How would you Mama’s feel? About a secret that your son/daughter kept from you. About them having a baby. And they’ve kept that secret for 5/6 months? So all my family knows about my pregnancy. But my boyfriend’s family doesn’t. He’s kinda scared to tell them. (Mind you were 23/25.) We each have a son from previous relationships. His is 3. Mine is 4. But I mean, I’m kinda hurt that his family doesn’t know about ours. I get they only know he has one son. But I mean, I get it shocking news. But it’s like getting to the point where time is going by quickly and I’ll be home with a baby. And when they come to visit. And see a baby???
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Oh my goodness … that right there is a surprise eh … I would kinda feel like he’s trying to hide me and the baby from his family … idk… that’s where I see it
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Why isn’t he telling his family? Do they know you exist?
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I hated telling my mama I was pregnant even tho I was grown and took care of my own kids. She was just always negative and didnt seem to ever be supportive so, after the first 2 times, she wasnt the first to know anymore.
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He needs to grow up!
I sort have been in your situation but it’s sort of different. Mine told his family straight off but a couple of them told him he is too old to be having more kids we havent been together long enough etc etc. Maybe he is worried about their opinion and that’s what’s stopping him from saying anything
It took us awhile to tell my husbands parents about our first, but his daughter with his ex was only 4 months old when we got pregnant n there was hella drama going on. One day I decided I didn’t give AF bout her drama anymore n told them myself
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Oh my goodness, what’s he waiting on? It’s time for him to man up
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never told anyone tell we hit 5/6 months with all 5. My ex literally never told his family and I told who I wanted to and that was it. Same went for my side aswell. The only person he had to tell was his brother but they are really close too. a lot of times his brother knew months before his parents 
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Im sorry but yall are ADULTS, not teenagers… he needs to man up grow some balls and just tell hos family, sure they might get shitty… but they will get over it… im sure hiding it will actually make them even more angry than not telling them… or is he hiding your relationship in general??? Either way he needs to grow up.
Tell them yourself and go on with it lol
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Holy cow that’s a long time. You should of already told him y’all are going to sit and tell his parents
If it’s something he doesn’t really want to do then life goes on honestly. Maybe try talking to him about it and ask him why, he could have a good reason. Me and my bf aren’t involved with our own families so honestly we don’t care to tell them anything anyways 
he could feel that they will just be negative about it.
Neither me nor my husband told our families the last time I was pregnant. My reasons were because I wasn’t in the mood to deal with negativity. Talk to him see why he is holding back
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If you are old enough to be pregnant then you all need to tell his family
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I don’t tell my family anymore. Just because its none of their business. But maybe there’s a reason he doesn’t want to tell them? Either way they will find out eventually when your toting around another bundle lol. You could tell them? Is he just not that close to his family? Idk. I don’t tell anyone anything anymore. But my dad died when I was 11 and my mom has dementia. I have siblings but we’re not very close.
I kept my first pregnancy a secret for around 5 months. Mainly bc of my age and living conditions though
Y’all are grown and he has a child already but he hasn’t told them because he’s scared? Girl, nah. He talks shit about you to them all and is probably cheating.
I would find out why he hasn’t told them. Are they toxic? Do they know about you? How did they react to the news of his first child? If horribly, he could be trying to avoid that from happening again.
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Tell them yourself. Be an adult and stand up for you and your kid. No one else is going to.
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My husband told his parents when I was 20 freaking weeks. And, yes, they were jerks as expected. And, yes, they quickly got over it and were excited well before she was born.
I would tell him to tell them, or he can walk away. sorry.
Hes got a 3yr old so telling them about this one would do what?? Shock them LMAO the deed was done 3yrs ago im 100% sure his family won’t give a shit 
My dad didn’t tell the family about me. They found out when he brought me home from the hospital. Nothing like being able to hold a cute baby to soften the blow haha
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It’s really nobody’s business and if he doesn’t want to tell them then he doesn’t have to.
