re - home them if that’s the case, and it also sounds like your already prepared to to use whatever excuse you can find. So, go ahead and break it off. That has no bearing on how well he will or will not care for your child. Hire someone to do it for you if it’s that much of a concern, simple fix. Just my thought on the matter. No judgements tho either way.
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You won’t be to convince him it’s a vile disgusting thing to do especially when they aren’t his cats. If your that bothered let the cats go to the toilet outside!!
Use a mask and gloves. You’ll be fine
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I had to change my cats litter while I was pregnant with my oldest son. My ex husband refused to change it but we had our 2 cats he hated cat but he took in his sisters 2 cats which they started to tear up the house and mark their territory, but my ex still didn’t change the litter box after 4 cats, I had to do it still even having a mask on still didn’t help. So, if he won’t change the litter then maybe re-home the cats but that’s your choice.
Get a mask and change it yourself.
They are your cats not his, it shouldn’t be an added responsibility for him 
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Please take parenting classes 
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Or you could get a cat door and teach the cats to go outside I m sorry I understand that it’s dangerous if you Don t cover up properly but I agree with the boyfriend here good luck I have cats but hate kitty litter so as soon as I can it goes good luck
Honestly, if he’s so selfish that he can’t help you do one thing he doesn’t care for (that can be extremely harmful to the baby if you do it), then it’s a red flag. I’d start preparing for a breakup.
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Wtf is wrong with you? Pregnancy is not a fking disability and there is no reason you cannot change the damned cat litter
Pregnant women are advised not to bring a new cat into their home while they are pregnant. If these are your existing cats you have no excuse. FFS
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The cats are not his, the child is.
He told you he hates the cats so you shouldn’t be surprised lol
I changed litter when I was pregnant, you’ll be aright 
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Use a mask and gloves and wash your hands. But also like you said it’s not ideal for a pregnant person to be exposed to that and if he cared about his unborn child he would not have such an issue changing the cats litter , which does not actually take that much effort. Him despising your cats is a red flag for your relationship, him refusing to help with something so simple that can affect his kid is another red flag. He’s just not boyfriend material … and probably not good dad material.
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Double mask up and use gloves. That’s what I had to do.
Comparing cats to the baby is hardly a fair comparison. Not everyone likes animals and they are entitled to their own opinion. He is right that the cats are yours, it was your choice to get them not his, so why should he change their litter tray? As for its dangerous for pregnant women to change litter trays yes it can be especially if the cat is never wormed and the pregnant woman doesn’t wash her hands after changing the litter but long as these are both done then the risk is very very minimal and tbh your more likely to be in trouble if you do gardening or spend time sitting down on the ground outside as these are places cats like to also toilet and these cats are sometimes feral and so never wormed. Good luck to your boyfriend, feel he is going to need it
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I’m almost 30 weeks pregnant, I use a mask and gloves and wash my hands /arms thoroughly when done!
Sorry to say but there your cats so your responsibility if you wear gloves and a mask you will be fine
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I know pregnant women aren’t supposed to do it, but like others said, you can wear mask and gloves. He doesn’t live there then it’s not his responsibility.
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Also, I’ve heard from an OB that it really doesn’t make a difference because you are around the cats anyways and they carry the litter on their paws.
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Wear a mask you will be fine. I’m 38 weeks pregnant and been changing my cats kitty litter the whole pregnancy, you will be fine! Wash your hands with hot water and soap when your done!
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In all seriousness it’s disgusting to think a grown man would put his unborn child at risk of brain damage and all the other risks associated… but at least a bunch of idiots will support him.
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I wouldn’t be changing your cats litter tray either! Get some gloves and a mask 
just because he don’t change the tray doesn’t mean he’ll be a shit dad! You’ve got roughly 16 weeks to give yourself a great big shake because motherhood isn’t about who’s going to change the litter tray!
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- Get rid of the boyfriend and
- Hire someone to change/clean the litter box
(rescue volunteer or HS kid) - Keep the cats
- Find a new boyfriend that loves cats
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He’s being a jerk but just an FYI if you change it use gloves and wash your hands real good after… I had cats and changed them thru my pregnancy no problems…make sure their vaccines are up to date.
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Its more the dust in the litter you should be worried about. Thats also the health of the cats. Switch to a natural little. We use horse pine pellet bedding. Also if your cats are indoor and arent eating raw dead animals, your probably fine.
Is it safe to change your cat's litter box while pregnant? | BabyCenter).
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Honey, there are some things you will never get some men to do. Put on a mask and gloves, wash up real good afterward and go ahead and change it. You and the baby will be ok. I am a little concerned though. Do you and your boyfriend ever want to live together? How is he going to treat your cats? Personally I’m a dog person. But when I was a little girl, I grew up in the country and I had a dog, 13 barn cats, a pony, and a male mallard duck. I loved them all. They were my family. When my Dad passed away, my adoptive mom flipped out. My grandparents came to the house. She went flying into her bedroom, my grandpa went right after her. My grandma told me I had to be strong for my adoptive mom and went in her bedroom too and shut the door. I was left standing alone in the middle of the kitchen floor. I was 11 years old. I went out to the barn where the animals were. It was cold. It was November. I got an old blanket down from the hay and went in my pony’s stall. I put my arms around my pony’s neck and she put her head on my shoulder, hugging me. My dog was there. Got down on my knees and hugged him too. I put more straw on the floor of the stall and spread the blanket out. I put it under my pony’s hay bin and then laid down. The dog and cats came over and laid down with me and I covered us all up. The pony stood near us and would put her head down and whuffle her breath in my ear now and then. I didn’t cry. I did get warm and fell asleep for awhile. I slept till I heard my grandma calling me to see if I wanted a peanut butter sandwich. I told her no thank you and got back in my little nest. She made me come in just before dark. She and my grandpa went home then. I took a bath and went to bed for the night. I had a week off school for bereavement. I spent every minute I could with the dog, cats, and pony. They were the only ones who gave one s—— how I was feeling. Today I’m 65. I have a few loose screws nowadays. I have an emotional support dog. I don’t know what I would do without her. I worry everyday. She’s part Lab and part Dalmatian. She’s 11 years old. She’s getting up there in age. My son wants me to have a cat. I don’t want a cat. I want to get another dog when something happens to Channa so we can comfort each other. That means going to the shelter. I’ll talk to my son and daughter-in-law. I’m sure I can talk her into taking me. We can get a dog in her vehicle. My son is OCD about not getting dog hair in his car. I’m sure we can manage. But I have to have a dog to help me get through my daily life. So we can see each other through it all. Sorry to bend your ear. You can change your cat litter. Just take a few precautions.
