My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years; we have a one-month-old together. Through the years, his oldest brother has caused nothing but problems. He’s tried to break us up, he makes rumors about me, through my whole pregnancy he told everyone that the baby was not my boyfriend’s and even convinced him to leave me (that only lasted for a couple of weeks until he found out the truth.) Well, to this day, my boyfriend still talks to him. The brother refuses to see his niece because of me and has had every chance in the world to meet her. I know it’s his brother, but he goes off and does jobs for him and with him, and they talk. I just don’t think it’s right, and it’s showing his brother that this behavior is okay, and it’s not. What do you think I should do? I’ve tried talking to him about this saying that I’ve given him a chance after chance, but he still does these things and that I don’t appreciate him letting his brother get away with it. NOTE: I really do not know why his brother has such a big problem with me, I hardly had anything to do with him except for family events, and I was always respectful and nice.
guess his bro likes you secretly hahaha what an asshole?!
Ur boyfriend needs to set up and put his brother in his place pointblank
He must want to be with you keep away from him
In his eyes you probably just took his brother away from him and there time together 🤷🤷🤷 some people are really like that. God bless hope things get better for you 
if he dosent wanna be in the babys life its his lost dont worry about family members so much as long as you being a good mommy thats all that really matters
I would be okay with him spending time with his brother, its shows your the bigger person. Personally I’d focus on setting you own boundaries and enjoying life. Your boyfriend will follow or leave either way you win. Stay positive 
I went.thru this for many years.with my.husbands family.my.only advice.is try.n put up with it because your boyfriend will not give up his bro unless he does something to him before he sees the.light. it’s tough u stay.or go good luck
Don’t think you’re telling the full story, nobody has that level of hate for no reason. Whether it’s the full story or not your man does need to stand up for you and have concrete boundaries in place. You can’t expect him not to talk to his brother though, that’s blood no matter what. He can set those boundaries when it comes to you, but you can’t expect him to give up familial relationships because of you.
Be careful he secretly likes you watch out…
Stay out of brothers.u will loose.
Brother is childish and your bf need to step up telling him to grow up. If your bf can’t speak up leave him.
Boyfriend needs to grow up and make you his wife since y’all have a child together, maybe his brother will come around. If not oh well.
Your bf is a dickhead for not sticking up for you regardless who it is. YOU are his woman & he shouldn’t let anyone be disrespectful towards you. ESPECIALLY being that y’all are in a serious relationship and are the mother of his child. He really should tell his brother to stop his shit. Now if the brother continues to not like you then fine, but he should still be respectful towards you whenever y’all are around eachother. They both need to grow up. But you can’t stop him from hanging out with his brother or going to work with him even though his brother is probably whispering negativity in your bfs ear. If it gets to the point your bf isn’t man enough to think for himself then leave him bc he’ll start treating you like shit bc of it & believing lies.
Punch him in the face , He should learn his lesson js
Don’t worry about it! Let him be the ass.does ur bf’s family except u and the baby? If so don’t worry about him!
His brother is really attached to him and fears he’s losing him. He’s not mature enough to just say it, this is how he’s acting out…he’s a lil baby
Sounds like the brother is a manipulative little boy who needs to grow up and your man needs to grow a set and put his baby brother in his place
Ur boyfriend needs to grow a pair and tell his brother to get a life ect
He probably jealous of his brothers happiness too. Girl your boyfriend sounds too weak. Should have left when he initially doubted you. Who needs this headache. Two many 
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I refuse to involve myself in a serious relationship with a “Man” that allows people outside the relationship run his relationship or tell him who I am meaning he is too gullible for my taste. Turn off.
I had a lot of issues with my in-laws. I couldn’t figure out why they thought so poorly of me. When I finally lost my shit and confronted people, it turns out dear ol hubby was talking shit about me and lying to cover his own ass. He’s the exhusband now.
It could be a bigger mental health issue than just you. He may have done this to others.
Well do what you doing be nice your daughter will grow up and see what her Uncle is really bout,until then go Forward
Why isn’t your boyfriend standing up for you?! If you plan on staying with your bf, get to the bottom of why he doesn’t stand up for you. I think him not standing up for you is the real problem here. There’s more to this. I hope you find the answers 
We’re not getting the whole story to give advice. There’s a whole lot more to the story than just the parts you told, and i know this because you try to make everyone except you look bad. That’s what a narcissist does. You know why his brother doesn’t like you. Tell the whole story.
Do not worth about him if you are happy with his brother egnore the fool tell him to find a woman like you an he wi stop the shit he is nothing to you he needs a whife like you to keep him home
That’s his problem your not with his brother it’s your life your bub ignore him he might be jealous
My ex’s brother hated me & my ex stood up to him twice & the brother left it alone. Now my current boyfriend one of his brothers hates me and he never met me, he hates my views on politics & decided to block me on facebook & i am so glad he did, i don’t play well this lunatics lol Thing is you are with him, not his brother so you should ignore tf out of him & keep living your life, Who wants to be friends with a douchcanoe like that anyways?