Rip the bandaid off and just do it. If it causes you stress, just do it. Sometimes you can break the ice as a cute announcement. But his family is gonna be super pissed if they find out from anyone other than him. Tell him to get it together.
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Honestly, I didn’t want to tell my dad until I was further along ~ with BOTH my pregnancies.
He was more upset I waited to tell him than he was upset that I was pregnant at 17.
To each their own ~ talk to your boyfriend and ask WHY he doesn’t want to tell them yet.
Not family…both our families knew within 3 weeks of us finding out. (We had been officially together just about a month and known each other 6 weeks when I took the test.)…but my bf didn’t tell his boss until the morning I went into labor. It is a smallish family owned business and he had been there 14 years. His boss was kinda like a father figure since his dad passed away…so he was very nervous about telling him. He got a lecture when he went back to work about how he was kinda old to have another kid (his were 18 and 14 when she was born. Mine were 15 and 9) but overall was great about it. She is 9yo now and he takes her to see them all at work about twice a year amd they just adore her.
At 6 months your showing lol cant hide it much longer. They may be hurt you didnt include them. Tell him to man up!
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Honestly I didn’t tell my own mother I was pregnant with my 3 month old. This was because when i told her I was pregnant with my 2 year old she just laughed and then I felt judgement from her for the whole pregnancy. I have 6 kids total and she thinks that is way too many. So maybe his family is just judgemental and he doesn’t want to deal with that until the baby is actually here.
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It’s not their business he is a adult you don’t know their reaction he does maybe he just wants to save you the stress
I left it up to my babies dad to tell his family, I told him I was announcing on Facebook at 20w, and it was up to him to tell them before then. Knowing his parents won’t be happy is a fair reason not to tell them, but the sooner they know, the sooner they can accept it and be happy, he may just be worried they will tell him to leave, try convince you to get rid of it, that it isn’t his, he’s too young for more kids, bla bla bla he knows they will make a negative deal about it, and will most likely be trying to keep it peaceful till they find out.
With my last we didn’t tell anyone until I was 19 weeks and then only told about 10 people and then told everyone else when she was born. Honestly it was so nice not having everyone know and I didn’t feel like I had to keep everyone up to date and I could just enjoy it. If he doesn’t want to tell them yet then let him wait until he is ready
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I’m 24 and if I got pregnant right now, I would probably keep it a secret from my mom for as long as possible 
When you’re young it’s hard to predict what reaction your family will have, but it’s not like they can get rid of the baby
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Time to speak up or step out. Secrets are not the way to do life.
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*I wouldn’t have cared who did or didn’t know I was pregnant.
*He’s told you he’s kinda scared to tell his mom. Maybe respect that and stop stressing about it. He will when he’s ready. If not, then they’ll find out eventually.
*Maybe he’s also stressing and scared about having another baby. Men have feelings like women do. Just let it be.
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Maybe there is a reason why he won’t tell them? I didn’t want my whole family to know, because with my first child, they were against it, and they completely ruined her first Christmas, so when I was pregnant with my second, I didn’t want to tell anyone. Obviously, they found out. So maybe he has a reason to not want to tell them for fear on how they will react and he just wants to avoid that. Have you tried communicating with him how it makes you feel?
Sorry, at this point it’s ridiculous! You’re grown! And so the hell is He. Once a baby is on the way, there’s nothing else to do but get excited and prepared. And if they don’t get on board, bye-bye, their loss!!!
Tell him he has 2 weeks to tell he’s parents because you want to announce it on Facebook or do something with the kids to put on your social media accounts.
is he ashamed of you for having his baby or what? i for certain would have been upset to know that the other side of the family knew about a baby and nobody told me for over 5/6 months. now if you aren’t on speaking terms–i know it happens to the best of families-- that is one thing-- but if you are around them on a regular basis, then why is he hiding the fact that he is going to be a pappa again. don’t get it. .