I agree wear a mask and gloves, you should be safe I wouldn’t want him to change my pets litter box either he seems to feel safer at his mothers place as he doesn’t like cats so he is uncomfortable with the animals, what’s he going to be like when baby arrives, he might not want the cats around her either…
i wouldnt do it eather 3 cats would make your house sssssssssssssss
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Omg what’s does that have to do with being a father to human
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Stop using pregnancy as an excuse. Get up and do it your own self.
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Do it carefully with mask and gloves on, wash hands after and most importantly think about getting rid of him!! Or tell him to grow up
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Use a mask and gloves. They’re your cats which makes them your responsibility, not his. He doesn’t like cats. I can’t blame him. I don’t like cats and wouldn’t change any cats litter either.
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You’ll be fine, just don’t touch the poop. I had to change kitty litter several times while pregnant, and me and my baby are just fine. Those cats are your responsibility, not his. And just because he doesnt want to change kitty litter for you doesn’t mean that he won’t be a good father.
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A human being that you’re expecting would be more important to me than cats. I’m not being heartless if you love your cats but, don’t expect others to do it for you. Even after your baby is born, you’ll still have those germs that cats bring in no matter how clean you may think that they are. As for your “boyfriend”, that’s another story since you are not married and do not live together. Good luck.
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Yuk, get it changed yourself there not his cat’s waiting for him to come n change it how long do u leave it waiting for someone else to come and do it for u 
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From personal experience, I’d say that’s a pretty big red flag for future issues with household duties. Nobody enjoys changing cat litter, but it has to be done, just like dishes, taking out the trash, changing diapers, going to doctors appointments.
I’d evaluate his behavior as a whole. Is he slacking in other areas? I understand that he’s taking care of his mother, but is he refraining from doing other relationship responsibilities or is this one of his very few pet peeves? If its just this, then there’s definitely room for compromise, but don’t allow yourself to keep making excuses for him if he’s only putting 1 foot in. None of us know your situation better than you do.
I won’t do it either, I start to throw up. I can handle the dog crap but not cat. I don’t like cat to much ether. If you want it you take care of it. Or rehome it.
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Did you know you had cats before deciding to have this specific man’s baby? Next time pick a better man.
Put on a mask and gloves. If you’re not willing to do it yourself, don’t own animals you aren’t willing to care for. Next time date someone who meets your standards.
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They’re YOUR cats, and he doesn’t like them. If it’s that hard for you to take care of the cats……. Get rid of them.
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Wear some gloves and wash your hands. Problem solved.
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Honestly, I worked full time as a veterinary technician my entire pregnancy. I changed litterboxs during that time. Wear a mask and gloves and wash your hands really well after and everything will be fine. Your boyfriend on the other hand…he would be toast.
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So after the baby is born, and she will be living with the cats at your place, and the cat litter will still need to be changed. Is that a healthy environment for a new born! Maybe the cats should go so the baby will be brought into a clean, safe environment! If it’s not safe for you, then I tv certainly isn’t safe for a new born. Just saying for a friend!
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They’re your cats put a mask on supposedly they work so well. They’re your cats not his. I hate cats i would never change a litter box regardless of the situation . You choose to have cats take responsibility. They aren’t his cats. Should’ve gotten a dog
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He’s not wrong in my opinion; the cats aren’t his, so it’s not his responsibility at all to change the litter. There can be risks for a pregnant woman to change the litter, but as long as you wear gloves, mask, and wash your hands really good after, you should be fine. I have a cat and whenever the litter needs to be changed, I do it if my fiancé isn’t around, but I don’t expect him to clean it either since I got the cat before we even got together. You’re the owner, so it is your responsibility no one else’s.
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Why can’t you get the litter box that scoops the shit for you and all you have to do is throw the bag away
You don’t, not his cats.
My doctor had told me as long as the cat didn’t go outside it was no problem. Just wash your hands which you should do anyway.
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Your cats, your responsibility
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My advice do it yourself I did. Just be safe (mask, gloves and good ole hand washing) learn now to be independent that was you won’t be disappointed later and unfortunately he is prolly not going to be a 50/50 partner . But start not that way you don’t need him and that’s his loss
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Lol bet this didn’t turn out how you expected 
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I cleaned my cats litter box during my pregnancy and I’m fine and my 3.5 year old is fine. It isn’t his responsibility. However, out of respect he shouldn’t mind doing it here and there (if absolutely needed), but respectfully I think this post is a little dramatic. Go ahead and clean it sis!
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Wear gloves and a mask. Wash your face and hands after. I’ve done it all 3 of my pregnancies. You’ll be fine.