I think the problem is not his brother…
Leave. If you say something more than once and no results. That means there’s no respect. What you allow will continue.
If he cannot put his own child and you first, you are better off without him ! It is that simple. I would never put up with my husband putting his brother, sister, or anyone else before his children or me…No way !
You are hold on to an issue that you can’t control. You can’t make anyone like you. Consider it a blessing that he doesn’t want to see your daughter that’s one less battle that you have to fight. The brother is toxic. Enjoy you boyfriend and child and move on.
There is a whole lot to this story that has been left out. Did the brother dislike you from the very start? If so, why would you subject yourself to staying in this relationship? Then on top of this, you have a baby! Did you think it might tie you to your boyfriend thus untying him from his brother?? Sheesh…girl! You should of thought better…This being said, is there any hope for burying the dislike for your boyfriends sake…for your twos child?? I don’t think it’s a good idea to make him choose…there’s an old saying, blood is thicker than water. Let him do things with brother…but perhaps set some guidelines, rules not only for him but you too. And girl…get yourself to a councillor…one who works with families!
Why is everybody acting like this man should cut off a family member over a woman? If a man was trying to get his woman to cut off family members or friends we say they’re abusive and trying to isolate her. How is it any different when a woman does it to a man? Just because she says the brother hates her for no reason and starts rumors about her doesn’t make it true, even if it is true he loves his brother who’s been there his whole life where she only been there two years. And don’t start about how she has his kid, she got knocked up and he stayed. That’s it. Doesn’t give her the right to try cutting off family members. My ex husband hated my sister and tired to turn me against her because he was abusive and isolating, guess who’s still in my life?
Why do you take notice in the first place? You are obviously taking note & so is he, obviously something more here. You’re just fueling the fire try laying off keep to you & your boyfriend. Think about it, it shows insecurities in you & him. I would have a family meeting & bring out in the open face to face & resolve it right there & then so there’s no more conflict. He obviously needs to grow up & so does your boyfriend as there maybe some talk of you between them two just saying, they both need to man up & be respectful.
He sounds jealous and your boyfriend sounds like a pussy to be honest. However we are only getting one side of the story. If all you’re saying is true then yoir boyfriend needs to tell his brother to knock off his shit or go away till he can. That’s also always gonna be his brother though. If they’ve done things together then they’ve obviously talked. Your boyfriend is still around so he’s obviously paying him no mind. Could be a legit mental issue as well. Since you don’t why he’s this way with you(supposedly anyway) then maybe don’t completely judge him. Leave it alone.
I bet there is jealousy involved ( on the brothers part)
Move on! It’s not going to change and it sounds like your boyfriend is a dumbass anyway.
You’ll figure it out. You def don’t want him around your kid anyway. He sounds toxic. You can’t make your bf chose you over the db brother. Learn a way to deal, or decide it’s a deal breaker and don’t be afraid to move on if how he treats you doesn’t make sense to you. You live your truth.
When you came into the picture the status quo changed. Looks like neither are adapting well. Obviously they still see each other a lot maybe they had an alpha beta relationship and he says you as another alpha which is a threat. Doubt he comprehends this tho. I’d speak to a counselor about it if you you can. You may have to use a little psychology to get everyone to a good place and a new normal
He’s an asshole. Call him out on his shit
The brother has a crush on you …
Your boyfriend has zero respect for you or your daughter and never will.
Its possible your bf believes his brother
You should leave him
You don’t really get to tell him that he can’t talk to his brother. You actually can’t control who his friends are and whether or not he spends time with them.
Unfortunately family is family, please dont make him choose between you two(speaking from experience of being made to choose) , try and find a way for it to work even if you just tolerate him xx
I say cut ties with all of them. If he’s making rumours and your bf is letting him then that makes him just as bad as his brother.
Hunny leave him or put up with it and not complain.
You took him back after he left you over a lie. Y
Either he wants you himself or his brother is up to something ad he doesn’t want you to get hurt.
My boyfriend’s momma cussed out my baby and called him names when he wasn’t even a month old. We both cut her out of our life and we’re sooo much happier. Don’t let toxic people screw up your happiness!! Family or not cut them off!
Zero respect and the longer I’m you allow it the more he thinks it’s ok. Your boyfriends needs to be shown the door!
We’re missing pieces if this story…what happened between u and brother to cause this drama? I hate to break it to ya but you gotta reach out n try to fix it because hes his brother and will always be in his life. But i feel your pain, my mil hated me the entire time she knew me. It sucks. Reach out to him,invite him to thanksgiving etc…
It’s his brother…
Suck it up
Him not being around you and not seeing your child sounds like a win win to me
Do not make your bf choose between you and his blood brother because you will probably lose
Is he a good father?
Does he treat you right?
Let it go
All these people so quick to say “leave him”. What happened to sitting down and talking things out? Ask the brother straight up what his problem is. The three of you need to sit down and hash it out. As you said that is his brother, they have more history than you two. That doesn’t mean what his brother is doing is okay.