Tell him either he needs to tell them or you will
We told my husband’s family almost as soon as we found out I was pregnant, but most of my family didn’t find out until they saw me walking down the aisle 7 months pregnant. I’m not that close with a lot of my family so I really didn’t care to tell them 
I only told my best friend and a close coworker when I was pregnant both times. I didn’t tell rest of people until I was done with 1st trimester. It made the pregnancy so much easier and faster. But I would tell them so they don’t feel left out. Talk with your Boyfriend and let him know that this is not like his last child and they deserve to be part of this pregnancy and be happy for you both. Better for them to find out from either of you then to hear from a friend or your family.
When my husband and I got pregnant my side of the family were happy, very happy. When we told my husbands side. His mom and dad were like, “I thought you guys were taking care of y’all’s self”, his sisters were like “oh my husband and I are trying again to have a baby.” I wish I never had told his side about our pregnancy. So much negativity. 
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If you aren’t very far along just let it be for a while. If you are showing they probably know unless they don’t live close to you. Tell them or write them a note to let them know.
Why do they have to know, I mean I understand wanting them to know but do they really need to know? We chose not to tell anyone about our last child till we where showing a lot, it was my decision because I have miscarried before and I wanted to make sure. The second everyone found out they where super excited, so it doesn’t matter if they find our now or later.
My bd was afraid to tell his dad and step mom. We ended up telling them in October and had our baby in December
Let him deal with it
Lmao my family didnt even know I had my third baby till I popped up with a new baby on Facebook, even tho I did a whole announcement AND gender reveal on Facebook and was posting updates all the time!!! Sooooo I can’t relate!!! I doubt he’s embarrassed of you tho he’s probably just scared of his family they may not have reacted very well when he had his first son
Scared of what??? He’s 25!!! If he depends on them financially well that’s a whole different story
I would tell them myself, they could give you so much support through all this, plus imagine how much more love that baby will get
I was 18 when I fell pregnant with my daughter, the support I got from both sides was amazing . We are about to drop our 3rd baby and I’m 24, my mum passed away and my mother-in-law is so supportive.
Yes things may be a shock , but your both adults this whole keeping secrets thing is a bit silly
Wow ! Their is definitely something off and not write about this 
… he really needs to tell them or come clean to you about why he doesn’t want to tell them
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I went through that with my oldest. I left because of it.
Are you the side piece?
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Wow …Something is off…why not tell his family? The two of you aren’t kids…It sounds like your a side piece.
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Sounds suss for some reason. Is he scared of the other child’s mother finding out
I don’t understand why people try to keep these things secret…obviously it will eventually come out anyway.(no pun intended🤣)
My first child’s father had a hard time telling his family. I have been close to his family since we started dating. I told him that I didn’t feel comfortable hiding it from them and that I felt like I had to tell them if he didnt. That way I was honest with him and we could be honest with his family. It wasn’t that he was ashamed at all, he was just nervous. It’s probably the same for your situation.
I didnt tell my dad till I was about 4 months pregnant because me and the father knew he’d freak out and we were both living there so idek how I got to over 4 months without him noticing neither of us wanted him to know. Sometimes its just better without the drama
Why hide it I would t
There’s a reason he hasnt told them. Trust him on this. He knows more about them than you do!!! I wish I had just let my partner make that call and trusted his gut feelings with his family. Instead I pushed him to try having a good relationship with them and it all blew up a few years later. Waste of time and energy. We get to see the good ones that we love dearly, bur rhe toxic ones are no longer involved. Thankfully the kids have never asked for them (I guess that shows how much that impacted the kids lives)
Best thing we ever did was cut them off its the 1 time I’ll admit I was wrong and my partner was right
They’ll get over it fairly quickly. My sons grandparents didn’t know about him until he was 5 weeks old. They were shocked but I never would have known they didn’t know the whole time if my now husband hadn’t told me when he actually told them. 
They’re going to find out eventually