Just because it’s family, doesnt mean they are owed a relationship. If someone is toxic, blood or not, you have a right to remove them from your life.
Just don’t talk to the brother and ask your boyfriend to talk to him don’t force him to meet your child if he doesn’t want to meet your child the his lost
Ask him what is going to do when he starts making lies about his daughter? Does he want that to happen? To have a child grow up around that negativity
Your boyfriend needs to check his brother
If your bf is going to believe his brother after he’s been proven to be a liar so many times about you, that’s on him. And it’s up to your bf to tell the brother to cut it out and stand up for you. If he won’t, that’s something that to seriously consider whether you want to stay with him.
You can’t make him do it. You can only control you. Don’t step between the two or force him to choose because you will lose. But on the same note, you have to stand up for you, even if that means leaving a situation that may become toxic and detrimental for you and the child.
Your boyfriend needs to stand up for you to his brother. If he doesn’t that is disrespectful.
That’s his brother. He’ll always be his brother. As long as he’s no longer listening to his lies, as you stated, then let it go. For some reason, my BIL don’t like me but I have no communication with him. My husband talks to him via Facebook messenger, we live in different states. His brother just knows conversation about me, is a no.
Difference between boys and men, I’m sorry to say it but if he was a real man he’d defend you. If he thought you were the one he’d defend you. I had a similar issue with one of my in-laws and my man stood up and showed up when I needed it. As I would for him. You are a family now so if he can’t defend his new family then what sort of person is he?
Your boyfriend should defend your name and believe you if he has no proof
Wait!
You bf listened to him, even for a few weeks about your baby!
He damaged your relationship because of someone else, and what his brother said.
That’s a much bigger problem than the brother.
Nothing you can do about it. It’s his brother. You shouldn’t expect him to choose you over his brother. Put up with it or get out.
Sounds like you slept with his brother 
Is he jealous cause he can’t spend as much time with his brother ask him talk to him it could all work out
Who cares about freaking brother in laws… u r not married to him… just do what your job is as a loving wife and mother and dont give this ass a chance to down u… walk on and be happy… he isnt shit
No… It’s not showing his brother that his actions are ok… They are BROTHERS and anyone who gives up family for someone else is just a straight up moron. If you don’t like him, just don’t acknowledge him. Seriously not that hard 
he has the right to talk to his brother because well it’s his brother but he shouldn’t listen to the rumours. if the rumours are about you then he should trust the truth about them from you. if you guys want to continue together then i think you should only see the brother when you have to and the brother can hang with his brother but trust you about what’s going on
Leave him if you don’t like it it’s his brother talk it out with his brother be the bigger person the last thing your boyfriend needs is to be put in a position were he has to choose one both of you are his family so suck it up let him be with his brother if you don’t want him near then you don’t go near him but let his brother be with his brother
Your boyfriend left you once before and he will do it again.
Maybe he wants you for himself
Blood doesn’t make you family, and this guy doesn’t seem much like a brother. I would ask your boyfriend why he still talks to him and tell him how you feel.
Jealousy is a bitch… Your boyfriend needs to put his brother in line and stand up for you.
Tell your boyfriend that his brother,s nastiness is a problem for you… I wld ask him to not discuss you at all and insist on it. I don’t know why or care what his problem is. To tell him not to see his brother is not practical but that you are not to be discussed and he is to shut his mouth about lies. I’m sorry that you even have to tell him this but it sounds as if his brother wants him all to himself. You are taking him away. Really?!.pretty immature. How old are you guys?
I would need the brother’s side of the story before giving any advice. Sounds like something is hidden in this 
Have it out with the brother! Find out what his problem is.
It seems appropriate for the bf to ‘man up’ and tell his brother he either needs to respect his daughter and gf or step out. I’m not sure why everyone thinks the brother should take priority over this man’s child. She’s his family as well, but an infant. His grown brother should know how to behave and the bf should be able to say topics about his gf are off limits. Regardless of what the brother thinks, this is who bf has decided to be his partner. How is he able to hang out with his brother while he continues to talk bad about his gf is beyond me. I’d not put up with that for 2 seconds. One sentence about my husband caused me to throw away at 20+ year friendship. It’s about respect and loyalty, boys and girls.
My boyfriend basically had the ultimatum of his mom, or his girlfriend and son. Completely different circumstances, she’s into drugs, but either way its the point of if they are toxic they will get rid of them whether or not they’re blood. The family you build becomes a #1 priority, over anyone. If he can’t put his foot down and get his brother to stop causing drama, then he needs to cut his brother out or break up.
I don’t know if I would go as far as being upset that him and his brother work together or hang out, but he definitely needs to explain to his brother it’s not cool to try to break you guys up.
all that matters is your boyfriend is with you & loves you & your baby. Brothers do this, is it wrong??? Yes. Relax & let it go
I’m sorry you are going through this. I completely understand. Your family with your boyfriend is one you chose and that should be above the family you are forced into especially when that family tries to harm the one you chose.